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Topic: Taurus men - why do they think possessiveness is healthy?
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skegeegirl
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From: Texas
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted November 16, 2011 08:05 AM
  
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Originally posted by Xiiro:
My last relationship-thing was with a Taurus Sun - Scorpio ASC. He was super possessive like the OP's Taurus, but he never expressed any of it outwardly. He would just brood and expect me to pick up on his signals. I guess it worked for so long, because I am good at picking up on people's signals LOL.One day he just blew up and started spouting off all this crap that he never communicated, but expected me to just know. I was offended that we had been together for so long and all that time he was doing crap like "agreeing to suggestions I made (that completely took him out of his comfort zone), because he thought that was romantic". It would have all been well and good if he had just sat down and talked with me about it, but he decided to freak out and accuse me of doing stuff I had no clue I was doing. Super unhealthy relationship, though I am positive that was due to a lot more than his Sun and ASC. =D
OMG! Yes. Mine told me if I wanted to move he'd go wherever I went if it made me happy. That was in 2007. I just found out now in 2011 that he was ****** about it. Gah!
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fairaqua
Knowflake Posts: 257
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Registered: Feb 2011
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posted November 16, 2011 08:45 AM
I'm with a Taurus moon andlet me tell you.. he's loyal.
But its to the point where I don't want to go out with him (to concerts, clubs, bars, etc).
I feel like one of those people that need a body guard. I go to the dance floor and hell follow. ...now there really isn't anything wrong with tht except he doesn't dance. He just stands there like a dark shadow right underneath me..
Its so bad if I go out I will usually just stand on the railing or stay in a chair cause he's RIGHT UNDERNEATH ME.
And he's always peeking over my shoulder while I'm texting or on the computer..
Ugh! Get off me!
I'm not doing anything wrong but it still just makes me cringe.
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Xiiro
Knowflake Posts: 676
From: San Diego CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted November 16, 2011 03:10 PM
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Originally posted by skegeegirl:
OMG! Yes. Mine told me if I wanted to move he'd go wherever I went if it made me happy. That was in 2007. I just found out now in 2011 that he was ****** about it. Gah!
It's really weird IMO. One of the things he was angry about was - He asked me to help him get is space clean and organized... ASKED me, mind you. I planned out the changes and presented them to him for approval (Cause he is a Taurus and I knew less trauma would come from him being involved). Once he approved the change, HE HELPED ME go through all his stuff, categorize it, and store the "things he wouldn't need at arms reach" in specific places (based on what the actual item was). If he forgot where a specific type of item was, he knew he could just come to me and I would remind him of the place where those kind of items went. I intentionally set it up to be simple, convenient and Taurus-proof. This was more than a year before he blew up at me. He told me "You swooped in and changed my whole space", "I have no idea where anything is, I have to ask you if I want to find my own stuff", "You violated my space and made me feel violated". Okay, news flash Ferdinand.... Were you not present and asked for your approval? Did you not help me "violate" you? Do you really think I got anything out of organizing YOUR space? How is it you are so able to hold on to this false memory, but are incapable of remembering where I stashed your porn? Yeah, whatever. I think he did it because he wanted to pull a power-play, and I had put up with enough crap over the years. I didn't leave in a very mature way, but intentional or not, he sensed I was getting tired of his crap and said all the right things to push my buttons. IP: Logged |
scrappydog
Knowflake Posts: 874
From: Texas
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 16, 2011 03:33 PM
Im an asc taurus female and I am extremely possesive and jealous of any man I date that I even remotely care about. I know I'm being unreasonable and want to stop, but I can't seem to help myself.IP: Logged |
scrappydog
Knowflake Posts: 874
From: Texas
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 16, 2011 04:07 PM
I'm thinking u guys might be onto something with taurus being worse than scorpio, my x husband had sun, moon, mercury, and mars in scorpio and he was not possesive or jealous or even the suspicious nosy type. He was very healthy in these ways. As a 1st decan taurus rising with mercury in scorp on the desc I was the possesive one and very suspicious, tho I don't snoop. I just seem unable to trust any male my feelings are involved in when it comes to sex or cheating.
