posted May 28, 2009 02:01 PM            

I'm afraid in my relationship with the Bull possessiveness was not the main issue. Psychological war games were. Even though we scored so high, we were incompatible in my opinion. Of course I didn't see this until we were actually a couple. Given he has planets in ALL my water houses, including a Mars in my 12th (past life enemy, wouldn't surprise me all that much), he aroused in me some very primal emotions which were very hard to contain or deal with. It was all very disturbing for me, especially since he seemed to enjoy the power he had over me.

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Mars sq Dejanira would have sexual aggro. The male might use sex to assert dominance.

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I don't really know if we are soulmates and it makes no difference to me now. We're just no good for each other. We probably have bad karma and we're just not mature enough to transforme it into good karma in this lifetime.

posted May 28, 2009 02:30 PM            

I`m sorry you had to go through all of this.

posted May 29, 2009 04:38 AM            

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posted May 29, 2009 04:49 AM            

5 + 5 + 5 + 5 + 5 + 3 + 3 + 3 + 3 + more than a dozen ones at just one glance... yet to add 6 more asteroids.....

The song that comes in my head when I see 50 plus scores is MJ's "Do you remember the time." I interpret those lyrics to mean past life love.

Do You Remember
When We Fell In Love
We Were Young
And Innocent Then
Do You Remember
How It All Began
It Just Seemed Like Heaven
So Why Did It End?

Do You Remember
Back In The Fall
We'd Be Together
All Day Long
Do You Remember
Us Holding Hands
In Each Other's Eyes
We'd Stare

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posted May 29, 2009 05:22 AM            

The thing is, that song is deeply personal to me, as I was hearing it inside my head, upon seeing just the photo of someone.

posted May 29, 2009 05:37 AM            

-i LLLOVE will smith btw!-

so would u say Union is stronger than Boda or theyre equal?

does Union appear in many married couples?
is there an asteroid for living together in the same house?

posted May 29, 2009 09:12 AM            

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The psychology of most people is that they would focus on this one negative asteroid with all their energy and apply the Law of Attarction into strenghthening it. Many others would be scared of relationships itself, thinking that this Asteroid would cause a break up! Just focusing on Asteroid UNION or BODA would be so much better....

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Right now, I've just discovered that:

- his nUnion conjunct my nGroom (1s);
- his nUnion conjunct my AC (0s) - discovered before;

- my nUnion conjunct his nBriede (0a);

posted May 29, 2009 11:26 AM            

1. Their synastry based on the new calculator is so-so, and I could not help but notice the following aspects and would like to get your opinion on what they mean:

- Her Pluto square his Proserpina (3a)
- His Pluto square her Proserpina (1s)
- His Zeus square her Hera (0a)

2) You said to be careful if there are square aspects to Dejanira. But what does it mean if the aspect is a conjunction? such as:

- His Dejanira conjunct her Sun (1a) and Juno (0s)

posted May 29, 2009 01:16 PM            

I just wanted to tell you that you're brilliant- although i'm sure you're already well aware of that.

My admiration for your astrological knowledge grows more and more with every post i read.

posted June 08, 2009 07:48 AM            

My calculator is based on attraction and the probability of a successful relationship. I cannot make one yet for calculating the long lasting nature of a relationship. Cliche is to find more than 3 strong Saturn aspects but BODA, UNION, GROOM, BRIEDE, Pluto and Persephone in a clever mix with Saurn, Venus, North Node and Valentine should do the trick. I dont know for sure.

Problem with me is integrating experiential metaphysics into Soulmate Astrology.

I once saw a very weird and disturbing movie named "The Skeleton Key". In this movie, two New Orleans Voodoo Magicians are able to jump into other bodies so that they can stay as a married couple for eternity. The other bodies are also a couple or a potential couple but they are jailed in the now aged bodies occupied hitherto by these magicians.

There is metaphysical talk about a 7 year cycle where a new Soul from the same soul family occupies the body for the next 7 years, to speed up overall evolution.
[I feel the same luckily. I still laugh at the same cartoons I watched at 4, my head has been turning on seeing a blonde haired girl since age 4, same food tastes, same desires etc etc etc... No Soul Swap yet ]

What if a Soulmate Soul jumps into another ? What if two soulmate souls jump into two others? Are break-ups and new relationships actually happening with the very same souls only, albeit in different bodies? Is that why astrology works strongly every time astrong attraction has been established in a confirmed relationship?

We cannot make perfect calculators....

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posted June 21, 2009 03:55 PM            

This guy's Dejanira is exactly conjunct my 7th house Venus (0), and my Dejanira is in his 7th house too, conjunct his DC (1).

posted June 21, 2009 05:34 PM            

but... maybe a calculator should just consider tight conjunctions and oppositions?

i know sounds extreme and im very astrologically ignorant, but i get this feeling that trines, sextiles, squares and everything thats not conjunction/opposition is not as strong.

posted June 21, 2009 08:07 PM            

Although...you know, I'm obsessed with checking my synastry with people and I like IQ's approach, but, I'm just not sure about this idea of SoulMates.

