posted March 02, 2013 07:27 PM            

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I agree, Venus, fighting is fun for all! LOL

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posted March 02, 2013 09:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I nominate Padre.

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Thanks AA, right now I'm going through changes so I'll not be engaged enough to really do a good job of it.

For example Saturday night, 22 degrees and almost 10pm..time to bike up and down the mtn..or close to it.

Does not quite speak of sort of focus

posted March 03, 2013 03:30 AM            

It's been many years since I've moderated an active forum, and I've found less pressure not to be one. But I think I'd accept being a mod here and/or at SPitR (and if I don't get the nod, that's fine, too, as I say, it's less pressure).

If I were a mod I'd generally keep a light touch (I'm usually only harsh on spammers, but that doesn't seem to be a serious problem at LL, which is surprising given how popular this board is), but I do try to enforce the rules as best as I understand them. I try to nudge with reminders and suggestions rather than bring down the hammer, but it's not an ego thing to me and my strong Libra makes me accept appeals gracefully and I'm not inclined to pout if I get overruled. If I took direct action like locking or moving a thread then there would be no question on who did it or why as I'd say so. By enforcing rules that would mean of the board, not my own personal preferences, which is perhaps why I don't take appeals and being overruled personally. Hopefully people would understand that and so not be inclined to take it personally either (that is, I'm not judging them personally, I'm just doing my job, and ironically I'd actually think twice about doing that to someone who I WAS judging harshly as I searched myself to see if my personal feelings were clouding my judgment before I acted). And as someone who nominated me said I'm not going to get upset if feathers get ruffled over it (to which I guess I owe my Sag placements and Leo ascendant).

I do come down on trolls, but I'm also pretty slow to identify someone as a troll, too. I realize some people have bad days and others have very poor social skills and odd things to obsess about, and a lot of drama is incidental and not intentionally caused (and even if someone simply doesn't shy away from it, as opposed with drama being the goal, doesn't make one a troll, at least not in my book). In most cases I'd probably just point out the suspect troll to Randall and let him deal with it (and likely make suggestions to the suspected troll about how not to be so obnoxious or whatever), but if anything tempted me to use my mod-powers with no mercy it would be a troll seeking to cause drama for its own sake (as opposed to drama incidentally rising and not being intended) as a source of amusement, power, or even attention (to some people even hate & anger is better than being ignored). To me it's like throwing out the loud mouth drunk so everyone else can can mingle and interact (relatively) peaceably.

And be advised that sometimes I come here a lot and other times I can be gone for days without checking the forums. And even when I do show up a lot I tend to skip a lot of threads (and there are only a handful of forums I glance at regularly, I only rarely visit the other ones). As a mod I'd look at threads more closely in whatever forum I'm a mod at, and I believe I could do it if it were just DD and/or SPitR.

posted March 03, 2013 07:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:
Thanks AA, right now I'm going through changes so I'll not be engaged enough to really do a good job of it.

For example Saturday night, 22 degrees and almost 10pm..time to bike up and down the mtn..or close to it.

Does not quite speak of sort of focus

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You are welcome. I think you have a lot of good things to say, even though we disagree a lot

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posted March 03, 2013 08:58 AM            

I volunteer as well.

posted March 03, 2013 09:08 AM            

Always something nasty to say

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posted March 03, 2013 09:11 AM            

I vote PixieJane.

posted March 03, 2013 09:49 AM            

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Originally posted by katatonic:
LOL faith for someone who doesn't like being lectured you do a good example of a schoolmarm yourself...one with a long class to fill at that!

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Lexx had written me two long posts; I replied in kind. Her posts vanished.

And if you or Lexx had actually READ my post, you would see that it wasn't a lecture. I asked questions, I tried to explain myself, I gave compliments and apologies. All of it was basically ignored.

*shrug* People will think whatever they want.

Oh and for the record, the dictionary definition of fighting includes many relatively harmless meanings. To insist that the word only connotes violence is to ignore the facts.

And...if I say someone is GREAT and they say that I was calling them BAD, that is taking great liberties with the literal meanings of words, is it not? It is substituting my word for its opposite.

After all the nice things I've said to Lexx over the weeks and months, to hear "I don't know you," and have it assumed that I am some violence-loving fiend does come as a shock.

But in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter. I wish everyone well.

