posted September 18, 2024 07:58 PM            

As a child he was diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, and autistic traits and a high IQ but I learned this way later in the relationship and did not look into it as I am very familiar with adhd and anxiety but not autism and figured since they just said he had autistic traits that it was not important. He is definitely in the spectrum, autism explains his behaviors and issues even better than ADHD and anxiety although he also has those two things but I would say autism is the primary diagnosis. Is common for auspies to be mislabeled as narcissists it turns out...

Anyhoo....
I seem to be attracted to people in the spectrum and weirdly a lot of my favorite movies are romantic movies of people in the spectrum, I can't believe I was watching those movies while married to him and it did not hit me then.

I am wondering what aspects in the natal chart could account for this in your experience.

I believe my current partner is also in the spectrum or at least has autistic tendencies in addition to ADD and anxiety, panic attack disorder and substance use disorder. He is doing good right now.

posted September 18, 2024 11:13 PM            

For me, Autism always was related to Mercury and Uranus. In fact, yes a fact! The first person ever to be diagnosed with Autism was a Sun in Virgo/Virgo! A Mercury ruled sign!

Check if Venus is in any trines/aspects to Uranus, and/or Mercury. Then search any 3rd and/or 11th house if you have any.

posted September 19, 2024 09:29 AM            

I was initially diagnosed with ADHD when I was younger, followed by more tests to which I was officially diagnosed as ASD.

If you saw me in person you probably wouldn't know, until you realize that I really have a knack of doing things and figuring it out on my own.

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Originally posted by hypatia238:

Anyhoo....
I seem to be attracted to people in the spectrum and weirdly a lot of my favorite movies are romantic movies of people in the spectrum, I can't believe I was watching those movies while married to him and it did not hit me then.

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Wonder if you've watched Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close (2011).

Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close (2011) Trailer HD:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgp8rR2fykU

Some people understand Oscar some just seeing him as annoying?

And of course House, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORcvDVo1TgA

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Originally posted by hypatia238:

I believe I have DC in Cancer and Moon in Pisces opposite mercury rx. This tends to put me in codependant relationships were I feel I am the parent helping partner get ahead in life and "function better" in the world but does it explain why am attracted to people on the spectrum? I am neurodivergent myself with autistic tendencies but NOT in the spectrum is the sense I get from the assessment I took so far and the results.

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I know it's a non astrology answer, more of an ASD answer. perhaps you see people with the same interest as you and sorta want to help them out?

posted September 19, 2024 10:17 AM            

I am neurotypical and don’t have ADHD or anything else. I was working with a therapist for a long time so I’m sure about it.

posted September 19, 2024 01:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
I’ve heard Jupiter is associated with autism and Uranus with ADHD. In reality, it should be more than one planet.

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Idk, My Jupiter is sextile Uranus, nothing to major.

Here's my natal chart http://ibb.co/ySLxq9V

posted September 19, 2024 02:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Preppyarcher7989Wiff:
I'm not formally diagnosed, but I am about 94% sure that I am on the spectrum.

For me, Autism always was related to Mercury and Uranus. In fact, yes a fact! The first person ever to be diagnosed with Autism was a Sun in Virgo/Virgo! A Mercury ruled sign!

Check if Venus is in any trines/aspects to Uranus, and/or Mercury. Then search any 3rd and/or 11th house if you have any.

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Uhh interesting fact..

Very helpful information, thanks.

My ex his chart ruler is venus and it squares his MARS conjunct Uranus which fall right on his DC.

His mercury quintiles his northnode, sextiles his venus and trines his moon.

In this case the chart ruler in hard aspect to Uranus with Uranus on his DC angle explains it more but the mercury quintile northnode and sextile venus can explain his special interests and creative drive.

My current partner I also feel is in the spectrum which is how I came to realize all this...
His chart ruler is MARS in virgo conjunct VENUS in virgo and he has MARS in virgo conjunct VENUS squaring JUPITER conjunct URANUS.

