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Topic: Venus Retro People (in natal)
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sand
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posted April 22, 2012 02:24 AM
  
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anno_lucis
Knowflake Posts: 994
From: the atman
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 22, 2012 03:13 PM
Ive got a venus retro in 7th house aries. conjunct mercury. had a social anxiety disorder for a long time. what i like is having a partner who understands and loves me, and its like thats all i need. i have a few very close friends who ive known years. but im a nightmare to be in a relationship with, ive figured out. ive basically been co dependant my whole adult life, and now im single again, but the last relationship i was in was the best and worst one ive ever had....he's abusive but i was badly addicted for so long - no idea why - his nessus opposes my dejanira and we also have opposing saturns. im doing my best to move on!!IP: Logged |
hskahn
Knowflake Posts: 128
From: san francisco, ca
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 28, 2012 05:55 PM
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Originally posted by enchantress299:
As per usual, this becomes a 'hate on those with this placement' thread instead of a forum for those who actually have the placement... I'm sorry that you all have had bad experiences with these people, but I can assure you that not all of us are manipulative, insecure, jealous, etc, etc, etc. Oh, AND I AM SICK OF HEARING HOW WE SCREWED PEOPLE OVER IN PAST LIVES AND NOW WE ARE PAYING FOR IT. I fully believe in past lives, but I think it is an improper assumption on anyone's part to tell me what my past lives were, thank you. It's not helpful to me in 'balancing my karma.' I have Venus retrograde and I have answered this question in other threads... And here's my answer again: [QUOTE]Eh. I know I've said it before elsewhere on these boards, but I'll repeat it (because I'm too lazy to find the link). Venus retro is like watching everyone else move forward while you are standing still. It's an outside in mentality. For me to be successful in relationships and often with social graces, I have to actually THINK about it. It seems counter intuitive because it is. Otherwise I seem to blunder along in relationships without a clue or I simply don't try to have any relationship. I do better by observing what works for others first and then by trying to have my own experiences (and usually failing). I've gotten better over time, but it is very slow going. I always seem to think that my emotions show to everyone around me, but they don't, and I've had to learn better verbal communication skills when it comes to relationships... Otherwise I simply won't communicate. Ultimately, in me, it is marked as an incurable shyness when it comes to relationships (though I am very social and bold by nature). Think Raj from the Big Bang Theory. I'm not so bad I can't talk to guys... I just feel like I can't communicate romantic feelings a lot of times... And oh yes, alcohol helps.
[/QUOTE]i think this is very helpful in terms of my friend who has venus retro. i think she feels like this ------------------
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starmoon
Knowflake Posts: 1828
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 28, 2012 07:10 PM
my bf has an aqua venus retro in 5H - i think it's a terrible placement for romance :-( he can be romantic but it doesn't come often or naturally. he absolutely cannot express it verbally, just through lots of good deeds. he was/is very shy romantically and even after being together a year he still likes me to make most of the moves because he fears rejection. he's 46 and has never been married too, i think his placement contributes to that as well. it's hard to decipher how to 'read' his venus retro because aqua men aren't so demonstrative to begin with. he is extremely cynical when it comes to romance/partnerships too, which is hard to hear sometimes. i do think a partner with a strong venus can help a venus retro person. i have a very well-aspected venus so i can demonstrate love/affection easily and help my partner outIP: Logged |
hskahn
Knowflake Posts: 128
From: san francisco, ca
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 29, 2012 07:07 PM
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Originally posted by enchantress299:
As per usual, this becomes a 'hate on those with this placement' thread instead of a forum for those who actually have the placement... I'm sorry that you all have had bad experiences with these people, but I can assure you that not all of us are manipulative, insecure, jealous, etc, etc, etc. Oh, AND I AM SICK OF HEARING HOW WE SCREWED PEOPLE OVER IN PAST LIVES AND NOW WE ARE PAYING FOR IT. I fully believe in past lives, but I think it is an improper assumption on anyone's part to tell me what my past lives were, thank you. It's not helpful to me in 'balancing my karma.' I have Venus retrograde and I have answered this question in other threads... And here's my answer again: [QUOTE]Eh. I know I've said it before elsewhere on these boards, but I'll repeat it (because I'm too lazy to find the link). Venus retro is like watching everyone else move forward while you are standing still. It's an outside in mentality. For me to be successful in relationships and often with social graces, I have to actually THINK about it. It seems counter intuitive because it is. Otherwise I seem to blunder along in relationships without a clue or I simply don't try to have any relationship. I do better by observing what works for others first and then by trying to have my own experiences (and usually failing). I've gotten better over time, but it is very slow going. I always seem to think that my emotions show to everyone around me, but they don't, and I've had to learn better verbal communication skills when it comes to relationships... Otherwise I simply won't communicate. Ultimately, in me, it is marked as an incurable shyness when it comes to relationships (though I am very social and bold by nature). Think Raj from the Big Bang Theory. I'm not so bad I can't talk to guys... I just feel like I can't communicate romantic feelings a lot of times... And oh yes, alcohol helps.
[/QUOTE]i think this is very helpful in terms of my friend who has venus retro. i think she feels like this ------------------
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ChildofVenus
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posted November 19, 2024 12:36 PM
I was involved with a guy who has this placement. His Venus is in Aries at three degrees and is conjunct my Venus which is in my 8th house. And he has played games with me. And I have finally cut him off. I honestly did care about him a lot. But he was the one who played games with me, not the other way around. People always say people with a natal retrograde Venus get played, hurt, and mistreated. Yet they don't mention that these people actually do the game playing and rejecting. Being hot and cold one minute they want you the next they don't. Let's talk about how they behave. I'm not perfect but this time around I liked this guy and I was genuine with my affections. We had a wonderful Summer together but then things changed. And now I'm done with him he doesn't want to let me go. I assume he's just desperate he claims that he cares about me. But I honestly think it's bs.I don't feel sorry for these people. Because when they do meet someone who is genuine they play games. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 6414
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Registered: Apr 2015
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posted November 19, 2024 01:31 PM
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Originally posted by neptunicity:
I also have venus in aries retrograde. It affects me in a way that i have difficulty expressing my true feelings. I'm quite shy to open up or initiate anything. I'm also very discriminating when it comes to potential partners. I also noticed that i rarely fall in love.
Thank you for describing people with this placement. Makes me glad I made the decision I made with the retro Venus in Aries guy. There I was falling in love while he never would. Glad I'm done with him.
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