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Topic: Scorpio Freeze...or He'll be Back
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Elysia
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posted May 27, 2016 02:05 PM
 
You are? For real??
I hope there are other reasons for you to be moving as well...
Even if not, I get it.. Things can be overwhelming and one just wants to get away from it all.  Don't worry about him getting back at you. Just stay safe, and don't play into any mind games. By the looks of it, he might try to guilt-trip you back or something like that. -- Big no-no! I know the feeling of wanting to 'make it all better' for him. But those sad little puppies are sometimes wolves in disguise. IP: Logged |
salonroquet
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posted May 27, 2016 02:11 PM
Yes, I was going to move countries and continents. My original plan was to play nice until move day and cut it out and run, run away.I do need more time. The only possible fight is that he may ask when I am moving out, at which point, I would have to say that I would like to stay a bit longer to sort things out. But, I have made some rules for myself:
1. do not talk about the past relationship
2. do NOT talk about the past relationship
3. if he tries to start a fight or cry, say "That is regrettable that you feel that way"
4. smile, be nice, do my own thing as he walks in the door
5. giving him mail and rent money, I do not outright say it...I will say, hey, there are some pieces for you on that table
6. if he says he has to go, I will say "okay, bye"
7. if he gets upset about 6, I will say "I see that you do not have enough time, so perhaps it would be better to later reserve adequate time to speak" IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
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From: love lives forever
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posted May 27, 2016 02:13 PM
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Belage
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posted May 27, 2016 02:21 PM
Turn the tables on him.Whatever you do, do not look happy and do not look like you have your shyt together. That would make him even more obsessive, angry and wanting to get back with you. Wear sloppy clothing and make sure you wear no makeup or wear makeup that is NOT flattering. Tell him you are depressed, you have no money and you may be losing your job soon. He is obviously a user and he will see you as not being worth the trouble. You want him to lose interest in you, and for that you will have to appear different from what he is used to expect, different from whatever attracted him to you. Yeah, I have Saturn in Scorpio, so I know how to deal with them.  No Scorpio has ever harmed me, but it's because I understand the games they play and I can stay one step ahead of them. IP: Logged |
salonroquet
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posted May 27, 2016 02:29 PM
hahaha I should cover myself with mud and sticks and see how he likes me then.IP: Logged |
salonroquet
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posted May 27, 2016 02:31 PM
By the way, I was curious about the significance of our Mars-Saturn double whammies. What does that mean?IP: Logged |
stillatlarge
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted May 27, 2016 03:29 PM
Love it. The Scorpio Whisperer. I wish there was one for Taurus or Aqua. LOL! quote:
Originally posted by Belage:
Turn the tables on him.Whatever you do, do not look happy and do not look like you have your shyt together. That would make him even more obsessive, angry and wanting to get back with you. Wear sloppy clothing and make sure you wear no makeup or wear makeup that is NOT flattering. Tell him you are depressed, you have no money and you may be losing your job soon. He is obviously a user and he will see you as not being worth the trouble. You want him to lose interest in you, and for that you will have to appear different from what he is used to expect, different from whatever attracted him to you. Yeah, I have Saturn in Scorpio, so I know how to deal with them. No Scorpio has ever harmed me, but it's because I understand the games they play and I can stay one step ahead of them.
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Belage
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posted May 27, 2016 03:53 PM
salonroquet, I just found a thread you started 2 years ago at the start of your relationship with him. At the time, you were focusing on the Saturn/Mars double whammy.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/001400.html
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Adriana
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posted May 27, 2016 04:06 PM
I have an ex boyfriend with a Scorpio Sun/Moon/Asc/Saturn/Mercury(!!) Virgo Venus/Mars amongst other things. He has some of the same placement as your ex. But unlike you I have a Sagi stellium, Leo Moon, Cap Asc so except for the physical stuff we werent too compatible on a mental and emotional level, at leats not over time.My ex is not the type to go back to someone, he may be friends though with girls he had the best connections with (and that didnt end bad), but over time he doesnt keep contacts mostly. With me he kept in touch for some months after, mostly wanting a physical connection, although not an emotional one, and I cared too much to be able to go there. He can be extremely intense and has unrescolved issues with many exes, he cant seem to forget easily. But if someone was unfaithful to him or did him wrong in other ways, he will never forget and no chance he would go back obviously. But Im sure it doesnt just take a Scorpio to feel that way IP: Logged |
salonroquet
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posted May 27, 2016 09:55 PM
Yes, I am interested in that, but for this, I mean, how does Mars in retrograde affect this part, I mean quote:
Originally posted by Belage:
salonroquet, I just found a thread you started 2 years ago at the start of your relationship with him. At the time, you were focusing on the Saturn/Mars double whammy.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/001400.html
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outofideas
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posted May 28, 2016 09:19 AM
He may try to get back with you.
