posted October 27, 2018 09:20 PM            

I do find Sagittarius men, Aries men, and Aquarius men attractive but looking at those men in my life and also celebrity men with those types of placements...I honestly would never want to be in a relationship with any of them. Or marry any of them! I wouldn't even think of it. Not for a second.

I couldn't be with a man in active duty/active military either. I don't need that type of drama. I couldn't be with a man who was a politician or statesman either. Still too much drama. No athletes. Sweaty. Maybe I could be with a scholar but if that's all he does I'd get bored. My mutable love planets need more action in the daily life but not drama. I'd prefer to be in a relationship with someone who was more artsy, crafty and skilled, CLEAN, and humble. Which leads me to this point:

The men (in my personal life and also celebrities) I always envision myself marrying and having kids with and starting a long lasting family with have EARTH heavy in the chart. (Sometimes water too but typically only Scorpio and Pisces). They (Earth men) are also some of the most attractive men I've ever seen, in my experience. But my 7th house ruler doesn't really seem to match up with this. Is it the same for some of you?

Maybe it's my Capricorn placements screaming at me about how Sag men, Aries men, and Aqua men can all be extremely unreliable and unhelpful in relationships at times....and earth men are likely to be the exact opposite....

posted October 27, 2018 09:49 PM            

And about your question, I think it's the overall quality of the combined energy. Say if someone has an afflicted sun in Sag, the quality wouldn't feel Sag-like. But if say Mercury is in Sag and prominent in their chart, that Sag will come through perhaps the way you like it to be.

posted October 27, 2018 10:06 PM            

my mars is in capricorn (4th whole sign 3rd placidus) ive hooked up with capricorns but nothing long term we either get along or they dont like me because they think im an idiot and i think theyre boring

i have an easy time getting along with aries placements though i dont seem to have any lasting relationships with any aries suns

sometimes who you end up with isnt necessarily who you picture yourself with

in vedic if you look at the nakshatra the ruler of your 7th is in (so use sidereal placements) and it's supposed to describe your spouse

in my case it really does describe my fiancee so you might find that interesting

nakshatra really changes expression of a sign

this changes nothing for me in vedic everything just moves to pisces in mine but my fiancee's stuff does too so it matches up the same

@brenda_s

i don't disagree about a lot of virgos, especially ones who have mercury there with their suns

posted October 27, 2018 10:26 PM            

1st is by sign on the 7th house cusp
2nd is by the sign of the 7th house ruler
3th is by the location of the 7th house ruler
4th is by the sign of the house which naturally rules the 7th house ruler or the 7th house cusp
5th way is by an exact conjunction between the 7th house ruler and an outer planet in the native's natal chart. For example, if your 7th house ruler conjuncts Pluto in your chart by 0-1 degree, you will be drawn like a magnet to Scorpio or Plutonic partners, despite the sign of the ruler.

I will explain the 4th Way with an example with my sister. Her 7th house is in Capricorn. Saturn, the 7th house ruler, is in Pisces. Pisces naturally rules the 12th house of the zodiac. Her 12th house is in Cancer.
She fell in love with 2 Cancer men in her life, only two love partners in her life she had, and she married the second Cancer man, and married for life.
So, she attracted her partners by the 4th way.

Another example is Ben Affleck.
He attracts partners by the 3th Way:

He has Capricorn on his 7th house.
Saturn, his 7th house ruler is located in his 12th house in his natal chart. All his recent love partners - Jennifer Lopes, Jennifer Garner and the blonde he partnered with after garner Lindsay Shookus, all three of them were lured into his 12th house on top of his Saturn ( in Gemini). Garner and Shookus are both Sun and Venus in Gemini, lured into his 12th house by his Saturn, Jen Lopez had Venus in Gemini on top of his Saturn.

Jennifer Garner

Jennifer Lopez

posted October 27, 2018 10:33 PM            

look and see if you attract your partners by the 4th or the 5th way.

posted October 28, 2018 12:01 AM            

Fascinating.

posted October 28, 2018 12:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
Having to say that, Capricorncheriscty

look and see if you attract your partners by the 4th or the 5th way.

Your 7th house ruler is in Jupiter. Jupiter naturally rules the 9th house of the Zodiac. What sign do you have on your 9th house?

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My 4th house is Virgo ruled by Mercury in Capricorn in the 8th. I do love virgo men beyond crazy and I do love Capricorn and Scorpio men lol.

5th house ruler is Venus in Sagittarius in 6th and again, could never be with a Sagittarius long term. Losing my mind just thinking of it! But Venus in 6th, I do like Taurus and Virgo men of course. Libra men seem iffy to me (flighty and a bit rude/fake) but I do like them very much.

posted October 28, 2018 12:29 AM            

I would like him to be educated, scholarly even. Someone of worldly knowledge and open-minded. Someone who is very brave and not afraid of standing up for himself. Someone who is willing to protect me! Someone who can be quirky and flawed with me without caring about others opinions.

