posted July 03, 2009 09:51 PM            

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Its interesting that every person who has Mars in Sag responded saying they could do without it. Most descriptions of Sag Mars say we enjoy sex and we see it as a fun game. So far none of us has said that. HMMM. Maybe we're going through a crappy transit that's dampening our Mars? Or maybe Sag Mars are really too high minded for regular routine sex? Maybe that's the problem, when sex becomes routine, we don't like it.

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Yeah, routine can be a problem, though not that much of a one for me.

I'd say I see sex as a fun game...save that there's too much drama that gets put into it that takes away the fun, destroys relationships, and becomes too confining, which not only messes with Mars in Sag playful & independent nature, but also doesn't mesh with my Sun & Venus in Libra. So I'll just stick with my toys if my only other choice is to deal with stalkers, obsessives, jealous control freaks, people who think I'm OBLIGATED to meet their demands on their own time, and the like.

Still, with the right person...I'm into it with gusto as I used to be, and I enjoy games & role playing. It's perhaps ironic that I'll do nearly anything someone I'm with wants, but at the same time I have to have my space (not to roam, just somewhere to go where I can retreat from time to time, and maintain a feel of independence--typically, like now, I have a room that's mine alone, and now that I don't have a live-in lover, the master bedroom where I used to sleep with my lover is actually the guest room now).

When I was younger, I experimented heavily, and don't regret it. It was playfulness, curiosity, and affection, all without smothering, which I think fit Mars in Sag.

Another thing I have to be careful with is my affectionate nature. I tend to be affectionate with those I like. When I was younger, this often extended into sexual encounters, but as I say, too much drama and other problems taught me to stop myself before it gets that far.

posted July 03, 2009 10:38 PM            

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Moon/Pluto is emotionally greedy. No matter how much it has, it wants more.
It wants to penetrate the soul. It probes in a way that makes the other feel uncomfortable and offended. Not that this will make us stop.

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posted July 03, 2009 11:00 PM            

They were both good lovers, but neither of them were what could be considered "players" or fit the gut-perception I imagine of Mars in Sag.

The Virgo was a little more assertive, but seemed to need alcohol to really pry loose the man-imal in him. He also seemed more... upfront? if I spent hours getting all gussied up and pretty for him beforehand. I was more than happy to do that but it exhausted me after a while. I cannot be perfect 24/7, dear Virgos! I love ya, but could you just love me up in my sweats tonight, please?

The Libra was(as Libras are) much more slow handed and sensual but less assertive. He's VERY choosy with his partners and has never had casual sex in his life. (Venus in Virgo = Victorian gentleman?) He was comfortable with me instigating whenever I needed to and was passionate in the act, but more or less left me alone unless I came to him first. I both loved and hated that.

This is the little blurb on cafeastrology:

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When Venus or Mars is in Sagittarius, sex is treated rather like a sport. These lovers are direct and forthcoming with their desires and needs. They have an almost innocent frankness about them, and they love to have fun in bed. Laughing and roughhousing are huge turn-ons. They are actually a bit selfish in sex, and their need to "get off" will almost always be expressed. Games are acceptable for Sagittarius lovers, just as long as they are not too time-consuming or intricate. They have little patience with people playing hard to get or beating around the bush. The same goes for too much seriousness or romancing. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it, and then talk about it after the fact, if need be.

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posted July 06, 2009 12:21 AM            

I also like a bit of pornography and have some weird fetishes which are more appealing than the sex act (esp. female domination).

posted July 06, 2009 12:27 AM            

THE SUN is waaay more revealing about sex/sexuality/sexual expression than Mars or Venus.

posted July 10, 2009 12:53 AM            

I wouldn't say I'm not interested in sex, but that I will only have it in a committed relationship (Sun in Libra and Mars and Venus in 7th?) and I'm very choosy about relationships. I was a virgin until a few days before my 21st birthday, and he would go on to be my fiance. We broke up and I've been celibate for over 3 years! I just haven't been interested in a relationship until maybe a month or 2 ago, when the desire came back.

However, I have to 'take care' of myself about 4x/week or I get ancy. If I don't I start having dreams where I'm having orgasms!

