posted July 13, 2012 11:30 PM            

There has been a very long, slow build-up of energy between us over the past couple of years since we met -- due in large part to the fact that we seem to have little else in common other than shyness, on the surface, anyway... But the attraction is unmistakable and difficult to ignore. From the start, she had a deliciously subtle way of seeking me out to talk to, to be near, and against my "better judgement" (having been hurt too many times and wanting to avoid relationships altogether), it wasn't long before I was drawn into her. One manifestation of our odd attraction is that when our eyes meet, we very often grin -- seductively, secretively -- and it was months before I even realized that was happening; I'm not normally so unconscious!

There is a clandestine factor as well, but we've not crossed any real lines and likely never will... My Gemini Mars also makes a Grand Cross of her close (< 4° orb) natal T-Square of Virgo Saturn, Pisces Moon and Sag Neptune, so I doubt that the fantasies would survive reality for long.

posted July 14, 2012 07:19 AM            

I had the sextile with an0ther and ah! Sexual fantasy. But then I'm n0t sure if the sexual attracti0n actually stemmed fr0m the mars/nept c0nnecti0n. We had mars/sun/pluto c0njuncti0n and mars/m0on sext. So...

posted January 01, 2014 01:17 PM            

I've had a man in my life for 25 years, a dear friend since we were 15. He has Mars/Nep conjunct my Nep to the degree in Sidereal Scorpio (we were born 9 months apart). Throughout high school we felt a deep soul connection but beyond a few kisses.... nada. I moved to another country and fantasized about him for years and apparently wrote him many letters (mercury is strong in the synastry chart on both sides).

When I divorced at 26 he asked me to visit. the chemistry was amazing but the physical just didn't work, he was so love-y dove-y (neptune) and while I like a man to be a man (bring on the mars).

Finally 5 years ago I emailed him saying that I had been in love with him for over 10 years and he said yes it was the same for him. We didn't get together at the time of my divorce because the third week we were together his ex girlfriend showed up pregnant.

posted January 01, 2014 11:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Alma Sun:
Not sure if anyone's seen this, just in case: http://d.scribd.com/docs/1btqcdqf2mg7kjkq938i.pdf

It's a PDF file, you'd have to DL it to see, but I'll post the info on Mars/Neptune to make it easier.

[b]Synastry Neptune and Mars

Because Mars and Neptune are antithetical in nature, it might initially
seem that strong cross-aspects between them are invariably problematic.
Some descriptions of this pairing are downright sinister, implying that the
Neptune person leads the Mars person into corrupt ways. But despite its
bad press, this combination, creatively handled, may eventually prove
more fulfilling for both people than, for example, Moon-Neptune, whose
regressive pull may be claustrophobic in a sexual or parent-child relationship,
or Venus-Neptune, whose extreme romanticism may not tolerate
aging or ordinary human foibles. The tension and antipathy between
Mars and Neptune can sometimes become destructive, leading to cruelty
and victimization within a relationship. Equally, it may generate enormous
excitement, energy and creative enthusiasm:;-provided there is some
consciousness of the dynamic involved.
Neptune perceives in Mars' strength and vigor the redeemer as hero
or heroine-tough, potent, decisive, and capable of making things happen
in the world. Even if Mars is placed in a gentle or non-aggressive sign, such
as Cancer, Libra, or Pisces, and even if the Mars person feels anything but
heroic, the Neptune person will still idealize Mars' courageous spirit albeit
expressed in a sensitive and tactful fashion. Neptune looks to Mars
as a kind of champion: the one who will fight one's battles, protect one's
vulnerability, take on the world, and perhaps "take" oneself as well. The
sexual attraction between Neptune and Mars may be very potent, but the
fantasies are rather different from those between Neptune and Venus.