And the thing is, not every Sagittarius will be open minded and scholarly. Not every Aries is brave and combative. Not every Aquarius is quirky and flawed. So it makes sense that I prefer the actual essence of those signs rather than the actual signs in people themselves. I think.

posted October 28, 2018 01:20 AM            

I have Venus in 6th house. I'm able to be attracted and interested in Virgos, but I prefer Virgo energy to be limited to Sun in Virgo and/or Mercury in Virgo. However, Mercury in Virgo is better off between 0 and 20 degrees. Basically, being square to my Gemini Moon would be a pain for us both. All this being said, someone with a different Mercury sign is likely to be easier to talk to. It's interesting that my Venus is trine Jupiter in Virgo, because I'm dating a Virgo Sun.

posted October 28, 2018 01:40 AM            

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Originally posted by capricorncheriscty:
Brenda that's interesting. I think maybe I prefer the essence of the 7th house ruler, than the actual signs. So, my Jupiter is in Aries in the 11th and I know I couldn't be with any of those three signs. But I would definitely like someone who portrayed those essences, without actually being the sign if that makes sense.

I would like him to be educated, scholarly even. Someone of worldly knowledge and open-minded. Someone who is very brave and not afraid of standing up for himself. Someone who is willing to protect me! Someone who can be quirky and flawed with me without caring about others opinions.

And the thing is, not every Sagittarius will be open minded and scholarly. Not every Aries is brave and combative. Not every Aquarius is quirky and flawed. So it makes sense that I prefer the actual essence of those signs rather than the actual signs in people themselves. I think.

Actually one of the guys I was most serious about had Mars-Uranus in 9th house (reflecting my Jupiter in Aries in 11th)!

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That is interesting. I remember racking my brain, trying to figure out where exactly it starts making sense.

Dunno it just hit me when... say someone loves croissants... In their brain, they have a certain feel for what croissants should taste like. And if they taste one that doesn't match it, well do they not like croissants anymore? Not necessarily, it's just not in line with their perception of it.

Same thing, your Jupiter is probably different than my Jupiter, although it both rules our marriage house. You need to check the sign, house and planets that make aspects to it. That'll be the flavor partner you'd like.

And again, that overall flavor needs to be integrated well in that other person's chart too. Cuz if they are Martian by nature but kill people (weird example lol) it's probably not the type of 'Arian' nature you're looking for. Unless of course that would be prominent in your chart and the aspects made to your Jupiter.

posted October 28, 2018 05:27 AM            

You may have a desire to explore all that life has to offer from a very broad(all encompassing) perspective. And the partner or ideal marriage candidate, brings this ability to do that at your front door.

They could be well travelled, well educated, people who are well informed, insightful, bilingual, have eclectic views, are from a foreign country but able to relate to you etc.

Suffice it to say,the partner is likely very engaging and vivacious. The type who hardly ever says "I don't know". Nor will be the type to keep their opinions to themselves .lol.

The latter will change of course if the ruler of the 7th is in the 12th. Or Jupiter is aspected by Neptune etc. In that case, they may be the type who are sensitive to other's impressions and are not likely to speak " off the cuff" most times.

posted October 28, 2018 05:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Jupiter ruling the 7th could suggest a partner that will expand your worldview considerably from the one that you have currently.

You may have a desire to explore all that life has to offer from a very broad(all encompassing) perspective. And the partner or ideal marriage candidate, brings this ability to do that at your front door.

They could be well travelled, well aducated, people who are well informed Lt insightful, bilingual, have eclectic views, are from a foreign country but able to relate to you etc.

Suffice it to say,the partner is likely very engaging and vivacious. The type who hardly ever says "I don't know". Nor will be the type to keep their opinions to themselves .lol.

The latter will change of course if the ruler of the 7th is in the 12th. Or Jupiter is aspected by Neptune etc. In that case, they may be the type who are sensitive to other's impressions and are not likely to speak " off the cuff" most times.

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posted October 28, 2018 02:40 PM            

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Originally posted by kirki:
7th house cusp in gemini,my mercury is also in gemini and i dont like gemini types,especially people with moon in gemini cause me stress with their constant blabla.So in my case 7 house ruler doesnt represent the type of people i like as partners.Which is weird since my venus is also in gemini and mercury is strong in my chart.

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posted October 28, 2018 02:50 PM            

I see it just like you. I also haven’t dated many people of my DSC sign or my Venus/Mars sign. If any at all.
My Dsc is in Taurus. My Venus/Mars conj is in Aries. Haven’t met a Taurus or Aries Sun individual, I particularly liked.

I’m still attracted to the qualities of these signs, though!
I like men who are brave, and spontaneous, sometimes risky. I like it to be swept off my feet.
At the same time I crave stability. Someone who’s hands on,.. who gets the job done. Whose words have meaning! I find flighty, effeminate men rather unattractive.. although I’ve had some of those, too. Not my cup of tea, in the long run.

posted October 28, 2018 04:44 PM            

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Originally posted by kirki:
Mercury is at the end of 5th house,conjucts south node and juno,trine pluto which is in 9th,inconjucts uranus in 10th.Also i have moon ,mars and jupiter in 3rd house,but simply geminis are not my type so far.

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Once heard that the natural house ruler of where your Mars is at are generally the type of people you have a Martian connection with/don't particularly like. For me it certainly makes sense, never understood why Taurean's are too heavy and sensual/materialistic for me when I myself am one.

posted October 28, 2018 05:23 PM            

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Originally posted by kirki:
I have mars conjucts moon,if that matters,but its in pisces ,and though it doesnt aspect mercury,maybe plays a role .Anyway i dont like pisces either...

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posted October 29, 2018 03:23 PM            

I noticed that her Dsc is Leo and her DSC ruler(Sun) is conjunct Saturn. So I was really thrown. I though Cap men were her style.

But then her man's Moon is conjunct Saturn. And Saturn also squares his Scorpio Mars widely. So he has those "Cap/Saturn" qualities that she is looking for.