posted January 29, 2019 03:32 PM            

Also extremely lazy! I'm blaming my Libra Ascendant and Taurus Venus for that.

posted January 29, 2019 11:49 PM            

Some eventually gave up thinking that I'm playing with them with my mixed signals.

posted January 30, 2019 02:53 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
First of all, I don't really date. I hate them. Hate the expectations around them and the feelings of awkwardness around it.
I'm not good with anything that has a label on it - and a date has one.
But, ok. Still we are talking about dating here.
I'm horrible to date because I'm very very very slow to let anyone into my heart. It just doesn't happen that quickly and men think I'm either playing and being emotionally cold. I'm not.
I can be hot and cold at times though.
I need a lot of freedom and I'll be quite blunt from the beginning (I'm much nicer to friends haha). with men I'm sexually interested in I can be a bit blunt and initiating arguments. It is fun for me, but not all of them appreciate it. They think I'm ridiculing them or taking the **** but I'm not. I reckon that is some type of foreplay for me.
I can be quite unclear with my emotions, which I find annoying myself and it confuses the other party, too

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posted January 30, 2019 02:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Dons2angelss:
Unaspected Uranus in the 7th with Venus in the 12th. I can hardly stand being close friends with someone, much less dating. Everyone who knows me knows that I'll just dissappear for a while and to not take it personally lol. My two sons are the only constants in my life but I still have a completely separate life outside of them.

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That Venus in 12th is the social separation I think. And its further prompted by Uranus in 7th.

I don't find Uranus in 7th as indicative of single status(Mars in 7th on the other hand can be). It suggests to me that the individual is looking for a highly cerebral partner with whom to share philosophies with.

Its not impossible to find such a mate. But it can be daunting to search. So that is why its termed "unusual partner". Because the partner is likely to not be someone conventional really. A very "out of the box" native for sure .

posted January 30, 2019 03:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Aquarian Moon:
Scorpio Venus conjunct Uranus in the 7th house. Scorpio descendant. All of my relationships have been intense power struggles. And then I lose interest because it’s too much and leave devastation in my path. All my relationships have changed the other person.

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Changed the other person. But not you? You remain intact?Lol.

Relationships work like a loop. As much as you impact others. They impact you too.

posted January 30, 2019 03:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Saturn/Uranus in aspect to Moon or Venus perhaps?Maybe Neptune thrown in for the "confusion" part?

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i have moon trine Uranus and moon contraparallel Uranus. No Saturn aspects in my chart except Saturn conj Jupiter And sextile NN. But Saturn is the ruler of my 7th and it is in my 4th. So I don't open up emotionally that quickly.

posted January 30, 2019 06:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Nadja:
I'm completely un-datable! I'm both asexual and aromantic! Don't know what to blame in my chart though... My unaspected Venus?

Also extremely lazy! I'm blaming my Libra Ascendant and Taurus Venus for that.

I'll also tell things exactly as I see them. I try not to hurt people, but I'm blunt AF. Mercury conjunct Mars and Midheaven?

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Hmmm . But does it bother you that you are aromantic and asexual? Do you feel lonely as a result?

My thinking is that asexual or aromantic is being indifferent to issues of coupling up?

posted January 30, 2019 06:02 AM            

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Originally posted by DRVM614K:
Drama emperor. I like it.
Moon in Leo 7th house intercepted conjunct south node

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Duh...duh...duhm!!!

posted January 30, 2019 06:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I don't know if it's my problem or not but guys who date me always wanna get too close too fast and I'll push them away. I'll go out with them but I won't let them come too close but they always wanna be VERY close.

Some eventually gave up thinking that I'm playing with them with my mixed signals.

And I've the bad habit of showing them the ugly side of me in the initial dating phase because I think if they can accept the ugly me, they can accept the nice me.

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Harsh before harmonizing?I see.So since being conscious of this, has this motivated change?

