posted July 08, 2009 05:24 PM         

I don't think it's his sign or his chart that should be the issue here, maybe it's men and relationships in general. I strongly suggest that you take your mind off your parents' history. What many people don't understand is that our expectations, which are colored by our experiences, play a big part in what kind of things/people/situations we attract to us. We may be consciously sure about what we want, but if deep inside us we are attached to certain negative beliefs, we will end up with exactly what we don't like.

posted July 08, 2009 06:56 PM         

Thank you very much for your comments. It's good to "talk" (merc in Sag, venus in Libra, leo moon talking here).

Very good points. He doesn't owe me anything as its only been a week. I am getting friendship/attraction/love confused. Expectations should be lower as its an early stage. He has no idea I was annoyed as I was very chilled in my text to him and told him to have fun so at least I was angry at him with my friends and not him.

I was surprised that I thought he would cheat! he has never shown me any evidence that he would do this. Perhaps in love matters I am insecure? But am an independent loving Saggie and venus/mars in libra I like harmony.

I need to stop thinking and just enjoy...

Sparkling

posted July 08, 2009 07:04 PM         

Good points about the planets. It would explain my confused feelings at the moment and I know deep down its not rational and im being quick to judge.

I should also take into account how lovely he was before he left. Telling me how happy he is to be with me and hes glad its turned from friendship to more. So yeah, I should focus on the positive and nott let my imagination run wild.

posted July 08, 2009 08:32 PM         

At this stage, you don't have an agreement not to see other people, and you're not answerable to each other, and he's not OBLIGATED to tell you if he leaves town, but...it's a bummer that the thought that he was going away for a week at this new stage in your hookup didn't fill him with woe.

posted July 08, 2009 09:40 PM         

I am also a Sun Sag and tend to be suspicious (Mercury in Scorpio in 12th, always analyzing motives).

This same Mercury in Scorpio in my 12th values my privacy and does not like people who need to know all my personal details just for the sake of gossip or needing to know my business (I am only saying this last part because that's what goes on at my work). I am very choosy with what I let people know about myself. For a Sag, I am very private about most things.

posted July 09, 2009 03:21 AM         

Thanks for your comments. He had told me we are offically together and exclusive. He says he likes to have a girlfriend and not mess around with other women.

Perhaps it was because he stated this and then went off for a week...but then he has been doing lots of travelling before we got together so perhaps its just another trip to him and not a big deal.

posted July 10, 2009 02:56 AM         

Yes, that was a point to. But its all better now...we wrote to each other yesterday and I feel better about seeing him when he get back. Thanks for all your comments, its nice to feel there is a place to share!

Sparkling

posted July 13, 2009 10:44 AM         

He ended it!He didn't contact me when he got back on Sunday so I left it and texted him today to see if he wanted to meet for a quick drink after I finished work. To which he replied he is too busy with summer school and writing his dissertation so I said okay, is he too busy to see me tonight or at all? I had a bad feeling.

Then he didn't give me a straight answer so I asked him to be honest. He then said he wanted to be friends.

So then I replied nicely that was fine and see him around. So I bump into him on campus and ask him how his trip went. He said all he did alone for 5 days was sleep in his hotel roon, eat nice meals and have many Thai Massages!!!!!(which for Prague means prostitutes)

So I looked at him and thought thank goodness he ended it cause otherwise I would have.

My intution was right after all.

posted July 13, 2009 11:26 AM         

Any how this is what I found with MY OWN OBSERVATIONS!

Casual friends for a year is different than actually spending time dating and getting to know you phase and opening up takes longer....it's the intimate detail....

posted July 13, 2009 11:51 AM         

Thanks, but I don't feel so betrayed as it was only a "relationship" for a week! But I still feel right to have trusted my instinct. It is disrespectful to just leave and go somewhere and be with prostitutes when you were supposedly involved with someone.

posted July 13, 2009 12:34 PM         

At least, it was only a week. It wasn't much longer. You can be with somebody else now.

but I do want to point out something

Thai massage as well as massage in general isn't necessarily prostitution

Unfortunately, there are masseuses/masseurs that do practice prostitution

There are a lot of people that practice massage ethically,and they go to school for it. The education includes courses in anatomy and physiology.

There are people that prefer the use of the term,massage therapist instead of masseuse/masseur

as a person who is certified in massage therapy from a 720 hour course and trained with others in massages,been trained by massage therapist, and know others that do massage/bodywork, I felt the need to point that out.

Thai massage is a type of massage in Thai style that involves stretching and deep massage. This form of bodywork is usually performed on the floor, and the client wears comfortable clothes that allow for movement. No oils are used in Thai massage. It is known in Thailand as "nuat phaen boran" (Thai: นวดแผนโบราณ, IPA: [nuɑt pʰɛn boraːn]), literally, the ancient-manner massage; or just "nuat phaen thai" (นวดแผนไทย . Thai massage originated in India and is based on Ayurveda and Yoga. It was believed that the massage art was brought over to Thailand by Shivago Komarpaj over 2500 years ago.

"Nuat boran" is the Thai name for a type of body work native to Thailand (nuat = pressure, boran = ancient). Thai massage is also known as northern-style Thai massage, Buntautuk style, Old Medicine Hospital Style, traditional Thai massage, Traditional Thai Medical Massage, Thai Yoga, Thai Yoga Massage, yoga massage, Thai classical massage, Thai bodywork, passive yoga, assisted yoga, and Ancient Siamese bodywork.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thai_massage

Raymond
Registered Therapist Member of International Massage Association.

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posted July 13, 2009 04:08 PM         

Thanks for your points and the valid point re: thai massage. Perhaps I jumped to a conclusion so thanks for clarifying what type of massage that is.

I feel free now, now more messing around or mixed signals. I am okay

posted July 13, 2009 04:23 PM         

lessons -trust your gut, bad feeling usually something is not right.

warm fuzzy good feeling - usually nothing is wrong...

so the real question you answered is can i trust my instincts - resoundeing YES all around. and, one to remember. the more we learn to trust our instints in any given situation the better off we will be.

who wants to with someone who is in prague and doesnt leave his room for a week anyway. BORING.
or LIAR. either way you can and will do better.

posted July 13, 2009 04:43 PM         

When I saw him today, I asked if he'd been able to get them. He said no, he tried the day before he left but didn't have time. (from the guy who was supposedly chilling in his hotel room for 5 days?). So i told him that sounded like an excuse.

oh well, nothing lost really. I am free to explore and be with someone who treats me well.

posted July 13, 2009 04:51 PM         

But SparklingSag's instincts were right about the important part--how the Scorp was feeling about their new relationship, and where he was going with it.

posted July 13, 2009 05:01 PM         

Thank you for the good vibes and support! You are right, this a thread about feeling good, not bad. I will not feel bad about the situation as I did nothing wrong. I've learnt from a previous love affair with a guy that lasted two years cause I was too afraid of the answers and so ignored all the bad signs and behaviour.

So am proud that ive come a long way! I was a strong woman today that demanded to be treated well and with respect and instincts are something to be listened too. Lucia, you make a valid point that I might not have been spot on but I think the inner voice is powerful when it needs to be.

So yeah, its a day to be proud of myself.