posted January 13, 2025 06:26 AM            

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Originally posted by frida:
I hope you fall in love with a right person 😊💥

I lasted 2 days on Hinge before I started feeling awful and deleted the account.

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😂...thanks. It all "Hinges" (🙃 on whether or not I meet the right person anywhere. Preferably physically.

posted January 13, 2025 06:47 AM            

I felt attacked, embarrassed and ashamed. And it came from the Father(Sun).A super low blow. But today(luckily) I felt better.

When things affect me that deeply, I usually can't sleep properly . Or I dream about them. And this was the case here.

Note to self in 2025: DO not care for others' opinions. Even if those people are "family".😩☝🏿

posted January 13, 2025 07:21 PM            

I don't know what is happening with people, but I think censorship and accusations went way too far!!! I feel like there's no free speech anymore - people get offended for reading between the lines things that are not even there and then attack you. I felt it on my skin today and yesterday. It's so twisted. Oppression in the name of freedom. The scary thing is at some point a lot of people will become fed up. We humans are the same predators we were 50, 100, 500 years ago.

Does anyone else struggle with this? I say what I think, respectfully. But it's so alienating.

I don't know where to go to find common sense and stability... I just keep listening to music and singing to keep some balance.

posted January 14, 2025 11:09 AM            

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Originally posted by frida:
I don't know why people remain single... are we all so disconnected and too individualistic and get offended too easily?

I don't know what is happening with people, but I think censorship and accusations went way too far!!! I feel like there's no free speech anymore - people get offended for reading betwee the lines things that are not even there and then attack you. I felt it on my skin today and yesterday. It's so twisted. Oppression in the name of freedom. The scary thing is at some point a lot of people will become fed up. We humans are the same predators we were 50, 100, 500 years ago.

Does anyone else struggle with this? I say what I think, respectfully. But it's so alienating.

I don't know where to go to find common sense and stability... I just keep listening to music and singing to keep some balance.

Transit Mars + Moon in my 11th house. The only aspect is sextile to my Pluto in 3rd. Transit Mercury square my Jupter+Saturn in 2nd and sextile natal Mars in 7th.

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posted January 14, 2025 04:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:

I�m about to start to talk to people like a customer service answering system to avoid problems. But probably not lol

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I think that's a great idea in some situations! Well, maybe not a system, but a customer representative. Respectful, detached, with a smile.

Mars Rx in Cancer, maybe... I couldn't focus, or sleep. Someone accused me of racism towards them because I said something that not even remotely had anything to do with... I mean, I feel disgust even talking about it. I was in shock. I feel like it's below me to even respond. My own family is mixed/biracial. I lived on two continents. I immersed myself into so many different cultures. And I have to continue interacting with this person. I stepped away from the situation. What's the point of saying anything.

But I agree, it's usually ego protection or blaming others. But using race for that purpose is so low. I think I maybe trigger insecure people (actually women, I rarely have issues with men) because I'm direct and don't embellish or fake anything.

posted January 15, 2025 12:28 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Wait, what are you talking about? Using race for what?

I can't remember what I was going to post. I have a headache.

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For projecting own issues onto someone else. I said something that applies both to me and this person that had nothing to do with race, but they somehow saw it as me being racist. I am a white, blonde woman. This says a lot about this person. It made me sad and speechless. Except I was not raised in the US, but elsewhere in a very poor family and know what oppression is, so I won�t take that BS from someone of different skin color born in more privileged circumstances in a prosperous country. And I have biracial family members who would find this absurd. This is not the first time unfortunately� but people see what they want to see.

Ok, I calmed down�

posted January 15, 2025 11:13 AM            

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Originally posted by frida:
For projecting own issues onto someone else. I said something that applies both to me and this person that had nothing to do with race, but they somehow saw it as me being racist. I am a white, blonde woman. This says a lot about this person. It made me sad and speechless. Except I was not raised in the US, but elsewhere in a very poor family and know what oppression is, so I won�t take that BS from someone of different skin color born in more privileged circumstances in a prosperous country. And I have biracial family members who would find this absurd. This is not the first time unfortunately� but people see what they want to see.

Ok, I calmed down�

I hope your headache gets better soon! Is vertigo gone?

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I always get alot of flack for being more of an observer type in society.

Most of the time I keep my thoughts and actions to myself, stay in the sidelines. If it's worth it, jump right into it otherwise it's just not worth it.

Here's my thoughts based on my current transits:

Mercury Square Moon
Jupiter Sextile Moon

This is what happens when you mix people with different value systems, people interpret/reason/process things differently, people are all stressed so things quickly escalate, and throw them all together.

Most people only see a perspective from "their world" only.

Ironically this is the reason why I don't drive during peak volumes and just use public transit.

