posted June 19, 2012 10:58 PM            

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I spent six months in college practicing eye contact so that I could do well in a job interview.

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posted June 19, 2012 11:07 PM            

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Yeah. Let them keep thinking we're dumb. Yeah. Mama said stupid is as stupid does.

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posted June 19, 2012 11:15 PM            

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And all the girls that diss you wouldn't know their loss till later in life when they get ditched by some schmuck.

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posted June 19, 2012 11:19 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yea haha. i think aspergers can make it hard sometimes to relate to women. i have never felt like they understand me, oh well their loss.

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posted June 19, 2012 11:20 PM            

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And that's why you date aspie girls and have smart, talented aspie kids.

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posted June 19, 2012 11:40 PM            

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is your wife an aspie?

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posted June 19, 2012 11:45 PM            

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Yes

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posted June 20, 2012 02:30 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i used to be bad with eye contact, but have gotten better, when i was a kid mom was the only person i made eye contact with.

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posted October 14, 2012 11:46 PM            

My child has struggled socially and academically all his life, with several quirky behaviors/responses. He does not like eye contact, dislikes hugs, and misses social cues.

In school he has been labeled many things, as it is hard for him to focus and so they call him unmotivated, insecure, rebellious. He was held back a grade early on, and has struggled ever since. I've fought the school tooth and nail to obtain extra help for him, and continue to fight the good fight.

It is so frustrating and challenging, having to teach him all his homework lessons every night because he doesn't process/retain information as other children do. It is hard for me to do this as we have two other children and work full time, especially as no matter how hard I try he always forgets his lessons. The only thing that captures his concentration are his video games.

I requested that he be tested for learning disabilities after the school discharged him from his IEP, and despite observation of his unfocused behavior in class, he was discharged last year.

I sought a second opinion on my own, and have had him tested with the results coming in last week. He is also in counseling which is helping somewhat, but my goal is to place him back on an IEP, as he is failing in several areas. I believe the school will have to accommodate him now that we have an official diagnosis, but am considering obtaining another assessment to cover our bases.

His behavior is usually good as he is shy and doesn't like to be in trouble, but he gets labeled as a trouble maker because of his fixed responses. Example, we will tell him to stop doing something, and he keeps doing it.

I honestly do not feel he is being defiant, it is like the cues just go over his head. He also loves to talk excessively about things he enjoys such as Science/Math & video games. I like engaging him in conversation, because he is shy and lacks confidence, but he will go on for hours on the same thing, repeatedly making the same statements/inquiries.

He doesn't pick up when people are getting bored or annoyed. For example, if I trip and give out a scream of pain he finds it amusing. He will also say inappropriate things in public, because he is very literal.

The good thing is despite his shyness and social quirks, he does have a few friends. I'm trying to find an extra curricular activity that he'd enjoy, but so far he has shot me down every time saying things such as he is embarrassed to wear shorts (soccer) or nervous that people will stare at him (band) or afraid he will pushed around (karate).

I'm leaning towards a solitary activity such as private art classes or instrument lessons, because it is so hard to see him be so insecure and not be able to provide him something of his own in which he may excel and feel accomplished. Hopefully once he is on ADD meds, this will help with his lack of focus/concentration which will bring him confidence if he begins to improve in academics.

Thank you so much for posting this thread, as it helps to read other accounts of what it is like for the individual with aspergers. Sometimes it feels very lonely not knowing what to expect. I'm going to buy the memoir "Look at me when I'm talking to you" about a man with aspergers.

My son's astro placements:

Aqua rising, Uranus loosely conj Neptune in the 12th. Uranus sextile 10th house Moon/Mars/Pluto (all conj in Sag), square Saturn in Taurus the 3rd. The 11th house is ruled by Capricorn, Virgo Sun and a water void chart, no planets or luminaries in the water element.

posted October 15, 2012 08:14 AM            

Your son is in good company.