I think it could also be a defense against rejection? Is Venus in aspect to Mars?

posted January 30, 2019 06:24 AM            

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Originally posted by mercmercy99:
I'm un-dateable because I have the charisma of the shaggy beige ottoman collecting dust in your grandma's living room; the one that she doesn't think to sell in a yard sale because she forgets it's even there. Talking to me is like talking to a brick wall. I overthink everything to the point of verbal constipation. Good luck to anyone who tries to get me to open up.

Mercury in the 8th house square Saturn in the 11th.

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You are just a hoot!!! I respond very well to Saturn/Mercury dry humour(I have the sextile aspect) . So there are many like me.

Get a Neptune strong person. Few things can evade erosion when in Neptune's waters. In other words "ALL resistance crumbles".

So even those walls that you think are insurmountable can be broken down by devastating Pluto or divine Neptune.

posted January 30, 2019 06:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Hmmm . But does it bother you that you are aromantic and asexual? Do you feel lonely as a result?

My thinking is that asexual or aromantic is being indifferent to issues of coupling up?

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I have no issue at all with being asexual and aromantic. I think other people make it more of an issue than I've ever felt it to be. So no, I don't perceive it as a flaw or anything... but it certainly makes me un-dateable!

posted January 30, 2019 06:56 AM            

Cap Uranus & Neptune conjunct DSC both opposing Sun in 12th H.

North Node in 7th H

Aqua Saturn in 8th H

Can't be more un-dateble than that

posted January 30, 2019 07:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Harsh before harmonizing?I see.So since being conscious of this, has this motivated change?

I think it could also be a defense against rejection? Is Venus in aspect to Mars?

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Venus square Mars!

posted January 30, 2019 09:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Venus square Mars!

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posted January 30, 2019 09:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Nadja:
I have no issue at all with being asexual and aromantic. I think other people make it more of an issue than I've ever felt it to be. So no, I don't perceive it as a flaw or anything... but it certainly makes me un-dateable!

Yes, I'm completely indifferent to sex as well as romance. I've never experienced any sexual or romantic attraction.

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Can we swop? What a relief that must be When younger, I thought i was asexual. But alas, its Sat in Scorpio that was slow to release.

When I turned 18. Thunder flash and lightening. Very very frightening.....

posted January 30, 2019 09:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
How undateable

Cap Uranus & Neptune conjunct DSC both opposing Sun in 12th H.

North Node in 7th H

Aqua Saturn in 8th H

Can't be more un-dateble than that

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Nah...seen worse.

North node in 7th pushes one to try and try again.Whilst Saturn in 8th wants you to master intimacy issues. You are driven by something bigger than choice. Its super consciousness of who tou really, really are.

I do think that Nep/Uranus conj the Dsc can be challenging. Commuting with others on a purely superficial level is exhausting emotionally.

Neptune tends to dig deep. Uranus loves novelty but is prone to "cut off" if it gets mundane. And with the added Sun in 12th, you dwell in the open-ended realm of possibilities. Being fine staying there.

All that is not an easy mix to find in anyone anywhere. So the mate eventually chosen will make most people(relatives) scratch their heads and ask "really? That's what you choose?".

posted January 30, 2019 12:00 PM            

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Originally posted by bluesky:
Despite moaning up a storm on one of the threads on this forum, I do not consider myself to be at all undateable. I can make conversation, give sex where there's reciprocal feeling, and be a good friend.

If I grumble a lot, it's usually in reaction to bad stuff happening (stuff happens, right?) which is beyond my control, and which would have happened regardless of my action or inaction.

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Couldn't agree more. I love your attitude

posted January 30, 2019 05:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Can we swop? What a relief that must be When younger, I thought i was asexual. But alas, its Sat in Scorpio that was slow to release.

When I turned 18. Thunder flash and lightening. Very very frightening.....

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No thanks! I see enough of the drama in some of my friends' love life (and for some strange reason they tend to come to me for advice) that I know I don't need none of that... Very very frightening indeed!! I'm 31 now so in all probability I'm safe.