posted February 22, 2022 12:27 AM            

Something that can make me frustrated sometimes is when a partner does not ever want to spice things up in the bedroom. Like I get that certain things can really work for people. But I wonder if it is normal how much it can annoy me when a partner just is always fine having it the same way doing the same thing.

Aquarius mars I've read strives to be unpredictable. They can also enjoy being shocking. So when I think about what I do and don't like sometimes I think about my Aquarius Mars.

Having too much predictable sex can start to peeve me after a while. In the past I expressed being upset for being the one who always initiated. The pros though...he was open to me about his fantasies. And we've had it in some unconventional places.

Husband gets credit for shocking me when he was seducing me. He is good at dirty talk when he wants to be. And he would say some shocking things to me, that I did not even know I was into until that moment. New positions and stunts.
Well part of me blames myself for being so passive for years...and not wanting to honest and hurt his ego thinking that he would never want it if I was ever mildly critical.
He was not picking up on my hints. And it really wasn't a hint. I've made conversations about how always doing the same stunts REALLY bugs me after a while. I let him know this early into dating. He did not really seem to put two and two together that hey we have been doing the same stuff for quite some time and I've been getting more annoyed bored and frustrated to the point were feeling this way is a rapid boil now.

He did realize he should want to be proactive until I am so blunt and b!+(hy and have to brutally say how fed up bored and unsatisfied I've been.

I know some of his fantasies. But revaluating since we have been together for quite some time. When I try to get him to open up more he will just say he wants to do something that I already have been doing. You think I would be flattered, but it makes me ****** when I have clapped out how flippin bored I've been.

So I've been taking charge more something I was afraid of doing for so many years for so many reasons, but it has spiced things up.

posted February 24, 2022 08:30 PM            

When you're looking into each other's eyes and melding minds and hearts, then the exact position, technique, etc, etc doesn't really matter as much.

I think what you're missing, is less the experimentation and switching it up, and more that deeper psychic-emotional intimacy, but I could be wrong. Many women crave more of this in sex and many guys are kind of clueless to it. And a guy can be a decent lover technique wise, and still be somewhat clueless to this deeper level, because it is more of an energetic, subtle thing.

With that said, I also know that for most of us, sometimes the body takes over and we just want to to have physical sex and get off. And that's fine too, though I don't think should be the main/primary focus.

I dunno, perhaps I'm being too Pisces on the 8th, Sag Neptune in the 5th, and Jupiter in the 1st conjunct Mars and Mars square Neptune with all this Tantra type stuff and the like. But the above is my ideal kind of sex and so hard to find a partner that can match me in this. My twin soul comes closest, but its not quite to the depth that I would like.