Bill Gates, Alfred Hitchcock, Issac Newton, Jane Austen, Albert Einstein, Hans Christian Andersen, Charles Darwin, Charles Schulz, Thomas Jefferson, Michelangelo, Wolfgang Mozart, George Orwell, Dan Akroyd, Al Gore, Ludwig Beethoven, Thomas Edison, Woody Allen, Michael Jackson, Henry Ford, Bela Bartok, Alexander Bell, Emily Dickinson, Benjamin Franklin, Carl Jung, Franz Kafka, Wasily Kandinsky, Abraham Lincoln, Gustav mahler, Marilyn Monroe, Friedrich Nietzsche, Bertrand Russell, George Bernard Shaw, Richard Strauss, Nikola Tesla, Henry Thoreau, Mark Twain, Vincent Van Gogh, Virginia Woolf, George Washington, Issac Assimov, John Denver, Andy Warhol, Bob Dylan, John Nash, James taylor, Robin Williams, Charles De Gaulle, TS Lawrence, Bobby Fischer, Archimedes, Gordon Brown, Warren Bufffet, Stonewall Jackson, James Joyce, Stanley Kubrick, Courtney Love, Socrates, William Yeats.

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_famous_people_have_Asperger's_Syndrome

Anybody want to diss this list?

My two sons have the same IEPs. Let me dimension the elder son's achievements, notwithstanding his IEP. He has moderate Aspergers.

He is in 11th Grade. He has a 3.89 cummulative GPA, and a 3.92 GPA in 10th Grade. He is fluent in four languages and conversant in two others. He plays the piano at the concert level and the violin at the orchestra level. He is a national-level equestrian rider. He is school spelling bee champion. Yes, he is also a top computer gamer. He is applying for early acceptance to Yale. And he has a ready choice of girls to date (aquaguy91, confirm via my FB).

My brother read Alex Haley's Roots at 5 years old. He finished Leo Tolstoy's War and Peace at 8 years old. He had a perfect 1600 SAT. He is a member of MENSA.

Anyone want to diss Aspergers?

I have the same IEP meetings and I tell all the teachers and the principals to eat my shorts. I tell them that their neuro-typical brains are not equipped to handle the brillance in Aspergers.

posted October 15, 2012 10:31 AM            

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Phoenix Fire,

Your son is in good company.

Bill Gates, Alfred Hitchcock, Issac Newton, Jane Austen, Albert Einstein, Hans Christian Andersen, Charles Darwin, Charles Schulz, Thomas Jefferson, Michelangelo, Wolfgang Mozart, George Orwell, Dan Akroyd, Al Gore, Ludwig Beethoven, Thomas Edison, Woody Allen, Michael Jackson, Henry Ford, Bela Bartok, Alexander Bell, Emily Dickinson, Benjamin Franklin, Carl Jung, Franz Kafka, Wasily Kandinsky, Abraham Lincoln, Gustav mahler, Marilyn Monroe, Friedrich Nietzsche, Bertrand Russell, George Bernard Shaw, Richard Strauss, Nikola Tesla, Henry Thoreau, Mark Twain, Vincent Van Gogh, Virginia Woolf, George Washington, Issac Assimov, John Denver, Andy Warhol, Bob Dylan, John Nash, James taylor, Robin Williams, Charles De Gaulle, TS Lawrence, Bobby Fischer, Archimedes, Gordon Brown, Warren Bufffet, Stonewall Jackson, James Joyce, Stanley Kubrick, Courtney Love, Socrates, William Yeats.

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_famous_people_have_Asperger's_Syndrome

[b] Anybody want to diss this list?

My two sons have the same IEPs. Let me dimension the elder son's achievements, notwithstanding his IEP. He has moderate Aspergers.

He is in 11th Grade. He has a 3.89 cummulative GPA, and a 3.92 GPA in 10th Grade. He is fluent in four languages and conversant in two others. He plays the piano at the concert level and the violin at the orchestra level. He is a national-level equestrian rider. He is school spelling bee champion. Yes, he is also a top computer gamer. He is applying for early acceptance to Yale. And he has a ready choice of girls to date (aquaguy91, confirm via my FB).