His mercury is in libra conjunct PLUTO on his DC angle and forms a YOD with his MOON and NEPTUNE, he has moon in Taurus at the apex of the YOD. The way his brain works is very interesting, he definitely has racing thoughts were one thing just leads another and the questions that pop up just keep coming and spiraling and he has intrusive thoughts and is a numbers guy, feels like he has a calculator in there working all the time sometimes.

My good friend Andrew that I have known since my early 20s I feel is in the spectrum. He is aquarius, He has Uranus conjunct his Ascendant, and his chart ruler is JUPITER in aquarius at aries point and it squares his MOON conjunct PLUTO. His mercury conjuncts his antivertex and sextiles Uranus.

posted September 19, 2024 02:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Preppyarcher7989Wiff:
I'm not formally diagnosed, but I am about 94% sure that I am on the spectrum.

For me, Autism always was related to Mercury and Uranus. In fact, yes a fact! The first person ever to be diagnosed with Autism was a Sun in Virgo/Virgo! A Mercury ruled sign!

Check if Venus is in any trines/aspects to Uranus, and/or Mercury. Then search any 3rd and/or 11th house if you have any.

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posted September 19, 2024 02:22 PM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
Idk, My Jupiter is sextile Uranus, nothing to major.

Here's my natal chart http://ibb.co/ySLxq9V

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You have Jupiter in 1st sq. MC and making t-square with Saturn Nodes. Saturn might be a chart ruler. Also, you have Mystic rectangular and couple t-squares. Neptune is making aspect to all personal placements. Sun combust Mercury opp. Uranus. There’s a lot to unfold.

posted September 19, 2024 02:55 PM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
Without a doubt there is a strong Mercurial aspect to it.

I was initially diagnosed with ADHD when I was younger, followed by more tests to which I was officially diagnosed as ASD.

If you saw me in person you probably wouldn't know, until you realize that I really have a knack of doing things and figuring it out on my own.

I know it's a non astrology answer, more of an ASD answer. perhaps you see people with the same interest as you and sorta want to help them out?

My Planets
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☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ¡÷ ♉, ¡ö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑

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That movie looks great, getting teary already just watching the trailer! thank you, I am totally going to watch it this week

House is one of my favorite shows, I should rewatch it actually, didn't realize he was in the spectrum but it makes sense, I have always appreciated his bluntness and disregard for authority. I watched that show with my ex actually.

I like people who are different and do their own thing but not in the look at my hair is purple kind of way; more like the way they are and carry themselves, people who don't care what others think of them, house is a good example actually, it just never occurred to me that I was without realizing it picking life partners that are in the spectrum.

Mercury RX opposes my DC ruler Moon in pisces which both square my nodes. JUNO parallels exact my MERCURY RX so it could be JUNO.

JUNO parallel Mercury rx also parallels my PLUTO and I believe my chart ruler is saturn in scorpio conjunct pluto in libra. I form intense deep bonds with these folks in the spectrum and have some tendencies myself so there is enough tendencies in myself that I see some of myself in them and hence we end up together.

Interesting mercury rx opposite my dc ruler is part of my skipped step and that it parallels JUNO and PLUTO and PLUTO conjuncts my chart ruler.

posted September 19, 2024 03:06 PM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
Idk, My Jupiter is sextile Uranus, nothing to major.

Here's my natal chart http://ibb.co/ySLxq9V

My Planets
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☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ¡÷ ♉, ¡ö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑

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posted September 19, 2024 03:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
I started to suspect the same. Also, I might be myself neurodivergent. DC ruler aspect Uranus or Neptune. Jupiter is possibly on MC-DC.

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I could see that, I shared an assessment here that can help you explore that more...

Thanks for sharing about Jupiter and Uranus.

I do have mercury rx parallel juno and opposing my dc ruler but my JUNO is inconjunct jupiter conjunct uranus so again it may be more connected to my JUNO the marriage partners I pick being on the spectrum, these are people I move in with or marry etc..