When I was with my ex the sex wasn't very good (I don't think, but I have nothing to compare it to). In fact, it hurt EVERY time (when we'd first start, then it would be fine), so I thought there was something wrong with me. I went to the doctor who said I was fine, but that we didn't have enough foreplay, so I wasn't ready.

posted July 10, 2009 04:17 AM            

This is quite normal in natives with very strong Air Element Planets like yourself. You will enjoy living more in your head and your imagination.
Infact, your dream sex will be more satisfying as your Ethereal Body/Astral Connection is very strong.

posted August 27, 2010 12:34 PM            

Mars posited in First House
The person will be energetic and youthful, have strong sexual urges, and will never be satisfied in sex. The subject will indulge in vigorous and cruel sex .Enjoys sex life to a great extent. Will require constant love and affection from his/her partner.

Mars posited in the Second house
The person will be very secretive of his/her sexual feeling and he/she will not express it openly to the partner. The subject will have a deep love and affection for the partner and indulge in crude ways to perform the act.

Mars posited in the Third house
The person will be very determined to have good and healthy sex with the partner. The same person will also be prudent and conservative in sex life.

Mars posited in the Fourth House
The person will have extensive sexual relationship with the partner, and will be lustfully inclined and selfish in the relationship.

Mars posited in the Fifth house
The person will not enjoy a good relationship and is very sober in the act. The subject will prefer to have a companion without indulging in relationship/act.

Mars posited in the Sixth house
The person will maintain a formal relationship with the partner and will not have inclination towards sex.

Mars posited in the Seventh house
The person will be fond of sex and indulge in secretive sex and mar the marital relationship.

Mars posited in the Eighth house
The person will attach great importance to sexual relationship and sexual indulgence.

Mars posited in the Ninth house
The person will be considerate in a sexual relationship and will not regard sex as a driving force in life.

Mars in Tenth House
The person will be very vigorous in sex, will be very fond of sex and have a successful sexual relationship.

Mars in Eleventh house
The person will have a craving for sex but will not exhibit it. The subject will follow a good regimen in habits.

posted August 27, 2010 01:33 PM            

I have Mars in 12th house.

posted August 27, 2010 02:45 PM            

I miss blue moon. Anyone know if she officially retired or is she just MIA?

posted August 27, 2010 02:52 PM            

I went 2 yrs with absolutely no interest in sex...

posted August 27, 2010 10:50 PM            

I am interested in having sex in the following situations: When I am in a relationship with a man I am genuinely attracted to and have a strong connection with on many levels - Then it is important to me; Masturbation doh - I don't think that counts?; When I have a friend who I trust and am at least somewhat attracted to and things simply go that way on any particular occasion.. so it feels right and comfortable to have sex. It has to be a friend who does not see much of a difference between going on a show ride with me, and having sex with me - because the last thing I want is emotional drama. In this case, I can take it or leave it - as it does not mean much to me. I would simply see it as something enjoyable to fill my time with.

I am not interested in having sex: with strangers, with people I do not know well and who also do not know me well, with people I feel no mental connection or chemistry with, in particular with people I do not trust, with people who refuse to use protection, with people who seem psychologically or emotionally heavy in a way that suffocates me or invades my space, with people who do not seem to give a damn about me or my well-being, with people who are in any way patronizing, nasty, disrespectful or rude towards me (this does not include playful teasing, which is fine)... hmm ya that's about it.

This is not just when it comes to sex though ^. I don't hug, kiss - or get physically close in any way to these people.

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I can be in love with a guy, madly,and enjoy touching and kissing and etc but I won't be willing to have sex with him. Which confuses and upsets people,including me, of course..

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I can relate to this.

My Venus/Mars are also in aspect to Neptune.

AG -

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If I went a week without an orgasm I'd be amazed, and wonder if something was wrong with me.

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Same here.

Mars Cap sextile Pluto in Scorp.

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orgasming is balancing - a purely physical requirement. Sex and orgasms are not exclusive any more than love and sex.

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I'm totally with you and IQ on that.
My Venus is in Taurus and Mars in Capricorn.

I do not confuse sex (with a partner) and orgasms.. as either can occur happily without the other, i.e. I can have sex and not orgasm happily, if I enjoyed it on other levels.. and I can orgasm whenever I feel like it happily - with no partner at all.

