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Topic: He's Just Not that Into You
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Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:12 PM
 
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So why are you single, then?
MWAH !!!!!! Ok, i've give it to you straight Lady cos l can see you are curious and i'd HATE for you to make any assumptions about me LOL I'm single cos l have 3 kids and l am at a stage in my life where i am intelligent, mature and emotionally smart enough to only demand the very best. I am getting it too. I date all the time but i'm still classified (to myself) as single. To me, a relationship starts when you make a commitment or some sort or another. It's a choice. I chose to put my kids first which means a guy has to tick certain boxes for me to even consider him.
I don't play games, play men nor shag about. I am cute and funny, warm and sincere with them. I have a lot of fun and i'm allowing them to come to me. One of them i really like a LOT and so i give him space and let him just enjoy my company. I don't ever think "oh gosh, if l don't have him no one else will come along and i'll be all alone"
sod that! I am happy now in myself so l will just have fun until l feel "yeah, l could go far with him".
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Azalaksh
Moderator Posts: 316
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:13 PM
Is that why you go "eeny meeny miny mo, who shall I date" with mens' charts??  IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:15 PM
Well, perhaps I should have put "friendship" into quotes.I have lots of friends, and every man I've ever slept with I also cared about very deeply as a friend. Right now, I have guys I'm not interested in aggressively approaching me a lot. And I have a beautiful, exciting male "friend" who seems more interested in the whole rest of the world sexually than in me. I don't want to go into it here too much 'cause I'm worried he might read Lindaland. But I want HIM (or whoever I have ants in my pants for at the time) to find me magnetic and alluring and irresistible, not a bunch of other guys who leave me cold. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:16 PM
YESSS Zala!! Hey, how are you? I have only done this once though... today!!! hahaha meowwww... gosh, you guys are all on my case tonight. geez You know, at least i tell it as it is.. straight up! I don't really pick on you individually cos why would i? That's kinda catty and i prefer dogs hahaha So Zala, now you've brought it UP... which guy should l date ???  IP: Logged |
Kick It
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posted April 18, 2009 08:20 PM
Business contract. Yeah.
A little dificult when I want just ONE person and thats it.
I have trained myself well to have that and that is what I will get. Selecting the partner is the hardest part...thats where astrology comes into it.Hardly anyone stays together anymore...after marriage. Might as well not marry in the 1st place. You need the emotional and loving bond, along with being friends...companions.
All the work done at the start should be about making sure both are right for each other. If you have that, there is no reason why 2 people cannot stay together.
Not very common thing to happen, but it can. I just need to find someone like me. It is nice for me to know what I want, and that I will keep going until I get it. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:23 PM
Kick it - hardly anyone stays together after marriage anymore.do you think this MIGHT have something to do with what Linda says in my quote? I mean, if a woman gives herself too quick then the marriage is doomed anyway, no???? IP: Logged |
23
Knowflake Posts: 250
From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:24 PM
Maybe it's just time to go with the flow and stop dissecting everything. I am sure that I will get yelled at for this but some people have good relationships and a long-term one, others don't. Again, why it happens, I don't know. I mean not everyone can be millionaires, not everyone will have children.
I'm a mere human being, I can't tell you why this is so. IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted April 18, 2009 08:28 PM
Aww Lucia, you sound just like an 8th houser Leo.I have Leo in my 8th house and Sun in the 8th house and going by 23's and typical relationship astrology, I have 5th house in Taurus with Venus in Leo in the 8th and Cancer Descendant, Piscean Moon in the 3rd. Oh wait not to forget Mars in Virgo in the 9th and wait..wait following the house of my Descendant would be a 4th house Aries. Also Venus and Moon according to astrology are prominant in a woman. I need passionate,sensual,artistic, empathetic, understanding, wild, playful, humorous, broadminded, adventerous, knowledgable, hardworking girl. XD Thanks to astrology I know what I want but how to get that...haha..oh.. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:31 PM
23, you are a peacekeeper and thats so cool!  I agree., and i've had kids, long term relationships too. It's all personal and individual... so i'll stop dissecting the crap out of it now IP: Logged |
23
Knowflake Posts: 250
From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:35 PM
Well Lara, I think it's a comment directed to everyone . If we knew every secret to life, would life be worth living? IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:37 PM
nope I always like to see discussion as a third entity though - something to mould and play with, shape and form.
It's a medium after all! IP: Logged |
Kismet*
Knowflake Posts: 300
From: Venus
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:37 PM
Are you saying that a marriage isn't doomed if a woman doesn't put out? Give me a break.IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted April 18, 2009 08:37 PM
I now realise why I like Arien energy. My 4th house cusp(the house ruler of my descendant) is in Aries, wow O.o..IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:41 PM
Kismet - you are not getting the meaning behind what i'm saying and i'm sorry.As for giving you a break - let me ask you this.
