posted July 10, 2016 12:21 AM            

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Originally posted by frankie2912:
I've read some things about Mars in Virgo being secretly super kinky. A contrast to the symbol of the Virgin. What do you all think about that?

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posted July 10, 2016 10:52 AM            

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Originally posted by frankie2912:
Can those of you with Mars in Virgo please share your Sun/Moon/Venus signs?

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posted July 11, 2016 09:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Lucia23:
We both waited for the other person to chase us (not just with each other, but in general), but weren't attracted to people who chased us. We were both attracted to people who were hard-to-get, but we needed the hard-to-get person to be the one to make the move--an unpleasant bind.

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A Mars in Virgo, long-time crush, gives off exactly this vibe. I am Mars in Taurus, so it's clear that the waiting happens. Sometimes I just feel so frustrated, and want to forget the whole thing. Then suddenly a small sign appears that things might be going somewhere. Until the Mars in Virgo steps back, like, CLEARLY steps back.

posted July 11, 2016 10:47 AM            

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Originally posted by frankie2912:
Can those of you with Mars in Virgo please share your Sun/Moon/Venus signs?

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posted July 11, 2016 11:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Hon Solo:

Is Mars in Virgo calculating, would you think? How much does Mercury have affect in the approach modus? It is incredibly frustrating, yet in a very twisted way it suits me (as I'm slow and romantically shy).

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Yes, calculating. My ex and I are both very Plutonian (we both have 8th house and Moon-Pluto stuff), and we had a Sun-Pluto conjunction in our synastry, so, that was a factor.

But I think that instead of acting spontaneously and wearing our hearts on our sleeves and going for things directly, Mars in Virgo itemizes the details of the evidence of how the other person is thinking and feeling about the relationship. In my case--of course other aspects and placements in my chart play a role--there's a whole lot of sitting around mentally going over small indicators of whether whatever guy is in my heart at the moment likes/loves/wants me. You'll find me on astrology sites, hoping some stranger on the Internet will look at charts tell me that the guy wants and cherishes me.....you will rarely find me actually talking to the guy about what I want and how I feel, even with my Leo Mercury that wants to do that. Once I'm in a secure relationship with someone, I do become straightforward and open with them.

My ex would also try to figure out how his love interest felt, and make moves (or not) based on that, rather than acting on his own feelings.

posted July 11, 2016 11:04 AM              

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Originally posted by DopGang:
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Sometimes pulling back is a calculated move to see what response, if any, there is.

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posted July 11, 2016 11:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
Yes, I recently got that impression. lol

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posted July 11, 2016 11:44 AM            

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Originally posted by Lucia23:
Yes, calculating. My ex and I are both very Plutonian (we both have 8th house and Moon-Pluto stuff), and we had a Sun-Pluto conjunction in our synastry, so, that was a factor.

But I think that instead of acting spontaneously and wearing our hearts on our sleeves and going for things directly, Mars in Virgo itemizes the details of the evidence of how the other person is thinking and feeling about the relationship. In my case--of course other aspects and placements in my chart play a role--there's a whole lot of sitting around mentally going over small indicators of whether whatever guy is in my heart at the moment likes/loves/wants me. You'll find me on astrology sites, hoping some stranger on the Internet will look at charts tell me that the guy wants and cherishes me.....you will rarely find me actually talking to the guy about what I want and how I feel, even with my Leo Mercury that wants to do that. Once I'm in a secure relationship with someone, I do become straightforward and open with them.

My ex would also try to figure out how his love interest felt, and make moves (or not) based on that, rather than acting on his own feelings.

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Yes! Like body language. I pay very close attention. Like one woman that I crushed on used to do the piano finger wave I call it and tilt her head so that her neck extended towards me. Then once when her shoulder was messed up she offered for me to come over and help walk her dogs with her. We weren't that close! I didn't have her number, we didn't speak privately much. So it was like, "hmmmm. Sounds like an invite to get to know each other better." Nothing came of it though. Maybe the Venus square Saturn in synastry.

Any clues though, I'm watching. A look in the eyes, a hair flip. She changed her hair once, I liked it so I commented. Then she wore it that way for about 2-3 weeks. I kept in mind though that I may not have been the only person to comment so it's important to consider it with other clues also. How they react or look after the compliments, etc. That first second after the compliment tells a lot.

posted July 11, 2016 11:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Lucia23:
...you will rarely find me actually talking to the guy about what I want and how I feel, even with my Leo Mercury that wants to do that. Once I'm in a secure relationship with someone, I do become straightforward and open with them.

My ex would also try to figure out how his love interest felt, and make moves (or not) based on that, rather than acting on his own feelings.

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I see.

I also love this topic so much!

