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Topic: INSTANT ATTRACTION OR FRIEND FIRST
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Odette
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posted May 29, 2012 04:32 AM
  
Like sometimes... I see people jogging and I think to myself that it's all a big conspiracy... because really - why would anyone just run.. for fun? unless they were running *somewhere*...... right?
I think all those joggers are hiding something....... Who knows where they are REALLY running off to?? Right? Right? Do you see what I'm getting at?
I'm very suspicious of them. And when you ask them what they are doing - they say that they are -just-*jogging*... which is a DEAD give-away right there! Because why would someone even SAY that unless they were covering something up?
I'm telling you I smell a rat - and I know I'm onto something. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted May 29, 2012 04:37 AM
Odette, can I ask you, do you think a man and a woman can have a *completely* platonic relationship, even in their own minds?I may be biased but what I usually notice is that one person is attracted to the other, otherwise there's no friendship/relationship in the first place. I have guy friends I feel no attraction towards but it sometimes gets blurry on their part, it seems that they talk to me just because they like me a bit more than a friend. Maybe it's not the same for people who aren't that young anymore though. Just wondering.
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Odette
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posted May 29, 2012 05:44 AM
I think people network and form friendships for many reasons. It is definitely not always sexual. So - yes - it can be platonic in my opinion!That does not mean it has to be a very genuine & deep friendship... Many friendships are kind of 'surface'..
Most people would say they only have a bunch of close friends or even just a couple. But these close friends are not always the same gender. I knew a guy who was best friends with his sister in law - even though he did not get along with his brother. He asked her for advice on everything.. but he definitely did not like her sexually. So in his case - he valued her *advice* and know-how in life. It's true that people are pretty self-centred so they don't normally form relationships unless it benefits them in some way -- which is fair enough. But this 'benefit' does not have to be sexual. The guy I mentioned got *something* out of that friendship --- her advice and her understanding - were helpful to him (kind of like a psychologist would be helpful)... but what he got was not sexual. People desire and need many non-sexual things in life... which other people can provide for them. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted May 29, 2012 05:48 AM
Thank you for elaborating.I agree with you.
I think real friendship between a man and a woman requires some maturity. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted May 29, 2012 06:06 AM
I agree with the both of you.IP: Logged |
Sashar
Knowflake Posts: 332
From: Alternate timeline future
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted May 29, 2012 07:00 AM
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Originally posted by Lotis White:
INSTANT ATTRACTION OR FRIEND FIRSTI’ve been wondering lately about possible astrological indicators of instant attraction vs. platonic friends first before romantic feelings develop.
I've had instant attraction to people, but in order for me to be even remotely interested in pursuing them I have to be friends first... and usually for a long while... before even stepping in that pool. I chalk it up to Venus/Mars/Pluto in my 10th. Not sure if that's really what causes it or not though since 10th is career not friendship. hmmm Even after dating someone, no matter how bad it ends, I also tend to hold on to those friendships. To me, the most important aspect of a relationship is friendship. 
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lilithpluto
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From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted May 29, 2012 07:07 AM
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Originally posted by Sashar:
Even after dating someone, no matter how bad it ends, I also tend to hold on to those friendships. To me, the most important aspect of a relationship is friendship.
Just needing yr feedback... What if the other person cut off all ties... How will u feel abt that?
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sand
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posted May 29, 2012 11:11 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Like sometimes... I see people jogging and I think to myself that it's all a big conspiracy... because really - why would anyone just run.. for fun? unless they were running *somewhere*...... right?
I think all those joggers are hiding something....... Who knows where they are REALLY running off to?? Right? Right? Do you see what I'm getting at?
I'm very suspicious of them. And when you ask them what they are doing - they say that they are -just-*jogging*... which is a DEAD give-away right there! Because why would someone even SAY that unless they were covering something up?
I'm telling you I smell a rat - and I know I'm onto something.