JUNO parallel MERCURY RX EXACT
JUNO quincux/inconjunct URANUS conjunct JUPITER all at 5 degrees.

posted September 19, 2024 03:19 PM            

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Originally posted by frida:
Quick post now and maybe more later… I am curious about this too. I thought about it but don’t really have an answer. Two very significant men in my life were on the spectrum and another one had ADHD. I lived with 2 of them - one on the spectrum and the one with ADHD. I have Mercury (conj Sun) in Aquarius on my Descendant, square Uranus! Also trine Pluto and sextile Neptune.

I am neurotypical and don’t have ADHD or anything else. I was working with a therapist for a long time so I’m sure about it.

However, I don’t really know what would indicate them being on the spectrum. Nothing stands out for me in their charts.

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Thank you so much Frida for sharing! this is very helpful. It fits the aquarius placements in the 7th squaring uranus

posted September 19, 2024 03:45 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Love you all! thanks for joining and participating, its nice to reconnect with you all.

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I just hope you found the answer to what you were looking for.

Wishing you that Eureka moment!!!
Also Happy Birthday, I believe it's in about 2 days from now.

@Librapurr and hypatia238.

Thanks for having a look at my chart and sharing your observations.

posted September 19, 2024 09:36 PM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
Very interesting topic. From what I read, autism has mostly to do with communication and repetitive behavior, and avoiding social interactions, so if you find yourself attracted to people like that, it could come from the DC ruler in a simultaneous aspect with Mercury and Saturn. Does that resonate with any of you?

I would assume also any difficult aspect between the Moon, Jupiter and Mercury especially if restricted by Saturn or falling in Capricorn.

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posted September 20, 2024 12:07 AM            

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Originally posted by frida:
Autism spectrum is much much more... many times brilliant people, innocent approach to life, various sensitivities to light and sounds etc. It gets complicated... e.g. someone with a lot of Neptune/Pisces influence might be attracted to a person on the spectrum because they share the sensitivity to the environment.

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Good follow up, I did not know how to respond to her post.

The three people I talk about on this post are so different, it is indeed a complicated topic. There is the sensory stuff which can impact intimacy, even hugging too long or caressing the person repetitively can be overly stimulating, for one of them hugging too long at times felt overly stimulating, for another being caressed a certain way or in a repetitive manner was overly stimulating, for my friend he has to wear ear plugs at times. All three of them are sensitive to sound.

Some of them can get really triggered by others disrupting their routine or the way they function, I remember my ex having a melt down bc I bought a blanket and then he ended up liking it but me disrupting his routine by introducing something to the home without him knowing about it and choosing it himself gave him a melt down, that incident makes so much sense now but my current partner also on the spectrum would not give a F about that yet he has a thing with time and certain things being done at a certain time always like walking the dog, it needs to happen at certain times or he gets super anxious, uncomfortable and very distressed yet my dog lets me know when she needs to go and I am comfortable being a bit flexible with this and working with more of a range. Its hard to explain that there is a criteria but it can also manifest very differently from person to person.

Also some people in the spectrum can be socially motivated and engage in masking to have a social life. Is just that they can struggle with social situations and not understand the back and forth that needs to take place in conversations and once they start talking about something that interests them they may not be able to stop making them seem self absorbed and often they like to talk only about the things that interests them. It indeed gets complicated...

posted September 20, 2024 12:13 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
I just hope you found the answer to what you were looking for.

Wishing you that Eureka moment!!!
Also Happy Birthday, I believe it's in about 2 days from now.

@Librapurr and hypatia238.

Thanks for having a look at my chart and sharing your observations.

My Planets
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☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ¡÷ ♉, ¡ö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑

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awwwww Thanks DualGem.....it is in two days!

posted September 20, 2024 12:19 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
Very interesting topic. From what I read, autism has mostly to do with communication and repetitive behavior, and avoiding social interactions, so if you find yourself attracted to people like that, it could come from the DC ruler in a simultaneous aspect with Mercury and Saturn. Does that resonate with any of you?

I would assume also any difficult aspect between the Moon, Jupiter and Mercury especially if restricted by Saturn or falling in Capricorn.

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posted September 20, 2024 12:29 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
Very interesting topic. From what I read, autism has mostly to do with communication and repetitive behavior, and avoiding social interactions, so if you find yourself attracted to people like that, it could come from the DC ruler in a simultaneous aspect with Mercury and Saturn. Does that resonate with any of you?

