posted March 08, 2015 04:01 AM            

There is something about Pluto in 7th that makes it nearly impossible to accept slights and rebuffs in a relationship setting. Because you are always looking for intimacy.

So when that trust is broken, I feel that it just can't be mended and the relationship starts to slowly fade out.

I didn't realize just how intense I respond to infidelity until my last relationship.

I had heard rumours and murmurs of something happening with my ex and a another guy one time when we started dating. And at 1st I was quick to ignore it because I am not one to react to hearsay.

But as the evidence started to mount, I grew more and more resentful.I started to feel that perhaps I am the one who was being naive and I questioned them flat out on whether they cheated?

Of-course my ex was quick to deny all that was being said. But I just found it hard to ignore it and ended up calling it quits with them.

How do you guys feel about infidelity? Would you forgive and under which circumstances(if any)?

posted March 08, 2015 10:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
I'm not sure how I feel about cheating...

In my past I have surrendered to the charms of someone whose relationship status I was afraid to question.

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Its tempting to do that because, ironically enough, someone's attraction factor goes up tenfold the minute they are involved with someone else.

posted March 08, 2015 01:53 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
It's very similar to scorpio venus

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How so? Other than the 7th being ruled by Libra which is than ruled by Venus. An 8th house Venus would be much more similar. Pluto in the 7th is totally different from Scorpio Venus. It fixates Plutos attributes on partnership itself.

Here's a quote from my favorite site on Pluto in 7th

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Pluto is positioned in the seventh house producing attitudes that may make partnerships deep and complex arrangements. It is likely that your life will be drastically altered by marriage or other personal relationships. Your partner is shown by this placement to be especially strong-willed, and there can be some major tests of wills in this relationship.

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posted March 09, 2015 02:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
In regards to the question, I don't put up with infidelity. I've a 1st house Scorpio Venus and just can't do it. Cheating is the biggest betrayal to me.

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How so? You answered it yourself. Same as Pluto in the 7H and Venus in major aspect to Pluto.

Pluto in the 7H and Venus-Pluto are also prone to sexual/love triangles.

posted March 09, 2015 03:12 AM            

It seems to me that the judgment around infidelity boils down to possessiveness that's covered over by concepts about right and wrong, probably having orthodox religious origins.

I think as long as partners are open and honest about who they're with outside of their relationship, that's not cheating.

posted March 09, 2015 05:10 AM            

Neither viewpoint truly understands the other. Accept that, have your personal relationships the way you want them with a partner(s) that accepts the way you are and move on from this.

posted March 09, 2015 11:22 AM            

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Originally posted by peony:
How so? You answered it yourself. Same as Pluto in the 7H and Venus in major aspect to Pluto.

Pluto in the 7H and Venus-Pluto are also prone to sexual/love triangles.

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What?... O_o

I answered the OPs question regarding how I felt about cheating. What are you talking about? Lol! Did you read everything fully?

The unknown's response about a 7th house Pluto being similar to a Venus in Scorpio was incorrect. I understand how she got it but doesn't work that way. In her logic that's like saying a person with Pluto in the 2nd (in which I have) is similar to a Venus in Tarurus. Not in the slightest. The Planet would act like the house in which it sits in. Pluto in the 7th would act like Pluto in the 7th. The 7th is the house of parterships, relationships, other people. The 8th, in which Scorpio is ruled, is not.

So many here fail to realize that Scorpio is ruled by two planets not just one. You can't have spaghetti without the pasta or sauce.

Just because someone has Pluto aspecting their Venus or what have you doesn't mean that person is automatically similar to Scorpio LOL. If anything that person would be more similar to Pluto not Scorpio...

The planet, sign, house and aspect all work together. They individualize.

Aren't all 12 prone to "sexual/love triangles"? Absolutely, so what point are you trying to conclude? All 12 want love and want it in different ways, we all know this. That's like saying all apples are red knowing darn well there are many different shades of reds and greens.

posted March 09, 2015 05:35 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Some are monogamous and they shouldn't be judged for that either.

It seems like the smartest move to me.
I've seen these things faaar too many times. No one ever moves an inch or reaches an "agree to disagree" point.

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Hi DeepFreeze, no, of course not. No one should. Perhaps it will help to clarify. What I had in mind when I made the comment was communities based on non-monogamous lifestyles. In the U.S., there is a cultural bias against these communities, which I believe is generated by religious orthodoxy and reinforced or enforced by law. People who practice polygamy or polyamory fear their children will be taken away if they are discovered, although I don't know what the law prescribes in these cases.

posted March 09, 2015 06:14 PM            

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Originally posted by AscTaurus:
There is something about Pluto in 7th that makes it nearly impossible to accept slights and rebuffs in a relationship setting. Because you are always looking for intimacy.

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For Pluto in the 7H and Venus-Pluto, betrayal of trust cuts very deep...it's like dying. But, Pluto in its best sense, gives one a capacity to effect major evolutionary steps manifesting in the arena of relationships or relationships become a catalyst for such changes, although there's often an accompanying drama and turmoil.

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How do you guys feel about infidelity? Would you forgive and under which circumstances(if any)?

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My case may not exactly fit what you're asking, but I came to a point due to physiological reasons, where I lost interest in sex. My partner at the time was nine years younger than I was and still a young man. We came to an agreement that he could see other people. It was either that or have him become a monk, which wouldn't have been fair now would it?

Pluto in the 7H, just as any outer planet, is going to push the envelope of what is culturally considered to be "appropriate" or "proper." The outer planets have no regard for human social conventions and norms. They're there to push us beyond them. So, one of its expressions or patterns of this placement, as with Venus-Pluto, is a propensity for sexual triangles.

If I was born at a moment when Pluto fell in the 7H or Venus was conjunct or in hard aspect to Pluto, and I found myself repeatedly in triangles, I would be delving into my unconscious to find out why.

posted March 09, 2015 11:09 PM            

After what I've been through, I feel like I should just dump a guy that has an inappropriate friendship.

posted March 11, 2015 07:55 AM            

I tend to like to be "on top" in relationships, but does that equate to being "controlling"?

I also tend to pay careful attention to the person I am involved with i.e I know their habits, their schedule, their idiosyncrasies etc. Does that make me "obsessive"?

So what if I like to give my full attention to my partner? Sometimes I will even switch the radio/Tv off(limiting external distractions) so that I hear EVERYTHING. Does that make me "intense"?

I guess having Pluto in 7th has one "expecting' others to do to them as they do to others.