I dated a moon in taurus man who was like me and also highschool boyfriend was a cancer moon and my first x husband was a double cancer. Cancer is very jealous and possesive in a petty, immature way. Both cancer men would accuse me of looking at other men when we were together in a Crowded, Public place. And I wasn't. I wouldn't even know what they were talking about. So childish even by my taurus standards, lol. IP: Logged |
sand
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Registered: May 2011
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posted November 17, 2011 02:42 AM
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skegeegirl
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Texas
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 13, 2011 06:55 AM
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Originally posted by Xiiro:
It's really weird IMO. One of the things he was angry about was - He asked me to help him get is space clean and organized... ASKED me, mind you. I planned out the changes and presented them to him for approval (Cause he is a Taurus and I knew less trauma would come from him being involved). Once he approved the change, HE HELPED ME go through all his stuff, categorize it, and store the "things he wouldn't need at arms reach" in specific places (based on what the actual item was). If he forgot where a specific type of item was, he knew he could just come to me and I would remind him of the place where those kind of items went. I intentionally set it up to be simple, convenient and Taurus-proof. This was more than a year before he blew up at me. He told me "You swooped in and changed my whole space", "I have no idea where anything is, I have to ask you if I want to find my own stuff", "You violated my space and made me feel violated". Okay, news flash Ferdinand.... Were you not present and asked for your approval? Did you not help me "violate" you? Do you really think I got anything out of organizing YOUR space? How is it you are so able to hold on to this false memory, but are incapable of remembering where I stashed your porn? Yeah, whatever. I think he did it because he wanted to pull a power-play, and I had put up with enough crap over the years. I didn't leave in a very mature way, but intentional or not, he sensed I was getting tired of his crap and said all the right things to push my buttons.
I haven't been on here in a while, but I had to follow up. I'm divorcing my Taurus husband. He's in the military and overseas in Germany. Last year he purposely chose to volunteer to PCS there and didn't ask me until after the fact. I had just gotten a good paying job and we had agreed that we were going to pay down our debt (or so I thought). When he asked me if I wanted to go (before I found out he actually got it), I said no because I thought our goal was to pay bills and me getting this job with his income would make it easy. Also I would have to quit this job and not be able to work when we moved there. He got ****** pouted and I said fine. Well a month later he tells me he gets the assignment. I decided I'd stay here and if he couldn't get out of the PCS he'd go there and I'd visit. He agreed. Well come to find out he wanted me to quit my job and move with him. So with that move from 2007 and me not moving with him he felt that he could have sex with someone else because "its your fault you made me move, and you didn't follow me to Germany". This passive/aggressive read his mind thing is not my thing. And he doesn't know I know. He'd rather be in this relationship with me still just so that I don't find another man. He couldn't bear that I can move on with someone else and *gasp* possibly have sex. I will not date another Taurus man again when I'm single. I should have learned my lesson the first time. IP: Logged |
skegeegirl
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Texas
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 13, 2011 07:01 AM
I wonder if my post showed up?IP: Logged |
defeat
Knowflake Posts: 127
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 13, 2011 01:37 PM
wow.
i really don't want to be all negative and be hostile on here but you're fricken ******* me off.
why the ef do you care?
it's none of you business.
yes scorpio taurus relationship is probably one of the most, if not the most possessive realationships and you as an aquarius might not understand/agree with that, but who gives a shi!t.on all your posts here you act like you're on your high effing horse...get over yourself. stop throwing your moral advice down everyone's throat. this is an astrolgoy forum, so can you please start sticking to it and stop taking away the value the site...thx!!!!!!!! !$%$@#%##$%#%#$@@ IP: Logged |
CosmicKarma360
Knowflake Posts: 463
From: here and there
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 13, 2011 02:06 PM
I'm Taurus ASC, with Mercury and Jupiter in Taurus.It's when I hear stories like these I'm so grateful for a Gemini Venus and a Gemini Moon. I know it would be so tempting and easy to get possessive and jealous. Sometimes the Taurus in me does go there, too. However, I can strongly feel the Gemini come through, which doesn't get jealous or possessive at all. Whew!
