posted February 08, 2013 05:34 PM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
On the other hand "clinginess" or "possessive natures " isn't something necessarily such a bad thing if its a long distance relationship.

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i think there is a difference between being clingy and possessive.

posted February 08, 2013 05:38 PM            

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Originally posted by hikoro:
i think there is a difference between being clingy and possessive.

scorps are possessive, hands down. taurus too.
but, they are not necessarily clingy, imo.

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posted February 08, 2013 05:41 PM            

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Originally posted by hikoro:
im glad im not the only one...
mind you, im not stating that cancers cannot be clingy...

but, the saggies ive come across...it can be to the point where i feel suffocated, because they were very upfront about it.
a cancer will make me feel smothered, but...wanted.
but i think the sag, being so fiery...i just feel too pressured and literally, inside a heat bubble. *need to get away*

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posted February 08, 2013 05:56 PM              

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
whats always interested and amused me about the whole clingyness thing is how clingy women can be. i have never met a woman who was not obsessed with her boyfriend/husband, but if herbf/husband gets clingy back they dont like it lol.. its kind of funny.

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posted February 08, 2013 05:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I've never met a clingy sag woman.
and Ive met a lot of them , they are territorial around people they love, They want to defend them and fight for them. Thats actually a nobel quality thou.
Ya better not dis a sag woman's girlfriend at da cluuubbbbb.
They're pretty laid back, and its easy to have open relationships with them.

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lol yeah this is my experience with other sags, too. I've never met a clingy sag, either.

posted February 08, 2013 06:01 PM              

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I guess clinginess is different from possessiveness right?
I've delt with scorpios that want to know what your doing and where you are 24/7 its more possessive behavior..
but I have to agree with you and say its probably synastry.
venus/saturn
venus/ pluto
moon pluto

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posted February 08, 2013 06:03 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
whats always interested and amused me about the whole clingyness thing is how clingy women can be. i have never met a woman who was not obsessed with her boyfriend/husband, but if herbf/husband gets clingy back they dont like it lol.. its kind of funny.

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do you happen to have venus square mars?
curious....just basing it on comments like this one....

posted February 08, 2013 06:06 PM            

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Originally posted by hikoro:
do you happen to have venus square mars?
curious....just basing it on comments like this one....

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posted February 08, 2013 06:06 PM              

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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
Whats interesting is my SO has a few planets in Sag and he loves to text me throughout the day, and trys to call also. But it could be his Venus in Cancer responsible for that. You would think someone with alot of water would be clingy, and someone with alot of fire would be more aloof. In my experiences have been the opposite though.

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posted February 08, 2013 06:08 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I have Venus/Saturn with someone right now. I think this is possessiveness then, not clinginess.... either way though I still want to know for either. I'm also a Taurus moon opp. Pluto. I just want to talk to him all the time and know what he's doing even though the conversations aren't that deep and meaningful. Ugh. Why do I react this way when it's not even up to par with my standards?!

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Taurus moon is possessive. Pluto opposite moon wants to know their partner likes them as much as they like their partner.

I remember you have lots of Aries right? Aries needs lots of attention. Lots and lots and lots. Plus, in the beginning of a relationship, Aries likes to jump right in! They don't hold back.

posted February 08, 2013 06:14 PM            

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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
Whats interesting is my SO has a few planets in Sag with a Sun in Leo and he loves to text me throughout the day, and trys to call also. But it could be his Venus in Cancer responsible for that. You would think someone with alot of water would be clingy, and someone with alot of fire would be more aloof. In my experiences have been the opposite though.

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Leo needs a loooot of attention. They like being the center of your attention and can be posessive. I don't think fire is aloof; we like attention, but only when we want it. Fire is selfish that way.

It's definitely the Venus cancer too!! He shows love (Venus) like a cancer.

posted February 08, 2013 06:25 PM            

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Originally posted by starfairy:
Leo needs a loooot of attention. They like being the center of your attention and can be posessive. I don't think fire is aloof; we like attention, but only when we want it. Fire is selfish that way.

It's definitely the Venus cancer too!! He shows love (Venus) like a cancer.

