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Topic: My pisces woman swam away. How can I get her back?
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Odette
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posted May 29, 2012 01:05 AM
  
That will not lure her. Specially if you do this NOW - when you've barely broken up... It is just a really BAD idea. I mean even if she had the intention to get back with you - that would completely ruin things.. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 29, 2012 01:10 AM
I just looked at your charts... Her Sun is very close to Aries. Are you sure she is a Pisces - Do you have her time of birth? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted May 29, 2012 01:11 AM
Why would he care if it ruined things? She cheated, atleast I would consider heavy flirting cheating, but that's me, and on top of that she hasn't apologized, I wouldn't waste my time on her. Btw how are you odette,my wify?IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 29, 2012 01:16 AM
aqua - I'm OK! LoL... Thanks for asking 
Hows you? On topic --- I wasn't there to see what happened with my own eyes... He still wants to be with her. She seems to be thinking about him as well - driving past etc... Some people can forgive and get past things like that... I understand that you feel like you couldn't. But life's a bit*ch sometimes and no one is perfect. People make mistakes. Maybe she will apologise in the future. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted May 29, 2012 01:17 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
aqua - I'm OK! LoL... Thanks for asking
Hows you? On topic --- I wasn't there to see what happened with my own eyes... He still wants to be with her. She seems to be thinking about him as well - driving past etc... Some people can forgive and get past things like that... I understand that you feel like you couldn't. But life's a bit*ch sometimes and no one is perfect. People make mistakes. Maybe she will apologise in the future.
I'm good, we still haven't had our honeymoon.  IP: Logged |
pancakes22
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posted May 29, 2012 01:26 AM
I dont know her exact time of birth but she told me she is a pisces. The physical features also suit her. I could be wrong though. Large attractive eyes,loves the water, very complimenting and obsessed with her partner. She has Pisces traits. I would forgive her for anything, and forgive her for this.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted May 29, 2012 05:43 AM
My man, time is on your side. You are a young man. You clearly love this girl, and it seems to me that she has swam up the wrong net and has gotten served up as sushi. Now, whatever is left of her is feeling guilty as heck. As an old man and as a father, I would advise you to just lie low and let her swim back to you. I do find it admirable that you have it within you to forgive transgressions. There clearly is a maturity differential. One day she would understand. IP: Logged |
seaofjoy
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posted May 29, 2012 06:46 AM
being realistic, a female can talk in a friendly way with a male purely to be nice - pisces are nice & sensitive, pisces are also very naturally sensual - it is just how she comes off ... she may have simply been lending a compassionate ear ... it hurts when people don't trust you to talk w other people. love is built on trust, if there is no trust, no point really. just my two cents. i have pisces moon, neptune first house with the love of my life who is a pisces. I am a leo mars, so i get that you want equal respect, loyalty ... she probably just didn't see it in the same way. just my two cents. just text her or write her a hand written letter and say that you overreacted - "i saw ...., but i know it was a miscommunication ..." it is all about perspective, if you can't unite yoru communication or perspective on things, you're always just going to hurt each other's feelings.sometimes, apologising isn't about right or wrong it is about putting a relationship first - a decision you will have to come to on your own. if she is trying to make you jealous, she doesn't feel loved either ... or there would be no need, you need ot tell her you LOVE HER, and show her & tell her how you would liek to receive love, because we expect the people we love to just magically know us, sometimes it requires a bit more communication. you may not get a reply, but i can assure you she reads them ...  just give her time to float back & make an effort to reconcile. she is probably very frightened. DONT play games. it just ends up with two broken hearts and no one likes that. and i know you're hurt because you didn't feel special that way - she wasn't devoted in your eyes ... but golly, i can tell you, we pisces get so caught up in being nice we kinda don't realise what we do at times, you need to tell us gently though hope you're ok IP: Logged |
pancakes22
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posted May 29, 2012 09:19 AM
I've wrote her several text mesaages. Saying how much I care for her. How Im sorry for overreacting, and forgive her as well. No response. I texted her mom and she said she thinks we both should move on, and an hrblater is when I catch my ex driving by. We never got to the 'I love you' stage as we both were waiting for the other to say it. But I did it with my actions. Only thing I've yet to do is send flowers and a handwritten note.IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
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From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted May 29, 2012 09:32 AM
I'm sorry to read tat.. I understand your heart is breaking.. but there is nothing you can do... she's the one who is letting you go now.. it takes two hands to clap. If she wants you, she knows where to find you.. saying the 3 words now is just a desperate attempt on your side to salvage the relationship... it meant nothing. Just take a deep breath and tell yourself that if it is meant to be, it will be.... its Venus RX now ya know.. lol... I'm a leo sun who has had her heart broken by a pisces moon. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted May 29, 2012 10:27 AM
Stay put.Don't complicate things further by saying things out of compulsion. Let her apologize and come back to you. Otherwise, chalk it up as a bad experience and walk away. It isn't your fault at all. Hearts get broken, and it's part of life. Better that you experience that now in the due diligence phase than enter into marriage and have things get complicated. IP: Logged |
pancakes22
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posted May 29, 2012 11:06 AM
@yours. Im having a hard time focusing on work. I think im just gonna go hand deliver some flowers. Leave a simple handwritten note. I'll leave it at that. After that I dont feel like there is any more I can do.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted May 29, 2012 11:20 AM
^^^ Yes, do whatever you need to do to re-focus on work and all else that is occurring in your life. Heartbreaks are traumatic, but the rest of your life moves on. Don't drop the ball on your job/career !! You are young, and I know you have your priorities straight from what you have said, so focus on Number One at this time. The rest will fall into place in due course.IP: Logged |
Fiery_Water
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posted May 29, 2012 04:56 PM
Wow pancakes..I really feel you..,,,It hurts,,,,and all you want is to have her back But forget Pisces, forget Leo, and forget all the rules of astrology..,, The rule of life is that letting go is the key to happiness...... Consider that it s not totally your responsibility or not totally in your control It s not just the fight, nor your flowers and texts... Part of it is really just out of ur hand,,and u just need to let life d what it needs to do, and trust.....
