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Topic: The sexual nature of Mars in Cancer women
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KarkaQueen
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From: In my 1st house Uranus and Neptune
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posted July 26, 2014 12:04 AM
  
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sweet-scorpion
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posted July 26, 2014 12:24 AM
I am Mars in Cancer, 8th house. It opposes Neptune con. Uranus, squares Mercury, and trines Pluto [tightest aspect out of all 4]. It is disposited by the Moon in Virgo, which is trine Uranus-Neptune and sextile Venus-Jupiter-NN. I have a very complex sexuality. I was sexually confused for years as I confused emotional fulfillment with the physical act of sex [Mars in Cancer seems great at doing this, and Mars-Neptune certainly doesn't help]. I had a neglectful father and I was looking to create an emotional connection with a man for the first time in my life; I pursued men sexually in power plays to get what I wanted, and never really enjoyed the actual sex - only the fact that they gave me attention and doted on me when I manipulated them [Mars-Pluto]. However, having an 8th house Mars and Mars-Pluto makes me have a magnetic and intense sexuality. I didn't really enjoy the act of sex with men, but I was a fantastic actor [Mars-Neptune] and put my soul into it [Mars-Pluto] because my desire to be taken care of was that strong. Mars in Cancer has made my emotions stormy and my relationships extremely stormy, especially from being posited in the 8th. There has never been smooth sailing with relationships for me. My emotions are directly tied to my sex drive, and for some time, so was my security, too [a very Cancerian drive]. I went for older, wealthier men in their late 20s and early 30s to take care of me, since having this planet in Cancer in the 8th screams of my desire for financial and emotional security in a romantic relationship by default. Eventually, I realized how twisted this was and that I was on the path to becoming a sexually repressed sugar baby. In the end, I've come to recognize what I have been avoiding all along: I am attracted to women on both an emotional and sexual level, and I need to stop confusing emotional commitments and love with sex. I have a more pure/sacred perspective on sex now [I traded co-dependence for this when I mastered Mars-Neptune]. I also feel having Mars-Uranus also contributes to my homosexuality. Mars-Neptune played into my sexual confusion growing up, and letting people use my body so I could feel cared about and "loved"... even though people buying me things and taking me on dates wasn't really love. That was all wrong. I have a bad sexual history, and it goes with intense and murky 8th house themes. My Mars is somewhat afflicted and it shows in my sexual past. I hope to move forward and have a brighter romantic future. IP: Logged |
BellaFenice
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From: Sparkles the Unicorn-When will your faves?
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posted July 26, 2014 12:28 AM
Well my mom is one.Umm, but yeah. Not something I want to think about. **quickly runs out of thread screaming*** IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion
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posted July 26, 2014 12:29 AM
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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
Well my mom is one.Umm, but yeah. Not something I want to think about. **quickly runs out of thread screaming***
LOL... Can't blame you Bella. It's a volatile placement.  Usually points to the potential to either smother or fight with family in particular, too. [I'm the latter, lol... or really, they seem to love fighting with me, and around me.] IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted July 26, 2014 01:01 AM
Bella Can't be ANY worse than your mom having Aqua Mars and then reading on LL about THAT placement. 
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BellaFenice
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posted July 26, 2014 01:31 AM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Bella Can't be ANY worse than your mom having Aqua Mars and then reading on LL about THAT placement.
Check mate!
I see your Aqua Mars and raise you one father with Pisces Mars. Unexpected tactic for the win. I have to agree about Aqua Mars though! lol. Even as an Aqua Venus, I just do not get Aqua Mars people. At all. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted July 26, 2014 01:34 AM
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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
I see your Aqua Mars and raise you one father with Pisces Mars. Unexpected tactic for the win. I have to agree about Aqua Mars though! lol. Even as an Aqua Venus, I just do not get Aqua Mars people. At all.
That's hilarious! Well, don't want to derail the thread too much.
I'll just say, cancer Mars seems to go well with Virgo Mars. 
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KarkaQueen
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posted July 26, 2014 01:49 AM
I am a Mars in Cancer in the 6th house, inconjunct Pluto, square Jupiter, and sextile Saturn and Moon.Let me say that I agree with sweet-scorpion, that I have confused emotional fulfillment (and still do) with sex. I have flirted with men before only to find myself empty afterwards and not comforted at all.
