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hannaramaa
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posted April 01, 2012 12:25 PM
  
They're not into you anymore?IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted April 01, 2012 12:27 PM
What happened? Tell me the story as I am a Gem Sun, merc and Venus so may be a good one to helpIP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted April 01, 2012 12:35 PM
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What happened? Tell me the story as I am a Gem Sun, merc and Venus so may be a good one to help
Met a guy through a friend over Facebook, we started texting and found our sense of humor/personality got along really well. I think he got excited that he found someone on his "level" and he started saying he was in love, on Facebook - I got uncomfortable because we still hadn't met, and I simply never wrote him back when he told me it was getting blown out of proportion. A week goes by, nothing. Then we started talking and I finally met him yesterday, it was a lot of fun and we were laughing together and he texted me saying he had a lot of fun, but I'm not getting as much attention from him as I was in the beginning. He's a Gemini sun, moon, merc, and Venus so...he's always plugged in. I figured I did or said something and have been friend zoned. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 01, 2012 01:10 PM
When he said he was in love while on Facebook, did you throw a wet blanket on him? Not implying that you did, but a lot of women do that, and it irreparrably harms male affection. When a man is in love, let him be in love. When it's rationalized, the man tends to walk away. My moon is in Gemini. Once that happens to me, it's over. I hope that is not the case with him. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted April 01, 2012 01:17 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
When he said he was in love while on Facebook, did you throw a wet blanket on him? Not implying that you did, but a lot of women do that, and it irreparrably harms male affection. When a man is in love, let him be in love. When it's rationalized, the man tends to walk away. My moon is in Gemini.
I didn't say anything because I didn't know what to say. He could've been throwing it around, he could've meant it, it might not have even been about me (afterall I brought into the post through an inference) Also when him and I hung out yesterday, I didn't know he thought it was a date until he mentioned it. I thought we were just meeting each other and the date(s) would ensue after that. IP: Logged |
5Gemini
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posted April 01, 2012 01:33 PM
It really sounds like you both are letting this move too quickly. Saying I love you so quickly would make me stand back a little and let this fall into place if its meant to be. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted April 01, 2012 01:58 PM
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Originally posted by 5Gemini:
It really sounds like you both are letting this move too quickly. Saying I love you so quickly would make me stand back a little and let this fall into place if its meant to be.
I'm not making it move quickly... that's exactly what I did. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 01, 2012 02:13 PM
Anyway, call him and make nice and let it play itself out. Whatever will be will be. If he's losing interest, then so be it. Try not to read into all the nuances. Just go with the flow. Best of luck!IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted April 01, 2012 03:45 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
When he said he was in love while on Facebook, did you throw a wet blanket on him? Not implying that you did, but a lot of women do that, and it irreparrably harms male affection. When a man is in love, let him be in love. When it's rationalized, the man tends to walk away. My moon is in Gemini. Once that happens to me, it's over. I hope that is not the case with him.
i totally agree with you man, i have had the wet blanket thrown on me when i told a girl i loved her and she started asking me questions about it,like how do you know? how much? and second guessing me saying i cant possibly be in love because we havent known each other long enough,and it really turned me off and i never said it to her again. I have a gemini mars in the third house. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 01, 2012 03:55 PM
The other one is the dumbfounded silent look and the expression of "weirdo" and the subsequent retreat. Those set up immediate disengagement. Never mind not saying it again or "friend zone." It's truly over and I would waste a second more on the relationship. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted April 01, 2012 04:01 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
The other one is the dumbfounded silent look and the expression of "weirdo" and the subsequent retreat. Those set up immediate disengagement. Never mind not saying it again or "friend zone." It's truly over and I would waste a second more on the relationship.
haha i have been there, and i just cut contact,and the funny thing is almost always the woman will call or text and ask "why are you acting so weird"? and all you can think is wow,did you really just ask that? lol IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted April 01, 2012 06:28 PM
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RegardesPlatero
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posted April 01, 2012 06:34 PM
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5Gemini
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posted April 01, 2012 07:04 PM
Well said, I don't say I love unless I know for sure. With my current relationship it took me a year and half that I knew that I sincerely love him. This is after lying and cheating was put behind us and we were able to move on and sustain the relationshipIP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted April 01, 2012 07:45 PM
I agree Regardes, love aint the butterfly feelings bc love is knowledge of a person's real self. And one can never tell at the start. It takes at least 6 months minimum to start shedding the facade we tend to have up. This is human nature.
