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Topic: Question about Leo suns & breakups
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lilithpluto
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From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted April 21, 2012 12:33 AM
  
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Originally posted by oceaneyes9:
im a leo sun, and im gonna say that for me if i broke it off, you're pretty much dead to me, no you do not exist and how dare you think you might ! haha ya the pride gets inflated. i guess the feeling just goes dead and since its all or nothing, it was all and is now nothing.however, there is an exception. if i have loved someone i will never deny it, and i will never forget that person. then again i probably wouldnt break it off with that person though, but if in dire situations i did, i would nurse my pain in my personal hell, never forgetting them, but never showing outwardly that i even remember their name. prettymuch 
Oh my.... You spoke exactly as I will feel. Yes. They are dead, vaporize into air.. IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted April 21, 2012 12:46 AM
I'm a Leo. When I break up I'm done... I'm done. If I am broken up for real for more than a week... and am not just being a fickle Gemini Venus fessin up immediately... I'm out. The one exception is when we were not official and I say I'm done. Once it's a relationship and it's over - when I'm done, I'm done. Taurus moon as well if that applies. IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
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posted April 21, 2012 03:25 AM
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Originally posted by peachbeigeblue:
The one exception is when we were not official and I say I'm done. Once it's a relationship and it's over - when I'm done, I'm done.
That's odd. I'm a non-Leo, so whether or not I'm really done would hinge on whether or not I decide they're scum. Also depends on the offense. If they did something to completely tick me off then it's done. I can't imagine the Leo I was close to getting back together with anyone she broke up with. She got over her first bf (they were together for a year) within a day. IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted April 21, 2012 06:20 AM
I have held onto guys who I was in "limbo" with. But that's usually because they never did anything to hurt me and it never got that serious. I was talking to one guy specifically who I would talk to again. If we had gotten to the point where we were 100 percent serious and it didn't work - I wouldn't feel that way. But also, the reason why he's hesitant is my fault. So there's a bit of a longing. I'd say he's the exception to the rule.As far as exbfs go, when I'm out - seeya. I would never date any exbf again. I generally get over an ex very quickly and close the door fast.
My high school bf was a Leo sun/Leo moon. He did not get over me for 6 years, if ever (meaning 7). As of last year, he was still bitter and acting out. Even talking to aforementioned guy about how he took my virginity. Like come on. I was sixteen
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Ariehnox
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posted April 21, 2012 08:14 AM
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Originally posted by peachbeigeblue:
I have held onto guys who I was in "limbo" with. But that's usually because they never did anything to hurt me and it never got that serious.
Yes... I'm also one of those who needs 'closure' in order to really move on from someone I was in 'limbo' with. Otherwise, they stay in my heart for a very long time until the feelings dry and fade out... (we're talking years here) but little fragments do remain. (if circumstances are favorable, one only needs to water and nurture it and the feelings might grow back) But indeed, if the relationship ended up in a really bad note (especially if the relationship wasn't healthy to begin with), you can bet that we're done... and yes, to the point that we could even act like the person never even existed. (mostly because we never wanted to be reminded/admit of having made that mistake) If I were to break up with someone, it's for a good reason and you can trust that it would be for the betterment of both parties. The decision will never come from a whim. We will think long and hard on it, and as soon as we've come to a decision, we would be adamant about it... we're fixed signs afterall. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted April 21, 2012 09:28 AM
I envy these Leos who seem to have an on/off switch. If I ever loved someone, I always will. There is no off switch. As the years go by, I just mercifully forget how intense it was. I'm a Cap sun, Pisces moon.My Leo husband does fit the description of one who just moved immediately on after he was finished in other relationships. My college Leo boyfriend, on the other hand, was born on the Virgo cusp. Maybe that's why he didn't write me off after I broke up with him. I broke up with him a few times, and he always went to extremes trying to get me back. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 21, 2012 09:40 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
just because someone doesnt show it doesnt mean they dont think about it, but i think leos would put up a front out of pride, i have a good friend who is a leo who acted like he didnt mind the breakup with his girlfriend of over 2 years but he would confide in me how hard he was taking it and how he missed her. I think fixed signs in general have a hard time letting go even they are too stubborn to admit it.
+1. I know a certain person here likes to discard the fixed sign quality where Aquas and are concerned and just deem us promiscuous but this is just ignorance. Fixed is fixed and we usually aren't the ones who initiate the breakups, lol. Just because you're out there putting on a smile and trying to meet someone new or get laid doesn't mean you're over it. That can actually be a band-aid solution or a front.
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hannaramaa
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posted April 21, 2012 11:39 AM
To the Leos who've claimed they get over it like that - can you explain why?! I'm an Aries with Venus in Aries and I find it takes me two years to get over each person I loved. Dunno why but two years does the trick for me.IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted April 21, 2012 11:49 AM
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Faith
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posted April 21, 2012 11:59 AM
The only romances I recovered from easily were the ones where my heart was never engaged in the first place. The few instances when I deeply loved someone...and that includes friendship...left a permanent mark, regardless of where the person is and what my standing is with them.A very good platonic friend of mine (Leo, actually!) hurt me pretty badly and we stopped talking for several years. I saw her again at a funeral and was as kind to her as ever, told her she's always in my heart. NOT that I would want to be friends again, as I don't trust her anymore. But I do still love her, because I have such strong, fond memories. I have no wish to erase the memories, and I don't know how to erase the feelings attached. Nor do I want to. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted April 21, 2012 12:07 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
The only romances I recovered from easily were the ones where my heart was never engaged in the first place. The few instances when I deeply loved someone...and that includes friendship...left a permanent mark, regardless of where the person is and what my standing is with them.A very good platonic friend of mine (Leo, actually!) hurt me pretty badly and we stopped talking for several years. I saw her again at a funeral and was as kind to her as ever, told her she's always in my heart. NOT that I would want to be friends again, as I don't trust her anymore. But I do still love her, because I have such strong, fond memories. I have no wish to erase the memories, and I don't know how to erase the feelings attached. Nor do I want to.
About the bolded part, this is exactly what I was thinking. It must take a helluva long time for someone to actually get Leo's heart invested in a friendship, relationship. Which is so different from your Aries sibling! I've tried to manipulate my personality and stave off from caring about people, but I can't. I care about everyone easily. About your Leo friend, it's nice to hear a Leo with a heart speak openly. And now it's easier to understand where Leos come from, so I appreciate the story.  IP: Logged |
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