I have Moon in Taurus 3rd house conjunct my IC square Uranus semsisquadre Venus doesnt help either IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted July 26, 2014 02:20 AM
... changed my mind. I'm not sure if this is supposed to be serious? Certainly a serious subject.Early Mars Cancer 7th here.  Again, not sure so I changed the post.... But I think it's important. I have the Mars trine Neptune (water-air)... IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted July 26, 2014 02:44 AM
I am also a Cancer Mars, it's in the 9th house, squares my sun, moon, mercury, trines my venus and is opposite my Neptune and Uranus. So if you could imagine I'm all over the place. I too agree with a lot of what sweet-scorpion said. I grew up without my dad for the most part, he was in and out of my life way more than any loved one should. We still to this day don't talk. My mom tries to force him on and me every now and then and I of course shut it down immediately, he's dead to me. I pretty much knew at a young age that I loved sex. When I lost my virginity at 16 I practically raped my bf at the time, he wanted to wait but I remember that day I had to do it, and we did. He was a complete toolbag and I really wish I'd listen to him and waited. It would've saved me a hell of a lot of head and heartaches but at the same time I'm happy it happened, it's taught me a lot about myself. I wouldn't be the person I am today if it hadn't happened. I've slept with 3 guys and only claim 1 as my real sexual experience, that 1 being the only person that I've ever orgasmed with. Before him sexually I was a mute, I did it to fill a void and only ended up hurting myself deeper than I'd already had been. I too was quite the oscar worthy actress, moaned when I needed to, kissed when he needed a kiss, the whole nine yards. I liked being in control but it felt weird to me. I'd always had this pure/sacred outlook on sex and wanted to find the one person out there that would be one with me, I never thought I'd get that so young especially after suffering what I'd suffered. Sexually I'm passionate, intense. I'm a water tester, if it doesn't feel right I don't dive in. I love the idea of becoming one with another person. The thought of making a baby literally drives me crazy, soo so Cancer I know . I don't want to think about anything else than the moment. I literally just feel, even the slightest little thought of something else ruins it for me. All or nothing is my motto, I want forever with the person I give myself too. Please don't quote. ***** IP: Logged |
charlie
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From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 26, 2014 03:40 AM
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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
Well my mom is one.Umm, but yeah. Not something I want to think about. **quickly runs out of thread screaming***
My dad is one...and therefore not a woman....but **quickly runs out of thread screaming with you** IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted July 26, 2014 03:41 AM
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Originally posted by sweet-scorpion:
I am Mars in Cancer, 8th house. It opposes Neptune con. Uranus, squares Mercury, and trines Pluto [tightest aspect out of all 4]. It is disposited by the Moon in Virgo, which is trine Uranus-Neptune and sextile Venus-Jupiter-NN. I have a very complex sexuality. I was sexually confused for years as I confused emotional fulfillment with the physical act of sex [Mars in Cancer seems great at doing this, and Mars-Neptune certainly doesn't help]. I had a neglectful father and I was looking to create an emotional connection with a man for the first time in my life; I pursued men sexually in power plays to get what I wanted, and never really enjoyed the actual sex - only the fact that they gave me attention and doted on me when I manipulated them [Mars-Pluto]. However, having an 8th house Mars and Mars-Pluto makes me have a magnetic and intense sexuality. I didn't really enjoy the act of sex with men, but I was a fantastic actor [Mars-Neptune] and put my soul into it [Mars-Pluto] because my desire to be taken care of was that strong. Mars in Cancer has made my emotions stormy and my relationships extremely stormy, especially from being posited in the 8th. There has never been smooth sailing with relationships for me. My emotions are directly tied to my sex drive, and for some time, so was my security, too [a very Cancerian drive]. I went for older, wealthier men in their late 20s and early 30s to take care of me, since having this planet in Cancer in the 8th screams of my desire for financial and emotional security in a romantic relationship by default. Eventually, I realized how twisted this was and that I was on the path to becoming a sexually repressed sugar baby. In the end, I've come to recognize what I have been avoiding all along: I am attracted to women on both an emotional and sexual level, and I need to stop confusing emotional commitments and love with sex. I have a more pure/sacred perspective on sex now [I traded co-dependence for this when I mastered Mars-Neptune]. I also feel having Mars-Uranus also contributes to my homosexuality. Mars-Neptune played into my sexual confusion growing up, and letting people use my body so I could feel cared about and "loved"... even though people buying me things and taking me on dates wasn't really love. That was all wrong. I have a bad sexual history, and it goes with intense and murky 8th house themes. My Mars is somewhat afflicted and it shows in my sexual past. I hope to move forward and have a brighter romantic future.
How did you actually realize you were attracted to women? IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted July 26, 2014 04:29 AM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Bella Can't be ANY worse than your mom having Aqua Mars and then reading on LL about THAT placement.
Check mate!
