posted January 14, 2011 09:40 AM            

He is 51 and I am 23.

posted January 14, 2011 10:14 AM            

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Originally posted by lindaGreg:
Stupid society! I just can't stand those social norms; they bother me very deeply. I feel like doing almost everything that the society doesn't want me to do. and I don't do anything that they want me to do.

Forget about the society, go by what your instincts are telling you. Follow your excitement!! (as one great being says). Having said that do not take any relationship for granted - every relationship requires work and more so in this case. All the very best!!

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I totally agree with you! Lol
And besides, it's all about experiences in this life time and about learning/teaching lessons.
I must say that age gap couples rarely work "forever", but hey, nowadays hardly any relationship last that long.

Just live the experience!

Ps: My mom and dad have 18 years difference, it worked for 30 years then they divorced. My dad was the bohemian and my mom got bitter over the years. My dad is very juvenil and my mom looks older for her age.
It's like the old man fed on her youth to keep younger

posted January 14, 2011 10:57 AM            

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Originally posted by lechien:
i think one thing you should really watch out for is the kind of older guys who are too immature to date women of his own age so just as a default go for younger girls. if he's always dating young girls that's a warning sign!

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posted January 14, 2011 11:08 AM            

I've got Venus in Aquarius in the 8th & personality wise I'm a sort of thrill seeker; I'm intrigued by anything offbeat, new, or different. I've got no "type" when it comes to attraction (no preference regarding sex, gender expression, age, race, religion, facial features, weight, height -- nothing). I am enjoying this new prospect. I am an Aries/Mars in Taurus.

posted January 14, 2011 11:14 AM            

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if he's always dating young girls that's a warning sign!

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I agree with this. I am weary of anyone who always dates people who fit into a certain category (however illusive a "category" is).

posted January 14, 2011 11:24 AM            

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Originally posted by kfn327:
Do you think a 28-year gap between potential mates is too big of an age difference? My friends seem concerned.

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My friend was 69 and her lover was 19.
It only ended because he was killed in a motorcycle accident at 24, whilst she was 74.
A 50 year gap they had.

posted January 14, 2011 11:42 AM            

its not unusual for people to fear what they can't understand.

what banxmanx said, makes ASTROLOGICAL SENSE.

posted January 14, 2011 12:10 PM            

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Originally posted by LEXX:
I detest that fraking word!
"COUGAR"
I have been married to two men each 15 years younger and men up to 30 years younger interested.
Why is it OK for a man to be with younger but a woman is seen as some kind of maneater?
Or cradle robber?
I am 56 and see no issue with the age gaps, be they younger or older.

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I tell her that because its an "affair" she he wont commit to each other....
Its basicly just sex...
I dont have any issues with age.. It doesnt matter to me.. I myself have dated younger men....
But I still like to tease her...

posted January 14, 2011 12:22 PM            

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Originally posted by lechien:
i think one thing you should really watch out for is the kind of older guys who are too immature to date women of his own age so just as a default go for younger girls. if he's always dating young girls that's a warning sign!

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posted January 14, 2011 03:22 PM            

I am 39 years old
I feel that I am much better off with women much younger than me

I look much younger than my age,and I even sound much younger than how I look

anybody that has seen me and heard me speak on videos knows exactly what I am talking about

I feel that the genetics on my mother's side factor into my looking much younger than my age, and the genetics on my father factor into sounding much younger than my age

when I was almost 33 years old, I was asked where my parents were when I made a phone call in regards to getting a stray cat out of the house of my roommate

a year before that, I talked to a gal on the phone for the first time. I met her on the internet, and she told me that I sound like I am 14 years old

when I was a teenager, I did sound like I didn't even hit puberty
I always sound much younger than my age
so like when I was 12 years old, I was sounding like I was around 7 years old

keep in mind that I have a history of speech problems,and I had intensive speech therapy

I didn't speak words until I was 2
I didn't speak clearly nor in full sentences until I was almost 8 years.

in some ways, my father was like less mature than my mother , and my father was actually the more extreme neurodivergent compared to my mother
He was more softspoken that I was, and he had speech problems too

I feel that I am a late bloomer period, and I was behind on developmental milestones compared to other children. Therefore, it makes sense that I would be a late bloomer into adulthood.

check out Wrong Planet forum thread.
The forum is for people with autistic spectrum mainly

There is a thread discussing about why they look younger than their age, and they even believe that it's part of their autistic spectrum http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt66729.html

I don't think there is a problem with women going out with much older guys

My maternal aunt Mary is married to a man 10 years younger than her since 1991. They also have a daughter together.

If I had a children, I wouldn't mind age difference between them and their partners as long as they are adults. I know that I would have a fit if my children were teenagers and going out with much older men and women even though that's how I was born.

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posted January 14, 2011 03:28 PM            

Kfn---I feel good about this relationship with him

posted January 14, 2011 03:44 PM            

Personally I don't think it makes a difference as long as you're on the same wavelength, it's more important your values are complimentary along with the sex drive.

posted January 14, 2011 03:46 PM            

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i think one thing you should really watch out for is the kind of older guys who are too immature to date women of his own age so just as a default go for younger girls. if he's always dating young girls that's a warning sign!

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posted January 14, 2011 03:52 PM            

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Originally posted by AcousticGod:
Or...it's a sign that he's self-aware, and choosing a partner that better represents his maturity level or the way he feels inside.

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AG,

Good alternative viewpoint

oh yeah
I wanted to add
I am not interested in women young enough to be my daughter. at least 27 years of age

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posted January 14, 2011 03:53 PM            

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Originally posted by dysfunctionalmystic:
I don't think age should be that important, it bothers some but not others.

Personally I don't think it makes a difference as long as you're on the same wavelength, it's more important your values are complimentary along with the sex drive.

I think it's really bad that even today it's still not as acceptable for women to date younger men. Afterall; so many men are childish anyway so why not at least get one that still has his looks and a little bit of enthusiasm left

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well...they say that
on the average, females mature faster than males do

I agree with that

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posted January 14, 2011 04:02 PM            

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Originally posted by AcousticGod:
Or...it's a sign that he's self-aware, and choosing a partner that better represents his maturity level or the way he feels inside.

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Um... Self-aware? Isn't it just a tad bit sad if you're 45 years old, but you're 26 on the inside? Immaturity, if taken too far, isn't exactly something to be proud of. Yeah, I know, I know, you're only as young as you feel, 40 is the new 30, etc... Still, how about a 45 year old finding another 45 year old who both "feel" 26 on the inside? Why do you have to only go for a younger person in order to "feel" that age?

posted January 14, 2011 04:49 PM            

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Originally posted by mochai:
There was this 60 something year old hippie type in my city who had quite a popularity for going around town and throwing out peace signs and hanging with the college students who were more open minded. He was one of the town celebrities if you will.. Eventually he met this girl I went to highschool with, and from the moment they met, they felt like they were supposed to be together. They fell deepy in love almost immediately. They got married and there was a 40 year age difference. They suffered a lot of negativity and judgment from peope who didn't understand. Last I heard they were still together, but you never see either of them around town because they were both very hurt by the alienation and judgments they met from supposed friends etc. My feeling is, who's to say what is right or wrong? Go with your heart.

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