posted August 03, 2009 06:22 PM         

here's something for thought from skymates, p.54:

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Leo Moon in Love: The Leo Moon still needs the same applause, but that might remain invisible: an unexpressed emotion. Clap your hands for the Leo Moon, and you'll see a smile that can't help but remind you of sunrise on the open road. This one has the soul of the performer--it just might not show unless it's encouraged a bit. Underlying these observations is the notion that the Moon is always shy, regardless of what sign it occupies.[...]

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posted August 03, 2009 06:32 PM         

Frankly, I think it's damn near impossible to just answer to 'what does Leo like?' because there's a whole lot more to a person than their sun sign.

posted August 03, 2009 07:06 PM         

Leos like someone who:
-glows from within and is very honest, cool, and fun
-is effortlessly high status and naturally adored and admired by his/her peers
-is honest and secure in his/her own identity

It's a wrong stereotype that Leos want to be adored, worshipped, and flattered. We like to be adored, worshipped, and flattered by someone who has PROVEN that he/she could have anyone s/he wanted, that s/he is highly selective, and that s/he has exceptional taste. Otherwise we aren't that impressed--we either mistrust the flattery, or take it for granted as our due.

Some Leos have fans, a little entourage, and/or circles of admirers, while others keep those people at arms length...but we don't go for them romantically either way. We go for people who seem very shiny, exciting, self-possessed, and independent in their own right, yet also happen to adore us.

People may jump all over me for saying this around here, and Leos may chime in explaining how they hate games and they like the underdog, etc etc, but the truth?

A Leo will go for you if you:

1) Show that everyone else wants you

2) Show that everyone regards you as the something-est (most beautiful, funniest, coolest, smartest, most fun, most famous,weirdest)

3) Show that you are VERY, very, very hard to get, and have chosen the Leo only because he proved his specialness and superiority over the many other (beautiful, brilliant, rich, buff, talented, very famous) men you have sadly had to reject because you cannot resist him...if you are dealing with a shy, insecure Leo, you have to show that you're so sweet and pure that you haven't even noticed the hordes of (beautiful, brilliant, rich, buff, talented, very famous) men that flock around you. If you are dealing with a bold Leo, you can show that you have a sense of humor about being a femme fatale, but you don't take it too seriously.

4) Show that you are always up for a challenge

Air and Fire signs do so well with us because they take our sparring in the spirit of fun and play in which it is intended. If we bat at them with a paw, they bat right back, instead of being all "how dare you bat at me, now I'm wounded and I'm going to sting you, which will kill both of us through paralysis" like SOME signs (ahem.)

A Leo needs to feel like you're a prize, as well as that you think he is a prize.

posted August 03, 2009 07:12 PM         

Leos like having something that no one else has. They're looking for someone "special." So act like a big sexy weirdo.

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but his moon trines my Sun exactly, so why isn't he approaching me the way i approach him?

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posted August 03, 2009 07:26 PM         

Be different, be nonchalant but not in a cold, mean way...indifference doesnt work with leos.

posted August 03, 2009 08:40 PM         

I went out with a Leo Sun, Moon, Venus, Mercury (and Dsc/7th house cusp to boot) for a few months and he was a blast.
I met him when he was out with friends, when his Aries friend was ogling me. I preferred Leo's frank, open style, and found him sexy, plus he made me laugh which is the ultimate aphrodisiac to me.
The funny thing is that his Aries friend that night was getting more and more drunk and somehow ended up drinking a shot out of my stiletto heel as Mr. Leo watched. When Aries got up to go get another drink, Leo says, 'Does that mean you're interested because you've let him drink out of your shoe?' , and I said 'NOPE.... I'm not interested in your friend, I'm interested in YOU.'
He looked so proud of himself

So we had a few wonderful months together, and we still talk from time to time. He's absolutely a sweetheart - treated me like a queen, was all the classic Leo guy stuff: generous, open, benevolent, etc, and just an all-around sweetheart.
He had taken a pic with his camera of his friend drinking out of my heel with me sitting in the background, smirking. It seemed to amuse Mr Leo to no end to look at this pic from time to time and giggle.