The new guy I am dating has a pAqua Mars. I just can't escape them :-/ I am hoping the progression won't be as bad..It just never fails: I meet someone-they are BOUND to have Aqua Mars. IP: Logged |
Wild Horses
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posted July 26, 2014 04:44 AM
My Cancer Mars is in the 12th house, less than 1° from my AC. It's 2° from my 1st house South Node, so I'm very comfortable with my sexuality.My Mars being in Cancer does make me need an emotional connection to want sex. If I'm deeply in love, my appetite is ravenous and insatiable. My Mars being in a lunar sign makes me highly turned on by heated, intense emotions, too. My Mars' ruler, Moon, is conjunct Pluto, though, so that may be the reason for that. That being said, I've only actually been with 2 people in my life, my high school boyfriend, then later, my husband.
I just couldn't have non-committed casual sex. My emotions are just too deeply linked with it. My 8th Ruler is Uranus, but it is in my 4th conjuct my IC 3°. Sex just hits me way too deeply to be just a purely physical act. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted July 26, 2014 07:35 AM
My Mom has Mars in Cancer opposite Saturn in Capricorn.I wanted to figure out her Asc by honing in on the area of life that she focuses her energy in. Where she "loses" her temper, is temperamental,and volatile (Mars in Cancer) But its not so easy with the opposition of Saturn affecting the FULL expression of Mars. Saturn limits the innate nature of Mars and may even stifle it:She doesn't show much emotions when angry and often "holds back". The sexuality of someone with Mars in Cancer in house 2 would differ from the sexuality for one who has Mars in 5th. Mars in Cancer, generally, suggests that emotions and sexuality are inter-twined. These people usually feel the most sexual passion for someone that they have feelings for. Moody? Probably.Temperamental? Yes. But I think they think in terms of "forever" when it comes to sex. Even the men may want to stay and cuddle afterwards. But again, aspects to other planets will limit this(Uranus,Neptune and Saturn especially). So that changes things. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted July 26, 2014 10:35 AM
Mars in Cancer, generally, suggests that emotions and sexuality are inter-twined. These people usually feel the most sexual passion for someone that they have feelings for.Moody? Probably.Temperamental? Yes. But I think they think in terms of "forever" when it comes to sex. Even the men may want to stay and cuddle afterwards. I am Mars in cancer. Very well said! ------------------
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Chiemi
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posted July 26, 2014 10:59 AM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Bella Can't be ANY worse than your mom having Aqua Mars and then reading on LL about THAT placement.
Check mate!
My mom has Aqua Mars too after reading a few posts I didn't return
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sweet-scorpion
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posted July 26, 2014 12:22 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
How did you actually realize you were attracted to women?
I always had an attraction to women since the age of 14. However, I grew up in a conservative area and did not have the chance to experience dating women until this year [I will be 20]. I realized that the 'spark' that was always missing when I was with men was so easily found with someone of the same gender. I felt at ease, relaxed, and enjoyed myself for the first time without having a hidden agenda or feeling manipulative. So, I had an epiphany and realized that I was definitely attracted to women over men. I feel like I was never really that attracted to men in the first place; as I wrote in my original post, I only went out with men to form emotional bonds that I never had with male figures in my childhood. I have never easily experienced sexual attraction to men; I think men can be 'attractive', but I do not want and have never really wanted to have sex with them, which is how I came to my conclusion about my sexuality. I hope that makes sense.  IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion
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posted July 26, 2014 12:30 PM
@Barbiegirl19:I am sorry you, too, have had some difficult experiences with your sexual past. *hug* I know for people with this placement that sexuality can be very tumultuous and I understand where you're coming from. Your stories are eerie in their similarity to mine. I manipulated a guy into sleeping with me when I was still underage, and he wasn't even that interested in me overall. I wanted to have the experience over with, and I wanted to control him so I could have security. It's a shame how this placement uses sex to get security. I wish I'd waited too and never done that. It was a chaotic time in my life so I had my reasons, but still - I should not have done that. I also know where you're coming from when you say that you have an 'all or nothing' outlook on sex. I'm trying to train myself to stop being this way, since I find it can be overwhelming even to me. I can't imagine how overwhelming it would be to a non-Water dominant person! I never have been turned on at the thought of making a baby, LOL. Do you also have Mars-Neptune? IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted July 26, 2014 12:48 PM
