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Topic: Cancer Man -I'm a fool
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Doux Rêve
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posted June 11, 2014 11:20 AM
  
Yeaaah! You go, girl!Time to get that power back! IP: Logged |
aquagirlneedslove
Newflake Posts: 8
From: New Jersey
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted June 11, 2014 11:22 AM
I was with another Cancer man before and they are very similar but he was much more harsh.I have also dated a Capricorn that I really liked but he had to many issues for me to take him seriously. I wish I could merge the Cap with the Cancer. The Capricorn wants a commitment and a relationship but drinks to much, can't drive, just not on the same level as myself. Ugh :-( IP: Logged |
miranda
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posted June 11, 2014 01:24 PM
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Originally posted by LostTaurus:
Agreed. And in those quiet moments where all the sweet li'l thoughts come creeping back in, think about how he would (were you to become more seriously involved) probably drive you NUTS with all of his pedantic little personal habits (I could SET A WATCH by my first serious boyfriend's 'morning' and 'evening rituals' and God help the force which impeded or compromised either of them in _any little way_). Or his sheer brilliance at making you feel like any feeling of yours which conflicted with his was (of course!) highly respected...but ultimately laughably stupid. Or how he could sit on his a** until the cows damn well came home, but when he was _finally_ ready to pick up some long-ignored project, you better damn well be ready to pitch in or risk offending his delicate sensibilities on some deep, spiritual level. Wait...do I sound bitter?  I swear I'm not. It's just the way they are (by my experience) and it DROVE ME NUTS. That was TWENTY-FOUR years ago - he's actually a really great friend of mine now. But those 'little things' imprinted upon me so deeply that I won't even entertain dating another Cancer man. They're allll about personal and individual control of their emotional and physical environments. Exhausting.
You forgot that nothing ever is their fault and apologies are things other people do towards them.
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LoadedPistil
Moderator Posts: 1873
From: NJ, USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted June 11, 2014 02:04 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
You don't deal with it. You just drop them right then and there. 
Fool for dating a Cancer man from the get go... with all due respect  ------------------
Leo ♌️ Sun, (2nd House), Venus (3nd House)
Scorpio ♏ Moon,Mars,Saturn (5th House)
Cancer ♋ Rising
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miranda
Knowflake Posts: 31
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Registered: Apr 2012
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posted June 11, 2014 02:26 PM
People have a really good opinion of Cancer men, I see.IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1906
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 12, 2014 02:03 PM
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Originally posted by miranda:
People have a really good opinion of Cancer men, I see.
I have met all sorts from all signs but can with 200% say that ALL cancer men I have met, known and still know, have cheated or cheat or just downright play with women's feelings. Personally, I will say that Cancers are one of the more difficult signs in zodiac to grasp but one thing is certain and that is: once they let you in, they will protect you until you prove that they no longer shouldn't and then you are screwed. My favorite pairing for a Cancer is Aries. IP: Logged |
miranda
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posted June 12, 2014 02:19 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
I have met all sorts from all signs but can with 200% say that ALL cancer men I have met, known and still know, have cheated or cheat or just downright play with women's feelings. Personally, I will say that Cancers are one of the more difficult signs in zodiac to grasp but one thing is certain and that is: once they let you in, they will protect you until you prove that they no longer shouldn't and then you are screwed. My favorite pairing for a Cancer is Aries.
Screwed as in, that's when they start playing? Or when they do the famous disappearing act? IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1906
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 12, 2014 02:23 PM
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Originally posted by miranda:
Screwed as in, that's when they start playing? Or when they do the famous disappearing act?
Latter and if they come back it's only to really twist the knife in your gut.
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Lehia2
Knowflake Posts: 153
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posted June 12, 2014 05:54 PM
He told OP he wasn't looking for a relationship; he then behaves as someone who definitely likes to have sex with her, but isn't willing to get serious.OP said she's ok with not being in a relationship, she then complains about how he doesn't pay her enough attention. Yup, let's call him the greatest manipulator in the zodiac, blame that behaviour on him being a cancer and since we're at it, let's hate on cancer men too. ------------ OP this isn't sun sign related; this is standard behaviour for men that want to have sex and fun, and aren't about to get serious with anyone (or you) any time soon. Take it for what it is, and next time a guy tells you he doesn't want a relationship, believe him; if you can't handle it, get out. Nothing wrong with that, but let's stop being biased and blaming the guy, who was honest from the beginning.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, but you should've known what you were getting into, hopefully you can make a clean break and get over him soon.
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charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1906
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 12, 2014 05:58 PM
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Originally posted by Lehia2:
He told OP he wasn't looking for a relationship; he then behaves as someone who definitely likes to have sex with her, but isn't willing to get serious.OP said she's ok with not being in a relationship, she then complains about how he doesn't pay her enough attention. Yup, let's call him the greatest manipulator in the zodiac, blame that behaviour on him being a cancer and since we're at it, let's hate on cancer men too. ------------ OP this isn't sun sign related; this is standard behaviour for men that want to have sex and fun, and aren't about to get serious with anyone (or you) any time soon. Take it for what it is, and next time a guy tells you he doesn't want a relationship, believe him; if you can't handle it, get out. Nothing wrong with that, but let's stop being biased and blaming the guy, who was honest from the beginning.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, but you should've known what you were getting into, hopefully you can make a clean break and get over him soon.
