posted November 05, 2014 02:20 AM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
Same crime, different way of executing it.

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posted November 05, 2014 03:29 AM            

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Originally posted by GoingDutch:
[ Libras want you until they have you, then they get bored and "mysteriously"fade away ]

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Close but not exactly .

Unevolved Libras usually want you for the traits they "perceived" that you have and usually fade away if their vision of what they thought you were doesn't live up to the real you. And that is a VERY bad habit of this particular sign.

What Airy Libras need to learn is the fact that people are not walking, talking "ideals" but have natural flaws and issues. When you accept these people, you accept their flaws and traumas as well and these these traumas in some cases, will require a lifetime to recover from. Some Libras (mostly impulsive ones) do not have the required patience to stay and work with a person on their issues and as such, their shallow outlook on a person's inner turmoil results in them not wanting to stick with the person and they jump out of the relationship; And find someone who lives up to their "ideals."

That in a nutshell describes the Libra Bas***d; The a-hole Libra version; The douchebag Libra version .

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Originally posted by GoingDutch:
Seem like all astrology forums I come across have the same problem, of girls complaining that their Libra are easily to get BORED, and they have problem hold down their Libra.

Well...
I have no problem hold down my Libra. And I think i see why.
because: I NEVER HOLD HIM down at all. I let him FREELY and give him all the freedom he can have.
Thanks to my Aquarius Venus detatch traits, it give him alot of room to breath.

But seriously, put astrology aside. basic common sense speaking, never hold a man down, if he yours, he yours, why force it? Force someone to be with you is never TRUE happiness.

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My wife is a Scorpio (with a Leo Moon,) and believe me when I say that NO ONE would ever blame her for being ultra possessive if they found out just what she went through in her previous relationships. But bless her heart, she has NEVER gone all controlling on me; Probably because I never gave her a reason to doubt me .

I doubt women would take it kindly if a control freak of a husband starts checking up on her throughout the day; From the time she leaves home, to the time she comes back and in the process, suspecting her of getting all flingy with every single guy she talks to (when all she was doing at the time was talking to co-workers and clients.)

We men appreciate the same amount of breathing room in our lives.

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Originally posted by GoingDutch:
and I don't know why I don't want to leave this ghetto place. I do have enough money in my Saving account to go rent another place. Maybe deep down inside I don't want to leave him, lol
or maybe i live here long time, so i have alot of memories here with all the neighbors

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Now you know how us Libras feel when it comes to deciding things . Before anything else, let me ask you this (and this is not an astrology related question.)

Where do you picture yourself in your life a few years down the road from now?

Do you have any major plans for your career? Or rather what major plans do you have for yourself? Do you wanna travel the world? Do you wanna be part of an organization that helps others? (seeing how you have told us that you are very sensitive to other people's sufferings.) Or you just want to live a calm and peaceful life away from any plausible issues that are effecting you in the place you live in now?

After you have answered those questions, answer this for us; Do you picture your Libra S/O as a part of the life you are planning for yourself? If the answer is no then you need to talk to him on the matter and tell him what your plans are for your future. If he can't picture himself as part of the life you want to live then (if he is a good Libra,) he will walk away himself.

Like I previously said about Libras; Nothing pains us more then being a thorn on our Partner's path.

My third question and final question to you is this: Are you willing to let him go for the life you have dreamed of for yourself? There is saying I like; "Before you can help anyone else, you must help yourself."

posted November 05, 2014 03:32 AM            

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Originally posted by GoingDutch:
Mod PixieJane, a personal question to ask you, you don't have to answer if you don't want.
Have you ever dated an African-American guy before? I saw many of your post you share your experiences. So I was wondering if you have in the past, if you can share the dating experiences with him.

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Not an GUY (though I've been in ghettos and other violent areas and knew people from them, including African American). I was in a committed relationship with a blasian (*) from South LA for years, however, and she was what's known in the lesbian community as a "stud" or "A-G" (AG stands for "aggressive") which is a masculine lesbian (though more like an extreme tomboy as opposed to a butch) who is typically (but not always) African American, and she seemed pretty much like a black guy from South LA (I'd tease her at times calling her "sir" and "mister" which sometimes she liked and other times she took offense, probably depending on the tone of my voice as much as her mood). You'd probably like that she was an Aries sun, stellium, and ASC, and it showed...but not that she was also a serial cheater.

