posted August 20, 2009 08:34 PM         

I know that this goes beyond astrology so please, feel free to share your opinion both astrologically-minded and non-astrologically-minded.

I have googled articles regarding "living together/moving in" but although the articles have been somewhat helpful, I would like to hear more personal opinions.

Talking about living together, there was an article in the Journal of Family Psychology indicating that couples who live together before marriage are more likely to get a divorce and also, they tend to report lower marital satisfaction.

Interesting....

Anyways, any comments will be greatly appreciated. This is a very serious subject after all.

posted August 20, 2009 10:34 PM         

So relationship wise I cannot help you!

But!! He has a dirty dishes obsession (there aren't allowed to be any when he wakes up in the morning) and loves routine. routine routine routine. Argh. I am totally the opposite lol and he was nitpicky as well but that could be because he is also my dad as well as being a virgo! lol

They aren't necessarily CLEAN as in... they won't go out of their way to clean UNDER things lol .. but they will want the house to be tidy/have things put away because it helps keep their mind organised. If you can do this, then you will get less hassle.

They can be nervous/titchy when things aren't orderly.

It didn't help that we lived in a Virgo house too XP

posted August 21, 2009 09:59 AM         

His only wierd quirk were things like if he sat in the subway, he would take his pants off immediatly when he got home, and quarantine those pants in a bag for drycleaning. haha. I think I've acquired some of his wierd habits actually.

Don't use his toothbrush, or try to share things used for personal hygiene. Sometimes just to mess with his head, I would wet his toothbrush so he would think I used it, and he would get so mad! haha!

posted August 21, 2009 11:59 AM         

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Sometimes just to mess with his head, I would wet his toothbrush so he would think I used it, and he would get so mad! haha!

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posted August 21, 2009 04:22 PM         

But, yeah - He was very protective of his stuff, didn't even like it if I used his hairbrush. My daughter lived with us too, and she, being a kid, would sometimes use his things and not put them back, or use them in a way that annoyed him..... I would talk to her and tell her to please not touch anything of his. IF you need something ASK...she got it eventually. But still, every time he couldn't find something, he would assume my daughter took it, even after she moved out. Grrr. that annoyed me. Most often he just misplaced it.

I hated how he was always assuming that someone stole something from him, or that they *wanted* to steal something from him. Even dumb little things, like a comb.
Him: "I can't find my black comb. Someone must have stole it"....
Me: "Oh, do you mean the one that's on the floor beside the bed?"
Him: "Oh...it wasn't there before. Someone must have stole it, and then hid it there to cover their tracks" OMG...

posted August 21, 2009 04:47 PM         

I'm not a male but I'm a Virgo and I'm not nitpicky at all. I can be downright messy at times. The most important thing is:

Give him his space when he needs it and don't go through his stuff.

As long as you're not a total slob you should be fine. We just don't like living in chaos. You don't have to be perfect. In fact, if you aren't perfect, that's even better because then we'll have something to do.

posted August 22, 2009 08:38 AM         

Also I like when people ask before they go through my personal belongings because I would never go through anyone's things without asking first just so they know before hand before they start accusing me of being a snoop or stealing. Also thats called "respect" for other people's things. I taught my nieces and nephew this, so they wouldn't get in trouble anymore with the little girl down the block who would throw temper tantruams because they took things of hers without asking.

Also, I like my private time too to clear my head but I don't push people away, I tell them before hand that I need time alone..

posted August 22, 2009 02:41 PM         

I am messy though, but in an organized chaos sort of way, but I can't stand to look at a mess for too long before feeling uncomfortable with it, so I am always putting things away when I start to get that feeling of discomfort brought about by a mess. A huge mess makes me cranky because it is not harmonious. So, my surrounding have to be easy on the eye, and there must not be too much nick-nack lying about. If it been sitting in one spot without being used for days, and is not contributing to the decor or functionality of the room, it should be put away.

I am a Virgo who has lived with a Virgo, and we were both not anal about cleaning up, but there are certain things that get on our nerves. Also, this Virgo would do stuff and resent you for it later, as if someone asked him to do it. Annoying.

I have a policy. Keep your private quarters as you wish, but the spaces we share need to be left in good order. It's only a sign of respect. Also, areas that are for company need to always be clean and neat, like the living area. The bathroom is my biggest issue and that has to be spotless or else I won't go in it. Leave things as you found them, that's my policy.

I am not into doing house work though, so I get outside help and that usually makes things easier if people are living together, to get a cleaning service to come in once a week and do the place from top to bottom. This means that the rest of the week is all about maintaining order. I like to cook but I hate washing up, that sort of thing. I love to wear clothes but I hate washing them, etc. I couldn't be @rsed doing dirty jobs because I will puke! That's just me... I am easily disgusted. I don't like funny smells and therefore it is important to keep shared spaces well ventilated because I don't particularly like air-fresheners, etc. I am into common sense cleanliness, the type that leaves a space comfortable and enjoyable.

Like right now as I look at my lounge area, cushions are thrown haphazardly and there is a bar stool in the middle of the room, electronics are everywhere i.e. external hard-drive, computers, cables for amplifier, cables for chargers and extension plugs... a book and remote controls. It is messy-ish but it's stuff I was using which I will put away later.

posted August 22, 2009 03:43 PM         

Ewwwww.

I actually don't mind people sharing my stuff at all - personal or otherwise. Just ask! It's always fine. Sponges, toothbrushes, etc. I don't care. If you're my friend or we're swapping body fluid, then I don't care lol

There is only ONE occasion when I completely flipped out about the hygiene thing and it was something *very* extreme. I'd bought expensive Egyptian cotton sheets in a pale color, and a guy I was seeing for awhile stayed the night.
In the morning after he left I was appalled to find... ahem. Skid marks