I should also maybe mention that I threw my Sun and Libra stellium into his 7th and 8th house, so who knows, maybe that helped?
Either way, I will say that a guy with a lot of Leo influence like mine is going to want someone who is like a 'prize' (I do agree with Lucia on this), and will often want to 'show her off' to the world like a trophy (Which he did).

posted August 03, 2009 09:12 PM         

Be funny - I agree Writesomething, this is so important - can you get, take and tell jokes? Leo men are big kids so this is important. Doesn't even have to be dry humor (I haven't met any Leo men who have been good at that anyway, hopefully I'll be proven wrong) but they kind of like the "dumb" "guy" stuff that allows them to stay forever in their teens. In other words Kevin Smith (who is a Leo) over Woody Allen. But, don't make the dirty jokes yourself because you have to...

Be ladylike - Seriously. I'll use the bar scenerio: don't be the screaming drunken girl who curses and can drink every man under the table. Be the girl who looks like she doesn't belong in the bar, not because she is shy (see "Don't be Shy") but because her outfit is too nice and it obvious that it is not her "scene" (maybe she's coming from a bachelorette party or something). Also, don't be too aggressive sexually, they like to take the lead (and you'll be glad when they do).

Be genuine - I read somewhere that Leos will even accept fake praise - Not.True.At.All. They are too aware of themselves and they know what their great traits are, don't fake it. Leos hate liars. However...

Don't be too available - this goes along with the "game" thing. I don't think that Leos like the crazy head games but they would like to think that you have a life! Don't wait by the phone to text him back instantly, let them sweat it out a little. Not too much though - don't pull the "sorry, I was too busy to get back to you all last week" thing because that will make them think they aren't important enough. They hate that.

Don't be shy - I think this might be even more important than having a sense of humor/fun. Leo men (and women) are too lazy to try to draw someone out! Also, since they are often the center of attention, they need someone who wont retreat or demand their attention, taking them away from their "fans" or making them feel uncomfortable about being themselves. In other words they don't want to spend the time that they could be having fun reassuring you or worrying about your comfort (sorry, Leos can be selfish).

I have Leo on the 7th house cusp so these are important traits to me as well (change "be ladylike" to "be masculine"). There is much more to it than this though, probably related to other things in the chart. For example, I agree with what Lucia says about how Leos need a partner with superlative status. This is because I have a Leo 7th house stellium including Jupiter which trines Part of Fortune - this guy has to be extra special! If not, then I wont take it seriously (or even bother really). So maybe find out some more birth data on this guy so we wont make any more "broad, sweeping generalizations", lol!

posted August 03, 2009 10:58 PM         

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I said 'NOPE.... I'm not interested in your friend, I'm interested in YOU.'

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Omigod, this would be a HOTT and thrilling moment for any Leo. This is exactly the kind of thing we want! Bless you and your Aries Moon.

posted August 03, 2009 11:43 PM         

That makes sense what you said. I want to flip the question from what attracts leos to why are some leo's drawn to gems for?.

posted August 04, 2009 01:37 AM         

Spool...I love Gems for the following reasons:

-They are sparkly, twinkly, charismatic, and fun (fun=5th house or Leo keyword)...also I have just noticed a natural physical attraction to Gems
-They are verbal about liking me, so I don't have to agonize and second-guess and wonder and try to read their smouldering glances or vibes (like with SOME signs, ahem)...BUT, they are not ham-handed about it. They're witty
-They don't get overinvested in my dramatic moods, wet-blanket me, or weigh me down...instead, they fan my fire by looking for something exciting, fun, or that satisfies our intellectual curiosity in the situation
-if I want to boost my ego by making my love-object jealous (which I have tried to QUIT since I am not 15 anymore, lol), Gemini Man will respond in a gratifying way...they get stimulated instead of threatened
-When I need to shine and show off, instead of getting jealous, possessive, inhibiting, or turned off, Gemini is excited and entertained
-When I need to be entertained, Gemini has the energy to do it...it's not that I never want or need quiet time or time alone, it's that I only want those things when I'M in the mood, not when some wet-blanket guy needs to go off and regroup...Gemini can stay up all night talking (among other things) if that's what I'm up for
-sextile-sun sex=amazing!!! Gem men have quicksilver tongues noit just for talking (sorry for the TMA, but...)