Back when we got together I was what lesbians called a "boi" (I didn't label myself at all) as I was very tomboyish and even at 22 I was being carded at times to get into a R-rated movie! She feminized me as that was what she was into and I found it an interesting experience, and also useful as people took me more seriously and considered me more responsible than when I had short hair dyed two colors and getting around on a skateboard (even when on business), and I wasn't carded anywhere as much.

The best part is that I learned being feminized didn't mean being disempowered. I was not submissive...though she loved conflict, I think if I had been submissive rather than asserting myself all the time which sometimes meant standing up to her that she'd have gotten bored. And even after I was feminized we still sparred (she was trained in 3 martial arts and had ribbons and trophies from tournaments, though also other sports as she found acceptance in school by becoming a jock). She was the one I mentioned who surprised me (and pinned me to the floor) with an ax kick...but I returned the favor with interest. Being feminized didn't make me weak and there was something liberating about that realization.

She grew up with my BFF who used to be her BFF until the stud and I broke up...and when the stud demanded my BFF choose a side my BFF chose mine. I think of my BFF as something of a soul mate, though we both didn't fit in well with our respective communities. I was an unusually assertive white girl and she an unusually mousy black girl as well (and as adults I've stood up for her more than once, even shoving back a guy sexually harassing her). She's an Aquarius with Pisces stellium so she's got some wild and surreal thoughts...and to think I'm taking her to the East Texas Bible Belt in a couple of weeks, hope it's not too great a shock for either side.

posted November 05, 2014 03:33 AM            

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Originally posted by 12muddy:
^ Similar to one of my s.o's experiences.

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posted November 05, 2014 04:35 AM            

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Originally posted by GoingDutch:
next to neptune
To be honest, No, because I am alone by myself, with just my little dog.
I work and pay my bills, and with left over money, I just put in my saving.
So 1 girl with a little dog, I don't see the urgent need of a bigger house.

Here rent is CHEAP, so it helps me save money. I need save money to put down payment if in the future I want to buy a house.
If I move out to another place, rent will be higher, and less saving for me. You know what I mean?

Your ghetto is NOT very ghetto if there no shooting, maybe your place just more on the Lower income area.
Here in USA, it considered 'Ghetto' when there Gangs, Drugs, and shooting.
This is NOT the first shooting in my neighborhood neither, and I'm sure it won't be the last.

My Libra guy thinks Shooting is NORMAL, he is a tough guy. I get scare when it come to shooting, lol.
what kind of guy would think shooting is normal? smh
Most night here I smell Weeds outside, must be some guys outside smoking weeds.
Now you see how bad the place I live in? lol

next to nepture
here a pic of me http://oi59.tinypic.com/2m4ej3p.jpg
you can click to see, I am Pisces Sun, Cancer Rising, Aquarius Venus.
you see if I look like Cancer rising to you?

and I don't know why I don't want to leave this ghetto place. I do have enough money in my Saving account to go rent another place. Maybe deep down inside I don't want to leave him, lol
or maybe i live here long time, so i have alot of memories here with all the neighbors

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Yeah I totally understand... I hope you will save enough money to move away someday then! I get all nervous, cause yeah I've seen many documentaries, tv-series about ghetto and gangs in USA and man that is not funny to live in I could imagine... I think it's kind of dangerous too!
If you settle down someday (maybe with the libra guy? ) I hope you two move to a more peaceful place!

posted November 05, 2014 07:21 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:

OTOH, if most don't have such misunderstandings but a few consistently do then those few are the ones who need a clue, be they male or female. I see no reason to make life simpler for the village idiots, especially if it means you can't be nice to people unless you're interested in sex or marriage.

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posted November 05, 2014 07:39 AM            

Can you see the similarities? Your cheeks is big and roundish like mine... there is also that space between the eye and eyebrow I think is common for many water ascendants!

