posted August 22, 2009 03:49 PM         

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I actually don't mind people sharing my stuff at all - personal or otherwise. Just ask! It's always fine. Sponges, toothbrushes, etc. I don't care. If you're my friend or we're swapping body fluid, then I don't care lol

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but my laughter was stopped abruptly by what I read next:

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There is only ONE occasion when I completely flipped out about the hygiene thing and it was something *very* extreme. I'd bought expensive Egyptian cotton sheets in a pale color, and a guy I was seeing for awhile stayed the night.
In the morning after he left I was appalled to find... ahem. Skid marks

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WTF? What in the name of F? I would have... well... I think it's clear how that would have made me feel, if you are so relaxed about things in general and it angered you.

Goodness! I would have given him the sheet!

"Take it!", while shoving a plastic bag into him, with the sheet in it.

posted August 22, 2009 04:07 PM         

LOL

posted August 22, 2009 08:25 PM         

Thank you so much for the input. I did not know I would get these many responses.

First of all,

My virgo is not a neat/clean-freak with OCD tendencies (thank goodness). I am the one who tends to be very organized and clean.

He also adores sharing stuff with me such as using my toothbrush when he stays over.

In terms of space, I am good with this since I am sort of a loner and I adore my alone time.

But what I am wondering though....is it normal for a virgo to move this fast?

This is the second time he tells me wants me to move in with him, I thought he was joking the first time around. I did not even respond that time around, I just smiled and chuckled. Over the weekend, he said the same thing again BUT, he has not even bought the house yet. Although, he is in the process of buying one at the moment.
Ever since he made plans to buy a house, he has been making plans involving me + the house. We did talk about getting acclimated first to the new transitions we are going through, me with school and him with the future house, before moving in together.

I don't know, I feel as if he is being very fast or most likely, it is just my nerves. I mean, this is not a decision to take lightly. His response: I know.

Also, I am not sure if all of you are aware of this but my virgo's parents have difficulty accepting me due to racial/cultural differences, as a matter of fact, I have never met them and he told me it would be bad, they do know of me though. In terms of living together, he told me he did not care and that they would not have any right to interfere or control anything in terms of our relationship.
This is my main concern in terms of our relationship....I mean, when virgos make decisions as this, have they really looked at all of the angles? Have they truly analyzed the pros and cons? Do they have an idea of what they are getting themselves into?

What if he is just rebelling against his parents and society?

Thanks.

posted August 22, 2009 08:30 PM         

Gypsee, it's always so strange for me to picture a Virgo woman this way, because the image is always associated with Cancer females to me. My ex's mother was completely psycho about cleaning, as was her Cancer daughter... it actually gave me crazy anxiety to be at their places since things looked so damned perfect ALL THE TIME.

True story:
My ex's sister had invited her mother-in-law over for some holiday or another, and as the poor woman entered through the door, bottle of red wine in hand, she fumbled and slipped on the steps of the entrance, sending the bottle of red wine flying across the perfect, polished tiles of my ex's sister's livingroom.
Her reaction?
'OH MY GOD!'
She went running into the direction of the red wine with a towel in hand to clean it up, leaving her mother-in-law lying there with a concussion. Good thing sister's husband was there to help his mother to the hospital.

posted August 22, 2009 08:48 PM         

People are seriously sharing toothbrushes out there? This is so far out!

posted August 22, 2009 10:46 PM         

We have been dating since August of last year. Also, he has not even asked me to be his girlfriend. We are dating exclusively but he has not said anything about commitment, nevertheless, he has told me twice that he wants to hook me up with his house when he gets his house. He does not use phrases such as "let's move in together" or "I want you to move in with me."

He never makes direct commitments....

Isn't this confusing?

I am currently renting and in terms of my intuition....I don't know, I seriously don't know.

Many people who see our situation including this tarot reader I consulted strongly believe that everything is going to be alright and that he has good intentions. They say our relationship is very good. They even say that we love each other even though we have never said these words to one another.

Do I love him? Does he love me? I don't know. We do act like boyfriend and girlfriend though and our friendship is very strong.

Honestly, I don't trust him completely yet. As in, maybe he is just rebelling, maybe he likes me because I am exotic. He has even said that I am exotic. I don't know, I can't help feeling self-conscious about these things.

I think: so many white men who want to date you because you are different/exotic..."Oh, you are dating a [insert non-white ethnicity] chick, cool!" but then, none of them really want to build a life with you. You are just a phase to them.

I do have sun, mercury and venus in Scorpio. Moon and asc in Taurus. I am not going to deny that it is extremely hard for me to trust people.
When we started dating, we "broke up" for a short time because he decided to go out with a woman from his country due to convenience but then, he came back to me. This episode still hurts.