@sweet-scorpion I'm sorry for all that you've gone through too It's kind of scary how similar we are lol, it's like you're a long lost twin. For me the only person to ever 'conquer my soul' has been earth dominant. My water sucks up all of his earthiness lol and he's a Leo so even bigger win!! The baby thoughts drive me insane! They've only started with my Leo, before babies were the last thing I thought of lol. I'm thinking Cancer Mars waits for the ultimate love and then takes over your thoughts with babies. My mars is actually opposite my Neptune and then I have that Scorpio venus and they both give me that sacred/pure outlook. I crave it, if I don't get it I'm not interested. I'll play because I like to but I won't dive too deeply into it. I think it's why I withheld orgasms for as long as I did with another person. IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion
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posted July 26, 2014 02:07 PM
@barbie I know, I thought the same thing about you, it's funny how much we are alike! And thank you, I appreciate your empathy. Maybe I need an Earth-dominant person too. I have so much Water going on in my chart. Seems like I am always attracted to Air though. I can totally see the baby obsession only beginning with someone you truly care about. It makes sense - having a baby with someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with would be insanely satisfying for a woman with this placement. Even if I ever decided to have children I would not carry my child, though it's highly doubtful that I will ever have children unless they are adopted. I think the only way I can relate to the baby craze is my obsession with one day becoming a midwife, LOL. I've always wanted to help deliver babies. My Mars opposes Neptune as well, and I figured you'd have the same/similar hard aspect because of your desire for a sacred sexuality. I also have Scorpio Venus. I am very curious to see what our synastry and/or composite would look like! I agree about Scorpio in the natal chart pushing for the desire for sacred/spiritual sex, a deeper sexuality. I feel this is both a gift and a curse, as I cannot find someone who shares these views with me. IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen
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From: In my 1st house Uranus and Neptune
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posted July 26, 2014 02:09 PM
I'm a Venus in Gemini conjunct Valentine-Union, that's pretty good though right? I also have Psyche-Chiron opposite Moon and Eros in Scorpio opposite Nadir and my Moon. How would this manifest with my Mars inC ancer?IP: Logged |
Supreme cT
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posted July 26, 2014 02:44 PM
I see a lot of female perspectives on mars in cancer so heres a male perspective lol i actually get very turned on from having sex with somebody i have strong feelings for and one thing i noticed is that i LOVE to orgasm inside of her, my ex was a cancer mars and our cancer mars were conjunct by 1.5 degrees and she also had cancer moon conjunct mars so all of that was conjunct it was very emotionally satisfying sex thats what i feel that i crave like i had sex with this mars in leo a couple days ago and it was fun BUT it didnt satisfy me emotionally it didnt feel "deep" it was more like going through the actions crazy thing is i actually ended up having sex with my ex about 2 weeks and it was amazing! lmaoo even she was mind blown and confessed that every other guy she has had sex with none of them could make her orgasm prett much she told me she would have sex but it didnt "mean" anything with those other guys since it wasnt like she was in a relationship so it was never that satisfying but i still could do it effortlessly i contribute that to the fact that since we have a strong emotional history and bond already established it intensifies how good the sex is and thats wat i really want as a mars in cancer im very passionate and love to feel every centimeter of my partner i dont like to just pound away like a crazy animal lmao i really "feel" things and im very into feeling "connected" with my partner im very intense and im not just trying to "say" it lol i have a tight mars trine pluto aspect and i really feel that energy flow during sex i also LOVE to cuddle after my hardest lesson with mars in cancer is the fact that i cant disconnect my emotions with sex its always tied together its a lot harder to see sex as just recreation but i have gotten a lot better on controlling it, one other thing i noticed is that iv had my best sex with other water mars or earth signs hands down the best was with another cancer mars than next was a scorpio mars i havent had a pisces mars yet and i also have had 2 mars in virgos and they were really good to in my opinion mars in water and earth really match my style of sex its just alot more satisfying IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted July 26, 2014 02:52 PM
@sweet-scorpion I'm curious too. I'm thinking it's pretty powerful lol my birthday is 9/26/92 8:30am Erie, Pa if you're interested. @Supreme ct You sound so much like me it's weird LOL. Everything you said what was spot on for me, all of it. I agree that our mars does really great with earth mars, air just doesn't cut it. Fire seems like it'd be too much for both involved. Add water and earth venuses together and it's even more incredible! IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted July 26, 2014 02:52 PM
Barbie and sweet-scorpion If you think about nature.
Water if left unchecked can rage and crash and wash away things.
Wind blows it and makes storms. Fire can heat it and make steam, too much and it's hard to breath.
Earth... Slows it and calms it.
When a hurricane hits shore it's chaos at first but the earth slows it and makes it die down to a little shower.
Then you can play and laugh like two little piggies in the mud and if there's a little fire like my Leo... Warm mud.
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