Lol my boyfriend also slept at his buddies couches at first when he moved to the city! He also once lived in the small room under the stairs... he is almost never alone, he's always together with his buddies or me :P

posted November 05, 2014 08:11 AM            

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Originally posted by GoingDutch:
WOW next to neptune, you are so pretty, and thin too,
women thin are pretty, and you seem tall too, which is good, just like model height and weight.
and you have long beautiful hair too.
and big eyes, I envy you, I have small eyes.
I like western features, the tall nose and big eyes, classy
we Asian have small eyes and flat nose, lol not all, but majority of them.

YOu and your Libra take 1 year for him to make the commitment, well hey, at least your Libra make it. I heard some Libra for their hwole life can't even commit.
It is true though, I personally know a Libra who still very calculating his love to the mother of his 2 childrens. His long term GF give him 2 kids, and he still can't find himself love her enough to married her, smh

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Wow! Thanks for all those compliments but I dont even know what to say to that!
You're pretty too, I think we have some similar traits and thats interesting... which degree is your ascendant and what aspect it makes?

But yeah, thats also what I'm afraid of... we're only 24 and 25 (but for some that is very mature) but none of us seem ready to seriously settle down.. we havn't even thought of moving in together (well, I think of it often, but none of us has talked about it)

posted November 05, 2014 08:46 AM            

Haha if we are to get married, that must be way out in the future if that ever happens:P Right now I'm even afraid of wanting to actually get married one day...

When I first met him, I never thought of getting serious with him, I think it's only natural that those deeper feelings develop with time...
LOL you should have seen me at first, I was so nervous and shy, I still am sometimes!

I understand completely that you have to have a though skin to live in a ghetto. It's also a pisces trait (and gemini also) to fit in with the surroundings. You probably also do good with your neighbors

Also you look very sweet and kind! It's definitely also a cancer rising trait to look very approachable... in opposition to having a cap rising, I very often find people contacting me everywhere, just wanting to chit-chat or something or ask the way... you also get that a lot? But I could imagine with your gemini moon that you also love to have small talks with everyone around?:P

posted November 05, 2014 09:41 AM            

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Originally posted by GoingDutch:
my dear next to neptune,
can you click EDIT on your post, and remove my quote, it contain my pic in it. I'm going to go back and delete my pic later, I don't want it float around the world wide web, lol.

how to find which degree is your ascendant and what aspect it makes?
sorry i'm new to astrology, would the chart said it? what is 'aspect' that make it?

yes my Gemini Moon make me talkative with everyone, even strangers, lol
which is 180 degree opposite from my Libra, he never talks or smile at strangers, he doesn't talk to anyone unless they talk to him first.
He is not a friendly guy, always look serious. But if you his family or close friends, you will see the different sides in him.

how is yoru Libra? I can picture yoru Libra is a friendly guy, and nice to people around him. cuz your Libra didn't grown up in a tough environment.

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Oh yes sorry!!! I have removed it now sorry, I totally forgot that I quoted you at all:S

If you want to find out you can use astrodienst at astro.com... the have a feature there that says "extended chart selections" and here you can use pullen to show your horoscope wheel with degrees on it. Every sign has 30 degrees in every planet - and it's the same degrees but in different signs that make an aspect (sorry I'm no expert in explaining it, I dont even know If I understand the math in it myself)
So if two signs are in 9 degrees, and in the same sign also they make a conjunction, if opposite signs the opposition, if in same elements the trine and so on...

Else, you can use astrotheme.com, just search on "birth chart" and there is also a feature there, where it can tell which degree your ascendant sign is if you know your Time of Birth!

- Just want to add that this took me several years to find out, so if you cant understand anything it's completely natural, cause it's very complex with degrees and signs and all that!

Well, I don't always like to talk to strangers, but sometimes I think it's nice. I think my boyfriend feels the same way... when we are out together, some people approach us, but it's always me who take the word and be the nice one, my boyfriend is very shy around strangers... (also a cancer ascendant trait to be shy towards new situations)

I think that though Libra are nice people, they are not the most outgoing ones, I think that is more a fire trait or the other air signs... you both have gemini and aqua, and those are very social signs. Combined with pisces sun and cancer ascendant that would make you really nice and approachable to everyone I could imagine!