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Topic: What's wrong with my fiancé, lately?
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HCtheQueenOfWands
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Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 10:02 AM
  
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😔 he's changed, he became a complete jealous, possessive, abusive, disrespectful, unstable man calling me names for stuff that happened when we were broken up! 😠I love this man but he went crazy on me yesterday and called me derogatory names and accused the cops on me today!  IP: Logged |
Electro DGX
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From: Uranus before I ran into Mars
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posted March 16, 2016 10:14 AM
If the ascendant was there, it would be easier to dissect the issue. Anyways, I would probably give it to the Venus in Cancer squaring Uranus. He may feel wounded in some way by the relationship splitting up, and since it's square Uranus, this would probably make it surface without warning. There's a Yod between his Moon, Mars, and Neptune; and that may contribute to it. The name calling is definitely from the Mars in Gemini; dealt with those before. They're not very considerate in their choice of words when angry :/ With that Aries moon, he'll try to dominate you possibly, so I'd be wary of that. I'd also link the abusive tendencies to the Mars - Pluto square. He's going to not stop for a while unless something is done about it.
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HCtheQueenOfWands
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Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 10:17 AM
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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
If the ascendant was there, it would be easier to dissect the issue. Anyways, I would probably give it to the Venus in Cancer squaring Uranus. He may feel wounded in some way by the relationship splitting up, and since it's square Uranus, this would probably make it surface without warning. There's a Yod between his Moon, Mars, and Neptune; and that may contribute to it. The name calling is definitely from the Mars in Gemini; dealt with those before. They're not very considerate in their choice of words when angry :/ With that Aries moon, he'll try to dominate you possibly, so I'd be wary of that.
That's his fault he cheated on me and created drama plus called me a ***** and all this ! I though by the time we got back he'd chill out a bit.
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Electro DGX
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From: Uranus before I ran into Mars
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posted March 16, 2016 10:20 AM
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Originally posted by HCtheQueenOfWands:
That's his fault he cheated on me!
I was only making an assumption. By no means was I putting the blame on you; I was only thinking of what may be going on in his mind at the moment. Even so, he may hold a grudge for some reason (irrational or not). I would be wary of what he does and I would try to find some sort of motive for his actions. IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted March 16, 2016 10:23 AM
Sorry for your situation, but he's always been abusive.People don't change. Everyone else saw this coming... http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/234436.html Nothing that you feel romantically is worth living this crazy life for. Please get yourself help, and try to get your life on a more normal track. Your future self will really thank you for it.
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HCtheQueenOfWands
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From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 10:25 AM
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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I was only making an assumption. By no means was I putting the blame on you; I was only thinking of what may be going on in his mind at the moment. Even so, he may hold a grudge for some reason (irrational or not). I would be wary of what he does and I would try to find some sort of motive for his actions.
That's okay I have Leo moon, Mars-Saturn and Sun-Pluto I'm a handle his ass too! He's such a psycho plus he's fcked up he's telling the cops I'm harassing him when he's left really mean voicemails! Plus he's deleted texts and evidence so cops won't find out! Dumb ass nigga  IP: Logged |
3l3n
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posted March 16, 2016 10:31 AM
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Originally posted by Faith:
Sorry for your situation, but he's always been abusive.People don't change. Everyone else saw this coming... http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/234436.html Nothing that you feel romantically is worth living this crazy life for. Please get yourself help, and try to get your life on a more normal track. Your future self will really thank you for it.
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Electro DGX
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From: Uranus before I ran into Mars
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posted March 16, 2016 10:33 AM
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Originally posted by HCtheQueenOfWands:
That's okay I have Leo moon, Mars-Saturn and Sun-Pluto I'm a handle his ass too! He's such a psycho plus he's fcked up he's telling the cops I'm harassing him when he's left really mean voicemails! Plus he's deleted texts and evidence so cops won't find out!
I agree with Faith. I don't think it's best that you stay with him any longer if he's doing these things. I'd recommend straight up confronting him, or setting the cops on him without him finding out. I'd prefer the former, since you can set things straight and really get to the bottom of it quick, but the latter is an easier solution if you don't want to confront him. You'll get out of this somehow. I'd set things straight since it sounds like he's not going to handle much of a confrontation if he's trying to get the cops on you. IP: Logged |
HCtheQueenOfWands
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From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 10:54 AM
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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I agree with Faith. I don't think it's best that you stay with him any longer if he's doing these things. I'd recommend straight up confronting him, or setting the cops on him without him finding out. I'd prefer the former, since you can set things straight and really get to the bottom of it quick, but the latter is an easier solution if you don't want to confront him. You'll get out of this somehow. I'd set things straight since it sounds like he's not going to handle much of a confrontation if he's trying to get the cops on you.
