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Topic: Venus in Aquarius.. cold\detached in relationships?
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Pisces-Sweety
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From: unknown
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 03:38 PM
  
Does anyone else with a venus in aquarius have this problem? I've been called Aloof and detached a lot in relationships.. even if i have a huge crush on someone.. it usually fades away easily. IP: Logged |
Evolved1
Newflake Posts: 18
From: Chicago, IL USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 04:38 PM
I have this, I could be this way to a certain man.But when I fall deeply in love I am the total opposite of cold and detached. Well I will always be a bit detached but not totally..:-)IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted November 09, 2012 04:39 PM
Cappy with Venus Aquarius....I don't like feeling that way but that is how it is. Reserved caution with the aspect of being aloof & detached (as how it appears to others) but deep down inside of me, I am a dormant volcanoIP: Logged |
Evolved1
Newflake Posts: 18
From: Chicago, IL USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 04:44 PM
Cappy: My man is a Cap with Venus in Aqua and he is somewhat like that. He describes it as cool on the outside but his insides be going crazy..lol Thankfully I have Venus in Aqua too,helps me to relate and Sun in Pisces helps me to read him..lolIP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted November 09, 2012 05:24 PM
my bf is sun/venus in aqua and at first he was also very detached/aloof. i made all of the moves for hugs and kisses and spontaneous affection. but as we've continued on he's become very warm and romantic, and will even reach out first sometimes to take my hand, kiss, etc. i think other natal placements - especially moon - can help 'warm up' the venus aqua (or, perhaps, make it even more detached). admittedly, as a partner of a venus aqua i sometimes do wish for more spontaneous bursts of affection - they are rareIP: Logged |
cappy1277
Moderator Posts: 1283
From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted November 09, 2012 06:31 PM
lol well me and my S.O. are both caps with aquarius venus. Difference is that I have a gemini moon (super detached) and he has a sadge moon (spontaneous warm affection). It always looks like I am running cold.IP: Logged |
Evolved1
Newflake Posts: 18
From: Chicago, IL USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 06:51 PM
Funny thing Aqua mooners are more detached then Aqua venus folks. I happen to be both and I can be very detached. BUT what helps me out is my Pisces sun and my moon and Venus both are in the 12th house.Ive gotten better with my man but I was very cold at first he broke me down though..And they say Cap men are cold..I had him beat..lolIP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 09, 2012 07:00 PM
Venus in Aquarius. I'm completely opposite.IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 08:04 PM
Sometimes its not the venus itself, check to see what aspects your venus makes with other planets. Also if your emotionally detached it could be a combination of the aspects your Venus and Moon makes too other planets and/or space objects.IP: Logged |
Libreo
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From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 09, 2012 08:08 PM
My ex husband had Venus and Sun in Aqua, but his moon in Cancer made him needy.IP: Logged |
Nicole401
Knowflake Posts: 283
From: CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted November 09, 2012 09:08 PM
Not really, they have feelings too ya know? They're just affectionately awkward (If that's even a phrase), so they'd rather act cold. Their "ily"s sound more like "I love you." Rather than *little girl voice*IIIIIIII loooooove yooouuuuuIP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 09:25 PM
lol nicole! I mean, obviously we have feelings too but I guess it just takes us longer to stay in love and interested and to really be comfortable enough to open up. IP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted November 09, 2012 09:26 PM
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Originally posted by Nicole401:
Not really, they have feelings too ya know? They're just affectionately awkward (If that's even a phrase), so they'd rather act cold. Their "ily"s sound more like "I love you." Rather than *little girl voice*IIIIIIII loooooove yooouuuuu
wonder how long it actually takes to get an 'i love you'... IP: Logged |
Nicole401
Knowflake Posts: 283
From: CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted November 09, 2012 10:04 PM
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Originally posted by Pisces-Sweety:
I guess it just takes us longer to stay in love and interested and to really be comfortable enough to open up.
That's what I mean, they don't ever really open up (emotionally), since they're never really comfortable with being affectionate. It's too awkward for them, they might begin to say "I love you" and call you "babe" (petnames) or whatever, but no matter how much time passes by, it always seems awkward, as if they don't really mean it, even though they do. The awkwardness does fade a little with time though. As for crushes, they come and go for everyone, not just Venus in Aquarius, IMO. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 10:43 PM
I don't think it's a verbal thing with Venus in Aqua though. I think we're better at SHOWING you we love you(When we're in love) rather than saying it.IP: Logged |
Nicole401
Knowflake Posts: 283
From: CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted November 09, 2012 11:07 PM
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Originally posted by Pisces-Sweety:
I don't think it's a verbal thing with Venus in Aqua though. I think we're better at SHOWING you we love you(When we're in love) rather than saying it.
