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posted April 30, 2009 12:10 PM         

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I read this comment on another astrology forum:

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As far as I know is that we should not make Scorpio chase us. They love to be chased and act like they're too good for someone. They love when people tell them what they really feel about them.

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What are your experiences with Scorpio men this way?

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posted April 30, 2009 12:37 PM         

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uh they might seem like they do but I dont believe its what they want.

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posted April 30, 2009 01:50 PM         

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It sounds like she is generalising from one personal example.

It also sounds like she hasn't met that Scorpion who chased me around the table that one time. I wasn't getting an 'I'm too good for you so I'm going to play hard to get' vibe.

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posted April 30, 2009 02:05 PM         

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LMAO blue sounds like a scorpio to me. they love chasing from my experience.

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posted April 30, 2009 02:15 PM         

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I have Sun,Mercury,and Venus in Scorpio. I will tell you straight up that I don't want to chase a woman,and I don't want her chasing me. I won't play hard to get, and I don't want a woman playing hard to get with me. I really dislike any mind games because I am very serious. I tend to be rather shy and reserved too. All that seems to be reflected by Saturn making aspects to the Scorpio planets (quincunxing Sun and contraparallel Mercury-Venus) as well as square my Moon and oppose my modern 7th house ruler,Neptune and traditional 7th house ruler,Jupiter. It would be a lot easier if she and I had mutual action. I prefer some balance, and the dispositor of my Scorpio planets,Pluto is in Libra in 1st. My Mercury and Venus are in the Libra constellation, and Beta Libra star, Zuben Eschamali in both a nadir (foundation) and culminating (prime) paran with Venus.

I also feel that my Moon conjunct Mars and Venus square Mars indicates that I want the woman in my life to direct and upfront with me. I guess that fits with my wanting her to be assertive and even aggressive (in the bedroom), and that's why I tend to be attracted to Aries women with their planets falling in my 8th house.

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posted April 30, 2009 02:47 PM         

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I've seen both. Ones who are upfront and like to seduce a partner by overwhelming her with his desire for her, others who prefer that the woman play that role. I guess what the Scorpios I've known have in common is that they've fallen into one of those extremes. Romance isn't casual easy-breezy fun to them. For them, the dance begins when one of you is consumed with passion and is not too shy to show it. Whether they play that role or want you to play it depends on the rest of their chart (and maybe even the synastry).

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posted April 30, 2009 03:17 PM         

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I get very confused by the Scorpios I know in this way. The other day, a Scorpio man friend of mine looked at me and said, "I don't know how you can resist me!" and then when I didn't respond, he said. "You aren't responding the way I want you to." And then he shoved me physically, lightly and playfully, but still, I am really little compared to him.

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that's why I tend to be attracted to Aries women with their planets falling in my 8th house.

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LOL, Raymond, I have lots of Aries woman friends and they are nothing if not direct in this area. The ones I know will just tell a guy what they want.

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posted April 30, 2009 03:34 PM         

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Well from my personal experience I can tell you that I do prefer someone who is direct but I really don’t like to be chased, reason being it seems like the ones that have chased me have given me that skin crawling Glen Close fatal attraction chill that just runs up your spine YUCK!!!

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posted April 30, 2009 04:20 PM         

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I thought they liked to be challenged...O.o

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posted April 30, 2009 04:35 PM         

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Scorp31, what's a good way to be direct with a Scorpio man?

I'm worried that saying to a Scorpio, "I'm very attracted to you" or something will:
a) give him that creepy, spine-chilling, "Fatal Attraction" crazy feeling
b) turn him off by making him feel I am not a challenge

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posted April 30, 2009 05:05 PM         

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I think the words “I’m very attracted to you” are ok but… it’s more of a challenge if the words are displayed by a little flirting nothing overt and some clever conversation. You have to be direct and subtle a little femininity goes a loooong way (get what I mean) If the vibe is genuine your scorp buddy will definitely feel it TRUST ME!

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posted April 30, 2009 05:56 PM         

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Would this apply to someone who has venus conj mars in scorpio?

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posted April 30, 2009 06:47 PM         

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Well I have Venus Conjunct Mars in Sag 3rd house. Not 100% sure about Venus Conjunct Mars combination in Scorpio, but the same could probably apply.

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posted April 30, 2009 06:49 PM         

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I think the words “I’m very attracted to you” are ok but… it’s more of a challenge if the words are displayed by a little flirting nothing overt and some clever conversation. You have to be direct and subtle a little femininity goes a loooong way (get what I mean) If the vibe is genuine your scorp buddy will definitely feel it TRUST ME!

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Yeah, this is what I sense too.