A Gem is often not threatened by a Leo, but also not into competing with us. They like shiny fun things, so they like us! There is something sort of effortless in those relationships, at least for me--a natural friendship.

posted August 04, 2009 01:55 AM         

I didn't even have to really try, myself, to get a certain Leo Sun with Leo Ascendant to be interested in me. I just acted like myself (I'm a Leo Sun myself), that is what Leo Suns and everyone else likes!

It helps if you're independent, I think that is something that is overlooked in most "bios" about Leo Men, they like independent girls!

And a dry sense of humor never fails to charm a Leo Sun, they definitely like a taste of their own medicine, meaning giving them the charm and enthusiasm that they try to give you as well.

But like you said, Leo Suns can be charming to everyone, so is very hard to discern whether or not they like you or someone else, unless you're able to get him one on one.

posted August 04, 2009 02:10 AM         

Sure, we can talk lots and lots and they have been really funny but when it came down to getting physical, well, yikes. This has been the case with 2 and a half Geminis (the half was a make out partner). I would think that for myself this would not be the case b/c I have Gem on the 5th house cusp and Mars in Gemini! It was so bad in fact that when a guy says he is a Gemini I automatically think (almost robotic) "not compatible - bad in bed". I guess other placements have to match up as well. Mercury is retrograde in my 7th house, maybe thats why I think that Leos are so incredibly amazing in the sack.

posted August 04, 2009 02:13 AM         

do you know what i think?

a leo can be really friendly, etc.. and they can like either some attention, or admiration, etc..

but really, this isn't (speaking for my self) some perfect recipe to attract a leo. i don't think there is any 'perfect' recipe based on sun sign to attract them.

attraction is either there or it isn't. if you like leo's, but haven't attracted one to you, thats fine, just move on until one does. you shouldn't give up 'hope' or feel like your losing just because you haven't met one that fancies you yet.

all of these things talked about really don't matter unless they fancy you first.

and wouldn't you rather a leo or any person or sign for that matter, was attracted to you for who you and what you are, rather than having to do things on purpose to get them to like you? just be your self.. forget the whole leo sun things, people can be leo without the sun sign, like ascendant/venus/mars etc.

i don't have a type personally, i just either really like some one or i don't, and if i like that person, it moves on to personality, then some of these things people have talked about, matter. but its weak to just base that on the sun sign, especially if its a leo in the last 10 degrees with planets in virgo like me.

i don't think you can pinpoint anyone down by sun sign.

for example, Lucia said:

"Show that everyone else wants you"

i actually go for the opposite. or just not the most wanted.

posted August 04, 2009 02:21 AM         

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attraction is either there or it isn't.

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Truer words have never been typed...

posted August 04, 2009 02:44 AM         

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Okay, this is making me sooo nostalgic for Gems from my past.

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I "vanished" from one that liked me a long time ago. Only to bump into her a second time.

It was a Sight for Sore Eyes, nothing rally changed she had the same feelings and i'm still distracted, almost not paying attention.

It was as if it ended on page 1 and now its on page 2

Next, to Aqua's they make natural friends..I get along with them more then libras.

posted August 04, 2009 04:17 AM         

out of any others signs I think Leo women are the most blatantly obvious about their attractions to someone. its likely they would literally start to pur if they liked someone. no matter how strong or how weak there morals are they never seem have any shame which i think is linked to a "Im a queen so I am entitled" type of behavior.

for the most part they are very affectionate loving people .. the more insecure ones thrive more for the attention while the more mature ones I think are more focused on giving the attention.

posted August 04, 2009 05:08 AM         

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attraction is either there or it isn't.

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I disagree. Sure, it's true to a point, but, for example...there was a guy I had a huge crush on and did not know whether he was attracted to me...over a decade later I found out that he had been absolutely crazy-head-over-heels obsessed with me, but thought I would never go for him.

The attraction was there, but human beings are elaborate and complex, and layer upon layer of mixed signals, confusion, insecurity, life issues, communication misfires, and other things can get in the way of both people clearly expressing it.

