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Topic: Virgo ignoring me !!!
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lovehate122
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From: Ireland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted November 15, 2012 05:22 PM
  
Ok to be honest i stood him up and now he is all annoyed at me . he doesn't share feelings easily and i really want him back !He has a leo mars i suspect he is a saggy rising . but anyways do virgo men usually hold a grudge ? how can i get him to forgive me . the truth is a chickened out and i was cold . i came a little early purposefully knowing he wouldn't be there and just went home . i straight stood him up ! i just want him back ugh!!! IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion
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Registered: Apr 2012
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posted November 15, 2012 05:25 PM
Ok... well since Virgo is an analytical sign, if you reach out to him with compassionate logic, you'll find that he may be willing to listen. Sagittarius rising, which I have so I know a bit about, can also sometimes appreciate someone presenting an idea about why they did something... and being TRUTHFUL about it. Personally Sag rising/Sag influenced people appreciate boldness, straightforwardness above the sugar coated sweetness, so this will appeal to him I think. Just be open about getting cold feet. His Sag rising will dig the honesty, plus his Virgo Sun - a Sun that can be prone to anxieties or not being able to be as social as they like - might sympathize a little with the social/dating anxiety part of it. What are his other placements, do you know? I'm just curious. It might help to know. IP: Logged |
lovehate122
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From: Ireland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted November 15, 2012 05:37 PM
he has a cap moon , i think ...
his venus and mars are actually in cancer .
he told me he was really attracted to me nd i was like all in love with him too <3 Im a taurus sun , aquarius moon ,mars in virgo and venus in taurus . my moon,jupiter,uranus and neptune are in my 1st . we have venus-mars aspects but im not that attracted to him . I do fancy him just not all that much . ugh i want him back i feel so bad! IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion
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posted November 15, 2012 05:43 PM
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Originally posted by lovehate122:
he has a cap moon , i think ...
his venus and mars are actually in cancer .
he told me he was really attracted to me nd i was like all in love with him too <3 Im a taurus sun , aquarius moon ,mars in virgo and venus in taurus . my moon,jupiter,uranus and neptune are in my 1st . we have venus-mars aspects but im not that attracted to him . I do fancy him just not all that much . ugh i want him back i feel so bad!
Well then, compassionate logic and explaining yourself verbally can most likely get through. Especially if he has a Cap Moon. My friend has this and I can best heal her when I empathetically write to her and explain things clearly and logically. She also has Cancer placements. His double-Earth holds a reservoir of Water beneath which can make him DEFINITELY more sensitive than he appears on the outside. Which is probably why he's withdrawn or feels very hurt. People with Cancer placements need some alone time when hurt... they usually retreat to somewhere 'safe' much like a crab back into the sea and its shell... they need some time to ruminate and recover. Kinda moody but not vengefully like Scorp can be. Venus and Mars in Cancer show a very sensitive man. He is probably easily wounded by women. Likes women to be feminine too. Anyway. Venus-Mars is definitely a major plus to good synastry/composite preferably with a soft aspect. Shows good sexual-romantic compatibility ... one thing that worries me though is, you aren't really in LOVE-in love right? Sounds more like fascination or blooming affections, but hopefully not love not just yet. I'm just reaching out because I made the mistake of saying and thinking I loved my last BF and that became an embarrassment and a nightmare because I said it only after 3 months of dating, dunno why I even did. I realized it was more obsession than true love.
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RedScorp
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posted November 15, 2012 05:57 PM
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but anyways do virgo men usually hold a grudge ?
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asclibrasagsun
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posted November 15, 2012 06:02 PM
Like the person said above, YES they do.IP: Logged |
enchantress299
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posted November 15, 2012 07:26 PM
... Lovehate- Wouldn't YOU be upset if someone stood you up? Would you really want to give them a second chance? I am a Virgo (albeit a female Virgo), and if I got stood up, there is a very very good chance that I would never even talk to that person again. With earth signs, actions are words. Plus, with a Leo Mars, you're hurting their pride/vanity as well (I also have that placement). But, if you have any chance at all of getting this guy's attention again, the best idea is to be honest about and let him know that you are not yet sure of your feelings (sounds like that is pretty obvious) and would like to see where things go. That will give him the chance to respond, and if he's sure of his feelings (and you aren't), he can proceed in a way that works (ie, leave- because he wants something more serious, or stay because he's not taking it super seriously either and wants to see where it could go). IP: Logged |
pisces moon
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posted November 15, 2012 11:06 PM
Another Virgo Leo Mars female here. I certainly would hold a grudge and would probably laugh in anyone's face who pulled such a stunt and then came back wanting to try it again. I don't play games like that and don't need to be bothered by anyone who does. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted November 15, 2012 11:14 PM
Explain the situation to him.. politely. Don't act all annoyed in front of him because of his behaviour. Don't get emotional and start yelling. Go talk to him and if he calms down.. that's great. If not, give him a little space until he thinks the situation through. IP: Logged |
depth
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posted November 16, 2012 01:33 AM
As a Sag Sun/Merc/Venus/Mars and Virgo Moon female, I certainly would forgive but a second chance depends on past actions, the explanation/excuse and my intuition. If you've done anything in the past that conveyed disinterest or lack of commitment, I would be convinced that you're not worthy of me. If your explanation sounds genuine, you're certainly in. If not, it's just another alibi. If I'm in a player mood, I'll fake interest and keep you by my side but my Moon which detached long ago wouldn't even care if you existed or not. I wonder if the guy's Cap Moon conjuncts Uranus/Neptune. I've the two trine my Moon and know that the latter believes love can change people so it gives them a second chance.
