posted December 16, 2009 01:45 PM            

I am very sorry you got burned by all those Gemini venuses. I don't have a Gemini Venus. However, my Sun, Mercury and Mars are all in Gemini, so I may be able to shed some light. I also have a Capricorn Moon....a notoriously "cold" placement.

You'll get angry, but the truth is you just got fooled by the Gemini venuses yet again. Don't feel bad though; it's a common mistake. Most people think Geminis are so emotionally-detached to the point where it seems like they have absolutely no feelings. This is FAR from the truth. They feel deeply like any other sign. The difference is that someone with a Gemini Venus shuns any signs of clinginess. They do not tolerate anyone who demands to be the center of the Gemini Venus' world without "proving" they are worth it. They don't like people who get too emotional too soon because they think these people are too "babyish." This feeling would intensify with a Capricorn moon placement.

However, if you keep them intellectually stimulated and GRADUALLY show more of your emotional side, you'll keep them hooked forever. They are like any other kind of people; they crave an emotional connection. The difference is that since they value logic and reason so much, they are afraid of emotions. This is why they distance themselves from others.

They are terribly afraid of getting hurt. Putting your heart on the line makes you vulnerable and they are painfully aware of this. As a result, they consciously or subconsciously behave in a way to hurt others. Is this immature and cruel? Yes. But this is the way they behave until they mature. In general, I would try the older (30+) individuals with Venus in Gemini. It takes time to mature emotionally with this placement.

To win over someone with Venus in Gemini, you have to earn their trust and this can be a major challenge! To do this, you must prove to be reliable, provide intellectual stimulation and gradually show your emotional side. Ease them into the relationship. Don't bombard them with a bunch of emotion at once. This is equivalent to throwing them into an icy pond.

Also, do not control them. They want freedom, so if you suffocate them, they will leave you immediately. If you want them to do something, ASK! Make them feel like they are the ones in control of their lives. Let them make their own decisions.

posted December 16, 2009 02:07 PM            

*but he is scorp sun/asc*

Although now that I think about it, he's a bit slow to come around, you need to be around him for awhile, probably a year or more to really see his heart. Ah, well, ignore me, I'm his Momma, of course he is perfect.

posted December 16, 2009 03:04 PM            

Ok, first off, moon in Capricorn is extremely loyal. I have this placement and I would do anything for a good friend. The problem with this placement is that it makes the individual have a hard time expressing their emotions and dealing with emotional people.

I have this placement and I'm not known for giving my friends and family tons of hugs. i show how much I care by helping them and being reliable. Once I consider someone a friend, I will listen to every emotional story and do my best to solve any of their problems. When asked, I give them objective advice.

I get the feeling that others don't think I care at all about them, but the truth is I care A LOT. Moon in Capricorn people love very deeply, so they are very selective about who they care about. It can take me years to truly trust someone, so perhaps these individuals that have burned you just haven't learned to trust you yet. This doesn't mean you aren't a trustworthy person; it just means they don't know whether they want to trust you yet. Once they trust you, they'll move mountains for you.

posted December 16, 2009 05:13 PM            

On count 2 for turning into them. These women (and even Men) who mess you around will have something wrong with them in most cases. I guess they have bad lives and dont realise it, so decide to mess with other people, because they have no life.
No harm in expressing anger, but dont be one step away from turning into one of them.

Geminis can show them traits, so you may have been around a few with major planets in Gemini.

posted December 16, 2009 06:08 PM            

I have Venus in Gem (and Mars, and Sun and Merc). I'm not cold at all, maybe a little remote and when I do fall in love, I fall really hard (which doesn't happen often, I admit).
My falling hard might have something to do with my very strong Pisces moon so I can't say what would have happened had I had a different moon.

posted December 16, 2009 09:38 PM            

in terms of being cold. i can understand being seemingly cold because i know i like to keep things light and neutral. it's not like i don't feel tremendously it's just the pressure of the feelings makes me go backwards and just want to keep things on the surface. my first reaction when someone shows a lot of emotion is to recoil or retract a little bit. i think i intellectualize my feelings a lot. i can't seem to just feel. i have to write it down or keep it to myself mostly.

i do know if i am being cold or emotionless, it's because i don't know where i stand. if i don't know where i stand with someone, i'm going to be as neutral or as indifferent as i possibly can be. i am a very sensitive person (cancer sun) not only with my own feelings but sensitive towards how others may be feeling as well. if i sense that my showing emotion towards someone may make them uncomfortable or that it's not welcomed in any way, then i become cold.

i don't like to deal with bad feelings of any sort so i just act neutral. i'm okay with putting the bad feelings aside and just moving forward.

posted December 17, 2009 01:22 AM            

I have so easy to be in love . I don't know I really dare move togheter with someone anymore, just because that. I want, but I'm not sure I dare it.

Maybe men think me cold and non-human because that but I'm not. No man told me so either. I think the most of the time I hurt my self most.

posted December 17, 2009 11:52 AM            

I am faithful and loyal to a fault, and have never heard of Gemini's being cold. Maybe flighty and superficial, but not cold.
My experiences with cold people have been with mainly Aqua Venus, now that's ice!