posted May 06, 2013 08:34 PM            

But, its now been over a month, and in that time, Id say we've talked about 3 times without anyone interferring. I LOVE those talks! And the way he smiles at me when Im telling him stories.

Anyway, in all this time, he hasnt asked me out!! I *know* he likes me, because a guy wouldnt spend this much time talking with a girl, but I also know that Taurus guys can be SLOW, and they like to be in charge. Admittedly, I was a little pushy when we first met (this was before I knew he was a Taurus!), and he didn't seem to like that, so I've really dialed it back.

So, how long does it take for a Taurus to make a move generally?

I have an old BF who's a Taurus, and it was about 3 months before he made his move and I had no idea if he was into me, but my gosh, when he made that move it was strong and overwhelming. Like, once he decided he wanted to be with me, he was not going to take no for an answer, and was in serious hot pursuit.

posted May 07, 2013 05:35 AM            

To quote: "I probably would have kept trying to hang out with you, have gotten to know you and your children [from a previous marriage], started to do more and more activities with you all, and would have eventually worked my way into your life. It would have taken about six months."
Me: "Well, it's a good thing I didn't wait for that to happen because I either would've exploded or assumed that you weren't really interested."

As it was, I asked him out once, waited a couple of weeks (to give him time to reciprocate), asked him out again, and on the second date quoted the regulations (we worked together) that my friend had looked up for me detailing how and why we could date as colleagues (he also has Saturn trine or sextile like everything in his chart). For the record, it was because he didn't have review, raise, or hire/fire power over me (he was kind of my direct superior - but not *really*, only in a tasking sense).

posted May 07, 2013 12:53 PM            

Mocking - you said it yourself - Taurus sun - too slow. I get you! I already did try to barter my way into a date with him, and he wanted no part of that. I assume because he wants to retain control and do things at his pace and on his schedule - not me being pushy. Normally I would think I've been blown off and the guy isn't interested, but he still goes out of his way to spend time talking with me (and for lengthy times at that), and even extended an invitation for me to come tour his workplace. I don't think a guy would do that if he wasn't interested.

Oh, the other thing to mention is that he is CRAZY CRAZY shy. I realized within 5 minutes of talking to him the first time, that he had zero game, and was totally awkward around women. I never see him talking to other girls, as a matter of fact. I will also say that every time we talk, he seems to get more comfortable with me, and ask me more questions about myself and my life.

posted May 07, 2013 02:21 PM            

I'm a Cancer Moon myself and rely totally on the strength of my feelings before pursuing someone.

So, if the feelings are strong, I don't waste time wondering "what ifs?".

If he hasn't asked you out yet but looves spending time with you,it just doesn't add up.

posted May 07, 2013 03:55 PM              

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Originally posted by GiggityGirl:
Chirp - LOL. Well, we live and learn.

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(guffaws)

posted May 09, 2013 12:46 AM            

I know that doesnt help much.

posted May 09, 2013 12:54 AM            

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Originally posted by its_aqua:
All the Taurus guys I know are pretty flirty and outgoing and players.

They are quite talkative and are cool around girls so my anwser would be no, but considering that there is more than meets the eye, you should tell us more about his natal chart!

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This is sooo not this guy! He is pretty quiet, very shy, pretty awkward and Ive never seen him talk to a girl. EVER.

Hes actually a LOT like my ex, who was also a Taurus sun. He was also very laidback, extremely and almost PAINFULLY quiet, frequently tongue-tied, and even though he was gorgeous, had almost no game.

Both guys are similar in that they were both very shy around me at first and had nothing to say, but took time to feel comfortable and open up. And, they were both totally awkward.

posted May 09, 2013 01:00 AM            

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Originally posted by AscTaurus:
What's his moon sign.

I'm a Cancer Moon myself and rely totally on the strength of my feelings before pursuing someone.

So, if the feelings are strong, I don't waste time wondering "what ifs?".

If he hasn't asked you out yet but looves spending time with you,it just doesn't add up.

Maybe he is just not that into you.

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I dont know.

It doesnt add up, I agree, as I dont know why he goes out of his way to talk to me, invited me to come tour his work place, but hasnt made his move.

It could be that hes not that into me, but if so, then him going out of his way makes no sense.

I need a nap. lol

posted May 09, 2013 01:04 AM              

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Originally posted by GiggityGirl:
I dont know.

It doesnt add up, I agree, as I dont know why he goes out of his way to talk to me, invited me to come tour his work place, but hasnt made his move.

It could be that hes not that into me, but if so, then him going out of his way makes no sense.

I need a nap. lol

Thanks, everyone. I appreciate the replies and insight.

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posted May 09, 2013 02:40 AM            

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Originally posted by GiggityGirl:
This is sooo not this guy! He is pretty quiet, very shy, pretty awkward and Ive never seen him talk to a girl. EVER.

Hes actually a LOT like my ex, who was also a Taurus sun. He was also very laidback, extremely and almost PAINFULLY quiet, frequently tongue-tied, and even though he was gorgeous, had almost no game.

Both guys are similar in that they were both very shy around me at first and had nothing to say, but took time to feel comfortable and open up. And, they were both totally awkward.