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SmilingHeart
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posted November 16, 2012 06:34 AM
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Originally posted by lovehate122:
he has a cap moon , i think ...
his venus and mars are actually in cancer .
he told me he was really attracted to me nd i was like all in love with him too <3 Im a taurus sun , aquarius moon ,mars in virgo and venus in taurus . my moon,jupiter,uranus and neptune are in my 1st . we have venus-mars aspects but im not that attracted to him . I do fancy him just not all that much . ugh i want him back i feel so bad!
Oh God, honey! All that Cancer paired with the Capricorn and Virgo? This doesn't sound good at all.
As a Virgo female with Moon in Cancer you wouldn't see me ever again after that.
Maybe your lucky and he's REALLY into you. If your open and honest he'll try again. But he will be on his toes ready to leave the situation and probably won't open up to you again anytime soon.
Also the last part of your post.........
If you don't really fancy him that much let it be. I don't really understand why you want him back so badly if you aren't that attracted? Just let it go.
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lovehate122
Knowflake Posts: 396
From: Ireland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted November 16, 2012 07:07 AM
to be honest ..i feel like we approach relationships very differently . I like having alot of options i really don't know how to commit to any one thing never mind person . its just not in my nature .
he has alot of goodlooking friends which equals alot of goodlooking options  he would probably say he wouldn't care if i got with one or all of his friends but if undrneath he really does care and he didn't tell me than why should i care? I like meeting mew people and having new expeirences especially when it comes to guys . I can't just be interested in one i NEED options . Now if he got with one of my friends id be ok with it if i already got with him . if he asked me id assume he's not ok with that type of thing and distance myself from him .
I know this is horrible but thats how i am i don't even know why its how i am but it is . If someone stood me up id arrange to meet up some other time . Maybe they were too lazy or tired or something ..people have lives to live there is 7 billion people on this planet how can you only care about one .
I want him back cos orginally i just wanted to be his friend nd i feel like i lost a friend  he wanted more which was ok with me i couldn't care much about getting with him but i do care about his friendship !
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Faith
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posted November 16, 2012 08:23 AM
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Originally posted by RedScorp:
Yes.
The Virgos I've known tend to hold grudges, and they can excommunicate people a little bit mercilessly. Not saying all are like that (the usual disclaimer.) IP: Logged |
Aqua86
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From: Antwerp
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 16, 2012 08:45 AM
i can only say that u need more discipline in everything u do, more grounded in all action u do, u keep ending in situation like this, because u can't get a hold on ur emotions and thoughts? that make u do the most silly things that in that moment of time seem like so GOOOD..I just hope one day u see who the enemy is..and u fight and defeat it. But weakness doesnt destroy strength. U always ask yourself and put yourself in other position before u take action, no matter what it is. IF u cannot do this Girl...Forget happyness because u will sabotage it without even knowing it. And all that say i'm wrong, just listen to them and maybe your life will change.
Or try do change path and see change.. I'm sure one of these 2 u have taken many times..'Wet wood doesn't burn' IP: Logged |
SmilingHeart
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posted November 16, 2012 05:18 PM
quote:
Originally posted by lovehate122:
to be honest ..i feel like we approach relationships very differently . I like having alot of options i really don't know how to commit to any one thing never mind person . its just not in my nature .
he has alot of goodlooking friends which equals alot of goodlooking options he would probably say he wouldn't care if i got with one or all of his friends but if undrneath he really does care and he didn't tell me than why should i care? I like meeting mew people and having new expeirences especially when it comes to guys . I can't just be interested in one i NEED options . Now if he got with one of my friends id be ok with it if i already got with him . if he asked me id assume he's not ok with that type of thing and distance myself from him .
I know this is horrible but thats how i am i don't even know why its how i am but it is . If someone stood me up id arrange to meet up some other time . Maybe they were too lazy or tired or something ..people have lives to live there is 7 billion people on this planet how can you only care about one .
I want him back cos orginally i just wanted to be his friend nd i feel like i lost a friend he wanted more which was ok with me i couldn't care much about getting with him but i do care about his friendship !
Girl, it's ok you don't have to explain yourself.
Just know that it's not how all people work. Your Moon in Aquarius might not understand the sensibilities of the earth and water Moons. It's okay. They're not for you. We don't all have to be the same. But I think if it's only friendship you want, you can approach him and tell him that. It's for him to decide if he wants to continue being friends with you. I know I wouldn't because the level of care and empathy I look for in my friends wouldn't be met but who knows? Maybe he enjoys your company just that much? You should learn to be more straightforward though. The way you are is fine - no need to conform if you don't want to. But you have to let people know where they stand with you. You should have told him from the beginning that you weren't really interested and would not like to be tied down. Instead of standing him up and then act as if it's a rational thing to do in your situation.
You were the one who didn't make the situation not clear for him. At least that's what I assume from what you wrote so far. I don't think you should talk or write to him in the state you're in right now. Very hot-headed and all over the place. Calm down a couple of days and then write him why you want to stay friends in an understandable way.
I wish you all the best - I really do - but I can't promise you that he'll want you back too. IP: Logged |
Libreo
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From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 16, 2012 06:35 PM
Leo Mars....you hurt his pride.
Oh, just saw Mars is in Cancer, sorry.IP: Logged |
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