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posted April 17, 2012 07:27 PM            

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posted April 17, 2012 09:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
@jooles
Wow, what other aspects in your synastry w/ him do you think might cause that?

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We actually get along very well when we're together and have some really nice aspects between us, but there is one major bone of contention between us. Whenever it crops up then I can see the negative side of certain aspects in play. His Pluto opposes my Sun, 0° orb which is very intense; he has to believe he is in control of the relationship but when the ugly side is activated he blatantly and obnoxiously tries to take away my power. I don't think he consciously tries to do this, I think he exerts his power so that he doesn't lose his power. His Neptune trines my Sun and Mars; everything is hunky dory if I drift along.

You have some nice aspects between the two of you.

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posted April 17, 2012 09:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Such an interesting story!

It sounds like what I went through with a guy when I was younger, and I just realized that his Saturn is trine my Venus (5* orb), trine my Venus-Neptune midpoint (1*) orb.

We still have mutual friends, and I have wondered if we'll ever talk again, since we've been at weddings and funerals together since we stopped talking.

Why did we stop talking? We couldn't take the on-off nature of the relationship, this feeling that we needed each other but somehow weren't right for each other. We could never be casual friends, after trying for years.

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Actually my Saturn/Jupiter opposes his Venus by 4° almost 5°. His Saturn trines my Moon by 1°, squares my Mercury by 2° and trines my Venus by 5°. So some are wider but they are definitely felt when activated. I think we both feel we are right for each other, but there are other factors at play that have been given more importance, so we are no longer together. We can't be just friends either. I would go all wobbly if we do come face to face again.

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posted April 17, 2012 09:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Can you tell us his sun sign? No pressure.

To answer your question, my Venus-conjunct-Saturn marriage has gotten better over time, we usually get along very well.

I think every commitment involves some sacrifice, but Saturn can be especially demanding, and I'm not thrilled about making all of these sacrifices. I think as women age, they tend to be more insistent on having things as they want them.

Yeah so, I've had to work hard at breaking down certain agreements (?) that I made when I first got married.

Saturn will hold you to them a loooong, looong time.

It's like an infinite, sometimes painful hug.

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How long have you been married Faith?

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posted April 17, 2012 10:16 PM            

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Hi Jooles,

I've been married 13 years.

Best wishes to you, if you see Mr. Saturn again.

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