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Topic: How long does it usually take for a Capricorn man to open up/ask you out?
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jupitersgirl
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posted July 11, 2013 05:17 AM
  
If there's an air influence especially aqua, he may never do that for his own reasons.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted July 11, 2013 06:56 AM
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Originally posted by jupitersgirl:
If there's an air influence especially aqua, he may never do that for his own reasons.
Ask her out, or be straightforward? IP: Logged |
MagnumJoe
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From: Cairo, Egypt
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posted July 11, 2013 07:20 AM
I can see the aqua moon i starting to bug your scorpio sun and mars.Aqua moon won't feel comfortable to an attachment unless he is actually detached. I think he is using his cautious capricorn sun to preserve his aloofness. He might be taking time to find comfort in the friend in you. He apparently found the lover (Caps believe Scorpios are formidable lovers). IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted July 11, 2013 09:37 AM
I'm sorry that you are going through this. Each individual is different. I certainly behave differently.Just to let you know, I took about 30 seconds to ask my wife out, and asked to get married within a month. It's been 20 years. And I'm as Capricorn as can be. Therefore, not all Capricorns are alike. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted July 11, 2013 09:39 AM
LOL GEE.. why don't you just ask him out................IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted July 11, 2013 09:40 AM
^ That made me laugh, as usual.  IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted July 11, 2013 09:43 AM
^
Lol girl, I actually got frustrated reading that...
If you know someone likes you...
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*Golden_Wing*
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posted July 11, 2013 09:45 AM
I won't say he's detached, but he just keeps his distance. As far as detachment goes, I think he's obviously already attached to me, seeing as we text each other every day. We've been speaking since January, but this every day communication thing has been going on since April. Luckily we have mutual friends. His friend (my guy friends). I have told them that I like him, & I think that they might have told him, as that was the signal he might have looked for in order to pursue me any further. So the mutual friends can act as a very useful tool in all of this. As far as friendship goes, he is attached I'd say, but like you guys said, maybe he just wants to be friends first. I'm just scared I guess to wait, because just now he decides he wants to chicken out on everything. I've read Capricorn men will stop contacting you then come back again. This hasn't happened to me, which is a good thing, maybe it's the Sag/Aqua influences? It just feels so slooooooooooooooooow you guys  bleh* IP: Logged |
MagnumJoe
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posted July 11, 2013 10:19 AM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
I've read Capricorn men will stop contacting you then come back again. This hasn't happened to me, which is a good thing, maybe it's the Sag/Aqua influences?
Capricorn men don't "stop", the problem with some capricorn men is that they might deal with love as if it's a duty, or an "errand", so they'll attend to it, then go back to what they were doing, then attend to it again. Slightly materialized. Indeed, he is searching for the friend in you first. I believe that. Make him feel you are seeking that too and he will feel more comfortable. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted July 11, 2013 10:56 AM
Haha. This Capricorn man either "goes for it upfront" or moves on and never looks back. This Capricorn man sizes up the situation and the decision will be made in a most rational and expedient manner. If there is no interest, there will never be interest. Once I leave, it's final and I never go back. I don't know where "takes a long time" comes from, but it is not me. I know of only one other Capricorn man in this forum, and he is the Moderator/Owner. You can't generalize an entire gender based on sun sign. IP: Logged |
psytaurus
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posted July 11, 2013 11:10 AM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
I have asked him out, but he just isn't reacting to my requests.
This right here may be your answer. Where's his Mars?
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hannaramaa
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posted July 11, 2013 11:28 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
You can't generalize an entire gender based on sun sign.
It's also rare for people to up and get married after a month. It's not applicable to the majority here. IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
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posted July 11, 2013 01:45 PM
His Mars is in Sagittarius* Yeah, I dunno, maybe he feels that he won't go out with me until he knows for sure that I won't hurt him. Why I say this, is, go back to the discription of my question, & read it carefully. Okay, so a lot think that he just wants to be friends first, it's nice reading what others might think, thank you very much. I don't mind waiting or being friends, it's just he's sooo hard. In person though, he would talk to me a lot, he would be silly, talk loud only when I'm around, & he even played love songs to me a while ago to show me his sound system in his car. So that does tell me he's a deep person. He also likes watching romantic movies like P.S. I love you & The Notebook..lol* IP: Logged |
Geeky
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posted July 11, 2013 02:16 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Haha. This Capricorn man either "goes for it upfront" or moves on and never looks back. This Capricorn man sizes up the situation and the decision will be made in a most rational and expedient manner. If there is no interest, there will never be interest. Once I leave, it's final and I never go back. I don't know where "takes a long time" comes from, but it is not me. I know of only one other Capricorn man in this forum, and he is the Moderator/Owner. You can't generalize an entire gender based on sun sign.
