posted August 05, 2019 10:05 PM            

There is a Libra in my orbit. He is charming, I really like talking to him and being in his company. However, I don't believe I've ever given him the eye or impression I wanted to take things to the romantic.

Lately, he's done some things that registered as games. Innuendo and things like that. This all caught me by surprise as I thought he was taken, just friendly, not interested in me. I honestly thought he was a friendly guy who gets alone with everyone. Now I don't know.

posted August 05, 2019 10:16 PM            

i'm not sure why i do it either, it's just a compulsion

if i'm comfortable and they're responsive or they take it further first then i'll take it pretty far, but it's not even necessarily serious. like i said i can't even tell you why i do it, it just happens

posted August 06, 2019 12:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i have libra venus conjunct libra ascendant (2 degrees) and i just kind of flirt with almost everyone even people i don't like

i'm not sure why i do it either, it's just a compulsion

if i'm comfortable and they're responsive or they take it further first then i'll take it pretty far, but it's not even necessarily serious. like i said i can't even tell you why i do it, it just happens

tbh sometimes while i'm doing it i'm thinking "what's wrong with you stop it"

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posted August 06, 2019 12:57 AM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Libras flirt all the time tho, hard to tell really,

But honestly the only thing that stood out( among the things she did) when the Libra chick was interested in me was rubbing her neck...

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uhhhh yes If I am rubbing my neck or my chest above the cleavage area or biting my lips hahaha it means I want you bad! and it will probably also mean I have this look in my eyes hahaha

posted August 06, 2019 01:50 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
hahahahahaha

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nah it actually legit makes me feel like a terrible person sometimes or wonder what's wrong me, it's very compulsive

i don't always catch but when i do and i'm actively thinking to myself that i don't even want to be doing that and keep going anyway it's kind of terrible

it makes me feel guilty sometimes if i can tell the other person likes me and thinks it's more than it is but i do it anyway

posted August 06, 2019 11:46 AM            

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Originally posted by EmGem:
If he’s playing games he’s probs a libra/Scorpio

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Yes. He has Venus and Mars in Scorpio.

posted August 06, 2019 11:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
nah it actually legit makes me feel like a terrible person sometimes or wonder what's wrong me, it's very compulsive

i don't always catch but when i do and i'm actively thinking to myself that i don't even want to be doing that and keep going anyway it's kind of terrible

it makes me feel guilty sometimes if i can tell the other person likes me and thinks it's more than it is but i do it anyway

it's kind of ****** up

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I feel you man! There are things about me that irritate me that I am that way bc it makes my life more complicated so I know how that feels to be annoyed with one self.

posted August 06, 2019 12:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Yes. He has Venus and Mars in Scorpio.

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Is not that he is playing games, that is not fair. My husband has sun in libra and mars in scorpio and he never played games with me, at first he was doing this libra thing of not making up his mind but boy once he did my god he really is stuck in wanting to be with me and its been 12 years, only wants me, won't let go.

Now venus in scorpio is freaking complicated, they are super scared of getting attached so it can take forever to get to the next level with them so it can feel like they are playing games and yes it can be frustrating but they are just super scared and have issues, is not personal at all or intentional to play with your feelings.

posted August 06, 2019 12:27 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I feel you man! There are things about me that irritate me that I am that way bc it makes my life more complicated so I know how that feels to be annoyed with one self.

I think you been aware is a huge first step in breaking that compulsion or at least in reducing in frequency how often you fall into that compulsive trap. Like get curious! were does this need to flirt even when I don't want to comes from? What is my earliest memory of doing this? Why did I start doing it? How did it help me then to be this way?

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i'll do it while actively being aware and wanting to stop, though i did remove myself from a situation where i was recently doing that because i know the other person has some level of feelings and it felt ****** up

some of it just me responding to the other person's energy, i can feel where they're at and it just ends up going that way even when i don't mean for it too

i'm not sure how long i've done it, i used to get accused of flirting with people without even realizing it all the time and it being a somewhat conscious thing it's definitely been years

i used to do it sometimes just because it made my life easier on some level, but i think over the years i just stopped knowing how to interact without that and i also do it when i'm uncomfortable

posted August 06, 2019 12:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
How to tell if a Libra guy is honestly flirting with you, being polite, or just playing games? What are the signs?

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Unless various aspects say otherwise, I have never known Libra to pass up on an opportunity to become someone's object of attention.

The ones I know tend to quite assertive when it comes to pursuing someone. Many times same time, same place( that is before the momentum wears off).

Has he made advances to suggest he may be looking for "more"? Solar 7th house cusp in Aries, Libra tends to jump in when liking someone. Its getting the momentum to be consistent that is more problematic

With solar 5th house cusp in Aqua, "love at first sight" happens quite a lot for these folks. Venus ruling their Sun makes being around all that is love/ beauty a central theme in their lives.

posted August 06, 2019 01:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i'll do it while actively being aware and wanting to stop, though i did remove myself from a situation where i was recently doing that because i know the other person has some level of feelings and it felt ****** up

some of it just me responding to the other person's energy, i can feel where they're at and it just ends up going that way even when i don't mean for it too

i'm not sure how long i've done it, i used to get accused of flirting with people without even realizing it all the time and it being a somewhat conscious thing it's definitely been years

i used to do it sometimes just because it made my life easier on some level, but i think over the years i just stopped knowing how to interact without that and i also do it when i'm uncomfortable

lot of reasons i guess

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hahahahah Dumuzi is a tease!

posted August 06, 2019 07:28 PM            

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Has he made advances to suggest he may be looking for "more"? Solar 7th house cusp in Aries, Libra tends to jump in when liking someone. Its getting the momentum to be consistent that is more problematic

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I can't say he has made any advances, just sending a weird frequency in my direction.