I know posters have said theyve all known bullish Taurus guys, but Ive not met one yet. I seem to attract (and be attracted to) the mellow and passive ones. lol

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posted May 09, 2013 09:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Chirp:
Maybe he just genuinely likes you - alot - but in a strictly platonic sense. Hence, constantly wanting to talk to you, but not going so far as to hit on you.

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Sure, could be possible. I accept that (though I don't like it - ha ha!). But, I don't think many guys would continue to seek out a woman after she's made her feelings and intentions known if he didn't reciprocate in some way. For me, the few times I've pursued men and they weren't interested, moving forward they were cordial, but definitely didn't go beyond a quick hello. They didn't want to encourage my interest.

When we're at our volunteer group, I always catch him checking me out, too. And though I agree he could just like me as a person, I still don't think he'd spend that much time talking to me if it was platonic. The last time we saw each other, all of his friends left to go back to work, and he stayed behind to talk to me forever. He was also on the clock, btw. That's why I found it so surprising.

Could be that he's transitioning out of a relationship, too, I guess. So, he could be interested, but not ready to act on it.

I dunno. My Aries moon is starting to get the better of me, and making this lack of progress a total turn-off.

posted May 09, 2013 09:16 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I bet he has Cap ASC or moon? or Aquarius. Those are the only two signs I've seen have social problems (sometimes. They're also the ones that get better with age.)

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I totally have to find out how old he is to run his chart. He hasn't been easy to cyber stalk. And I'm older, so I think that's why neither of us talk about age. Don't want to make it so obvious.

posted May 10, 2013 11:56 AM            

Women miss out on all kinds of really sweet, caring, sensitive guys who're too shy or intimidated to ask them out.

I'm not saying that one should continue to pursue someone who's obviously not interested, but some men need you to take the first steps.

With my husband (because he's the closest example at hand), he said that he thought that I was out of his league and wouldn't have directly approached me (hence his proposed roundabout pursuit detailed above).

But I'm not that patient.

Make the first moves.
If you're rejected, c'est la vie - men deal with that all the time.

posted May 10, 2013 12:08 PM            

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Originally posted by mockingbird:
^ See, I'm going to have to disagree.

Women miss out on all kinds of really sweet, caring, sensitive guys who're too shy or intimidated to ask them out.

I'm not saying that one should continue to pursue someone who's obviously not interested, but some men need you to take the first steps.

With my husband (because he's the closest example at hand), he said that he thought that I was out of his league and wouldn't have directly approached me (hence his proposed roundabout pursuit detailed above).

But I'm not that patient.

Make the first moves.
If you're rejected, c'est la vie - men deal with that all the time.

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good for you...you are the exception not the rule...have you seen hes not that into you? it was a movie based on a book based on real life....men go after what they want in most cases and if they dont is he really the guy for you?

posted May 10, 2013 12:15 PM            

Mocking - I did try to orchestrate us getting together outside of the group, and he wanted no part of that. Totally blew it off, actually, BUT, though I took that as a sure sign that he wasn't interested, that's also when he started spending MORE time with me, and invited me to come visit him at work and get a tour. He is just sooo intensely awkward and shy, it's not funny.

So, that's why I'm still confused.

posted May 10, 2013 12:23 PM            

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Originally posted by GiggityGirl:
Yeah, while I get Aries point and agree to some extent, I also agree with Mocking, that some guys are just shy and awkward, and no, Aries, it's not an excuse or a lie - lol. I've had a lot of gf's who had to make the first move, and their BF's said the same thing as your H - that they wouldn't have asked her out otherwise, and felt she was out of his league.

Mocking - I did try to orchestrate us getting together outside of the group, and he wanted no part of that. Totally blew it off, actually, BUT, though I took that as a sure sign that he wasn't interested, that's also when he started spending MORE time with me, and invited me to come visit him at work and get a tour. He is just sooo intensely awkward and shy, it's not funny.

So, that's why I'm still confused.

I think at this point, next time I see him, I'm going to pull way back - just wave and say hello, but not go out of my way to talk to him.

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posted May 10, 2013 12:28 PM            

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Originally posted by GiggityGirl:
Yeah, while I get Aries point and agree to some extent, I also agree with Mocking, that some guys are just shy and awkward, and no, Aries, it's not an excuse or a lie - lol. I've had a lot of gf's who had to make the first move, and their BF's said the same thing as your H - that they wouldn't have asked her out otherwise, and felt she was out of his league.

Mocking - I did try to orchestrate us getting together outside of the group, and he wanted no part of that. Totally blew it off, actually, BUT, though I took that as a sure sign that he wasn't interested, that's also when he started spending MORE time with me, and invited me to come visit him at work and get a tour. He is just sooo intensely awkward and shy, it's not funny.

So, that's why I'm still confused.

I think at this point, next time I see him, I'm going to pull way back - just wave and say hello, but not go out of my way to talk to him.

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posted May 10, 2013 01:14 PM            

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Originally posted by AriesKat:
theres nothing to it...if a man isnt pursuing you...he just isnt that into you...nothing personal...you can make up lies and excuses to soothe your ego but you know deep down what it is.

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