And this is an astrology board where we adhere behaviors to zodiac signs and then analyze patterns.
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aquagirlneedslove
Newflake Posts: 8
From: New Jersey
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted June 12, 2014 06:15 PM
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Originally posted by Lehia2:
He told OP he wasn't looking for a relationship; he then behaves as someone who definitely likes to have sex with her, but isn't willing to get serious.OP said she's ok with not being in a relationship, she then complains about how he doesn't pay her enough attention. Yup, let's call him the greatest manipulator in the zodiac, blame that behaviour on him being a cancer and since we're at it, let's hate on cancer men too. ------------ OP this isn't sun sign related; this is standard behaviour for men that want to have sex and fun, and aren't about to get serious with anyone (or you) any time soon. Take it for what it is, and next time a guy tells you he doesn't want a relationship, believe him; if you can't handle it, get out. Nothing wrong with that, but let's stop being biased and blaming the guy, who was honest from the beginning.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, but you should've known what you were getting into, hopefully you can make a clean break and get over him soon.
Your right it's my fault and I am already out of it and over what happened. IP: Logged |
bluesky
Newflake Posts: 5
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted June 13, 2014 10:30 AM
I shared an office with 4 (4!) Cancer men once. One of which I ended up having a relationship with. We had had an on-off relationship for 2 years (which by the way was EXACTLY the same as with my last Cancer Moon boyfriend)and now he's going all Father Bricassart (from the Thorn Birds) on me and saying he wants to be celibate until marriage because of his religion (as he feels guilty and his fellow church people are pressuring him into thinking a certain way, they say he can't be with an unbeliever, etc.etc - really, really nice welcoming "Christians", I must say!!) Given that there is nothing physically preventing us from intimacy and my being an Aries LOL - I had it out with him this morning. He says he feels liberated in his new religious role (he is not a religious employee just a "normal" person and not a Catholic) and was saying "the Bible says this, the Bible says that" at every step. Personally I think it's less about the Bible and everything about him. I said to him "you just wanted to see what you could get (from me)" and he chuckled. I thought I'd best leave it at that, as there is not much more either of us can do due to both of our life situations and we have much too much to do in other areas. Playtime over I guess!! IP: Logged |
redshoes
Knowflake Posts: 1166
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posted June 13, 2014 10:35 AM
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Originally posted by aquagirlneedslove:
I am leaving him alone. It is just not worth it. I have to learn to be content single.
Great to read!! Single is totally underrated and remember ladies, not many men want commitment ... they want sex and only a very few will ever dare to take it to the next stage. If you remember that, you will be okay  IP: Logged |
geea
Knowflake Posts: 800
From: above the crazy vamplands
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 14, 2014 08:40 AM
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Originally posted by aquagirlneedslove:
I can't seem to get him out of my head and that is bad. :-( I didn't think I would get like this about him! He even told me he was trouble.
read this over and over again:
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Originally posted by mareaire:
he probably has some gemini...mars, venus perhapsanyways,he's told you he's not available and trouble, so that's that! if your down to have fun/sex/cuddles when you see him in person great! but you're not gonna get anything more! and if he does have gemini personal planets, to him conducting himself like a friend does not mean staying in touch.
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LucieLemonade
Knowflake Posts: 793
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Registered: Sep 2013
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posted June 14, 2014 11:10 AM
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Originally posted by Lehia2:
He told OP he wasn't looking for a relationship; he then behaves as someone who definitely likes to have sex with her, but isn't willing to get serious.OP said she's ok with not being in a relationship, she then complains about how he doesn't pay her enough attention. Yup, let's call him the greatest manipulator in the zodiac, blame that behaviour on him being a cancer and since we're at it, let's hate on cancer men too. ------------ OP this isn't sun sign related; this is standard behaviour for men that want to have sex and fun, and aren't about to get serious with anyone (or you) any time soon. Take it for what it is, and next time a guy tells you he doesn't want a relationship, believe him; if you can't handle it, get out. Nothing wrong with that, but let's stop being biased and blaming the guy, who was honest from the beginning.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, but you should've known what you were getting into, hopefully you can make a clean break and get over him soon.
I agree with you in that he was completely upfront about what he was prepared to give. That was fine for the OP until she started getting feelings for him. Now that isn't working for her so she's getting out. Better than trying to get him to change his mind because he won't. But now to the Cancer bashing (LOL), I will never ever again date a Cancer man. They don't work for *me*. My Cancer x (of 3+ years) was not a cheater. But he sure as hell tried to manipulate me into thinking I was always in the wrong and he was lily white. Good thing I saw right through that. Not all woman (people) can. My three most difficult relationships have been with Cancers: my mother, my x BF I mentioned above, and an x boss who I adore. He is now a good friend but damn was he difficult to work with. I had to intervene ALL the time before he made more employees cry. I can't tell you how many people he was in charge of supervising that he make cry. Sigh. Whenever there was a problem, I made him pass all his emails through me first. Managing their moods was/is draining. They are so freaking moody. You get whiplash.
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