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Topic: Scorpio's disappearing acts
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joyful1
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From: MI. United States
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posted March 26, 2013 11:49 PM
  
I went out with a Scorpio male (11/7/1974) and he seemed really into me. Called/texted all the time. Pursued me hard. We went out and he asked me many pointed questions almost like an interrogation and said he could read me and that I'm stubborn. We had sex and it was of course the most amazing sex ever. After the sex he confided in me about some personal things in his life which he's typically pretty mysterious about. He said "if you ever research me (hes a well known Cop in our little town) that he wanted to be the first to let me know some personal matters of his. He then asked if we were going out again and I jokingly said "I guess we will see..."
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He then disappeared for 6 months where I just got a couple texts out of the blue here and there. Now he is again blowing up my phone. He also seems to be stalking me. I suddenly see him every place I am at. We talked for 3 hours the other night. The night before that was 2 hours. He keeps texting to see how I am doing. He let me see him cry the other night and now he keeps sending me love ballads to listen too. LOL. I do not know how to take this guy. Who disappears for 6 months after an amazing month together and then reappears and acts as though nothing has happened?
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ayujegeg
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posted March 27, 2013 01:49 AM
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virgolotus
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posted March 27, 2013 02:21 AM
Typical Scorpio mind games... IP: Logged |
joyful1
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posted March 27, 2013 03:18 AM
Thanks for the feedback. This is my first experience with a Scorpio. It does seem like a hot/cold game. I say this because he did text me back the day after we had sex saying he was sick. Then texted me back again complaining of being sick n tired when he had to go to work. Then after that nothing for 4 days to any of my texts. He kept me as a friend on facebook though too. I am going to take your advice and not text him at all either. When you say he's testing me... What's he testing for? And how long of space do I give before I can determine all he wanted was sex? Ugh I do not fall for someone easily esp when they play games, but I like him for some crazy reason. He was a game player from the get go trying to get me to be the one to ask him out. He'd text and say "you should've invited me out tonight" then I'd say "I don't chase boys" and he'd say "I'm not a boy, I'm a man." Then, out of the blue, he had finally given in and asked me out. ...When you say typical Scorpio mind games... What does that mean? I've read that Scorps can be compatible with Leo but that they butt heads too...
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ayujegeg
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posted March 27, 2013 04:00 AM
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ayujegeg
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posted March 27, 2013 04:12 AM
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CherryVodka
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posted March 27, 2013 04:42 AM
Why deal with this garbage from someone. Who wants to play games all the time, I don't. I'd say tell him to have fun playing alone.IP: Logged |
CherryVodka
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posted March 27, 2013 04:43 AM
People with this many self esteem and identity issues shouldn't be in relationships.IP: Logged |
Maelstrom
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posted March 27, 2013 05:10 AM
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Originally posted by CherryVodka:
Why deal with this garbage from someone. Who wants to play games all the time, I don't. I'd say tell him to have fun playing alone.
This advice is right on the nail, a man born in 1974 is old enough to know better. xx
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lshannah
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posted March 27, 2013 06:55 AM
Has he answered one of your four texts?IP: Logged |
joyful1
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posted March 27, 2013 07:08 AM
No he hasn't (texted back). In a way I'm with CherryVodka on the fact that this game playing seems dumb. In another way though, I'm intrigued. I can see how astrology plays in like our Australian member above is saying. And I've never dated a Scorpio but after reading up on Scorp personality traits, he fits it to a "T." IP: Logged |
joyful1
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posted March 27, 2013 07:12 AM
Thank you ayujegeg. I don't like the games but like you said it is something they naturally do. And apparently it's working because he's all I can think about currently. It's interesting to see how astrology plays into all this. Hopefully it's him being a Scorpio and not him being an a$$.
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Originally posted by ayujegeg:
also i believe another reason for hot and cold games, is to make you more interested. they like playing those games and trying to get a reaction out of you. pretty much all scorpio men do this and naturally know how to reel a woman in. they have masculine energy and feminine energy in them
(mars energy directed inwards + water sign) yin and yang, they know the psychology of women.