My brother read Alex Haley's Roots at 5 years old. He finished Leo Tolstoy's War and Peace at 8 years old. He had a perfect 1600 SAT. He is a member of MENSA.

Anyone want to diss Aspergers?

I have the same IEP meetings and I tell all the teachers and the principals to eat my shorts. I tell them that their neuro-typical brains are not equipped to handle the brillance in Aspergers.

I have Aspergers myself. And I'll say I did alright.[/B]

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right on YTA! I hate those IEP meetings...they at one time actually wanted me to sign off on something that said that my son may be borderline mentally retarded. I fought that one tooth and nail...I told them that my son has a brilliant mind but no one is equipped to deal with it. They said he's mute..I said no he's very articulate in speech and says a whole lot to me at home...besides Einstein didn't speak till he was 4??

posted October 15, 2012 12:02 PM            

Ask them if they know about Professor John Forbes Nash of Princeton of Game Theory and Partial Differential Equations fame and the movie, "A Beautiful Mind." He won both the Nobel and the Fields Medal.

posted October 15, 2012 12:05 PM            

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posted October 15, 2012 12:23 PM            

I had one of those attempt to brag to me that she has a Masters degree. Hahaha... that's when she got ripped a new one.

posted October 15, 2012 01:03 PM            

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The thing is... you beat these over-educated idiots at their own game, where they lose to you in the degree alphabet soup, and yet they refuse to admit that they are very wrong.

I had one of those attempt to brag to me that she has a Masters degree. Hahaha... that's when she got ripped a new one.

Their pee wee brains cannot appreciate anything that doesn't fit into their rigid mould and their limited comprehension.

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posted October 15, 2012 02:07 PM            

I only have my BA, no Masters yet but am well informed/read My children's school administrators dislike me because I know their rights, and do not give up. In our area, many parents are not informed and give in by just going along with what the schools decide.

During our last IEP meeting, the school staff was dismayed because I brought in an advocate and insisted on taking my own notes. Not surprising, the meeting minutes provided by their secretary left out many highlights, including the learning directors bully behavior.

At one point, the learning director question if I could afford having my son privately assessed... He even had the audacity to ask if I am able to afford private herh insurance. The whole experience was dreadful, it upsets me that this group is supposed to strive for helping the students and instead resorts to intimidation scare tactics.

I am wary of starting the process again but will keep persisting until my son receives the help he needs. I'm very blessed to have health insurance and family members in the field of child development/therapy to guide me towards available resources.

Thankfully my son is now seeing an excellent counselor who has promised to attend the new IEP meeting w us, and educate the staff on what he needs to help him succeed. I feel very bad for parents w/o knowledge of their rights under education, or a good support system ): If I do complete my masters someday, I'd like to work as a special Ed advocate advocate. No child or parent should ever be made to feel bullied by school staff.

posted October 15, 2012 03:18 PM            

If I send my wife, they just beat up on her. They become fearful when they face down Angry Asian Father. The last time they pi$$ed me off, I went straight to the First Selectman (Mayor). My property tax pays their salaries, and I reminded the First Selectman that I had also spoken to the Congressman and the Senator (federal).

And if that were not good enough, I'm sure the newspapers and NBC Universal would be delighted to hear of this story. Bob Wright, President and CEO of NBC, has grandchildren with autism. I assured the Selectman (Mayor) that *nation* NBC News would be very interested in a story about the town.

Angry Asian Father always strikes last.

posted October 16, 2012 03:40 AM            

Whilst I may (and it’s a big “may”) have improved in this respect, I have constant fears that one day I will forget I cannot masturbate in public when the urges caused by titillating stories (like those of holy women fasting for many years only on Holy Communion) overwhelm my very limited self-control.

posted October 16, 2012 11:18 PM            

but yet i also desire, and know how to be like most others in terms of interaction. i'm generally distant, but if you approach me, im about as social and pleasing as you could want.