I would assume also any difficult aspect between the Moon, Jupiter and Mercury especially if restricted by Saturn or falling in Capricorn.

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Those are general characteristics but it's not diagnostic someone may not display any of that and still be on the spectrum.

When I was I was younger, I was shy to look at people eye to eye.

posted September 20, 2024 12:53 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Good follow up, I did not know how to respond to her post.

The three people I talk about on this post are so different, it is indeed a complicated topic. There is the sensory stuff which can impact intimacy, even hugging too long or caressing the person repetitively can be overly stimulating, for one of them hugging too long at times felt overly stimulating, for another being caressed a certain way or in a repetitive manner was overly stimulating, for my friend he has to wear ear plugs at times. All three of them are sensitive to sound.

Some of them can get really triggered by others disrupting their routine or the way they function, I remember my ex having a melt down bc I bought a blanket and then he ended up liking it but me disrupting his routine by introducing something to the home without him knowing about it and choosing it himself gave him a melt down, that incident makes so much sense now but my current partner also on the spectrum would not give a F about that yet he has a thing with time and certain things being done at a certain time always like walking the dog, it needs to happen at certain times or he gets super anxious, uncomfortable and very distressed yet my dog lets me know when she needs to go and I am comfortable being a bit flexible with this and working with more of a range. Its hard to explain that there is a criteria but it can also manifest very differently from person to person.

Also some people in the spectrum can be socially motivated and engage in masking to have a social life. Is just that they can struggle with social situations and not understand the back and forth that needs to take place in conversations and once they start talking about something that interests them they may not be able to stop making them seem self absorbed and often they like to talk only about the things that interests them. It indeed gets complicated...

I have a strong neptune influence in my chart, neptune conjunct my Ascendant from the 12th and it squares my Sun and Moon so I don't like overly stimulating environments and if I put myself through that I need to recharge for a while or if I socialize to much I start to get cranky and need alone time bc it feels overly stimulating but I still need connection and benefit from socializing periodically but don't do it regularly specially as my job is very social. I don't think I am in the spectrum but that is definitely one of the ways I have autistic tendencies.

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My family would say almost the same things.

The only thing I do differently, I make it clear what is the one major thing I don't want impacted or changed.

Like, I keep the temperature in my home at 22 Deg Celsius/ 72 Fahrenheit year round, during both the Summer and Winter. I make it clear not to change the thermostat.

If someone changes it I will get peeved, but it's not like I didn't worn the person first.

Ironically, one time I was tasked with grocery shopping for my sisters three kids.

I think I drove her nuts making sure everything was correct, even to the point of asking if having Count Cholula on the cereal box is okay.

posted September 21, 2024 11:50 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Juno opposes my Saturn.
Juno parallels my Mercury Rx and PLUTO.
Juno inconjuncts Jupiter conjunct Uranus.

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Any aspect between DC or MC ruler to Mercury for you?
Without Mercury in play I doubt we could find an astrological correlation with regards to your question, because of most famous examples of autism having Mercury/Saturn, hence the communication issues. Unless your exes had indeed narcissistic traits and not autism.

My childhood best friend could fit those descriptions. She was smart but had dyslexia and avoided human contact. Her mercury conjunct Saturn in Cap. In her personal life she pursued a guy knowing he didn't love her, just to get to a specific position. Once she did, she divorced him within a few years. I thought she was at times selfish in friendships too. I remember there was a time I decided I didn't want to be friends with her, due to her manipulative behavior, and she subtly threatened she would leave that school, so I would never see her again! As we grew older, she always texted me to go over to her place even though I was busy, and then when I had a party or something she would say something along the lines of oh it's the birthday party of my other friends. Then she would meet me the next day and spend the whole time talking behind their back.

As kids we bonded over nerdy stuff, books, astronomy, video games. I would help her with her studies too. And the over time she turned into quite a negative person.

Anyway not to get sidetracked but these are her placements:

Aqua Sun and rising
Virgo moon
Cap mercury
Gemini mars
I forgot her venus sign