Also, i have found that alot of Gem placement people throw the word around, it just doesnt carry the same weight. If sb told me they loved me after weeks, i have certain perceptions of them. Also it's generally agreed upon that sb who 'falls in love' straight away will also be sb that falls out of love quick too. It also often indicates emotional maturity imo. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 01, 2012 07:46 PM
Right Platero. My intention is not to be argumentative or launch a debate leading to nowhere. I speak for myself only, but a quorum of men would agree with me. It will upset me immeasurably if love is unrequited, for I need to know where things stand at all times. Indecision and equivocation are major red flags to me. I neither have the patience nor time to hang around and wallow in a sea of doubt. I view the situation as duo fold: the woman either does not have feelings for me, or the woman is unsure of what she wants. Neither are attractive to me. I'm out the door. Two weeks into a relationship, my need for a score card begins. If visibility is limited after a month, it's time for serious discussion that would hopefully lead to resolution. If I truly believe that it takes a year to know someone, I much rather not be in any relationship. It so happens that my wife told me she loves me before I told her, and that happened 12 days after the first date. Faith in this forum agreed to marry her husband on the second day. It took us slightly longer, but the assessment of future viability ocuurred quickly after the relationship begun. The depth of a relationship is of far greater significance than the duration. My wife and I know a couple who dated for 10 years, living together for 2 years. They got divorced the next year. Faith's marriage and my marriage have each lasted close to two decades. Both marriages have produced beautful happy childten. My wife and I agreed to get married in 22 days and got married in 11 weeks. Surely you cannot suggest that I didn't know the woman I married. Absolutely no offense to ladies, but a relationship is based on the emotions of a pair, and not a singular person. The feelings of a man matter as well. If you choose to crush a man's emotion, don't expect him to ever see eye to eye with you again. I myself would be out the door in a jiffy. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 01, 2012 07:49 PM
Well then, ladies, there will be other men out there who are in sync with your belief system. Just as there were women out there who subscribed to my values system when dating. My wife certainly does. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted April 01, 2012 07:53 PM
i agree that it is a serious matter, i have only told that to 2 girls my entire life, and in both cases because it wasnt right timing in their eyes,i was made to feel like i dont know how i feel,and i think thats what me and yta meant, its rather annoying to have someone tell you how you feel,i dont need anyone to dictate that to me. just because it may take some eons to fall doesnt mean someone else cant fall quickly.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 01, 2012 07:57 PM
I seem to have views contrary to mintgirl. My value system tells me that not knowing what you want, or being afraid of things progressing too quickly are signs of emotional immaturity. To me, that is distinctly unatttractive, and thus I head elsewhere.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted April 01, 2012 08:00 PM
How would waiting to truly be in love be 'not knowing what I want?'I think you posted a post awhile ago saying that you would break up with sb if they didn't tell you they loved you within a month? LOL. That sounds like the mentality of a 13 year old boy. Also it is generally thought that most relationships that start off with a bang, end with a bang too. It's like fireworks, all pretty for a momentary few seconds, then it fades to oblivion. It's actually a sign of maturity to approach a relationship with a more slow approach. It's not a smart idea to rush into anything head first. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted April 01, 2012 08:06 PM
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i agree that it is a serious matter, i have only told that to 2 girls my entire life, and in both cases because it wasnt right timing in their eyes,i was made to feel like i dont know how i feel,and i think thats what me and yta meant, its rather annoying to have someone tell you how you feel,i dont need anyone to dictate that to me. just because it may take some eons to fall doesnt mean someone else cant fall quickly.
Think what Regardes was getting at is that alot of people mistake inital 'love' feelings for love, when it's more infatuation.
Like you're in love with the 'idea' of the person, not their true self, bc you don't know them enough to 'love them' that way. And actually there are scientific studies regarding this.
Alot of people only start showing certain sides to their personalities after 1.5-2 years.
There is a reason why people have a honeymoon period. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted April 01, 2012 08:11 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
How would waiting to truly be in love be 'not knowing what I want?'I think you posted a post awhile ago saying that you would break up with sb if they didn't tell you they loved you within a month? LOL. That sounds like the mentality of a 13 year old boy. Also it is generally thought that most relationships that start off with a bang, end with a bang too. It's like fireworks, all pretty for a momentary few seconds, then it fades to oblivion. It's actually a sign of maturity to approach a relationship with a more slow approach. It's not a smart idea to rush into anything head first.
i can tell this is headed for an arguement ,so lets agree to disagree, some people take time to fall and others know fairly early on,neither one is invalid,different strokes for different folks. i personally want to know early on where i stand,but just because thats my style doesnt mean your way is wrong,but at the same neither is mine. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted April 01, 2012 08:15 PM
It definitely seems like a Gemini placement thing that wants to rush the 'I love yous'??Bc Earth signs generally take it really slow and are more cautious.
Fire signs are kinda in the middle. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted April 01, 2012 11:06 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
It definitely seems like a Gemini placement thing that wants to rush the 'I love yous'??Bc Earth signs generally take it really slow and are more cautious.
Fire signs are kinda in the middle.
See, I concur with the earth/fire sign things. He's chatty, very plugged in, and loves his "facts." I feel my Taurus moon coming out more with him and less with people I'm chasing (balancing act) I don't know how he feels about me being so mellow and more selective with my information/feelings. He texted me an hour ago asking what I was doing tonight so maybe not friend zoned afterall? Who knows. But wouldn't all that Gemini (and his Mars being in Pisces) make him quick to move on? IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted April 01, 2012 11:14 PM
And then he texts me "Fyi I'm not as talkative as I came off, but because your smart I could share everything I was keeping to myself" ... I don't know how to react to that, like it makes it sound like I should just back away slowly IP: Logged |
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