For me the actions Virgo Mars feel a bit like 3/4 rationality and 1/4 feelings, also based on the wonderful insights of y'all (!), so you know, you end up waiting for the feelings part haha, when they're not thinking so much and would just let go (more). But that rarely happens, well, at least when they're not yet feeling secure. (And I don't want to push that.)

posted July 11, 2016 12:02 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
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Very calculating. Not in the sense that things are planned out from A to Z. Rather, I'll initiate A and based on that response I have options for what move B might be. I wouldn't say manipulative exactly but I think we can attempt to steer the other person into the direction that we want them to using subtle signals. Guidance, not control. It's still their will but with influence. Poke and watch like I said in an earlier post.
Sometimes pulling back is a calculated move to see what response, if any, there is. OR we've gotten signals that tell us to cease pursuit.
Well, that's my take.

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This is what I've experienced to the T! Yes.

posted July 11, 2016 12:58 PM              

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Originally posted by Hon Solo:
I can can almost see the smoke coming out from their head just from observing. Because I think observing and perceiving for them is never just observing or perceiving, they're already "plotting" there and then!

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This reminded me somehow of an incident last year, on a gathering with a bit of a crowd, where there was eating, also.
I had ordered pancakes and when they arrived, he leaned over my shoulder (he was sitting behind me) to see what I`ve got, which I did not even realize, until the woman sitting opposite me was leading attention to that, which made me of course turning around to see just how close he had leant over. Anyway he askd me about the pancakes, and I gave an answer, which was a little evasive, but polite (towards the cook).

To be honest they were only lukewarm and badly fried. So I was actually not eating them, and handed the almos full plate back to the waiter.
And then turned to my aquaintances again to keep on talking to them.

A few minutes later, I heard some noise from the other side of the room, and when I raised my head I saw the waiter standing beside Mr Sag who was inspecting my leftovers attentively.
And following my questioning look the waiter apologized complaining: "He didn`t let me leave!" lol
And Mr Sag was asking me, all across the room, why I had not eaten up. (am I a child? LOL)

Since I wanted to be polite towards the waiter and cook, I mumbled something about not being that hungry or already full or some crap like that.
Unfortunately Mr Sag also knew it was crap, saying he would eat the double for breakfast, and inquiriing what the REAL reason was. (He really was intent to give me a hard time that afternoon and NOT letting me get away with the "easy" answers).
And well a few words later I had to admit that they really had not been that good.

Well Mr Sag`s Mercury is in Sagittarius squaring his Mars-Jupiter in Virgo, he tends to occasionally (okay often) shares his observations. Loudly.

Or the other incident happening just a few weeks ago. When my aquaintances wanted to speak to him after a performance, and since they had given me a ride, I was accompanying them. How he turned the conservation so that I suddenly became the topic of it, by subtly encouraging my aquaintance to keep on talking, whenever she commented on something about me (I was aware of that, cause I mainly was in an observing position).
I remember that I mentioned in passing preferring trains to cars by far.
And coincidentally he put up a video about beautiful train-tracks just a few weeks later, and naturally I HAD to comment on that, which was being brought up again in one of the podcasts he did, specifically singling my comment out (which was not even that witty or important).
But sometimes I get the feeling like he puts some things out there he knows are "trigger-points" for me, and I tend to completely stumble right into this trap.

I donīt have Mars in Virgo after all. Mine is in Sagittarius and my Jupiter in Pisces. I am in Lala-land half of the time anyway. lol

posted July 11, 2016 08:47 PM            

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Originally posted by frankie2912:
I've read some things about Mars in Virgo being secretly super kinky. A contrast to the symbol of the Virgin. What do you all think about that?

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It's true. Don't believe the hype of this placement being all "virginal".

I'm very lusty and sensual but picky with who I share my bed with. Virgo Mars has an earthy sexuality but with the typical discriminating Virgo qualities.

posted July 12, 2016 07:07 PM            

Today the man I mentioned in the OP walked by me, smiled big, turned around again and smiled again, and kept walking! I didn't see him the rest of the day! This was our first time seeing each other after he invited me to have drinks.

posted July 13, 2016 11:34 AM            

At a party I was sitting down in a crowded room not really talking to anyone. Then he sits down directly in front of me and we talk. I didn't think about it too much at the time or after. Besides "hmm there seems to be something going on with our chemistry." The way we are sitting across from each other. I later sat somewhere else to play the wii, him and his friend joined me.

Anyway after the party I later friend requested him and a bunch of other people. So he started messaging me. He ended asking me what I had going on during the weekend. I told him I was swamped with school. I really was. But then once that class ended I was like, hey I think he wanted to hang out, darn I kind of want to hang out with him. So I started liking and commenting on his statuses, so he started to message me again.
Then we decided to hang out once he wasn't sick anymore.

I hung out with him at his apartment and we watched Street Sharks. We mostly talked and then he asked "So why did your last relationship not work out?" I was thinking gee how subtle, I think he is interested in me. Then I showed him funny stupid youtube videos. Tells me he has to work and go to bed, but that he would like to see me again on Saturday. I agree.

Between that time, I invite him to the beach with my friends. He goes. I was the only one who swam in the water. So then he was like are you cold? and gives me his sweater. Yay.