N think of this realistically, the flirting did bother you,,,,so if she comes back tomorrow,,,u get over the missing you re together again, it will bother you again right?
If you still have feelings for her, stick to your Ruth,,keep liking her, loving her feeling whatever your feeling, don't deny that ,,,but don't try to control the outcome either let it go,,,,and also don't deny your needs in a relationship,, IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted May 29, 2012 05:05 PM
Another flirty lady fish...We can very easily be lured (no pun intended  ) into that trap. You see, we can become very insecure and flirt to get the response from men that makes us feel more secure with ourselves. This is a a screaming soul who has not made peace with her true nature...yet. Been there done that. But after half a century of being a Fish Lady, I finally re-cognized what I was doing. That is what my silly a$$ Virgo bfriend tells me he flirts for this and that, I know the real reason and I dont buy into it...not for a minute. People, men and women in "relationship" should NEVER flirt. I dont care IF it is for fun, one's nature, etc or the lame excuse my Virgo tries to use of "I like to make the ladies feel bettter about themselves..." Hogwash. It is unacceptable behavior for an adult in a committed relationship. I cant say if she will come back, but if she does, please be prepared for more of the same....until she finds herself. terri~  IP: Logged |
Libreo
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From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted May 29, 2012 05:06 PM
She has lots of mutable there. Hard to pin down I'd say.IP: Logged |
AriesKat
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From: Brooklyn, NY USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted May 29, 2012 05:18 PM
Once a Pisces starts playing mind games its a wrap. Calling texting and begging will only make her swim further. They like strong partners who have thick skin DO not let her make you feel guilty for absolutely nothing. Move on and if she comes back I would think long and hard about letting her back in she needs to know she effed up. IP: Logged |
pancakes22
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posted May 29, 2012 10:58 PM
Well she reaponded to my text this morning. I appreciate all theese responses and insight. We agreed through text to.meet for dinner. I told her I wanna start frim scratch, she said she's hoping for that. She really apologized with tears. The night we fought. It kinda ticks me off that i bear all the guilt. But i guessnlove isnt fair. When we reconcile. Ill need to hear one more apology from herIP: Logged |
PrettyPisces
Knowflake Posts: 39
From: Cambria heights,NY
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted May 30, 2012 12:55 AM
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Lonake
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posted May 30, 2012 01:05 AM
If she cares she should be tuned into you and will know you need that apology and will give it.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 30, 2012 01:18 AM
 LonakeAnd Pisces women love men who are emotionally expressive, mainly when they also have a Pisces Mercury as well - like your gf. Your Cancer Mercury trines hers so deep down you guys have an emotional understanding and an awesome ability to communicate & really listen to what the other person has to say. I have a Pisces Mercury myself--- I'm sure she loves the way you talk, your voice and the things you say to her. Always let her know how you feel and tell her how much you love her. This will never fail to make her smile and she'll be like putty in your hands. I'm like this with my Cancer Mercury guy. I completely disagree with the person above who said that letting her know you love her will not work or that it will make her swim further. That's really not true. Maybe if she had an Aries Mercury it would be different... But with a Pisces Merc it means a lot to her to hear your expressions of affection. IP: Logged |
Fiery_Water
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posted May 30, 2012 05:54 AM
Yayyyyy
Tab focus on mentioning how you feel without blaming....how th flirting made you feel
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted May 30, 2012 07:55 AM
It is incumbent on you to determine the root causes, the remedial strategy and the assurances that there would not be a repeat occurrence. I now sense that it went quite far beyond flirting. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted May 30, 2012 08:48 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
It is incumbent on you to determine the root causes, the remedial strategy and the assurances that there would not be a repeat occurrence. I now sense that it went quite far beyond flirting.
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lilithpluto
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From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted May 30, 2012 09:16 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
It is incumbent on you to determine the root causes, the remedial strategy and the assurances that there would not be a repeat occurrence. I now sense that it went quite far beyond flirting.
Oh my!! You are observant!!!!! I read his post earlier in the day but never came to that conclusion. I immediately went to look at your chart!! Hmmm... Mercury conjunct Mars (3 orbs). Googled it. Mercury conjunct Mars - A very sharp mind, mentally aggressive and enjoys competition of debate. Hmmmmm. Fits.
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