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Its true they do, he loves the attention I give him, likes to feel like he is king lol, with my Libra and Cancer placements I have no problem showing him appreciation on a regular basis

posted February 08, 2013 06:34 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Mine too! I'm always chasing my earth/water friends. They're my friends so they don't mind but with earth/water guys (like I LOVE.) I can't do that and it makes me anxious having all this pent up energy. Especially because I don't know why he's not talking to me today. Trying to just "self-soothe" and stop thinking about it 'cause really with problems...you can let them consume you or just do nothing. I don't want to text him either. A part of me feels like I'm being tested, maybe?

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posted February 08, 2013 06:45 PM              

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Originally posted by starfairy:
Taurus moon is possessive. Pluto opposite moon wants to know their partner likes them as much as they like their partner.

I remember you have lots of Aries right? Aries needs lots of attention. Lots and lots and lots. Plus, in the beginning of a relationship, Aries likes to jump right in! They don't hold back.

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I like you Starfairy! :thumbs up:

It's so true!!! I do need lots of attention even if I don't give it back in the beginning. I really TRY not to let that show though. But this is me thinking of the gentleman from the other thread whom I have not heard from at all today which is unlike him

posted February 08, 2013 08:53 PM            

I'm Centaur dominant and have been accused of the same many times, it's a character flaw I've fought to correct, I've had relationships end because of it, and I've ended them because of it (my own clinginess that is).

But, really I haven't experienced it on the receiving end all too often... possessive - yes ALL of them except for 2 (hmmm.... one was Libra sun, and the other was a Pisces sun).

I can only speak for myself though..

I feel like it's cause of the moon-saturn opposition in my chart, I've read this aspect does tend towards this behavior. (It's the emotional dissociation, that when you are with someone and the guard is let down, it sort of becomes impossible to gauge how strong you are coming off, because you aren't use to being so open/emotional with anyone... ) ~ which is why I shut down relationships where I get carried away like that anymore... I really don't like myself behaving that way... and hate feeling out of control. >.< (that's the Taurus Moon vs Saturn in Scorpio of course).

The possessiveness is definitely all the Pluto contacts... in husband's synastry we have his 2nd house being filled with my Mars-Pluto tightly conjunct his Saturn-Pluto.

He also has his Scorpion Jupiter-Moon in Scorpio opposite my Moon... there's a sort of ownership thing going on there, which I definitely don't like... >.<;;;

^^ I've never had Venus-Pluto connections before with anyone, but recently experienced a touch of it........... >.>; that was my Mars-Pluto to their Pluto, Venus.... again...
not the greatest for the faint of heart... haha

So... for aspects, I'd look at Moon, Pluto, Saturn in the charts... and to the 2nd, 5th, and 7th houses.

But, I think midpoints are also important here... having one of those aspect connections involve a pivotal midpoint could make for insufferable, suffocating clinginess, or if you're into that... a really awesome close, haunting sort of bond. mehbe!? ^^;

The next closest relationship experience I've had receiving any form of clinginess - was Aries Sun, Sag Moon, Cancer Asc, (Gem Venus cusp of Taurus though).... there were too many other connections going on to say which caused this... but, it was mutual... and only increased the bond we had... so I'd say that was a pleasant experience with it, not the same as other times... haha (his sun was in my 8h, trine my venus almost exact... that may also make for clinginess too... Sun aspects I mean... no? we had Vertex and Nodal axes DW's too!!! lol)

posted February 08, 2013 08:58 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yes the way i figure it if you care about someone you want them in your life and you want to be in contact with them.. if you dont want to talk to someone you dont like them,simple as that.

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posted February 08, 2013 09:03 PM            

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yes the way i figure it if you care about someone you want them in your life and you want to be in contact with them.. if you dont want to talk to someone you dont like them,simple as that.

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That's kind of true..

posted February 08, 2013 09:05 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Got Gemini??:
[b] I can understand this point of view.

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I agree to this as well!!!

posted February 08, 2013 09:06 PM            

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marry me. lol.

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*ahem* *ahem* -- He's already e-married.