Neptune longs to be dominated by the superior strength of Mars, although
such feelings are often deeply embarrassing to acknowledge on a conscious
level because of the vulnerability involved. A man whose Neptune is in
close conjunction with a woman's Mars, and who is used to seeing himself
as the sexual initiator, may find it disturbing and threatening to discover
that he longs for a reversal of roles, and sometimes feels-and enjoys feeling-
dependent and helpless beside her.
Mars, in turn, tends to flourish in the role of champion and protector,
and the Mars person may feel stronger, more potent and more fulfilled
because there is a worthy cause to fight for. Mars will happily play the
knight, and Neptune the damsel in distress; regardless of gender, this is
the archetypal dynamic behind the aspect. Mars is St. George, or Perseus,
or Jeanne d'Arc, full of clumsy but sincere compassion, ready to strike
down the dragon and rescue the prince or princess from danger, imprisonment
or the world's lack of understanding. Neptune can invoke a greater
sense of power in Mars; Mars can invoke an awareness of fragility and other-worldliness
in Neptune. So far, all is well; Neptune inspires Mars to
greater vision, and Mars provides Neptune with a shield against misfortune.
But because we so often find Neptune frightening and dangerous to
the ego's need for control, the Neptune person may refuse to acknowledge
his or her dependency, or may experience deep unconscious envy of Mars'
toughness and sexual power. Secret fear, envy, and dependency may provoke
Neptune to undermine Mars' initiative and self-confidence, in highly
manipulative ways which frustrate the Mars person and fan anger and
even violence. Mars cannot fight underwater and, when baited, prefers the
efficacy of a simple punch or shouting match. Equally often, Neptune may
become addicted to being led; and Mars may eventually become weary of
always having to wear suits of armor while Neptune relaxes in yet another
warm bath.
The sexual charisma of Mars, as perceived by Neptune, may seem
untrustworthy and dangerous, because the protector might, at any point,
go off and protect or conquer someone else. In an effort to bind the Mars
person, Neptune may try to obtain protection through failure, illness or
victimization, or may unconsciously undermine Mars' potency through
subtle forms of rejection and evasiveness which keep Mars feeling uncertain
and confused. Neptune can thwart Mars' need for clear-cut action,
asking Mars to make the decisions, and then sabotaging the results. Or
Neptune may resort to sexual coyness and deceit, baffling Mars' cruder but
more honest approach to sexual matters. Neptune is adept at producing a
classic "Not tonight, but maybe tomorrow" script; Mars is refused, but
never directly, and the eager knight is kept hoping and waiting, 'increasingly furious
and frustrated, while Neptune plays virginal, tantalizing, or a peculiar combination of the two.
Ongoing frustration may draw cruelty and violence from Mars, as bear-baiting will draw savagery from the bear.

Behind this sad enactment is the Neptune person's deep fear of losing his
or her champion, whose strength and sexual magnetism are so idealized,
and without whom one might fall into the abyss. The less the Neptune
individual is able to honestly express his or her own capacity for aggression
and creative potency, the darker the undercurrents are likely to be.
The highly charged exchange of these two planets in cross-aspect can
generate not only enormous sexual pleasure and fulfillment, but also
inspired creative vision in both individuals. Neptune's imagination can be
directed and earthed by Mars, in lovemaking and in creative projects; and
if this contact occurs between two people who work together, it can be a
wonderfully productive and rewarding combination. It is perhaps most
difficult between parent and child, particularly if the child is Neptune and
the parent Mars; for the Oedipal dynamic may be colored by darker
themes. The faintly sadomasochistic edge of Mars-Neptune may be harmless
and even highly pleasurable between adults, but can be extremely
destructive enacted within the family fabric. Neptune possesses the gift of
subtle frustration, which can invoke violence in a violent Mars. Feelings of
guilt and shame may exacerbate the confusion. Yet it is not inherently
pathological to idealize one's parent or one's child--erotically or otherwise.
Pathology enters when there is unconsciousness and a blind acting out of
emotions. Mars-Neptune in synastry may reflect covert sexual manipulation,
subtle cruelty, and the loss of respect for one's own and the other person's
boundaries. Yet Mars-Neptune contacts between charts are not "dangerous"
or "bad." To offer its best, Mars-Neptune requires a greater degree
of self-awareness than many other synastry aspects. But the rewards are
worth the effort.

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posted January 03, 2014 12:47 AM            

I'm in a cloud right now , I don't know should I run or not?

And all of his Mars/Jupiter /Uranus /SN conjunct my Sun

His saturn and NN land in my 7th .

posted September 27, 2014 11:07 AM            

While I don't think it's the exact reason that was described in the book as the reason why they restricted me I do feel like (well for one specifically) they felt a loss of control when they were with me. Not control in the sense that IM controlling but them losing control & getting lost in the passion or the fantasy. I've only come to this conclusion due to something all 3 said while being intimate with me. Without going into too much detail, they were worried about the performance ending prematurely lol. I guess for a man to be worried about losing control like that they'd rather just talk about it then potentially lose face again. I mean I guess I could take that as a "compliment" but in the end it hurt because I had feelings for these men & although it was subtle it was still rejection.