So, we belong to the same social group. Usually we go eating as a squad. One day the two of us were left behind, we're walking in sync, he hesitates, I gave him a look as in - come on lets go, I'm waiting for you. Next day he hurries out ahead of me, whips out his phone and starts to talk. I figured he's trying to send me a polite message. So I decided to pull back and give him space. This is when things get confusing. Being familiar with Scorpio energy, I'd say he may like me but wants me to chase him. So he's playing these games to see if I will bite.

Truthfully, his behavior is something I've observed with Venus in Scorpio. It annoys me and is part of the reason I struggle with this placement. The insecurity, and need to be pursued. That and the inability to let go.

posted August 06, 2019 11:25 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
hahahahah Dumuzi is a tease!

Its okay Dumuzi we still love you anyways. Have some compassion for yourself and keep trying to work through this

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i am yeah unintentionally but it does make me feel bad because i tend to get people who develop really heavy feelings really quick (i draw in a lot of pluto and scorpio and water in general) it's just a bad combination

posted August 07, 2019 01:38 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i have libra venus conjunct libra ascendant (2 degrees) and i just kind of flirt with almost everyone even people i don't like

i'm not sure why i do it either, it's just a compulsion

if i'm comfortable and they're responsive or they take it further first then i'll take it pretty far, but it's not even necessarily serious. like i said i can't even tell you why i do it, it just happens

tbh sometimes while i'm doing it i'm thinking "what's wrong with you stop it"

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Same placement, same issue!

I think if ever a ninja broke into my house, instead of challenging them to a duel I'd just flirt them into not taking anything or killing anyone...

It's like flirting is the go-to solve all.

posted August 07, 2019 03:10 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
I can't say he has made any advances, just sending a weird frequency in my direction.

So, we belong to the same social group. Usually we go eating as a squad. One day the two of us were left behind, we're walking in sync, he hesitates, I gave him a look as in - come on lets go, I'm waiting for you. Next day he hurries out ahead of me, whips out his phone and starts to talk. I figured he's trying to send me a polite message. So I decided to pull back and give him space. This is when things get confusing. Being familiar with Scorpio energy, I'd say he may like me but wants me to chase him. So he's playing these games to see if I will bite.

Truthfully, his behavior is something I've observed with Venus in Scorpio. It annoys me and is part of the reason I struggle with this placement. The insecurity, and need to be pursued. That and the inability to let go.

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Oh yes, the dreaded Scorpio Venus male. So cryptic.

Tbh, I have this Venus placement and I have no idea that I come across "cryptic" to others. One thing to note is that Venus is the attractor and when in water, it tends to show others how "gentle", "understanding" and "non threatening" they are. Well, atleast I do.

They also however can read body language/energy of the other person more carefully than what the person says with words.

And in his case with the added Mars/Pluto ruled Scorpio, he digs to read what lies beneath. And may in consequence imagine the "worst" BEFORE he even finds it(if at all).

I read he has Venus/Mars conjunct in Scorpio. He may like chasing. This can show someone whom is an active pursuer.Look to the Moon to gauge the inner nature.

The Libra /Venus Scorpio ex I had a fling with had Sag Moon/Leo Mars. And in my experience, people with Moon/Venus in Aries, Moon/Mars or Venus/Mars tend be emotionally "brave" and bear feelings openly

DMX(rapper)also has Venus/Mars conjunct in Scorpio.Have you watched his interviews? He is always my reference point for Venus/Mars in Scorpio conjunct as he is all up in his feelings.This even with Moon in analytical Virgo.

The problem however with the above mentioned people is "approach". Some of them don't know how to reveal Venus without defensive Mars concealing the feelings and confusing the object of interest. It takes some maturity on their end(granted).

Mars on Venus or Mars on Moon(even Mars on Sun tbh) may fear rejection and therefore act in defense of its "possibility"(nevermind its presence). So just let him come to you & stay consistent.

If you really cant wait,u can approach him & tell him how you feel.I do this & admittedly it may be different for women but its very empowering once you get over the fear of being "forward".

It will disarm a lot of walls and make the other person respect you. But you have to do it in a private setting ie. one on one etc. Water energy will appreciate that.

posted August 07, 2019 03:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
Same placement, same issue!

I think if ever a ninja broke into my house, instead of challenging them to a duel I'd just flirt them into not taking anything or killing anyone...

It's like flirting is the go-to solve all.

Other times I'm like "idgaf"... which is normal I guess lol

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yeah it's my go to too just don't know what to and a situation is bad, flirt

it makes life easy in some ways but then not at all in others, but i'll take it really far if the other person does

posted August 31, 2019 06:04 PM            

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If you really cant wait, u can approach him & tell him how you feel.

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He's the one fliritng with me. We belong to the same social circle, and I have unresolved feelings for two other members of that group. A third, where there is uncertainty, will be too much for my Taurus Venus.

I really liked him as a friend. It's sad that things are moving in this direction. Also, I'm not big of hard rejections.

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I do this & admittedly it may be different for women but its very empowering once you get over the fear of being "forward".

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