Also during this time I was very careful. I did not want to give him the wrong idea. I decided if I saw potential in anybody to keep my legs shut first. But then I just came across as really awkward. Trying not to sit too close. Standing in the corner of the room with my arms folded. He couldn't help but tell me that I am being so awkward. LoL

So then when he went to our friends house I decided to come out of my shell and sit right next to him on the couch. Prior to this he would try to kiss me and I would quickly move my head away like nothing was happening.
Same thing happened that night, our faces would get close, but I was still like nope, not yet.
My hands got kind of playful with his, and when I tried to move it back he grabbed on to it, and we ended up holding hands with each other on the couch for about an hour.

Saturday we hang out and drink, he offers me a place on the couch so I don't have to drive home intoxicated. I would of been fine to drive home. But then I'm like sure, and ask to borrow some jammies or sweat pants. :P He gives me a blanket tucks me in and then he finally gets to kiss me.

So we start kissing when we hang out, but nothing more, since we haven't talked about our intentions with each other.
I meet some of his friends. It gets harder for us to hold back. He even said we should go on a double date with our friends.
But then I had to say stop one day as we got more comfortable physically with each other. I told him I am not interested in casual sex, and that I am not doing THAT until there is a commitment. He tells me he is wanting me as a girlfriend and wants to feel it out more. We fool around a bit, with out doing THAT.
We go camping with friends. That night I was feeling good from drinks. He called me out on being horny. As we walk back to our tent, he starts talking dirty to me, and does things to get me hot and bothered. It continues in the tent. But we don't do THAT. On the drive back we talk, and agree to say that we are dating exclusively.

posted July 13, 2016 12:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
This is the courting/mating story of a Triple Virgo man (Mercury, Venus Mars) and a lady who has Taurus Mercury, Venus Pisces, and Aquarius Mars.

At a party I was sitting down in a crowded room not really talking to anyone. Then he sits down directly in front of me and we talk. I didn't think about it too much at the time or after. Besides "hmm there seems to be something going on with our chemistry." The way we are sitting across from each other. I later sat somewhere else to play the wii, him and his friend joined me.

Anyway after the party I later friend requested him and a bunch of other people. So he started messaging me. He ended asking me what I had going on during the weekend. I told him I was swamped with school. I really was. But then once that class ended I was like, hey I think he wanted to hang out, darn I kind of want to hang out with him. So I started liking and commenting on his statuses, so he started to message me again.
Then we decided to hang out once he wasn't sick anymore.

I hung out with him at his apartment and we watched Street Sharks. We mostly talked and then he asked "So why did your last relationship not work out?" I was thinking gee how subtle, I think he is interested in me. Then I showed him funny stupid youtube videos. Tells me he has to work and go to bed, but that he would like to see me again on Saturday. I agree.

Between that time, I invite him to the beach with my friends. He goes. I was the only one who swam in the water. So then he was like are you cold? and gives me his sweater. Yay.

Also during this time I was very careful. I did not want to give him the wrong idea. I decided if I saw potential in anybody to keep my legs shut first. But then I just came across as really awkward. Trying not to sit too close. Standing in the corner of the room with my arms folded. He couldn't help but tell me that I am being so awkward. LoL

So then when he went to our friends house I decided to come out of my shell and sit right next to him on the couch. Prior to this he would try to kiss me and I would quickly move my head away like nothing was happening.
Same thing happened that night, our faces would get close, but I was still like nope, not yet.
My hands got kind of playful with his, and when I tried to move it back he grabbed on to it, and we ended up holding hands with each other on the couch for about an hour.

Saturday we hang out and drink, he offers me a place on the couch so I don't have to drive home intoxicated. I would of been fine to drive home. But then I'm like sure, and ask to borrow some jammies or sweat pants. :P He gives me a blanket tucks me in and then he finally gets to kiss me.

So we start kissing when we hang out, but nothing more, since we haven't talked about our intentions with each other.
I meet some of his friends. It gets harder for us to hold back. He even said we should go on a double date with our friends.
But then I had to say stop one day as we got more comfortable physically with each other. I told him I am not interested in casual sex, and that I am not doing THAT until there is a commitment. He tells me he is wanting me as a girlfriend and wants to feel it out more. We fool around a bit, with out doing THAT.
We go camping with friends. That night I was feeling good from drinks. He called me out on being horny. As we walk back to our tent, he starts talking dirty to me, and does things to get me hot and bothered. It continues in the tent. But we don't do THAT. On the drive back we talk, and agree to say that we are dating exclusively.

He wanted it so bad, and my dress strap that kept sliding off my shoulder was driving him wild. I stop back at his apartment to help him unpack and eat a snack. I realized I was not going to get out of there. I was all like "noo...I want to take a shower first, I'm not ready." and then he was like "Look at me, you look beautiful, and I want you in that dress." So then I was persuaded and THAT happened.
About a month later we make it fb official.
and a year later I move in with him.
I'm so happy, and I hope this gives people some insight.

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