This is exactly what my Cappy partner would say if I could ask him. And we were engaged just as quickly (about a month). He is VERY decisive. He likes to get things "sorted out" so he can get on with his day & his tea (he's a Brit).  IP: Logged |
acousticbob
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posted July 11, 2013 02:25 PM
If he's never had a relationship he may be too shy/scared to ever ask you out. If you like him I would suggest that you ask him out in s subtle and sensitive manner! IP: Logged |
Alabaster437
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posted July 11, 2013 02:43 PM
Trust me, I empathize as I've played the waiting game with a Venus in Cap! I agree that he may be uncomfortable with the whole thing because he's never been in a relationship. How about asking your mutual friends to figure out what the deal is for you? Not what they think, but what he actually says about you and/or what he wants. That way, you can be a little more sure for yourself as to whether to keep waiting or not. Because he is inexperienced with relationships, he might need even more encouragement or maybe just ask him out casually to know where you stand, ya know? IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
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From: South Africa
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posted July 11, 2013 02:45 PM
Okay, SO, I've tried the whole asking out thing as we speak & I'm also working on a plan IF he's reluctant to accept the offer.I basically told him, that we must go to Milky Lane after gym one night (ironic, I know), because right now, we are talking about waffles & ice cream... :| if you MUST know. Lol* Anyway, if he IS reluctant, when I go buy food again after gym & he decides to tag along again, & when we arrive at the mall, I'll ask him if he wants to go for a coffee before buying take out? It doesn't count as a date, but it will hopefully make him feel more comfortable around me & get used to the idea* IP: Logged |
Alabaster437
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posted July 11, 2013 02:45 PM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
I have asked him out, but he just isn't reacting to my requests.
Also, just curious, how did he react exactly? IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
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From: South Africa
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posted July 11, 2013 02:53 PM
Well, I've asked him to the movies & he said he will take me, but nothing ever happened? So he didn't say NO. I have actually asked mutual friends & they told me that he doesn't open up about these kinds of things, only with his *brother*, so my friend told me he'll ask his brother. You know what's funny? At the gym, I was sitting with my girl friend who works there, & I heard his brother say "Go ask your Girlfriend" or something in the line of GIRLFRIEND, but I knew that he was referring to me & he said it in a teasing tone of voice, so he was basically making fun of him. His brother wouldn't act that way, unless something was said to him about me? My girl friend also overheard their conversation. IP: Logged |
MagnumJoe
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From: Cairo, Egypt
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 11, 2013 08:31 PM
*Golden_Wing*I think you are over-analyzing. I appreciate your concern and your impatience, but some capricorns are slow. I am sun in capricorn, moon in leo, sagittarius ascendant, but i have my mars in libra and venus in scorpio. So basically, all this fire surrounding my capricorn nature, and still my mars makes me very very picky, and my venus makes me very very cautious and testing. I would take weeks to months before i ask a girl out, and in this time, if i see something i don't like, i cold bloodedly murder the relation. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted July 11, 2013 11:07 PM
This Capricorn man has a Capricorn Mars and a Capricorn Mercury, and so the thinking process is entirely Capricorn. Plus Sun is in the native 10th house. The take the time to consider process does not sit well with me. IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
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posted July 12, 2013 01:01 AM
Of course I'm over analysing, I'm a scorpio, that's what we do.It's strange that he takes so long, as I also have a lot of Sag/Aqua in my chart & I'm not as slow, but I do have to be friends first in order for a relationship to develop. I guess I'll just have to risk my time & trust that something will develop from this. I know he likes me, but all I wanted to see from someone over here is if they're similar when it comes to relationships, & whether it's worth it to wait or not. IP: Logged |
starrystratosphere
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posted July 12, 2013 02:43 AM
in all seriousness though i had a close friend with a cappy moon who I knew all through my teens and later. was the sweetest/ shyhest person ever. maybe he is just extremly shy? you should let him know how u feel. i mean if he actually feels for you in that way, he would like to know it. It's a chance you have to be willing to take imo.best of luck ^_^ IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
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posted July 12, 2013 04:31 AM
If they have Venus in Sagittarius or conjunct Sun, they might be a bit quicker about it, and same with Mars in fire or sometimes water signs. quote:
ail221: Scenario:
Me: Hi I'm....
Capricorn: Do you want to go out? I've already made XYZ plans for us?
Me: O___o
LOL! IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 12, 2013 05:30 AM
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i had a close friend with a cappy moon who I knew all through my teens and later. was the sweetest/ shyhest person ever.
Did they lack fire? IP: Logged |
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