posted July 01, 2010 07:03 PM         

That is my biggest fear. People are attracted to us because we are strong (generally their words). I am strong, but like any normal human I have moments of weakness, self-doubt, irrationality. So, for the people that are attracted to us, dare we show this?

posted July 01, 2010 07:12 PM         

After this reflection, I suppose we are doing all right.

Key:
* be mysterious
* have him believe he is a savior with a blend of your own confidence (very smart)
* sex is beautiful
* allow him space to do his thing
* deep glances, intense eye contact = sexy
* does not think he is worthy even when you insist he is the best
* when a jerk does not realize it, but when brought to his attention will say, "It was never my intention to hurt you. I'm sorry."

Get this one ... Today he said, "I have not figured you out." I'm still fishin' girls!

posted July 01, 2010 07:33 PM         

eskimono - That's very true. I have the same self-doubt problems etc but it's interesting from the outside they are never noticed. I think I deal with them, myself..
Maybe what appears as strength is the fact that I'm usually self-healing, self-helping, self-sufficient lol Rather than asking another.
I think this is what Pisceans ^^ interpret as "strength" - and when they begin to feel like they are no longer needed.

Even the most jerky Pisces you can imagine can get coaxed into being a saint, if you have a problem. For example, one of my Pisces friends stayed married for another 3 years (after the point when he said he wants out) because his wife faked ailments, problems, illnesses, she often pretended she collapsed and dragged him to the hospital.
She was casually laughing with someone on the phone and telling them how gullible Mr Pisces is. Even though we overheard a lot of that (me and another friend), the Pisces guy -still- believed her.

In contrast to something like that ^ I guess I'm a strong person.. because even if I HAD those problems, I still wouldn't completely rely on him. That's what Pisces sees as "she is OK without me.."

posted July 01, 2010 07:43 PM         

I do know a couple who have been together about 30 years (family friends).. I don't remember the rest of their charts, just that she is Aries and he is Pisces. I love this woman though so she might have something in common with me (like Capricorn.. it's possible.. I'll ask for their birth dates again).

Teasel - You know... I think it's just passionate with both of you. Would you say that's the case? I think this is the guy who had Aries Mercury as well.. Your mutual Aries could get fiesty in an argument.
I think it's very possible that it will blow over.

posted July 01, 2010 07:51 PM         

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The problem is - Pisces much prefers playing saviour, to being the one "saved".. Astrologers always refer to Neptune/Pisces placements as having a saviour-victim complex. But it's interesting that many of the Pisces I know strongly want to be the *saviour* - It's a much stronger drive and desire..

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That's right on. The Pisces guy that I'm good friends with LOVES to play savior. Usually he finds some very scattered/messed up air signed women or very self-centered/messed up fire signed women to play savior to. (I'm not saying all air signed women are scattered/messed up or that all fire signed women are self-centered/messed up... It's just that the ones he finds ARE that way).

I *think* that the reason he does this is because he doesn't think very highly of himself (you all were talking about the Piscean self-criticism) and so he doesn't feel that he can take care of a woman who is more confident or self sufficient. I think, for Pisceans, the romantic ideal tends to be that the man takes care of the woman in some way, or has to fulfill some need in her that no one else can fulfill, so when he sees a woman who is fulfilled on her own, he gets scared and runs off thinking that he's not needed. Pisceans like feeling needed.

posted July 01, 2010 08:04 PM         

The Pisces guy that I talk to was with the mother of his kids for 15 years.
He said the last 7 or so were awful, and he just stayed for the kids.
He had his own bedroom, etc..

Then he went on a business trip to Dallas, met a girl on an airplane and married her before the month was up.
She was a total mess, and she did a number on him, honestly, I don't think he'll ever get over it.

posted July 04, 2010 07:11 PM         

Since he has a Chines tattoo symbol for zodiac sign Pisces on his arm - without knowing anything about astrology - I feel very justified to give him MY playful introduction to astrology.

And guess what.. he's soo proud of being EVERYTHING and repeates it time after time.

Leo-ascendant? Ofcourse!

The first time I saw his parents, his dad said to me; "He ALWAYS wanted to be in the limelight!"

posted July 08, 2010 09:40 PM         

He tells me that I should clear my mind. His mind is clear enough for the two of us!

posted August 16, 2010 06:56 PM         

Well, today I opted in giving him his space. I said, "I know you need your own time, so I will let you be and get back in the swing with work." He responds back, "No biggie." and continues to ask me a question about my week.

posted August 17, 2010 08:38 AM         

Well, that's the first step to fire off a regular row of rhyming diminutives POLLYLOLLYFOLLYROLLYTROLLEYDOLLY..
(in my pisces-experience)

posted August 17, 2010 12:28 PM         

My intrepretation of "No biggie." was that it was ok I was interrupting his work day (which is very important to him)and that he did not want to conclude our chat.

posted August 17, 2010 08:04 PM         

In my opinion, he's saying.. IT's not a big deal you interrupted, but I do have a few minutes so its fine.. Its not a problem. Im in no way upset..

posted August 17, 2010 08:47 PM         

Lol Stellium, it's so nice to be a witness of your subtle Pisces-exploration...

I haven't really gone through that phase with my pisces. It was an immediate YES (clear but less exciting). We knew what we wanted I guess - both totally done with the vague confusing connections we shared with others, both aware how hard it is to find someone to get along with in the genuine romantic sphere.. without all the (unspoken) requirements to change/../...

And yes, your behavior (great! and.. with FEELING) and his reply could definitely mean a step in the right direction.