Do you think that if, having read Linda's quote above - that if a girl "puts out" too quick and goes on to marry, it will be a happy one? Would you put out to a guy if you didn't know he was worth it? and how would you know he's worth it when you hardly know him? Men give up so much of their "better side" after a few months of a relationship so the "putting out" kinda contradicts man's behaviour. IP: Logged |
Kismet*
Knowflake Posts: 300
From: Venus
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:45 PM
I do understand what you are saying. But you have overflown yourself with this truth that women are responsible for the pain that men inflict upon them. So you are simply using all your past mistakes to come to this truth about how a woman should act/behave to find love when it's simply a biased view if I have ever seen one. I just don't understand if you have all this wisdom, men should be chasing you left and right. IP: Logged |
Kick It
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posted April 18, 2009 08:45 PM
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Kick it - hardly anyone stays together after marriage anymore.
Really? I never noticed. This is 1950 is it not? quote:
do you think this MIGHT have something to do with what Linda says in my quote? I mean, if a woman gives herself too quick then the marriage is doomed anyway, no????
Read my previous post on that matter Not in my plans right now. As I keep saying, I need my independence. Yknow, that Man type stuff that Men do. I will cross that bridge when I come to it. IP: Logged |
Lucia23
Knowflake Posts: 669
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:47 PM
cheshirekat, I wonder if we would be happy with other 8th house Leos?! IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:50 PM
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I do understand what you are saying. But you have overflown yourself with this truth that women are responsible for the pain that men inflict upon them. So you are simply using all your past mistakes to come to this truth about how a woman should act/behave to find love when it's simply a biased view if I have ever seen one. I just don't understand if you have all this wisdom, men should be chasing you left and right.
errmmm nope!!
Again you are PERSONALIZING this into ME when l am generalizing. Maybe you need to look at why you feel the need to wag the stick at me!?? Men ARE chasing me left right and centre!!!!!!!!!! LOL
I have absolutely NO problem with me in my life... they are all over me. Doesn't mean i have to "put out" though, does it? IP: Logged |
Kismet*
Knowflake Posts: 300
From: Venus
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:53 PM
So you don't put out. You follow your rules. Yet no serious relationship that you find worthwhile? You haven't found a man that really wants you for you? IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:54 PM
Sorry, Kick it.. i meant to quote you but i forgot the [qte} bit!!!Yeah i dig you. One can have independence within a relationship but it takes a kinda rare breed of bird LOL How are the horses btw? IP: Logged |
23
Knowflake Posts: 250
From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 08:55 PM
Y'know the old addage, if someone loves you they'll set you free? Well I think that if a guy loves you, he is willing to hold off from having sex with you. They put you in front of their needs. Of course, it doesn't mean that sleeping together is fatal but if an extreme situation as the above happens, then kudos to the guy who can wait. IP: Logged |
LadyNeptune
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posted April 18, 2009 08:57 PM
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Really? I never noticed. This is 1950 is it not?
This made me laugh. Lara, I think you do want a relationsip, but you build these walls and act like a warrior to mask your vulnerability. Be careful, because someone will be better at the game than you and will be able to sniff this out, and you'll get hurt. You are unknowingly making these relationships revolve around sex, or the lack therof and some guy hopped up on machismo will want to conquest you. He'll see right through it. You aren't owning up to what you really want at all, so you will draw what you don't want to you. You are also very romantic, but are in denial about it, this is evident by your quoting Linda's very romantic work. Focus the war on winning the battle against your walls you've built so high that not even you can climb them. IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted April 18, 2009 09:02 PM
Lucia-As a fellow 8th houser, I wonder about that. Since Leo is in my 8th house and I tend to have more ramport with Leos then Cancers, who are my Descendant sign. I like Cancers but I can't get as close to them like Leos.Every connection I had with a Leo in my life was very understanding and deep because they seem to just open up to me and I the same, my most understanding friend is a Leo. This is just a theory I could be way off but as a fellow 8th houser have you ever felt closer to the sign that was in your 8th house? Also see the house ruler of your descendant, mine is the 4th house and Aries is there and just like Leos, I lurve Ariens haha XD. Also Scorpions are good for us but I wish they wouldn't do the sting test haha IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1056
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 18, 2009 09:03 PM
Kismet
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So you don't put out. You follow your rules. Yet no serious relationship that you find worthwhile? You haven't found a man that really wants you for you?
WHAT??? These are not rules ! This is common sense. This is history and the psychology of men and women. This is not about ME, this is about male and female playing their roles naturally and subconsciously.
I think you think too much I don't allow my body to just be used anymore, no. I won;t just **** a guy cos i am in LUST.
i have found plenty of men who really want me for me, i just sometimes don't want them for them!!! Again, why are you personalizing this? WTF is your problem?? Live up to your name and play the KISMET part and stop bringing negativity into your life by trying to disrespect my view (and Linda's view!)
This is a discussion only.. so lets keep it as such, ok? Just because i have a view that works doesn't mean that if you have a different view, you are entitled to **** all over my view! IP: Logged |
Kick It
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posted April 18, 2009 09:04 PM
I will always have independence in a relationship. Not like that.
Before the relationship happens, I need to be living my own life, like should be happening when you are 20-ish. Then I can concentrate on my 20s style relationship where both of us stick together.Horses are fine. Need a feed. Almost time to buy a newspaper too. It is late...early. IP: Logged |
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