posted August 04, 2009 05:57 AM         

but if a leo fancies you, You will not just know it. not all leo's anyway.

lucia, i don't disagree with most of your post, i also cba to write entire essays over something not worth it, but attraction IS either there or is not.

and if you have to do things to which arn't you, or aren't 'real' so to speak, to activate attraction, then thats down to the person, i don't think its necessarily a bad thing, if it means that person will end up loving you for who you are and the real you, but if you have to do such things or be what your not to maintain a relationship, then that's fake and and an untrue relationship in my eyes.

if two people like each other they should just get to the bottom of it, not pussyfoot around, because if they don't, you'll end up either not ever knowing, or getting anything out of it, or becoming friends like 'best guy friend'.

posted August 04, 2009 06:52 AM         

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Leos are, I think, one of the most highly seducible signs

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I agree with this very strongly - in terms of "short term relationships”. The problem is that many people think that a str will lead to something more. Some people can detach and some people can’t, it is important to know which side you are on so you do not get hurt. Anyway, I think it is important not to beat around the bush with a Leo, or, don’t be shy. All it takes is that bug in the ear "so and so likes me" and the person seems more attractive (if they meet certain criteria, which is different for everyone). Could that become a long lasting relationship? Maybe, only if the chemistry is there. But, it doesn’t always take chemistry to sleep with someone and people should not believe that it will equal anything more than just sex (I was a love ‘em and leave ‘em Leo in a past life called 10 years ago. Now, no way!)

I disagree with the "wanting the one everyone wants" comment just because I have an Aqua rising, popular opinion either doesn't factor or is a huge turn-off and a reason to find flaws in my book. Who does this anyway? Since I turned 18 I don’t remember getting involved in the “he’s so cute, he’s the big man on campus” thing. There are way too many men out there!

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Leo women are the most blatantly obvious about their attractions to someone

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LOL – I do turn into Sandra Bullock in every Sandra Bullock movie when I am attracted to someone. But, I do have the opposite issue from Lucia – men think that I am interested even when I am not. Leo/Aqua/Libra, 7th house stellium is a heck of a friendly mix! I am just very kind and affectionate (I touch everyone, I should stop that). It got so bad that at one point I thought of buying a fake engagement ring! But that would look even worst (is this engaged girl flirting with me?)…So now I try to tune into my 8th house Saturn (back off buddy!).

I don’t know though. I am a firm believer in the theories of “He’s just Not That Into You”. I should have written that book first because I have been saying it for years. Who wants to harass someone into liking them? Who wants to “turn someone around”? I haven’t seen a healthy relationship that comes out of that. I’m not really into fostering unrequited love or crushes because they are damaging and, after high school, why is it necessary? It is wasted time and energy. People are just people – no need to fear them or what they’ll say, it is only words. “Sticks and stones” people, “Sticks and stones”! You have to live with you. You won’t literally die of embarrassment. If he or she doesn’t want you it is his or her loss. How many adages can I type? Lol

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he has Sun, Mercury, Venus and Jupiter all conjunct in Leo. Mars in Virgo.

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posted August 04, 2009 09:49 AM         

Never in my life have I been attracted to or involved with a Leo male - and like a bolt out of the blue - one appeared in my life and wowza - I was def missing out!

The funny thing is I never in a million years thought he would be attracted to me, I am mostly air/water. We met over a year ago and we work together - I always had a little thing for him b/c he's a Leo and it's impossible not to have a little crush on him - but I never thought the feeling was mutual.

A lot of what has been posted here rang true for my Leo - he was intrigued by my perceived popularity, and he appreciated my lady-like ness (All Libran hallmarks). I am a little shy for a Libra (Pisces mooner) so there is no way I would have made the first move - and I truly believe that once he "decided" I was worthy, he swooped right in and gave me no choice. I have no experience with fire signs - so this was all new to me. He also revelled in the fact that I chose "him" over someone else - he was like the cat that ate the canary, no joke.

I have never been involved with a Leo so I'm curious as to what keeps the Lion roaring....? I've reviewed both our charts and I do think we have what it takes in terms of long term potential (he has a lot of water too) but I am leaving it up to him - he is about 11 years older and he told me once when we were talking about dating in general - NEVER to chase, he was quite stern about it too. Cute.

Thanks for all of the great feedback on the topic, I can completely relate to a lot of the responses. Thank you everyone for sharing.

posted August 04, 2009 09:52 AM         

the qualities that attract Leos i think i do possess, like i can be funny, and i am very picky with love interests. i also live a very independant life, and i'm very secure with myself, but it may not come across if i am, because i can be very reserved, and as i said previously, shy and not up front.

letram's post appealed to me, as i don't want to be something i'm not just to attract him, and even though i'd be great at seducing him, and i'm very confident in that aspect, i don't think it'd be fair on any guy if they don't feel the same way i do for them first.

i guess it's my venus in Scorpio being stubborn and i wouldn't let go of my power and admire and go crazy over him in public just to grab his attention. i'm all for it in private, but never would i do a public display of affection without feeling absolutely sure i will not get turned down or burned.

posted August 04, 2009 10:23 AM         

mannequin, i don't think this is true, this is generalizing sun signs too much. see, not all sun signs are the same, everyone is unique based on there charts. maybe alot of leo's need what you described there and then. me on the other hand, i don't look for that at all first hand. what i like is more unique to my chart, not my sun sign. so this proves that not All leos are looking for what you just said.

posted August 04, 2009 01:24 PM         

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i can be fun, and be very childlike, but it takes alot to see that side of me, and i guess since Leos want to see it then and there, and since i can't provide that, it'd be very hard for them to be attracted to me.

