posted July 12, 2013 09:40 PM            

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Originally posted by MsPrism:
I hope the OP comes back and tells us the outcome. I hate not having an ending to an intriguing mystery.

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posted July 13, 2013 01:42 AM            

Why does he even make the effort to talk to me to begin with? Why does he give me a pet name? Hmmm, it's obvious, but the way he is with me, hides his interest in me too well, & that's why it may seem like he is disinterested.

I'm sorry, but "friends" don't talk everyday. I have millions of guy friends, & we don't talk everyday, because we just don't feel the need to.

Though, I have come to a decision, I'm just going to tell him to either be a real friend whom I can do things with, or he must go, because he can't expect me to open my heart if he doesn't. It just doesn't work like that. I think I've tolerated enough.

I'm waiting until this week to see what happens, & if it's the same thing all over again, then I'm really not interested. I've talked to my girl friend who works at the gym, & she knows he likes me, because she observes him when I'm around, anyway, she told me that you can't get to know a person via texting, you have to see how that person reacts to some things, how they talk, read their body language, etc, & that is very true.

You can't really expect something to develop when you don't see each other. Maybe he is just scared of falling in love with me deeply & he tries to prevent that from happening.

posted July 13, 2013 01:49 AM            

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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
Lol! If he isn't romantically interested in me, then why are other people at the gym asking me why he stares at me all the time?

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I don't know if anyone else asked this but I've read in a few people's posts about their Venus falling in someone's 12th House makes it very hard for the Venus person to tell the 12th House person their feelings.

So is his Venus in your 12th House?

For reference from a post by Lioness

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Sorry to admit, but Ive experienced this also.. (my venus in his 12th)
Grrrr.... This one.. OMG I felt soooooooo deeply for... But no matter what I would never admit it to him... Even if he asked me, my answer would be NOPE!! deny deny deny!!
I was deeply afraid of rejection,so much that it was unbearable...
I felt it was best to just hide my feelings, and just let it all go..

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posted July 13, 2013 01:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Did they lack fire?

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posted July 13, 2013 03:36 AM            

Either he is an alien or he just doesn't match his birth char AT ALL. Sagittarius people are straight forward, as well as Aquarians & that's exactly how I am. I am aloof sometimes, but most of the time I'm very open.

Maybe his personal life has just screwed him up completely, because he certainly doesn't act out what his birth chart makes him out to be. Though, the reading did say that he is able to detach himself whenever he wants to or feels the need to, because he's independent when it comes down to relationships or love. This might be the big issue*

I understand you say that I must wait, but the longer I wait, the more I grow close to him & the more I get attached to him emotionally, that is why I want out. I'm just as scared of rejection as anyone else is, but I'm still opening my heart up to him. It's just, I don't want to risk getting hurt again.

posted July 13, 2013 03:40 AM            

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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
I'm also scared that when I do tell him all of this, he would retreat. One never really knows*

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I totally know where you're coming from on this point. It's scary when you've invested so much emotion and thought into something only to see it fall through. Though, in the end, it's so much better to know the truth. I can't say I would do anything differently than you though, I'm tenacious when I really want something.

posted July 13, 2013 03:49 AM            

HOW TO GET YOUR CHART

1. Go to www.astro.com . You can create a free account or enter your birth data as a guest; however, creating an account will allow you to save your information – great for trying the different charts both for yourself and for others in your life. If you don’t know the exact time of your birth, do your best to find out – it *is* important.

2. Go to “Free Horoscopes” then "Horoscopes, Drawings & Calculations", and then to “Extended Chart Selection.”

3. “Natal Chart Wheel” is the default, but you can click and drop down this box to change to "Synastry Chart (2)" if you're looking for a couple's chart.

4. Click on “Click here to show the Chart,” then click on the chart which will appear.

5. Right-click and save the chart/s to your desktop.

HOW TO UPLOAD YOUR CHART

1. Create a free account at www.photobucket.com .

2. Select “Upload Now” which will bring up “Select Photos and Videos.”

3. Navigate to your desktop and select.

4. On right, click “Save and continue to my album.”

5. When you hover the mouse pointer over the chart, you will see that a box appears with a few options. If you need to edit out your name or anything else you don’t feel comfortable sharing on the boards, “edit” is in the top band of options. Select “edit” which opens your chart and provides editing options. Go to the tab “Decorate,” and you will see a number of icons, one of which is an eraser. Erase what you need to, and click “Replace original.”

6. Saving should take you to a new screen where you can see your chart and to the right, a bank of options to “Share this photo.” Click on the IMG code, which will flash and let you know that you’ve copied the link.

7. Go to your thread, open a new post and paste your link.

posted July 13, 2013 05:10 AM            

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So in your case, you have your Saturn in his 12th. This could be a bit tricky since this is the commitment, get down to brass tacks planet. Maybe you could feel that attempting to structure or anchor him to something or getting him to commit solidly could be a bit more unclear to you than it is to most people. Maybe the idea of some sort of responsibility between you two is foggy. Maybe subconsciously you feel you can't exert your Saturnine qualities around them and for some reason you are made guilty when you express them around him - like talking about committing, formal plans etc. - and try to force yourself to be more unstructured and carefree without great results sometimes. I'm just playing around with ideas. But I do think solidly that a 12H planet in synastry overlay will, unless there's some other connection to bring it out, be overlooked or disowned by the house person. Not necessarily for bad reasons. But maybe for vague, Piscean ones.

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posted July 13, 2013 05:41 AM            

The first one I met in a school club, he walked up to me and we talked the whole night (5 hours), he offered me his jacket, offered to drive me home and as soon as we hung out, he made it really obvious he was interested.

The second one I met at this festival. He was a friend's friend. We started texting and hung out straight away, he asked me out properly and there was no hesitation.

For the third one, we met randomly on the street. He asked me out and we went out for a short while. Sag Venuses are generally pretty assertive. He wasn't aloof at all.

This guy is a Sag Venus and Mars? And a Aqua moon? Don't think he's shy...?