I don't know who is the more talkative of you two, but if that's him, perhaps this time don't allow him to talk about himself too much. Keep it light and don't allow it to get too personal.
If there are important things to talk about regarding the apartment just keep these the main topic. And when you settle those down just say you need to go, having other things to do. My ex-Scorpio wanted to meet with me many months after separation to get his hard drive data. I think it was previously discussed that we'll keep it short and friendly while the data is being transfered.
I had to allow him in my home, which i regret doing. By the end of his visit we were hugging and kissing... bad bad bad!
2 months later he really broke my heart and had the guts to blame it on me...again. So definitely meet somewhere in public and keep it highly casual at all times.
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Belage
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posted May 28, 2016 03:27 PM
quote:
Originally posted by salonroquet:
Yes, I am interested in that, but for this, I mean, how does Mars in retrograde affect this part, I mean
I don't know if it does. I don't have your and his charts in front of me and I am not giving you an in depth reading. Just wanted to point out that in general, mars retro in scorpio is activating his scorpio placements even if mars is not conjuncting them by transit. IP: Logged |
salonroquet
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posted May 29, 2016 12:35 PM
yikes, he kissed me. he kept saying how much i was his best friend, but he CAN'T be with me. And, how we just CAN'T be together. But, then he kisses me.IP: Logged |
colorful butterfly
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Registered: May 2015
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posted May 29, 2016 05:22 PM
Let him go, if he cared at all he wouldn't be this way and he wouldn't do what he is doing. He just isn't ready to be a real man because a real man won't play games! Ime, when a man is ready he will give you his world and nothing you can do or say will sway him. Your word is law and he gives because he gives from a place where he can give. Value yourself, no situation will matter he will be there regardless of anything. Lessonso learned the hard way. IP: Logged |
incognito
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posted November 25, 2017 01:38 AM
After another crazy mood swing/break up I finally snapped and told this scorpio guy Ive been dating on and off for the past 3 years that he has a pencil **** and that all my exes were bigger and hotter than him (true) and he should go f*** himself and go back to hell where he came from Wow that felt good. I wonder if I made him cry tho. Zero response. Too far? IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted November 25, 2017 05:35 AM
I love how the Moon/Moon interplay between u two is reflected on the relationship.Libra Moon wants to salvage the relationship, is asking questions of what they did wrong, is trying to look at it from all angles and really does not want bad blood . What aspects does your Moon make natally? Does his Mars fall in your 7th? On his side Moon in Scorpio is quite emotional and reacts impulsively, highly sensitive and subjective, recalls disagreements as "betrayals", hates to be vulnerable, cuts people off quickly and perceives themselves as the victim. Is his Moon conjunct the Asc because it could explain the defensiveness and the tendency to act on an emotional whim. Saturn-Mars double whammy is not smooth btw as it suggests that its very easy for either of you to feel harshly judged(Saturn) for whatever action you take or do not take(Mars). The positive side would be a business-like formal relationship that Saturn often brings where u two can accomplish much together. But if there is a lot of defensiveness and sensitivity in the mix , Mars - Saturn can have the effect of one feeling like they are the parent(Saturn) and the other the selfish child(Mars). Saturn's opinions can be taken as criticism and Mars can lash out at any perceived impositions to their freedom. Its not great for sexual intimacy as Mars withholds or detracts from Saturn. But it is awesome for business partnerships or more sober arrangements. At worst Mars-Saturn can turn into the abuse aspect. Pent up anger and agression(Mars) can feature as a staple(Saturn) part of relating to each other. Or treating each other harshly. IP: Logged |
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