posted January 12, 2012 08:21 AM            

I'm just curious about what you think that makes someone use sex as something 'nice' (that won't hurt others), but at the same time need it in the routine.

I recently discovered that I have a highly sexual chart, though I'm virgin (not the sign). And then that's because I havn't found the 'right person'.

I have Mars in Taurus on the 8th opp pluto in scorpio on the 2th and trine venus in aquarius. My Venus quintile my Pluto, and I'm a cap with virgo rising. My venus also square Erus in scorpio.

posted January 12, 2012 08:50 AM            

Sex is supposed to be an expression of love, but has been entirely perverted in this day and age into a physiological need.

posted January 12, 2012 11:37 AM            

I've been very insecure for being the only virgin in my group of friends, I's awesome to be incouraged!

Luckly I've found ways of getting in touch with my sexual side by my own (yeah, i do masturbate). Also, I usually kiss my friends (more common in Brazil than you may think).

"After being sexually assaulted sexually harassed, and street harassed, I saw sex as something that was only filthy and disgusting for years. I'm only now beginning to really believe (not just intellectually know, but emotionally and spiritually believe) that sex is a gift from God. Celibacy and virginity are also gifts from God, equally beautiful and good if they are used in the spirit of love and out of one's own choosing to live this way joyfully.

Using one's body in a right and proper way that honors oneself and others is what is important.

I consider myself asexual, but it's important to me to have a healthier and more balanced view of sex that includes the beauty, not one that only includes the ugliness. Even if I never have sex (which would be fine by me), I want to be able to see it as a gift from God."

Completly normal! Sexual traumatic experiences may be hard But don't worry, traumas don't stay forever and you probably aren't "assexual". Also, if you have been raped is because you have an attractive side!

posted January 12, 2012 01:15 PM            

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I'm just curious about what you think that makes someone use sex as something 'nice' (that won't hurt others), but at the same time need it in the routine.

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posted January 12, 2012 02:17 PM            

My only intention was to try to compliment you, only, for real.

posted January 12, 2012 02:38 PM            

1. Nice sex - Positive views on Sex - Healthy sexuality = Venus trine Mars... and/or Venus sextile Mars.

posted January 12, 2012 03:05 PM            

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When I was a 10 year old boy, I was raped by a man. He achieved oral penetration and he finished himself inside my mouth and down my throat, and that was only because he could not achieve anal penetration not having thought through that I am a boy and he did not have lubricant. He had the knife pointed at my neck the whole time.

That was my first sexual experience and I was highly traumatized, and both my parents and the police *blamed ME* I had nobody to console me except God.

He forced himself on me at knifepoint with an eight inch military style diver's knife with a serrated edge. If you have seen the Rambo movies, you will understand what sort of knife I am talking about.

posted January 12, 2012 03:34 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Let me explain "Rape" better.

[VERY GRAPHIC... DON'T READ IF YOU GET UPSET EASILY]

When I was a 10 year old boy, I was raped by a man. He achieved oral penetration and he finished himself inside my mouth and down my throat, and that was only because he could not achieve anal penetration not having thought through that I am a boy and he did not have lubricant. He had the knife pointed at my neck the whole time.

That was my first sexual experience and I was highly traumatized, and both my parents and the police *blamed ME* I had nobody to console me except God.

He forced himself on me at knifepoint with an eight inch military style diver's knife with a serrated edge. If you have seen the Rambo movies, you will understand what sort of knife I am talking about.

That is rape. Forced upon someone against their will.

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I had no Idea... Seens trully terrible. He's probably a psycopath, and omg, your parents, how can they put the blame on you?? They probably have very old concepts about "females" in general.

posted January 12, 2012 04:04 PM            

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Originally posted by lu_pirate:
I had no Idea... Seens trully terrible. He's probably a psycopath, and omg, your parents, how can they put the blame on you?? They probably have very old concepts about "females" in general.

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Its in South East Asia where crime is so rare because of the harsh punishments, so the assumption that a young boy must have made it up.

The assailant was dressed in a business shirt and tie (the weather is too hot and humid for suit jackets), and so the business type couldn't have possibly been carrying such a weapon (all men in the country serve in the military and almost all men are combat trained soldiers with ready ability to kill).

That was a long time ago and the cops did not have DNA testing nor bothered with lie detection tests.

The question was why I did not go directly to a police station to report and took a public bus home crying before telling my parents. As though 10 year olds are always fully rational. They've never heard about children being scared.

It was a man and I was a boy after all. Homosexuality cannot possibly exist. The country was run by a soulmate of Mahmoud Ahmedinejad. Same dictatorship inclinations. Anyway, something must be mentally wrong about me because I must be a homosexual fantasizing about homosexuality. We lock up homosexuals and throw the key away.

posted January 12, 2012 04:31 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Its in South East Asia where crime is so rare because of the harsh punishments, so the assumption that a young boy must have made it up.

The assailant was dressed in a business shirt and tie (the weather is too hot and humid for suit jackets), and so the business type couldn't have possibly been carrying such a weapon (all men in the country serve in the military and almost all men are combat trained soldiers with ready ability to kill).

That was a long time ago and the cops did not have DNA testing nor bothered with lie detection tests.

The question was why I did not go directly to a police station to report and took a public bus home crying before telling my parents. As though 10 year olds are always fully rational. They've never heard about children being scared.