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lshannah
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posted March 27, 2013 07:34 AM
Hmm.. I'm not a Scorpio myself, but I'm dealing with one and he has never really ignored me. How long ago have you sent those texts? I'd definitely leave him now, if he's really interested he'll come back by himself. Don't try to play games back, because it won't bring you any further.IP: Logged |
Astro_Curious
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posted March 27, 2013 08:59 AM
I dated a Scorpio with that same birthdate as OP, different year. 4 days was nothing! Seriously we’d go through cycles of not communicating for months. This has gone on for 3 years. Just when I would think I was over him he’d pop up with a “Merry Christmas” or a “Happy Birthday” and I’m like who the eff are you? You have some nerve! I never said it aloud just thought it. What I can say about him was that he got overwhelmed by things super easy. I’m not even talking about just relationship stuff but like everything—work, family, the meaning of life, how well he could play guitar, you name it … I guess that’s the price to pay for being so intense. I feel as if when Scorps want you to go away, especially if you’re trying to contact them, they just tell you to go away. He might be going through some stuff. Give him space. They love/hate it because it gives them time to sort themselves out but then they wonder if you’re playing a game with them since you’re not in hot pursuit. He couldn’t stand the thought of me not obsessing over him. IP: Logged |
joyful1
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posted March 27, 2013 09:48 AM
Thanks for the insight Astro Curious. That gives me quite a bit of onsight into the Scorpio man. Especially with him being a police officer, he has confided in me about how much that takes a toll on him. In fact, after sex when he confided in me, he talked for an hour straight about all his innermost thoughts. This is not something he would typically do. So, that's why I am having a hard time thinking his lack of communication for the last 4 days means he's done. Like you said, he's not telling me to leave him alone and he's not deleting me off facebook either. It's just hard to believe he could one day be obsessing over me and then open up his innermost thoughts and have an amazing connection during sex with tons of passion and then now nothing for 4 days. IP: Logged |
Orange
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posted March 27, 2013 10:24 AM
Joy,
there are hundred of threads like this on Linda Land forum from scorpio's victims asking this exact same question. You better google "Scorpio games" and Linda land will pop up first with a myriad of threads dedicated on the Scorpio mind games. btw, my S.O. is a Scorpio. I am a Virgo. When someone texts me with a question or with anything, my reaction is to respond immediately. That's the Virgo in me. When I do that, my Scorpio man always says - "why do you have to respond immediately. Don't do that. Text them back later. make them wait, keep them interested. In fact, don't even text them back, they will text you again".
That's what he does. IP: Logged |
joyful1
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posted March 27, 2013 10:40 AM
Orange~Thanks for the insight. I will try to read up on the Scorpio mind/mind games. I think it is so confusing to me because as a Leo I don't put up with nonsense and games and I just don't want to be "taken" by this guy or feel as though he was using me for sex. Like I said, I could just write it off to that if he hadn't opened up to me so much about his personal life and even mentioned another date with me. He also said he wasn't going to tell his daughter right away that he was dating me because other people had hurt her in the past. It all pointed to he liked me. If anything he was obsessive. If I didn't text him back right away he would text and say "are you not talking to me anymore?" If I misunderstood a text he would take the time to call me, even from his police car. I felt such a huge connection during sex too but I know Scorpios are supposed to be the best at that. He definitely was and I am a very passionate person so there was a lot of chemistry. Sounds like I just need to give the Scorpio some space and if he's into me then he will make his way back. Wish it wasn't so confusing. I guess if they truly feel that deeply I can understand why he might be silent. IP: Logged |
4lifephrases
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posted March 27, 2013 10:46 AM
OK ! I would be honest, I do not see in today's age it is even possible to keep in touch withe everyone. Some people do not want to have constant touch with some people. I feel that sometimes it is uncomfortable to have too much close relationship withe everyone. If you have been completely vulnerable to someone you do not want to feel that again. I do not see anything wrong in keeping things interesting. You do not want who bores you anyways. Leo you have great social skills. I do not know how you manage but you are. You have to realize that to date with Scorpio would be series of hot and cold. Are you ok with that ? I have 3 strike rule. I would contact you 3 times if you didn't it's ok. When I have send 3rd time something I would think I have done enough and would carry on with my life. If you are not worried about me and do not contact me back. Relationship ends with no fuss. At the end of the day I tell myself, I have done my bit,I know ball is in your court and unless you do something I am not going to. You become victim only if you let yourself be.Respect yourself. Take the power back. IP: Logged |
Orange
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posted March 27, 2013 10:50 AM
Joy,if you read the other threads about the Scorpio game, you will see that the whole scenario is always one and the same - they come off stronly onto you in the beginning, they chase you, shower you with passion, share personal details with you, talk about mom and dad and their childhood, they have sex with you, mindblowing sex usually, and they disappear. The victim is left completely confused and they come here and open a treadasking about the Scorpio game. Their "game" never fails. IP: Logged |
BlueRaven
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posted March 27, 2013 10:52 AM
Joy,My Scorpio did similar things for the first couple of months of meeting each other. The first week(we were inseparable) we met was really intense and he shared a lot about himself to me and I did the same, but after that a period of a month passed where we didn't have much contact. At that point I was most certainly falling for him and texting him only to have him wait hours or even days to respond to me, or worse not respond until I texted him again and then make me wait still. I am not sure if this typical Scorpio behavior or not but it happened to me for a while.
