posted May 09, 2012 06:10 PM
indiemusic22 -I'm not going to say I'm an expert on any of this, and I've never been in a serious relationship with a Scorpio. I'm a Libra with a Cancer Moon, and a Scorpio Stellium (Merc, Mars, Neptune).
I'm not super young anymore, so I can offer some 20/20 hindsight. The part about suffering over a romantic relationship is never something I remember as being a necessary experience. In fact, it's the first thing we block out.
And I happen to think that the emphasis some of us put in a "romantic relationship" goes to some unnecessary extremes.
Think about how we're all created to co-create, and how the orgasm is the greatest marketing tool to ever exist in the name of co-creating. Yes, we have a purpose which we need to have great respect for, just as we respect the ozone layer and the Amazon forests. Orgasms feel damn good. A little too good sometimes because the memory of it with the one we love can trigger a hunting mechanism within us.
Think about how much we depend on another person to get through life, or when looking for a potential mate, the things we expect them to fulfill or fill in our lives. So much energy and time is actually wasted on something that is so incredibly unpredictable, subjective and prone to unforeseen circumstances.
It can become addictively self-indulgent too. And to what end? Just for the experience of self-indulgence? When you look back to see what you've actually gained or accomplished, it's those times which seem completely useless. A waste of valuable time, from a more mature perspective.
What IS useful is learning about ourselves. Learning how to use time more effectively. Learning to co-operate, to share, to give and receive. When that is no longer a deliberate and concious goal by one or both partners, then be aware that you are now in dangerous territory and taking a huge risk.
Play the game but know the risks. And even if you think you know the risks, you'll never be able to fully predict what will happen. The only way to protect your heart 100% is to learn from your experiences, forgive yourself first, then move on. Your integrity will remain intact.
It may seem as if putting up a good defence will protect you, but it doesn't. You feel what you feel because something like a higher power is trying to get your attention, and it requires relevant action. Even if you ignore it, things will eventually be released or need to be confronted in some form of another.
In today's world there are so many distractions for guys. There's a sexually frustrated hoo hoo around every corner who's going to make her move. Even if, and sometimes especially if, he's married. It would seem almost impossible for men these days to stay focused for long, much less know they want to be with ONE woman for the rest of their entire lifespan, which is getting closer to 100 years these days.
(You know, in the old days they married by age 18 because the lifespan was 35-40 years old).
It may not feel so sexy to sort of retreat from all this drama, and to be more dedicated to your own growth. I mean, everything in advertising & entertainment is for the sole purpose of us becoming more attractive for others, as if the end game still revolves around a Disney version of "happily ever after".
These days, that's like taking a million dollars of hard-earned money, then pulling your heart out, and placing everything on the roulette wheel on "lucky 33".
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