Now he says he does not care about what they say.....He is a good man and he is very good to me.

Maybe I am just having difficulties with letting go and I am feeling very insecure.

I do know this, if we move in together, it won't be right now. It will be months from now. I need to be 100% sure about this.

posted August 22, 2009 11:32 PM         

Oh honey, you sound just like me... I used to always feel like seasonal fruit, an acquired craving... but then you realize that in truth you're just a human being and damned exotic, so it's these poor %$#% that are feeling self-conscious about not being exotic enough for you

posted August 23, 2009 03:59 AM         

but then you realize that in truth you're just a human being and damned exotic, so it's these poor %$#% that are feeling self-conscious about not being exotic enough for you.

Thank you. Thank you. I shall remember this quote from now on. I should think this way more often.

so while he might not be all lovey-dovey in his expression, you can bet your bottom dollar that he's BETTER say what he wants in plain English if he wants your a$$ in that house of his.

Mmmm....this is a lost cause. Mr. Virgo is an action man. He does not gush, talks about his feelings...nothing. He just shows that he cares through actions.

Instead of saying, "I'll get you x", he says, "I'll hook you up with x".

It reminds me of the time when we started dating. Everytime we saw each other, he would state that he wanted to take me out. Weeks would pass by...he would continue repeating the same phrase but no action. And then one day, I asked him, 'so when are you going to take me out?" His response: Really? (very happy face).
Me: of course.

It was is if he needed that extra input/nudge from me in order to show him that I was really interested.

In terms of moving in, I will be smarmy.

posted August 23, 2009 04:18 AM         

Don't criticize him; he's got enough sense to analyze the both of you and he doesn't need you to tell him his shortcomings.

Cherish his partnership; you will never find another person who is quite as intelligent, eloquent, or well-mannered as he is.

Draw security from his silent, magnetic power.

You have a karmic lesson to learn about personal identity and the challenge of loving someone who is, relatively speaking, emotionally cold.

posted August 23, 2009 11:09 AM         

We just want to be sure, that's all. Very, very sure. I think if he is moving in with her, that says it all. His feelings for her are very strong. Letting someone IN that way is utterly terrifying and a huge leap of faith.

The discussion about sharing toothbrushes, skid marks, and finding things in loofahs was absolutely vomitous LOL. I draw the line there LOL. I like my partners to smell good (all over) and don't want to have to do an inspection prior to an exchange of body fluids LOL. And I keep extra toothbrushes underneath the bathroom cabinet as a habit should anything disastrous befall mine and/or an overnight guest require one

posted August 24, 2009 12:03 AM         

I am not offended by his emotionally cold nature. I adore his practical/helpful nature but sometimes, I do want the passion....I want him to claim me, make me his, express his feelings to the skies...funny that I don't do this very often. That is, we are both action-oriented people. Although, I am more imaginative and open and I also tend to express my feelings via creative projects.

It is so cute though because I know that he cares very much about me. His actions...his eyes.

I am a huge Virgo fan too. Virgo does rule my 5th house after all.

Lionseye, MVM and StarrofVenus...

I have been told that Virgos don't like being in love or at least realizing that they are in love, as in, being in love makes them uncomfortable. Ok, other than the fact that they want to make sure. Maybe falling in love for a virgo means losing his/her individuality and also feeling responsible for her happiness. I wonder...my virgo does not like me to worry and he is always doing things to make my life easier.
He always has way too many things in his head...so imagine a virgo falling in love. It must be too much.

GypsyWind

There is no hurry at all. And I don't mind the lack of definition anymore...as in, I don't need the title of 'girlfriend' in order to feel secure in the relationship. I am actually more concerned about his family and community than anything else.
I am far more concerned about the way this would affect him.

Societally speaking, it is worse for him than me. As the 'non-white (I am black)' person in the relationship, I am "gaining" through him, on the other hand, he is losing with me. It is a ridiculous notion but this is the way many people see it.

BenedictMoon

My virgo is also a virgo moon and mercury. His asc is in Capricorn. Very earthy.

posted August 24, 2009 12:14 AM         

Oh mah gawd, girl. That's a whole lotta earth! No wonder! Explains a lot actually

I don't shower every day, either.
Yes, I live in America.
No, I am not ashamed

posted August 24, 2009 12:32 AM         

That is right.

Virgos and Love in a nutshell.

Rule 1: Virgos hate being in love.
Rule 2: Virgos want to be loved BUT

he/she must know that the love will be reciprocated.

posted August 24, 2009 03:13 PM         

I adore that my virgo is not hygienic to the extreme either since I don't care for the smell of cleaning products on a person.