Eventually we started to go out again and do so consistently and he no longer waits for me to text, but rather texts me about the art he's working on or about when we are meeting up next. It might just be simply something that happens in the beginning with Scorpios or it might just be the dating lifestyle in general I am not sure. I hope you can figure things out and if it doesn't work out then be able to move on. IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon
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posted March 27, 2013 11:51 AM
Hes too old to be playing games.As a person who has dated many scorps i would advise you to ignore him. He might come back or not.
Just go on with ur daily life.
U already texted him 4 times.
Now the ball is in his court. ------------------
Gemini sun 12th
Cancer asc 1st
Taurus moon 11th
Taurus venus 11th
Libra mars 3rd
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Stawr
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posted March 27, 2013 12:05 PM
I'm dating a Scorpio(sun,mars,mercury,pluto). Yep first time we had sex we talked. Then I was like well I better get home, I have work tomorrow. He wouldn't let me leave and I slept over. He almost didn't let me leave for work the next day. haha!His Venus is in Capricorn. He going though a Uranus square his Venus transit that has changed our routine and has made him want more space. (I have Scorpio Moon conjunct Pluto)
I did not take it well at first and was insulted and hurt.
I was so use to him being so busy that when I said he would be too busy again, I did not reply back to him. And what do you know he actually text while he was out with his friends, after not doing that for days. (and I was just replying back with one word answers cause I was so fed up, felt vulnerable, didn't feel secure) I have Mercury in Taurus Saturn is opposing it. btw when Saturn went rx it was opposing the exact degree of my Mercury. Lucky me right!? So I'm hanging in there. Seeing this as a challenge to test my strength.
Our synsastry is mostly positive. So I have hope. We got though my Saturn oppose Sun transit after all. With relationships come the occasional tests whether intentional or not. I wish the best for your situation joyful1 IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted March 27, 2013 12:18 PM
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Originally posted by 4lifephrases:
OK ! I would be honest, I do not see in today's age it is even possible to keep in touch withe everyone. Some people do not want to have constant touch with some people. I feel that sometimes it is uncomfortable to have too much close relationship withe everyone. If you have been completely vulnerable to someone you do not want to feel that again. I do not see anything wrong in keeping things interesting. You do not want who bores you anyways. Leo you have great social skills. I do not know how you manage but you are. You have to realize that to date with Scorpio would be series of hot and cold. Are you ok with that ? I have 3 strike rule. I would contact you 3 times if you didn't it's ok. When I have send 3rd time something I would think I have done enough and would carry on with my life. If you are not worried about me and do not contact me back. Relationship ends with no fuss. At the end of the day I tell myself, I have done my bit,I know ball is in your court and unless you do something I am not going to. You become victim only if you let yourself be.Respect yourself. Take the power back.
great advice! I've been having more of that mentality lately. To deal with this. IP: Logged |
joyful1
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From: MI. United States
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted March 27, 2013 01:02 PM
Stawr, thanks for your insight. I do not know too much about astrology yet other than he's a scorpio born 11/7 and I'm a Leo born 8/12. I am very interested in studying it and learning more though. I think as you and Venusian Moon and 4life phases stated, I just need to move on at this point and if he texts me great, if not he wasn't worth it. I am not into games but it is helping me to see him as a Scorpio and see he feels deeply. I felt that when he confided in me and when he made love to me. He feels very deep. He is also very insecure and would come off as confident but then make insecure statements like "Im nervous to go out with you. I want you to think I'm sexy,Was my C*ck good enough for you", etc. How can I be so hung up on a guy after a couple weeks? Wow, those scorpios get in deep. He's the first one I dated and I have many other guys asking me out but this Scorp is in my skin!!! quote:
Originally posted by Stawr:
I'm dating a Scorpio(sun,mars,mercury,pluto). Yep first time we had sex we talked. Then I was like well I better get home, I have work tomorrow. He wouldn't let me leave and I slept over. He almost didn't let me leave for work the next day. haha!His Venus is in Capricorn. He going though a Uranus square his Venus transit that has changed our routine and has made him want more space. (I have Scorpio Moon conjunct Pluto)
I did not take it well at first and was insulted and hurt.
I was so use to him being so busy that when I said he would be too busy again, I did not reply back to him. And what do you know he actually text while he was out with his friends, after not doing that for days. (and I was just replying back with one word answers cause I was so fed up, felt vulnerable, didn't feel secure) I have Mercury in Taurus Saturn is opposing it. btw when Saturn went rx it was opposing the exact degree of my Mercury. Lucky me right!? So I'm hanging in there. Seeing this as a challenge to test my strength.
Our synsastry is mostly positive. So I have hope. We got though my Saturn oppose Sun transit after all. With relationships come the occasional tests whether intentional or not. I wish the best for your situation joyful1
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BlueRaven
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posted March 27, 2013 01:13 PM
He got in deep because he is a Scorpio and that's what they do. They certainly have an intensity of emotion and spirit and for me the Pisces rising in me fell for that within a matter of hours.IP: Logged |
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