posted March 29, 2011 12:21 AM            

Skyviewzone says:
What does it mean to your relationship when your natal Mars is square your partner’s Neptune? There are indications that the circumstances that brought you together were never fully disclosed or understood by one of the partners. You are unclear about your partner’s sexual and assertive drives partly because you are looking at what you want to look at and also because some sexual confusion or deception on the part of one or both partners. If your romantic partner’s Mars is square your Neptune, you are apt to experience lies based on feelings of guilt, one of the lowest forms of creativity. Manipulation can be avoided if you are scrupulously honest with yourself and your partner.

(all this guilt talk,does that apply to the mars or neptune person?)

posted March 29, 2011 05:04 AM            

there was something in me that did not allow me to be a true animal, if you know what I mean.

posted March 29, 2011 05:49 PM            

I am the Mars person,I think its more comforting to know I am the Mars,since i know he will be more delicate in his nature in regards to that,and I could help him through that,if it surfaces in the future.

posted March 29, 2011 06:04 PM            

I was the Neptune and he was the Mars. At the beginning of the relationship I think we did not have a clear idea or agenda about what the relationship was about or who we were to each other, we were just so attracted to each other. I did NOT trust him at all and mainly because of his crazy libido. I wouldn't say I was a wallflower by any means, but he had lost his boundaries as to what was acceptable. Mainly because I didn't lay out the boundaries from the beginning because....we were very unsure of what we meant to each other, but VERY attracted.

posted March 29, 2011 06:22 PM            

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Originally posted by starzy54:
If he gives me some boundaries or rules,I will be more than happy to comply.I don't want to make him uncomfortable in any way..its worse for me to make someone uncomfortable than being the one uncomfortable.

I kissed him once a little forcefully and he told me right out,"that hurt!" lol.Now i know to be much more gentle.Also I guess you have to not try to control the Neptune in any way,even if what your doing is for their own good,don't even try to make them do something they didn't come up with them self.They will do the opposite out of spite.he's told me this.

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posted March 30, 2011 10:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Fascinating about Mars and Neptune.I never thought about this aspect but what you say makes perfect sense.
What about Venus and Neptune. Is the Neptune delicate toward the Venus?
Perhaps,not cuz Mars is not involved.
What do you think?

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posted August 01, 2013 08:17 PM            

When we first got together we were extremely attracted to each other but were skeptical of each other. We slowly, slowly, eased into a relationship, after him not wanting to be in one (due to being in love with another person) but "fell out of love" (so to speak) with that person and wanted to be with me. So, initially I didn't trust him. But, I did trust him with MY BODY because all of our sexual encounters were CONSENTUAL and he was CONSIDERATE of my needs and I was developing deep feelings for him, despite not understanding him.

I fell in love. We fell in love. We wrote beautiful letters together and felt such a deep connection that I felt like we were soul mates.

As our relationship developed there was often caretaking in the sexual department. He was very insecure with his body. Although he said he was the most comfortable with his body with me than with anyone else, he seemed to often be concerned about his performance abilities. This made me nervous because I loved his body and his insecurities seemed to conflict with my insecurities. I felt like I had to think to much during sex and thinking of sex was triggering of my past sexual traumatic experiences and sometimes sex would be EXTREMELY emotional for both of us, without really understanding why.

As our relationship went on, I cheated on him. He wanted to stay with me, because our love was worth fighting for. I wanted to stay with him because I truly did and do love him. But, I knew that there was trust lost.

We are both social animals. But, he is more charismatic, plays music, nature mystic Sagittarius Sun, Scorpio Moon, Aries Rising....whereas I am more sensual (through touch), am a dancer, and do random things... Gemini Sun, Aries Moon, Pisces Rising.

He would assume when I said something, although I considered myself to be direct and straightforward, that I meant something that I didn't mean. I would say what I meant when I meant it. He would assume something was wrong when there was nothing wrong and by assuming something was wrong I would get annoyed, then it would really seem like something was wrong.

I would assume he didn't actually want to hang out with me because he has a way of paying attention to everyone in the room (which is not a bad thing) and making every single feel special and started hanging out with people more than he was hanging out with me. But, I was also shy so sometimes didn't hang out...and I think we both just kind of accepted that major difference...although that difference was not a permanent one.

It started to feel like he was fading out of my life and I couldn't really tell what was going on. When I tried to ask for clear answers he would assure me everything was alright...but he never gave me a clear answer. He was busy in school...but, also made him self extremely busy for two terms. He said he was going to finish school quickly so that he could follow me to where I was moving...But, then started talking about how he was going to do other things after school finished, which were NOT following me to where I was moving. That he couldn't give me a clear answer would frustrate me. He would say things like "You know...sometimes couples go through things like this but we'll make it through this"...and I would be like "Well, am I coming over to your house to much?"..."No, you're always welcome here"..."But, if I don't come to your house then I won't see you because it doesn't seem like you want to come see me" and he would say "I'm really busy in school right now but you're my main priority"...and I would say " But, I'm not your main priority because if I weren't coming to see you, then you wouldn't come to see me. How can I be your main priority?" and the conversation would just fail. Because, I didn't mean to make it anything BIG. I just was saying, "No, I am not your main priority because I put in a lot of effort to see you, whereas you don't". I would have sufficiently frustrated him and then we would never continue the conversation because having that conversation frustrated him into silence and made him feel attacked. So, frustration began to build up.