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woah cakes
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 13, 2011 03:30 PM
hmmmm, interesting thread!i'm a taurus moon trine saturn and NN (earth) but the rest of me is air and fire (and one water). it's interesting to hear the effect of the shadow side of taurus. i'm dating a taurus who i'm 99% sure is also taurus rising. i have zero idea how posessively he feels about me but he has never outwardly desplayed any such tendency (we have an unconventional relationship though). i, also, have not really 'gone there' either. however i will say that the feeling is there.. a longing for mutual-posession. i don't know how to explain it but i think taurus' need for stability manifests as an urge to hold on, and we fear change. we are loyal too (generally), so what we are hoping for is a rock solid mutual interdependency. it's not even really all that thought-through i don't think, it's just sort of instinctive. i am not a snooper.. well i did once many years ago because i was HIGHLY suspicious that my bf was cheating on me and i needed to find out (and i found out just how disgustingly much he was). and jealousy is an interesting concept to me. i suppose i feel it but i really don't think any more than any other person, taurus or not. i'm an aqua sun so i detach pretty easily from my feelings because i don't think they are the be-all end-all. in fact i even went so far as to tell the guy i am seeing that i don't care if he flirts with other women, but that sleeping with anyone else would be where the line was crossed. even if i cringe to imagine it.. obviously all signs have a light and a dark side, and i realize this was sort of a vent thread (and let's face it, taurus doesn't get enough hate  ) but i think its 'place' in this world is valuable- it is steadying, it is a reminder to be present, calm, and stable, to know one's own values and to stop and smell the flowers. i also think that we all have a bit of this in us; we want assurance that we can depend on reality to not change too much too fast, that the rug won't be pulled out from under us without notice, that our lover is dependable. obviously the extreme version of it is disconcerting, BUT i think tarueans only behave like that when their fear overshadows their certainty; like most of these stories seem to be of the 'final hours' of the relationships and taurus' don't handle change well especially when it means letting go cuz we are at our best when we are MAINTAINING the status quo. this is the purpose of fixity, and it is just as valuable as the other modalities, even if it obviously has limitations. that is the beauty of astrology i think. it is so complex yet so elegantly simple.. the interplay between the signs is like an eternal dance of energies and we are all learning from one another. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 13, 2011 04:12 PM
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He'd rather be in this relationship with me still just so that I don't find another man. He couldn't bear that I can move on with someone else and *gasp* possibly have sex.
That brings back memories of a Taurus Mars guy..  IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 13, 2011 05:35 PM
Weird. I dated a Taurus Sun & Moon male for many years and he was not possessive or jealous at all - well very rarely. Because we trusted each other.I am also a Taurus Sun and not like this either. Maybe that's why it worked with us for so long. But we did both have prominent Uruanus in our charts, so .... more of an Aquarian vibe, we both had, i guess. I also have a very close male Taurean friend who doesnt seem at all like this either. I think like our opposite Scorpio, you get extreme polarities, really low level or really healthy positive traits, depending on the person and maybe other things going on in their chart. Scorpio is said to have three levels, the Scorpion, Eagle & Phoenix. I think Taureans are similar in that way......every sign is really - some will be more evolved than others. I'm very much a Taurus, but I rarely get jealous or possessive in relationships. If there is serious reason to, I'll just leave the guy. Not worth it because there are plenty of other fish in the sea. I don't hold on tightly to people or things....  IP: Logged | |
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