I don't get him. One day were looking up wedding chapels, the next day he gets mad because I slept with a woman when we were broken up, he called me a nasty hoe and all these names 😠 IP: Logged |
HCtheQueenOfWands
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posted March 16, 2016 10:59 AM
I honestly thought leo & aries moon match very well 😒IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted March 16, 2016 11:11 AM
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Originally posted by HCtheQueenOfWands:
I honestly thought leo & aries moon match very well 😒
Hey peanut butter may go well with grape jelly but if it's sprinkled with taco seasoning and served on a bed of tuna and green beans then I'm probably not going to enjoy it very much. Moons are important but there's more than just moons. Plus the condition and house of the moons. They are very important but they're not superheroes of synastry. IP: Logged |
margym0o
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From: Canada
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted March 16, 2016 12:33 PM
From a non-astrological point of view, I think you need to evaluate what's in front of you and decide if it's something you can live with, instead of trying to rationalize it with the charts. Is a chart going to force you to endure the abuse? Is it something you can live with, in real life?Obviously you have both made some mistakes, but you are also very young with a long life ahead of you. With time comes wisdom and you have many lessons still to learn. I can promise you while this seems devastating right now, 5 years from now you will look back and shake your head (no matter the outcome). I lived through a very turbulent, almost abusive relationship in my early 20's and now at almost 30 I look back and laugh because I was so foolish to put up with it as long as I did. What felt like my world ending at the time is actually peanuts in the grand scheme. My advice...take it at face value. If you can chalk this up as a passing phase then try to remedy the situation and get back to life as usual. If you cannot endure his abuse anymore then really look within yourself to find the strength to move on from him. IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted March 16, 2016 12:42 PM
^^ Tuna & green beans.  @HC, I know you want him to be your *everything*, and having him feels like he's filling the void your family left. Like you finally have someone in your corner. And also like the best of rebellions. With him by your side, you feel like you can say *eff you* to the world and your family.
But that's just in your head. Like Faith said - he hasn't 'changed'. He's always been like this. You're not going to uncover the 'sweet, charming lover boy' under your 'bad boy'. You're not going to change him, period. At some level, you also probably know you're BS-ing yourself. Get out of the cycle before it's too late. IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted March 16, 2016 12:44 PM
--- Oops, double post. ---IP: Logged |
HCtheQueenOfWands
Knowflake Posts: 200
From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 01:20 PM
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Originally posted by Elysia:
^^ Tuna & green beans. @HC, I know you want him to be your *everything*, and having him feels like he's filling the void your family left. Like you finally have someone in your corner. And also like the best of rebellions. With him by your side, you feel like you can say *eff you* to the world and your family.
But that's just in your head. Like Faith said - he hasn't 'changed'. He's always been like this. You're not going to uncover the 'sweet, charming lover boy' under your 'bad boy'. You're not going to change him, period. At some level, you also probably know you're BS-ing yourself. Get out of the cycle before it's too late.
😔😔😔😔😤😖 I just hate that me and him are going thru a rough patch 😢 this isn't the man I met anymore, he became a completely different person after he found out about my lesbian affair with my friend when we were broken up! But I know this isn't usually him, I did a lovers reading and 10 of cups showed up at the end, we'll get thru it 💕❤❤❤👍💞 IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted March 16, 2016 01:40 PM
I'm sorry, but I think it's completely abnormal that this person's real name is exposed, no matter who he is and what he did  please delete that.IP: Logged |
HCtheQueenOfWands
Knowflake Posts: 200
From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 01:42 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I'm sorry, but I think it's completely abnormal that this person's real name is exposed, no matter who he is and what he did please delete that.
Wtf I call him D or Cancer Venus man here... the chart clearly states cancer Venus man. If it's my chart I'll change the thingy IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted March 16, 2016 01:45 PM
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Originally posted by HCtheQueenOfWands:
Wtf I call him D or Cancer Venus man here... the chart clearly states cancer Venus man.If it's my chart I'll change the thingy
On the other thread you posted personal conversations with names! Please ask Randall to reopen the thread so that you can delete that, not cool at all. IP: Logged |
HCtheQueenOfWands
Knowflake Posts: 200
From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 01:48 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
On the other thread you posted personal conversations with names! Please ask Randall to reopen the thread so that you can delete that, not cool at all.
Who cares the thread is old news. And it's already closed IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted March 16, 2016 02:48 PM
I agree with Lee...That information needs to be gone. I'll ask Randall if he'll delete it for us. IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
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From: The Harvest
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posted March 16, 2016 03:20 PM
Oh, she's reincarnated. Mystery solved. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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From: INTJ
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posted March 16, 2016 03:39 PM
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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
Oh, she's reincarnated. Mystery solved.
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HCtheQueenOfWands
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From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 03:45 PM
I'm just stating facts... Now the issue is him being mean . IP: Logged |
Electro DGX
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From: Uranus before I ran into Mars
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posted March 16, 2016 04:05 PM
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Originally posted by HCtheQueenOfWands:
I'm just stating facts... Now the issue is him being mean .
Now we need to determine if this is the actual issue. Does he care about you? Does he want to be with you? Does he want to help you? If not, then being with him is not the best thing for you. You should get away from him and live on your own for a while until you're ready to re-enter into a relationship. If he does, then you need to work something out with him. You need to get to the root of the problem and eliminate it once and for all. Staying in a relationship with an abusive partner will bring nothing; the problems will never end. It's best to fix it now or never. IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted March 16, 2016 04:16 PM
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Originally posted by HCtheQueenOfWands:
I'm just stating facts... Now the issue is him being mean .
No, the issue is you being mean to yourself by staying with someone who abuses you. TRANSITS are not the problem, his chart is not the problem. He is. And please don't have a child with him. No one deserves an abusive father. IP: Logged |
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