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I don't think it's that Leos want to see how fun you are "then and there"--it's more about radiating something special from within.

TO everyone: With the seduction stuff, I'm not talking about changing yourself to make someone like you.

If you want to get a great job doing something you love, you don't sit around skulking in the corner in a soup-stained tunic, hiding your light and hoping the employer will approach you and beg you to work for him. You actually might get offered some job at random that way--probably not--but if it's not your dream job, you put on an outfit that reflects what you want to reflect and you go impress the employer. If you want to make your friend happy for his birthday, you'll get him a gift--something he likes!!! And maybe throw the kind of party that he likes.

Falling in like with someone is a special occasion, an extraordinary EVENT. It's not about changing yourself, but about honoring the special occasion...thrilling, intriguing, and pleasing someone by setting a scene that separates your encounter from the mundane.

We change ourselves in every encounter with every other human being, even saying hi at the grocery store, and they change themselves too. It's not a compromise to ourselves, and does not involve dishonesty--it's an exploration of our unique connection with another person. The feeling any two people have as they interact with each other is completely new to both. Part of what is exciting about human interaction is that it gives us a chance to grow. We experience different ways of being ourselves with the other person. "The real you" is not a fixed thing, especially not if you're hunching in the corner of your life, not really expressing your full beauty, magnificence, and talent.

With this friendly Leo you feel attracted to, why NOT try a little seduction? Don't do fake things or change yourself--just send a little bit more of your Leo-Moon glow his way.

I should clarify that seduction is not about getting someone into bed or making them love you--it is about providing a thrill for them, because you think they are worth it. It is a gift to that person.

God, I feel like everyone is just a big champion of the mundane lately. Life is too short--I do think deciding, "Well, if this Leo guy who makes my heart race faster and is friendly with everyone won't approach me, then we'll never be together" is settling, and it is very unkind to the Leo guy...it might be the most beautiful moment of the next decade for the poor Lion if you gave him the chance to really see you. Don't keep your Leo-Moon beauty inert--activate it. Open yourself and see how you feel like acting with this person--it might be different from how you've been in the past.

Re: wanting someone others want. It's not a "big man on campus" syndrome, it's that the people I'm attracted to have the courage to really live life fully and really SHOW UP, and those traits attract others, and lead to success and acclaim.

posted August 04, 2009 01:43 PM         

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Letram, you're so spot on!

I personally was really impressed with a Leo Sun male that I met a few months ago, he is a 27th degree Leo Sun as well with Leo Ascendant, Scorpio Moon, Virgo Mercury, Cancer Venus and Aries Mars.

It is really strange because for the most part I am a pretty introverted person, but when I have my eye on someone, I make a big effort to impress them or talk to them, since that is really the only thing my Gemini Venus can do, lol!

So back to my point, I always made the effort to get someone to like me with little in return from the receiver. Until I met this Leo, who returned my admiration ten fold! I've never been so impressed with how generous and kind Leo can be. Of course I also know some really out of touch Leo Suns as well, that are far from anything considered "generous".

So, if this Leo is the soft hearted type and realizes you have your eye on him, you'll receive the same.

posted August 04, 2009 03:03 PM         

I also agree that sometimes a Leo (depending on other factor is his/her chart) will pick up on your level of interest even if you are not expressing it overtly. I am a shy Libran who always had a crush on the Leo but never thought in a million years he noticed, or cared...oh he noticed alright. In fact, even today he'll reference the very first time we met, etc.

posted August 04, 2009 10:03 PM         

And if I stop, you will feel it.

posted August 05, 2009 01:03 AM         

they love to play games. He is just a big cat get some string a play.

posted August 05, 2009 08:32 AM         

i went out with my friends last night, and i was intoduced to this guy. we hit it off straight away, we laughed, and it felt really comfortable, we were on the same wavelength mentally. we talked for hours, and i finally asked him, "this may sound random, but when is your birthday?", and he replied "in 2 and a half weeks actually.... 21st August".

now, ofcourse i completely had a fit of joy inside, i mean how crazy is that??? lol.

i did his birth chart at home, and then our synastry. i'll post it if anyone wishes to check it out and see if we're a good match.

posted August 05, 2009 02:17 PM         

mannequin is living proof of my prophecy

i win.

posted August 05, 2009 02:43 PM         

on the note of your obsession.. just be careful, nothing wrong with being happy about the situation but avoid obsessive feelings early on, see how things go first.

have fun!