posted April 28, 2009 05:24 PM         

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If he's being a pr1ck, leave him.

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posted April 28, 2009 05:37 PM         

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if a guy really wants you he will eat a mile of your crap to get to your butt.

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yes! Well put

It's so true and by letting him eat a mile of your crap to get to your butt he will RESPECT you immensely and you will know if he really does LOVE you!

posted April 28, 2009 05:40 PM         

I don't know why l was so slated for saying this back on pages 2-9 or whatever they were

posted April 28, 2009 06:46 PM         

I was with someone like that for 2 1/2 years. It was the one and only relationship I've been in where we waited to have sex, and it's only because we were young and still virgins (17). It was tiresome. He never said no to me, was always after my attention, etc. Talk about boring.

I like a guy who gives me crap. I like spice. My Venus squares Uranus and Saturn, so perhaps this is why.

posted April 28, 2009 07:06 PM         

I agree Write... where are all the REAL MEN?
under some woman's 4" Christian Louboutin heel whilst she reads him (out looud) the RULES BOOK!!!!

posted April 28, 2009 07:22 PM         

Yeah totes taking over the world now that they make 75 cents to every dollar a dude makes. What percentage of women comprise world/domestic politics? Should be at least 50% right? Hmm? Poor poor men.

posted April 28, 2009 07:28 PM         

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Also SATC is kind of traditional. In the end they are all married (except for Samantha God bless her) and 2 of them have children. Heaven forbid they have good careers and have sex.

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LMAO, I totally agree with this.

posted April 28, 2009 07:34 PM         

exactly.

posted April 29, 2009 02:46 AM         

Bahahahaha!

Thanks for that middle-of-the-night laugh Belage.

After having read all 11 pages of this thread, I find it funny that's there's much of an argument. Debate, sure.

Clearly, everyone is just different - different values, different experiences, different stages of life/personal evolution. There is no wrong when it comes to issues involving mutual sexual choices unless you personally feel it's wrong - for YOU.

Our beliefs inform our perceptions and experiences and until we decide to change those beliefs, we will usually continue to live our lives in a manner which reinforces them. So if you believe that you will not be respected unless you wait to have sex, the chances are good that this is how you will experience your relationships since that energy/belief is present in you. Conversely, if you feel positively about your sexual choices, however 'alternative' they might be, you are also more likely to experience yourself as respectable. Both are valid!

Sexuality in and out of relationships is healthy if you are engaging in it for the right reasons - YOUR right reasons. If you value yourself and consciously choose the experience then why should there be shame in that? The more you value yourself, the more likely you will choose relationships of any kind for reasons which serve you. As iQ I think mentioned, love yourself and you will attract the same, whether for love, sex or both.

We're not all here to have the same experience of sexuality and so, keeping mutual consent in mind, why should there be a right or wrong way to do things? We can never know how a certain experience might be serving someone on a deeper level so while I like a good debate, I chafe at the idea of universal rights and wrongs when it comes to love and sex.

posted April 29, 2009 11:11 AM         

all i can think is the sheryl crow song - are you strong enough to be my man.

all i require is every bit of love holding nothing back, kindness, patience, a bit of sarcasm at the right time, the strenght to handle me, all of me, the sensitivity to cry and not lose his manliness, the ability to trust me with his life, and the knowledge that he would be good to me and look at my best interest all the days, oh yeah, and the security it takes to let each other be who we are and follow every dream.
in return i will give everything, my heart, my love my trust,the ability to always just be who he is and be loved and accepted..

if someone is interested in me to be what i need, trust me, you can tell.

pretty tall order.

are you strong enough to be my man?

posted April 29, 2009 11:28 AM         

Common interests with someone is kickarse and even picking up a taste for my interests are ok but..for some reason I get freaked out when someone tries to "unite" or "become one" with me. I am an individual first and foremost and I am on my way to becoming "complete" and I don't see myself as a "piece" or "unit" in a relationship. The thing I will do is grow with my love, I will support my love, I will accept my love as they are now and who they will be in the future, I will not stiffle their dreams/hopes/wishes, I will try to understand them even if I do disagree with them, give them space when it is needed, and I will not try to force my ways upon them. A relationship is a commitment of understanding, communication, being open, honesty, know when to be serious and when to play..so on so on.,..