Jogging= shopping! ..and hiding the said items so yes u r correct they are hiding pens, watch straps, a roll of sushi in their jogging pants! IP: Logged |
RedScorp
Knowflake Posts: 2424
From: The Capitol
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted May 29, 2012 01:34 PM
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Like sometimes... I see people jogging and I think to myself that it's all a big conspiracy... because really - why would anyone just run.. for fun? unless they were running *somewhere*...... right?
I think all those joggers are hiding something....... Who knows where they are REALLY running off to?? Right? Right? Do you see what I'm getting at?
I'm very suspicious of them. And when you ask them what they are doing - they say that they are -just-*jogging*... which is a DEAD give-away right there! Because why would someone even SAY that unless they were covering something up?
I'm telling you I smell a rat - and I know I'm onto something.
LOL omg I didn't read anything on page two what did I walk in to... I jog...for fun...and exercise...  IP: Logged |
bluegreyeyes
Knowflake Posts: 141
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Registered: May 2009
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posted May 29, 2012 03:26 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
It never happens instantly for me. It happens monthsss into knowing someone.. Even years with one guy. I'm just not very blown away by appearances. I need to really dig into someone's personality to feel a stronger connection and to really feel attracted to them. This did not affect the quality of my relationships at all so I doubt that 'love at first sight' or 'lust at first sight' is an indicator that things will be better or last longer. It wasn't for me anyway!
Same with me. Is this an aqua thing? You always here aquas need friendship above all else. I was friends with a Scorp sun for months and never considered him romantically, then his friend told me the Scorp was crushing on me, everything sorta clicked. But it took me months after learning of his feelings to accept that I reciprocated his feelings. I am the epitome of "slow to warm up".... I need details in order to form a real attraction. Maybe it's control/security thing - not sure.
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Sashar
Knowflake Posts: 332
From: Alternate timeline future
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted May 29, 2012 07:14 PM
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Originally posted by lilithpluto:
Just needing yr feedback... What if the other person cut off all ties... How will u feel abt that?
It depends... if I honestly liked the person and wanted to stay friends... an angry bitter violent rage would burn under my skin with teeth and claws, but would never be seen by the person it was directed at, and seen only by other people in short random undirected bursts until I could contain it.If I just sort of wanted to stay friends, eh, wouldn't really care. No big deal.
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Desiring Shadows
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posted May 29, 2012 08:09 PM
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lilithpluto
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From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted May 30, 2012 10:44 AM
Thanks Sashar for the insight! IP: Logged |
LovelyKitty
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From: Always Sunshine here <3
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 21, 2012 11:39 AM
I know in a few minute of conversation too , if I will have romantic relationship further or not  when only there are venus-mars contact.I have venus Leo, cancer Moon . I hardly feel crush when no contact of venus-mar. IP: Logged |
sunnigrl83
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From: kirbyville, texas, united states
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 21, 2012 12:23 PM
I've recently realized that every man I was truly serious about has been an Aquarian. ( ruler of my seventh) First thought is to stay away from this wierdo, but I just can't help myself... My first Aquarian husband had a need to be off with his friends @ all times, and left me alone. I was his wife not his friend. I have a venus in Virgo, this is not cool to me.( I need to b close to my loved one) The Aquarian I'm with now has a tremendous need to be with his friends, too. The big difference is I am his friend first, then his wife. He tells everybody I am his best friend, and he is mine. So he includes me in everything. Aquarius rules my seventh house and Leo rules his. his mars is in Scorpio and my Venus is in Virgo. Before I actually got introduced to him the week before I just started noticing him everywhere I went. He just started jumping out @ me. We were finally introduced @ a party. As much as I tried to go talk or hang out with someone else (I was interested from the first time I seen him,but didn't want it to be obvious) he just did every goofy thing imaginable to get my attention. For some wierd reason (not my normal for me) I went to his house that night. We have been pretty much inseperable ever since. This was an instant magnetic attraction... IP: Logged |
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