posted December 17, 2011 08:32 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
You need to move on and stop putting yourself through this awful level of self-pity. Someone doesn't want to be with you, why are you crying? Move on girl, this is kind of pathetic no offense. It's not like he died. he just does not want to be with you. I've met lots of guys that were attracted to me. Does not mean they wanted to be with me. Just because there is attraction doesn't mean both people are obligated to be with each other.

Crying over this is kind of silly. He doesn't want to be with you. It's not the end of the world, you should move on and stop self-pity, you're worth a lot more, I bet he isn't even thinking about you I bet he's living his life - something you should do too

Think about it this way, all this time you're crying in self pity when you could have probably been out there happy accepting what happened and possibly could have met someone really special who reciprocates your feelings. You were never with this guy, it was just attraction. Girl, pick yourself up, stop settling lmao.

yes I have met a guy I was Pluto, he was sexy as hell, we were both attracted to each other for some reason nothing jump started. He was probably the most delicious person I've ever met in my 18 years of living. Breathing was not an option around him lmfao. Nothin happened except increasing sexual tension. I didn't cry over it though, you snooze ya lose right? All I know is I'm happy to have met someone that could ignite such passion out of me something I thought never existed.
stop crying, okay? Life's too short!

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posted December 17, 2011 09:11 PM            

You just have to step back and say, you know what, this hurts, but everything in life hurts or makes you feel good. What are you going to do about the feelings that come to you? Are you going to be a slave to them? Or are you going to take charge of the way you feel?

posted December 17, 2011 09:16 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
I just want to hear from people who share my pain. I dont want someone telling me to get over it. That's not what I need to hear. Very unsupportive.

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posted December 17, 2011 09:51 PM            

You DO need to get over it. You had nothing with this guy... he didn't want a relationship with you.. Sure there was attraction, but what else? Did he buy you a wedding ring? So basically what you want is sugarcoated opinions? I'm not going to do that you need a reality check, I'm being supportive in a sense where I'm telling YOU wasting YOUR time pitying yourself is not going to get you any better you're most likely wasting a lot of time, you seriously could have met someone else that will reciprocate the feelings you have.

I would understand if you actually dated this guy if I read wrong I apologize, but it sounds like you didn't! Or do you just get really obsessive over people? I'm not asking to be rude but you sound way too pressed about this guy if nothing really happened besides attraction..

bottom line this guy doesn't want you
you say you think it's a race issue - riddle me this, why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that let's race be of importance?

You seriously need to get yourself together an go back to living a happier life, you pining and crying over something trivial is really unforunate I'm not saying this to be mean but you're totally doing a major injustice to yourself! Please have some self respect the guy doesn't want you, being attracted doesn't mean a relationship will happen. Yeah it sucks! I can relate but this is just sad. It makes me upset a little when I hear and see women do this to themselves. It's very awful! So what he doesn't want you wtf are you going to do about it? Nothing! it's his problem not yours!!!! yeah I did lmfao, because you remind me of my friend, a long time ago until she realized how much time she wasted in self-pity and how many chances she's ruined because of it. Pull yourself together op. obsession ain't healthy lol

posted December 17, 2011 09:52 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
VenusDiSirius, darling, I was talking to lindisfarne lol sorry for the confusion. =)

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posted December 17, 2011 10:00 PM            

look op this is what you said

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But he says he's attracted to me but doesn't like me

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Does his actions match his words?
From all that you say, him ignoring you and obviously not asking to be with you exclusively says he doesn't like you and doesn't want to be with you. That's what stumps me. Why are you crying over this person? Is he really worth it? Sounds like he strung you along IMO, he knew you would become silly puddy over words and that's what he used, I bet he was showing signs all along that he wasn't interested in a relationship or dating but you ignored it which isn't really your fault I guess love does crazy things...

however we do know and you know the guy doesn't care for you. it's been 4 months. He ignores you. It's supposedly a race issues. He is attracted to you but does not like you. You're not clear if you two were involved, but I'm willing to bet you weren't.

I don't really see whats to support here. What would you like for me to support? I don't see it. I don't mean to be a b*tch but it's been 4 months? do you know how Many possible great guys youve ignored all because of someone that seems like they used you and liked your attention?

And yes you will get over him, once you realize self-pitying won't make this guy want you anymore or less it's his problem, not yours, I bet you're not even the problem maybe you just weren't his type.. who knows who cares. What does matter is that you need to pick yourself up pull yourself together and go back out there stop obsessing cause it's clearly not doing any favors for you, don't cry over this guy you're wasting energy and tears. It's all up to you op the day u decide to get over it will come it's your decision.

posted December 17, 2011 10:03 PM            

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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
What aspect did you share with him if you were the pluto?

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posted December 17, 2011 10:36 PM            

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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
RAS..-->the quote button. Have you two met?!

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posted December 17, 2011 11:05 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
VenusDiSirius, darling, I was talking to lindisfarne lol sorry for the confusion. =)

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LOL.....I noticed you were talking to lindis and that venus thought you were talking to him/her and I was like aww poor VenusDiSirius he/she thinks you are mad at him/her and you are not at all. Mercury retrograde is still happening??

As for lindis wow I think she means well but has a lot of unresolved anger and hate in her so when you she tries helping it comes off wrong bc it comes from a place of anger instead of love.

She reads a thread and thinks that is all to the story and then comes to very definitive conclusions just based on the brief description of the story. Try not to let her get to you .

posted December 17, 2011 11:19 PM            

His venus conjunct my pluto and his pluto trine my venus. Obsessive on my part definately.. He maintained his cool throughout the relationship as he has his saturn loosely conjunct his venus. In addition to that, we have venus mutually aspect neptune, sun mutually aspect saturn and my mars conjunct his venus, his eros/psyche conjunct my eros... I can go on and on. All those great aspects that point to a near mystical relationship yet it is not to be.

I miss him still. I obsess sometimes. This morning, I woke up and decided he may not be the one..

This guy you are pinning for - He may not be the one too.

posted December 17, 2011 11:53 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
That sounds a lot more intense than how i actually feel. Sure i've cried a few times, but im not suffering. I miss him a lot. But i don't regret it, and i'm not in pain. I'm actually quite happy. He's out of my life, and that's good for me, because even tho it hurts, i did not want to end up with a guy who would cause my family to disown me, and also in my heart of hearts i didnt want to be with him bc i didnt find him attractive at times and it was weird. So, really, i'm not in any pain chill lol. But thank you so much i appreciate your words anyway . I really just wanted to talk about how awesome and transformative this venus-pluto stuff feels. Anybody else wanna share any passionate love stories? Haha. I haven't really gotten much of those. (Just a bunch of nagging that exaggerates how I really feel)

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Oh.Hmm...this is interesting. Well, ok.

posted December 17, 2011 11:57 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
LOL.....I noticed you were talking to lindis and that venus thought you were talking to him/her and I was like aww poor VenusDiSirius he/she thinks you are mad at him/her and you are not at all. Mercury retrograde is still happening?

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