Knowing how to use communication and certain behaviors to help someone you are very turned on by feel comfortable enough to get to know the real you isn't changing yourself--it's just good manners/good social skills.

Lots of attractions are never expressed or explored for this reason.

Also--there are different kinds of attractions. There's the kind where the two people like each other and have an easy, natural rapport, and neither has to put in any real effort to hook up. That natural ease, mixed with genuine attraction, can be an indication of strong long term relationship potential.

But there's also the kind where one of both of you feels very intensely, but you can't quite read each other, and/or you get so nervous and excited that your "everyday" self doesn't come across, and/or you are attracted to a person who has his/her choice of 47 brilliant, kind, funny people who look like movie stars (or, literally are movie stars). You might not be looking for a spouse, but instead to explore a shorter-term thrill. In those cases, seduction is one of life's great pleasures for both parties--there is a lot to be said for finding out what makes each other tick in order to get to a point where you can explore your feelings for each other.

And for SURE it is possible to pique the interest of someone who wasn't initially attracted to you--a Libra very successfully did this to me once, and he did it with basic seduction skills that would work on many Leos (or many women in general.)

Sure, it is usually not desirable to make someone who was not initially attracted to you fall madly in love with you--although it is certainly possible, and has been a staple of human sexual and romantic interaction since the Stone Age--but it is almost always desirable to learn to arouse, attract, fascinate, and thrill someone who a) you are very attracted to, b) doesn't know you well and might not have had a chance yet to see your most alluring qualities, and c) has a lot of people competing for his/her attention.

Mannequin wrote:

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i never seem to have them intruiged, they're always mingling with alot of other people more than me, and i feel like "hey, i'd be perfect for you if you got to know me ". there's this one Leo guy who gives me butterflies every time i see him, and he's friendly to everyone, so i guess i find it hard to reel him in, since he's also so independant and "free" (Aqua moon). but his moon trines my Sun exactly, so why isn't he approaching me the way i approach him?

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To me that's EXACTLY the kind of case where it isn't a question of "attraction is either there or isn't."

Even in the most honest, straight-shooting passionate relationships, seduction (working to attract and intrigue someone) often plays a key role. And that's not a bad thing, if it's done from a compassionate and open place--it can be a lot of fun!

Every time I post on an astrology website that Leos are more attracted to people others are attracted to, someone chimes in and says that's wrong...I even mentioned it in my initial post ("Leos may chime in explaining how they hate games and they like the underdog")...but test it out in real life!! Even the Leos who say those things are jelly if you can show them that you're a prize...even the ones who hate the idea that they're like that, and deny it. Some of the ones who don't like the idea of going for the "most wanted" are insecure about their looks (many Leos are), and the shy or insecure kind need to be disarmed in the way I described ("...if you are dealing with a shy, insecure Leo, you have to show that you're so sweet and pure that you haven't even noticed the hordes of" men flocking around you.)

Also--I believe that people's Sun signs yield amazingly accurate information about how to seduce them (if there is initial attraction or at least the possibility thereof), regardless of the rest of their charts. Even if some of the stereotypes don't apply, enough will for it to heighten your mutual experience as you try to intrigue someone you are interested in.

Leos are, I think, one of the most highly seducible signs...though many LOVE and cling to the idea that they are not seducible at all.

posted August 04, 2009 05:15 AM         

Love it..so true,,,,,,,

posted August 04, 2009 05:22 AM         

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out of any others signs I think Leo women are the most blatantly obvious about their attractions to someone. its likely they would literally start to pur if they liked someone. no matter how strong or how weak there morals are they never seem have any shame which i think is linked to a "Im a que
en so I am entitled" type of behavior

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Wish it were true for me! I sure have plenty of "I'm a queen" type behavior, but (with my Cappy rising, giant Cancer stellium, and 8th house emphasis in my chart), I get really haughty and icy sometimes when I'm crushing on someone...it's like my default mode is to try to keep from making a fool of myself by hiding my lust. Which is very self-defeating now that I am an adult. (It worked great for me as a teenager.)