Then, we would have sex and he would be insecure about his sex...and I would become so upset because I loved his body and felt like he was not believing me...and it started feeling like I was doing something wrong. That was difficult for me because, aside from sexual trauma, I typically really love sex...so...it sucked. He did NOT suck in bed. I always loved having sex with him. It sucked that he didn't believe it. Because, sex was probably one of the only confident areas I have about myself, I started feeling like I wasn't really allowed to be happy after having sex with him.

Overtime, I became extremely frustrated in general. I loved him so much and wanted to marry him...and he seemed like he was fading out and becoming wishy-washy, although just as lovable.

Our relationship failed, by the way. But, I still love him. My aggression reached high levels of intensity, although not violent. And, he backed off a lot.

I don't know if that helps anyone. But, that's how I feel about the Neptune/Mars Situation.

posted August 01, 2013 08:17 PM            

When we first got together we were extremely attracted to each other but were skeptical of each other. We slowly, slowly, eased into a relationship, after him not wanting to be in one (due to being in love with another person) but "fell out of love" (so to speak) with that person and wanted to be with me. So, initially I didn't trust him. But, I did trust him with MY BODY because all of our sexual encounters were CONSENTUAL and he was CONSIDERATE of my needs and I was developing deep feelings for him, despite not understanding him.

I fell in love. We fell in love. We wrote beautiful letters together and felt such a deep connection that I felt like we were soul mates.

As our relationship developed there was often caretaking in the sexual department. He was very insecure with his body. Although he said he was the most comfortable with his body with me than with anyone else, he seemed to often be concerned about his performance abilities. This made me nervous because I loved his body and his insecurities seemed to conflict with my insecurities. I felt like I had to think to much during sex and thinking of sex was triggering of my past sexual traumatic experiences and sometimes sex would be EXTREMELY emotional for both of us, without really understanding why.

As our relationship went on, I cheated on him. He wanted to stay with me, because our love was worth fighting for. I wanted to stay with him because I truly did and do love him. But, I knew that there was trust lost.

We are both social animals. But, he is more charismatic, plays music, nature mystic Sagittarius Sun, Scorpio Moon, Aries Rising....whereas I am more sensual (through touch), am a dancer, and do random things... Gemini Sun, Aries Moon, Pisces Rising.

He would assume when I said something, although I considered myself to be direct and straightforward, that I meant something that I didn't mean. I would say what I meant when I meant it. He would assume something was wrong when there was nothing wrong and by assuming something was wrong I would get annoyed, then it would really seem like something was wrong.

I would assume he didn't actually want to hang out with me because he has a way of paying attention to everyone in the room (which is not a bad thing) and making every single feel special and started hanging out with people more than he was hanging out with me. But, I was also shy so sometimes didn't hang out...and I think we both just kind of accepted that major difference...although that difference was not a permanent one.

It started to feel like he was fading out of my life and I couldn't really tell what was going on. When I tried to ask for clear answers he would assure me everything was alright...but he never gave me a clear answer. He was busy in school...but, also made him self extremely busy for two terms. He said he was going to finish school quickly so that he could follow me to where I was moving...But, then started talking about how he was going to do other things after school finished, which were NOT following me to where I was moving. That he couldn't give me a clear answer would frustrate me. He would say things like "You know...sometimes couples go through things like this but we'll make it through this"...and I would be like "Well, am I coming over to your house to much?"..."No, you're always welcome here"..."But, if I don't come to your house then I won't see you because it doesn't seem like you want to come see me" and he would say "I'm really busy in school right now but you're my main priority"...and I would say " But, I'm not your main priority because if I weren't coming to see you, then you wouldn't come to see me. How can I be your main priority?" and the conversation would just fail. Because, I didn't mean to make it anything BIG. I just was saying, "No, I am not your main priority because I put in a lot of effort to see you, whereas you don't". I would have sufficiently frustrated him and then we would never continue the conversation because having that conversation frustrated him into silence and made him feel attacked. So, frustration began to build up.

Then, we would have sex and he would be insecure about his sex...and I would become so upset because I loved his body and felt like he was not believing me...and it started feeling like I was doing something wrong. That was difficult for me because, aside from sexual trauma, I typically really love sex...so...it sucked. He did NOT suck in bed. I always loved having sex with him. It sucked that he didn't believe it. Because, sex was probably one of the only confident areas I have about myself, I started feeling like I wasn't really allowed to be happy after having sex with him.

Overtime, I became extremely frustrated in general. I loved him so much and wanted to marry him...and he seemed like he was fading out and becoming wishy-washy, although just as lovable.

Our relationship failed, by the way. But, I still love him. My aggression reached high levels of intensity, although not violent. And, he backed off a lot.

I don't know if that helps anyone. But, that's how I feel about the Neptune/Mars Situation.