For me (as a woman), and for most men I know of all signs, Direct and Subtle is waaay better than Aggressive and Overt.

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posted April 30, 2009 09:29 PM         

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I feel you
In every vein
In every beating of my heart
Each breath I take

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If you say this "I'm very attracted to you." with a sensual and erotic voice, he will definitely FEEL you just like in that lyrics. Let him lose himself in the depths of your direct but subtle expressed emotions.

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posted April 30, 2009 09:47 PM         

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I prefer women to tell me straight up "hey..I like you" or "I am very attracted to you" or "I am very interested in you" or "I think that you're a great guy that I would like to get to know better" and give me a look that shows affection and maybe touch my hand softly.

I wouldn't her asking me out on a date.

I feel that my main attractions are to demure,soft,gentle,sweet types...especially if their faces are like that too.

I guess that's the combination of my Venus parallel Neptune and Moon in Pisces square Neptune in regards to my anima. Of course, I have Pisces Descendant too.
I can't help feeling that maybe the transneptunian aspects of my Moon sextile Sedna and my Moon trine/contraparallel Quaoar might fit with all that too.

I am very attracted to intense,feisty,passionate women that can put their foot down. That's my Venus in Scorpio square Mars, Moon conjunct Mars. I also wonder about my Moon trine Ixion and Venus trine Orcus with those being kuiper belt plutino aspects. They could fit with my anima.

I am really not attractive to submissive types of women for I tend to be drawn to women that can be dominant and aggressive (especially in the bedroom). a woman with spice.

Raymond

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posted May 01, 2009 07:35 AM         

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I have no experience with Scorpio men. Not that I know of anyway. Maybe they were chasing me and subtly make it look like I had to be chasing them, but when I'm not interested I'm not interested

So honestly, I don't know.

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posted May 01, 2009 09:46 AM         

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If you are chasing me, then be prepared for a Roller Coaster Ride. If I am chasing you, then STILL be prepared for a Roller Coaster Ride.

Most of the time, Scorps will be way more suspicious if you are chasing them. Nothing wrong with it if it is an honest chase.. just more probing..

btw, if you put charts, we can get more insight into him.

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posted May 01, 2009 01:16 PM         

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Interesting thread here ... there is a love interest at the moment who has a venus in scorpio .. but a libra sun and an aqua moon .. so I have no idea how that plays out ... so I seem to get the message that it is ok to approach and initiate an advance on scorpio in venus people?

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posted May 01, 2009 02:18 PM         

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Well... I don't have much experience with Scorpios but friend of mine is Scorpio rising. He likes to chase. In fact, dating girls to him is all about the chase. Once you give in, he isn't interested anymore. His Mars is in Aries (plus Eros conj NN exactly in Aries). His Venus is in Capricorn, too, another cardinal sign.

I think one should look at the Mars and Venus signs and see if they're Cardinal, Fixed or Mutable. I think Cardinal signs like to chase, Fixed just stay put and let people approach them, Mutable run away lol.

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posted May 01, 2009 02:34 PM         

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>.>*looks around to see if a teacher is coming*

Ok coast is clear..

Rk-Your interest is the same combo as my cousin except Aqua Moon. She is a Libra Sun/Gemini Moon/Venus Scorpio and she's ok with being chased, though she gets annoyed easily though, she likes it subtle and light with a hint of directness(don't waste her time)..not desperate and persistant.

When someone is constantly chasing her, it creeps her out.

Play it cool..=)

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posted May 01, 2009 09:06 PM         

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Good call, amowls. I can attest to the Mars thing with the fixed position, waiting for others to approach (at least that's how it looks) though the truth is that we just don't make moves unless they are very consistent, and the risks are very calculated. I think Scorp might do the same. I do think it has to do more with Mars, how you pursue. Those I know with Mars in Scorpio have absolutely no problem with going after what they want with absolute determination. And I've never found their approaches 'watery' at all in comparison to Mars in Cancer or Pisces.

I don't really think you can tell by the sun sign alone though.

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posted May 01, 2009 10:03 PM         

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The Scorpio Sun men that I've known haven't been afraid to go after the woman they want - even if she's already taken.

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posted May 18, 2009 01:01 PM         

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Amen to that PeaceAngel.

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posted May 18, 2009 01:32 PM         

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If we are talking about the traditional traits of Scorpio, I'd guess that Scorpio would chase the one he sets his eyes on for sure (even if not visible). XP There won't be mind games, and you won't be able to keep secrets from him and he will want you to be fully honest to him.

But well, that's just one of the generalizations, it actually depends on how each person is. ^_~ In any cases, just being yourself and being honest to each other is the best way.

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