It was a man and I was a boy after all. Homosexuality cannot possibly exist. The country was run by a soulmate of Mahmoud Ahmedinejad. Same dictatorship inclinations. Anyway, something must be mentally wrong about me because I must be a homosexual fantasizing about homosexuality. We lock up homosexuals and throw the key away.

My parents never thought that much about me anyway, so why would they believe me anyway. Its me being a punk and delaying my trip home to escape doing homework.

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Wow this must've be so traumatic for you =(. I'm glad you learnt to put it aside and not let it affect you too greatly for the rest of your life.

If it happened to me, it would affect me so much.

posted January 12, 2012 05:00 PM            

But life had to go on. Even today, my father claims with frustration that "I have a chip on my shoulder." You don't say!

posted January 12, 2012 05:08 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Wow this must've be so traumatic for you =(. I'm glad you learnt to put it aside and not let it affect you too greatly for the rest of your life.

If it happened to me, it would affect me so much.

I think I got sexually abused when I was 5 by 2 teen boys (had to give them oral). But bc my memory's not that clear, and bc it happened so long ago, there's nothing I can do.
Besides, wouldn't want my parents to be 'ashamed' lol if I did say sth.

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posted January 12, 2012 05:08 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Please stay a virgin for as long as you can until you find someone whom you truly love and who truly loves you.

Sex is supposed to be an expression of love, but has been entirely perverted in this day and age into a physiological need.

Its perfectly honorable to spend a life without having sex, if one can endure it and if it is one's choice.

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Sex is best when is an expression of love....Love is what makes sex feel wonderful and out of this world, I agree. Love turns sex into something physiological to something spiritual so approaching sex with love and open heart will change the experience tremendously resulting in your soul been touched deeply as opposed to feeling empty. And there is different degrees of the expression of love so the stronger the love the more beautiful the sexual encounter. Hence why pluto rules sex if you have nice love and sex aspects with someone (both) pluto will intensify both energies I feel.

But Romans had orgies and so sex just for pleasure really has always been around and is why unfortunately prostitution is the oldest profession, so they say, in the world.

I am extremely sadddd that you had to experience rape at the age of 10 and amazed by how well you have coped resulting in you having a great marriage and still been very open to love and very comfortable with sex if with someone you love.

posted January 12, 2012 05:09 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
No worries! I had a feeling that it might be cultural differences and I didn't get a feeling that you were intending to be hurtful. So, hope to see you keep posting here! :-)

And again, my intent was just to be honest so that you didn't end up with people being really upset or anything due to a simple misunderstanding, especially since you didn't have a bad intention.

So, here is a little rose for you to show that there are no hard feelings:

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posted January 12, 2012 05:14 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Yes, it was difficult.

But life had to go on. Even today, my father claims with frustration that "I have a chip on my shoulder." You don't say!

I left the country at 14 years old to go far far far away from home.

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posted January 12, 2012 05:17 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
Sex is best when is an expression of love....Love is what makes sex feel wonderful and out of this world, I agree. Love turns sex into something physiological to something spiritual so approaching sex with love and open heart will change the experience tremendously resulting in your soul been touched deeply as opposed to feeling empty. And there is different degrees of the expression of love so the stronger the love the more beautiful the sexual encounter. Hence why pluto rules sex if you have nice love and sex aspects with someone (both) pluto will intensify both energies I feel.

But Romans had orgies and so sex just for pleasure really has always been around and is why unfortunately prostitution is the oldest profession, so they say, in the world.

I am extremely sadddd that you had to experience rape at the age of 10 and amazed by how well you have coped resulting in you having a great marriage and still been very open to love and very comfortable with sex if with someone you love.

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Sex with love really is very different from sex without it. It's like you're kinda floaty and it's like both of you are cocooned in warmth and light.

Normal sex can be alittle empty at times. Though still fun! Haha.

posted January 12, 2012 05:27 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Sex with love really is very different from sex without it. It's like you're kinda floaty and it's like both of you are cocooned in warmth and light.

Normal sex can be alittle empty at times. Though still fun! Haha.

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Yeah I agree...it can still be fun after all we are both body and soul so the physical part of us can still enjoy sex that is not 8th house sex and is 5th house sex.

posted January 12, 2012 05:51 PM              

Which house would frotteurism fall into?

posted January 12, 2012 05:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
Hmm so what's 2nd House sex? Getting paid for it? And 10th House sex would be, like, sleeping your way up? 9th House sex would be like Tantra stuff? 11th House sex would be friends with benefits? 1st House sex would be masturbation or exhibitionism...? 3rd House sex would be like incest?

Which house would frotteurism fall into?

Coffeeeeeeee!!! Where art thou??

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Ha! Great points! I think sex as a profession to make money would be 6th house and perhaps sex to increase yourself worth would be 2nd house..Or perhaps 2nd house sex is abstinence as you derive self worth from abstaining. You should start a thread on this..like were you are going with it

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Mars/pluto through the houses the thread could be titled.

posted January 12, 2012 06:05 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:

I am extremely sadddd that you had to experience rape at the age of 10 and amazed by how well you have coped resulting in you having a great marriage and still been very open to love and very comfortable with sex if with someone you love.

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Thank you so much!

But remember that I'm male. Don't mean to make excuses but it's less traumatic than young girls who are penetrated. Of course he could have chosen to penetrate anyway, and the outcome could have been homicide.

The experience in fact made me a bad bad boy, so instead of clamping up, I got promiscuous. Then I repented and changed as I matured.

Of course I got even more traumatized with sex at 18 years old but that's yet another story. It was much much much more worse than the rape.