Eve,

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I'm realizing that where the greedy aspect comes into play for me is that what I've always wanted sexually is to experience that deep penetration (look, a pun!) from a man. I guess it's that primal feminine longing to be thoroughly f*cked.

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hmmm I only feel this way when there is a particular man in my life I'm interested in (as there is now) and he is in my general area.. I love feeling this way for whatever reason. I have this strange desire to prolong it, rather than have sex. Maybe that's Neptune again?

Otherwise, I am as happy with a vibrator as I am with a partner who is good at it.
I know my body very well so I can self-satisfy.

IQ,

- Many statistical studies show that only 1/4 of the encounters result in fulfilling orgasms for women.

LOLL

posted August 28, 2010 05:01 AM            

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A true lover must investigate then stimulate every erogenous zone and strive for multiple big-Os in waves.

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I like that.
It sounds like proof that I am a true lover of.. myself.

Actually - I don't think the percentage of men there is an exaggeration - because I feel I am much better at giving myself awesome orgasms - than any man I've met so far. But I do love sex with the right person because of the connection, even if the orgasm is not always as 'perfect'.
It would be nice to have both the connection and the physical side of things matching.

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t is not much more than an animal act, and that is why it is overrated.

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I was wondering what you meant by animal act here.
I wasnt sure if you were referring to actual animals.
Because I don't really distiguish between humans and animals.. but perhaps you meant something else.. like the distinction between the spiritual self and the animal body (which applies to all animals including humans).
If you meant this - I guess I see the animal body as a vessel for the soul and I respect it in that sense.

posted August 28, 2010 07:03 AM            

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True, as 99.9% of men are unaware or impatient for Tantra. It just becomes hit or miss. A true lover must investigate then stimulate every erogenous zone and strive for multiple big-Os in waves. Else it is not much more than an animal act, and that is why it is overrated.

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An orgasm must be a sort of coincidental decision, not a purpose on itself.. (even the smallest pressure to have SEX/to FEEL sex or whatever = aaaghhhh awful!)
As a woman you can be open for that but if the man is not open there's no chance of succeeding! (indeed 99,9%)

posted August 28, 2010 08:19 AM            

Shankara, when I was younger (23 - 24 or so), with my ex-husband, sex always hurt at first for me, too. So, initial penetration was always tense but after that I would always enjoy it and it didn't hurt, but just the first few moments. I don't know why, and it hasn't happened in years (I'm in my early 30's now though). I have to say, your natal chart, you must be VERY attractive. I'd be really surprised if you were anything less than beautiful with the Sun in Libra, Venus/mars conjunct and sextiling Pluto

Peri, is that for Vedic astrology? If so, that is different to Western astrology and would explain why it is so incorrect. It's completely wrong for Mars in the houses for myself and people's charts I am familiar with. I have Mars in the 5th house -- the interpretation is completely incorrect for me!

So for me, I absolutely love sex and I honestly do not have hang ups about it, I'm uninhibited and find it thoroughly therapeutic at time, yet I am not promiscuous and have been known to go for long stretches without it (for example... I've been celibate since November 2009).

I have Mars conjunct the Sun, both in Aquarius in the 5th house... trine my ASC and opposed Jupiter in Leo. Venus is in Sagittarius, conjunct Neptune and exactly sextile Pluto.

I have experimented in the past and have concluded that I find casual sex unfulfilling. So I don't do that.

my best experiences have been with others who have Mars in the 5th. However, my last relationship of 1.5 years... he wasn't very sexual or adventurous, but we had such amazing chemistry and such a great connection that I loved sex with him because we felt so close. There was such deep, genuine affection there -- even though it was the same every time, very vanilla, technically not that great... but I loved it because of that closeness with him. He was probably the best kisser, every kiss was just like the first time, we could make out for hours throughout our whole relationship, we're still close friends.

He taught me that I didn't need an acrobatic performance to enjoy sex with someone and that the most important thing was the connection to the person himself.

With my Leo, whom I'll be re-joining in about a month, we have a similar chemistry, but he's extremely well endowed and very sexual and uninhibited and sex with him was amazing. I just hope it continues to be amazing, because my ex-husband pretended to be very sexual to impress me and it turns out he wasn't at all and it was just an act (Mars& Venus in Pisces in the 2nd house).