@Pixie Jane:

posted March 03, 2013 10:38 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Thanks for the nominations.

It's been many years since I've moderated an active forum, and I've found less pressure not to be one. But I think I'd accept being a mod here and/or at SPitR (and if I don't get the nod, that's fine, too, as I say, it's less pressure).

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posted March 03, 2013 11:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Lexx had written me two long posts; I replied in kind. Her posts vanished.

And if you or Lexx had actually READ my post, you would see that it wasn't a lecture. I asked questions, I tried to explain myself, I gave compliments and apologies. All of it was basically ignored.

*shrug* People will think whatever they want.

Oh and for the record, the dictionary definition of fighting includes many relatively harmless meanings. To insist that the word only connotes violence is to ignore the facts.

And...if I say someone is GREAT and they say that I was calling them BAD, that is taking great liberties with the literal meanings of words, is it not? It is substituting my word for its opposite.

After all the nice things I've said to Lexx over the weeks and months, to hear "I don't know you," and have it assumed that I am some violence-loving fiend does come as a shock.

But in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter. I wish everyone well.

@Pixie Jane:

Rock on!

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I just find it creepy that a fight began the moment I made a simple statement of not finding fighting fun.

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Fighting is not fun nor productive.

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Geez it was just a pov, not a freaking attack on you Faith.

You freaked out and here we are fighting.
So yeah you do love to fight it seems.
Again my line that began this fiasco;

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Fighting is not fun nor productive.

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posted March 03, 2013 01:01 PM            

Statements like these...

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Global Unity posts for example;
and the fact that you went ballistic over my simple statement.

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...are incendiary and kept the tension up longer than it had to be. I didn't go ballistic.

As I said, I interpret these symbols and as contentious, meaning, you were not just stating an opinion, but taking issue with me (and your later posts revealed that you did indeed suspect me of malice.)

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And yes you say lots of nice things, but I have avoided talking to you and many folks who post at Global Unity.

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I post at GU2 mostly in the interest of peace and expressing an anti-war point of view. I am speaking on behalf of nameless victims.

I believe that pre-judging, avoiding, and discriminating against the people at GU2 does nothing to promote peace; it is a fighting stance in itself.

But thank you for explaining your baffling treatment of me.

posted March 03, 2013 01:07 PM            

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Originally posted by katatonic:
Funny...even though my post opened and closed with LOL, it was not taken as a joke...could it be that lexx is not alone in getting upset unnecessarily? Or that even people under 50 can misinterpret humour as attack?
Could it(gasp) be i was trying to inject some humour?

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posted March 03, 2013 01:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
How many times have I told you that I simply don't understand you?

So I'll chalk this up as one more time.

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IGNORE

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posted March 03, 2013 01:28 PM            

I assumed that Venus would get my humor, and my comment was intended mainly for her. Granted, in retrospect, it was not a good choice of words, but then again, I had no idea Lexx was reading that while simultaneously thinking of me as a nasty person.

Sometimes humor is confusing, but I think Lexx's reaction was atypical, and she explained as much (ie she said that she has been analyzed for her lack of understanding humor...which I did not know about prior to this thread.)

posted March 03, 2013 02:51 PM            

Just a bit of misunderstanding and all have clarified. Everyone posting here are strong intelligent women with strong beliefs and that`s what I most appreciate about you ladies .

posted March 03, 2013 03:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
LOL faith for someone who doesn't like being lectured you do a good example of a schoolmarm yourself...one with a long class to fill at that!

Always something nasty to say

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Faith;
you now are accusing me of hating you and believing you a bad nasty person.
You assume wrong, again.

And my issues with humour have nothing to do with joking about fighting being a fun thing.
I DO GET JOKES,
I even understand why folks joke in unkind ways, or about things which I find not funny to joke about.
I simply do not joke about fighting, or hurting others, or whatever.
You did indeed surprise and shock me when you,
not me,
did indeed state that you do enjoy "fighting".
I was like;
HUH?
Faith thinks fighting instead of debate, is actually great fun????????????
So yeah, I did not expect that from you, nor the repeated wrong assumptions on what I think.
Drop it already Faith please.
I only indicated that I do not approve of fighting/it is also not fun.
Why you cannot just simply accept that I do not think of fighting as fun,
makes no sense to me.