I mean, how many of you on LindaLand score high on SoulMate synastry with somebody who:
-lives somewhere else, not with you
-is your ex, for various reasons
-has NEVER actually gotten involved with you/lived with you/made love with you
-is heavily involved with someone else
-comes over and has sex with you once every couple of weeks and gets tetchy and vague when the subject of commitment comes up...and occasionally says something about how intense his/her feelings are to keep you hooked
-is involved with you, but lies, cheats, falls into violent rages, emotionally manipulates you, or otherwise does not treat you right

I think if SoulMate can be equally applied to "The man/woman I consider the love of my life, who I have lived with for sixteen years and really trust and still have fun with" OR "The man/woman I am obsessed with WHO IS NOT ACTUALLY INVOLVED IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ME", then it's way, way, way too broad a term.

I know some people have different belief systems than I do, but I think applying the idea of SoulMate to someone you are not actually involved with is just a fantasy, a way to make the incredibly depressing truth of the situation seem more palatable.

And it seems like calculating "Soul Mate Synastry" could really encourage that kind of obsessive fantasizing. If you actually have a wonderful, healthy, happiness-causing relationship, you don't need a rating to tell you. If you DON'T, that's when validation for your thwarted hopes and unsatisfied attachment seems most appealing.

I like the idea better of taking stock of the relationship as it really is in real life, THEN using synastry to work constructively with the issues you encounter.

posted June 21, 2009 08:20 PM            

I would include conjunctions of those objects or Jupiter (I'd add Jupiter) to ANY of the angles--AC, DC, MC, IC. But at the very least I don't see why conjunctions to the DC aren't at least as indicative of Soul Mate potential as conjunctions to the AC.

posted June 22, 2009 04:45 AM            

there should be a calculator for happy soulmates and karma-yikes kind of soulmates.. lol

some people who check their score w strangers or even celebrities maybe just do for the sake of the possibility, a game of what ifs, or something like that..

but i agree if is over for good,like they married another and had 4 kids, or if they live at the other end of the world i wouldnt even bother...

posted June 22, 2009 05:37 AM            

Yes, double whammies are the ultimate sign.

DD is also doing a research project on Soulmate Synastry, plus she has encouraged me to create 3 calculators.
1. Romantic/Mutual Attraction
2. Karmic Debts/Fated to payback or evolve
3. Long Lasting Relationship

My calculator is integrative at the moment.

The problem with Type 1 is that it will lead to heartbreak. Even nightclub affairs and one night stands do hav a strong romantic synastry but without Karmic Placements, the relationship cannot extend beyond 3 months.

Point 3 depends on the Souls with Karmic Debts. The more the forgiveness from the male for non-sexual mistakes, the longer
and happier the relationship. Forgiveness from the female alone creates a long lasting and sad karmic relationship.

I dont think any lady Knowflake has dumped a man who kissed his woman on her forehead whilst holding her hands, atleast once a week.
Yet 100s of you lovely ladies have had their hearts broken by genuine male soulmates too lazy to evolve from the root chakra level. After 3-4 months of sex, they want a new girlfriend, so they will make up some excuse or the other to break the relationship.

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posted June 22, 2009 09:21 AM            

For me, soulmates are people with whom we have a deep bond/affinity with (for better or worse), yet not exactly becoming lovers (they could be just friends - and there could be more than one soulmate). But I think that people can become soulmates by time, just like people can cease to be soulmates by time. Yet I think that all that matters is how we truly feel in the real life. And yeah, if you're not really together in the real life, then even if astrology says that you are soulmates, it would still be nothing more than a fantasy (although I've been obsessed with iQ's calculator too lol X3 ).

posted June 22, 2009 09:53 AM            

so, IQ if we were to do a scheme in the middle would be the karmic debts couple:
the thing can take a left turn and follow the red chakra path creating more karma and mess in the end, or take a right turn and evolve into 3 (long lasting relationship).

also wanted to ask, what is that about forgiveness FROM THE MALE FOR NON-SEXUAL mistakes? if is the woman who cheats and the man forgives, that s guarantee of long and happy relationship because the man forgave a woman s sex mistake?

...then women should be sanctified cos they forgive sex flings to their men way too many times..

but if A MAN forgives that, the relationship gets more points?

and why the female forgiveness creates a SAD relationship?

posted June 22, 2009 10:16 AM            

And the synastry with even Elvis Presley would give an accurate picture of how the interaction likely would be if you were to meet. (Very unlikely in the case of Elvis Presley).

That you wonīt meet all of your "soulmates" is also true; that doesn`t mean they donīt exist.