That I agree with, they go from not even looking at you when having a conversation with you as if they were ignoring you, to cuddling up to you and getting close to you .. On their own. IP: Logged |
Lotis White
Knowflake Posts: 736
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted November 09, 2012 11:11 PM
I noticed there seems to be two types of Aqua Venus (Or just even Aquas in general) in terms of affection. The gregarious open Aqua Venus, and the reserved, detached Aqua Venus.The first type is the open, friendly type of Aqua. These types might be very affectionate physically, giving big hugs to all their friends, but underneath this level of friendly affection they are actually quite objective and detached. Not uncaring. They just don't lose their perspective just because they happen to adore someone. They keep their internal personal space. This type is often very idealistic, and even 'romantic' about friendship, and probably has many friends they are freely affectionate with. Their partner will ultimately be viewed as their best buddy, more then anything else. The gregarious Aqua Venus may seem very affectionate and loving on the surface... But they never lose their cool inner counsel about things. Once people get beyond the surface 'love for all' attitude this type has there's often a razor sharp observant side that becomes apparent. The second type is the more reserved, aloof Aqua Venus. These types view 'excessive' affection as embarrassing, and often feel awkward in the one on one relationship department. They may function alright on a surface social level, but as soon as things start to get too warm and fuzzy they're feeling uncomfortable. They take a detached, observant approach to things and people. Even their own emotions are difficult for them process at times. The more passionately they feel about something, the more they have to struggle to process it internally. This type takes a long time to open up on a personal level. A friendship/intellectual connection usually needs to happen before any other kind of personal intimacy can exist in the relationship. The reserved Aqua Venus may be accused of coldness. They are not. They're just not comfortable with displays of intense emotion. Once they have accepted you they warm up though. I've noticed that most Aqua folks fall into one of these two categories. Some may feel they are an odd mixture of both depending on the situation. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 2003
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 10, 2012 12:52 AM
I'm more clingy than detached to be quite honest.IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted November 10, 2012 04:41 AM
I used to be like this when I was younger.IP: Logged |
Evolved1
Newflake Posts: 18
From: Chicago, IL USA
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 10, 2012 10:32 AM
I think that I am both type of Aqua's..And yes when I was younger I was clingy..But most Pisces are. My Aqua planets have definelty taken over now..IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
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posted November 10, 2012 02:08 PM
are you in my head evolved? I'm just like you.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 10, 2012 02:17 PM
I think you have to check out the moon. I know people with this placement and a Taurus moon who are not cold and detached, at all.I can just talk from my own experience, here. The whole chart has to be looked at when one draws conclusions imho  ------------------
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Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 32
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted November 10, 2012 02:54 PM
Well.. I have a virgo moon.IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Newflake Posts: 5
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 10, 2012 03:28 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Lotis White:
The first type is the open, friendly type of Aqua. These types might be very affectionate physically, giving big hugs to all their friends, but underneath this level of friendly affection they are actually quite objective and detached. Not uncaring. They just don't lose their perspective just because they happen to adore someone. They keep their internal personal space. This type is often very idealistic, and even 'romantic' about friendship, and probably has many friends they are freely affectionate with. Their partner will ultimately be viewed as their best buddy, more then anything else. The gregarious Aqua Venus may seem very affectionate and loving on the surface... But they never lose their cool inner counsel about things. Once people get beyond the surface 'love for all' attitude this type has there's often a razor sharp observant side that becomes apparent.
I'm exactly like that! I have many many friends and aquintances and im very sociable. But only my very close friends, and sometimes not even them know my inner feelings about various incidents.
I'm quite secretive and dont trust my secrets easily to someone. I guess this probably has to with Mercury in Capricorn or maybe my Pluto(in Scorpio) who is square my venus.
I love being affectionate and I am a huggy person but only if I'm 100% sure that the other person feels the same. I dont engage in relationships if I'm not crazy about the other person. I burn in the inside but im too scared to show my feelings of fear of appearing clingy or needy. I'm also very jealous and possesive but I always keep these feelings on the inside and try to act cool on the outside.
But I;m not sure if I'm the typical Aqua venus, cause my venus is heavily aspected by Pluto in Scorpio (square of 0.58 orb) and all the love asteroids such as Eros and Cupido are in Scorpio too, so I guess they affect me a lot.
Btw, my moon is in Aries  IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 4513
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 10, 2012 04:37 PM
aqua sun,ascendant and venus here. I prolly come across that way to people who don't really know me, but I'm far from cold.IP: Logged |
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