Too many people taking that rage onto the road when they drive.

posted January 15, 2025 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
[b]@ DualGemV2 you sound like you are extremely sensitive to any forms of disorder

I am similar😶.I tend to avoid any kind of bottleneck situations. [/B]

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Sometimes I have a knack for interpreting bad things before they happen.

posted January 15, 2025 03:05 PM            

I just pray we soon shift focus on what makes us human and our common values, and forget about left and right, or we will be in big trouble.

posted January 15, 2025 03:24 PM            

I'm permanent so I don't have to worry about myself.

I park my work laptop on my desk and my personal laptop beside each other, then spend my day going back between the two.

I changed my opinion of my boss when he said to me were going to have to find some new roles for her and present it to the director, her contract is ending soon.

Glad he wants to try to extend her, instead of her losing her job. I think he's been through this too so he knows what it's like.

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Originally posted by frida:
Playing a victim is what it is, just a form of manipulation or avoidance. Nothing more dangerous than using race or ethnicity for that because it paralyzes or villainizes the other person completely.

I just pray we soon shift focus on what makes us human and our common values, and forget about left and right, or we will be in big trouble.

Transits today: Moon conjunct Moon in 12th, sextile Pluto, Saturn and Jupiter, trine Neptune, square Chiron, opposite Venus

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What you've described is more of the value system of how that person was raised.

If they've been raised to think this way into adulthood and it's never been corrected their way of reasoning is already set in stone and a part of their psyche!!!.

Not saying I agree with it, it's just that
unless your at a substantially loss because of this person it's not worth the effort bothering or escalating.

When you get people so deadset in their way of reasoning and it's engraved into their value and belief system.

You'll end up in an argument that will never end. People will go to war over it like in Ukraine. This is were we are in society today.

My Mercury square Moon transit puts that in perspective. Trying to balance logic while keeping a balance of emotion.

posted January 15, 2025 04:03 PM            

Mars retro Cancer definitely brings up deep resentment for those who hurt me in the past (and perhaps even those who still do).

Heightened emotions affect decision-making as one is triggered by emotional bias and a tendency to view things from an absolute point of view when feelings are involved.

I keep on playing scenarios in my head. This is a Cancer thing. Putting scenes together as if I am in a movie and reacting to them.

Most of the scenes involve me responding violently to offenders, confronting people who are wrongdoers and fiercely righting "wrongs" committed.

I am internally extremely angry. Both from a personal as well as an impersonal perspective. In that even perceived injustices that have nothing to do with me, make me mad.

If this is how I feel (already). How much more will these feelings be when Moon(ruler of my 4th) is conjunct transiting retro Mars in Cancer?😶

Trans retro Ura 23Tau is also inconjunct natal Jup 23Sag(ruler of 12th and 9th) and on the cusp of house 2.

There is also this crisis of faith/belief that is surfacing. Something indescribable but palpable. It has not manifested fully. But there is building resistance to known beliefs.

posted January 15, 2025 04:32 PM            

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Originally posted by frida:
For projecting own issues onto someone else. I said something that applies both to me and this person that had nothing to do with race, but they somehow saw it as me being racist. I am a white, blonde woman. This says a lot about this person. It made me sad and speechless. Except I was not raised in the US, but elsewhere in a very poor family and know what oppression is, so I won�t take that BS from someone of different skin color born in more privileged circumstances in a prosperous country. And I have biracial family members who would find this absurd. This is not the first time unfortunately� but people see what they want to see.

Ok, I calmed down�

I hope your headache gets better soon! Is vertigo gone?

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Thank you. I'm still dealing with dizziness. When I lean my head back, or to the right side. If I lean over too far forward.

posted January 15, 2025 04:33 PM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:

I always get alot of flack for being more of an observer type in society.

Most of the time I keep my thoughts and actions to myself, stay in the sidelines. If it's worth it, jump right into it otherwise it's just not worth it.

Here's my thoughts based on my current transits:

Mercury Square Moon
Jupiter Sextile Moon

This is what happens when you mix people with different value systems, people interpret/reason/process things differently, people are all stressed so things quickly escalate, and throw them all together.

Most people only see a perspective from "their world" only.

Ironically this is the reason why I don't drive during peak volumes and just use public transit.

Too many people taking that rage onto the road when they drive.

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This used to be me, until I had to fight, and also until about seven years ago? Six? When I started speaking up more and more.

posted January 15, 2025 04:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Emotionally, I am not well. I am still distressed. Prog Moon is opp trans Mars and conj trans Sun.

Mars retro Cancer definitely brings up deep resentment for those who hurt me in the past (and perhaps even those who still do).

Heightened emotions affect decision-making as one is triggered by emotional bias and a tendency to view things from an absolute point of view when feelings are involved.

I keep on playing scenarios in my head. This is a Cancer thing. Putting scenes together as if I am in a movie and reacting to them.

Most of the scenes involve me responding violently to offenders, confronting people who are wrongdoers and fiercely righting "wrongs" committed.

I am internally extremely angry. Both from a personal as well as an impersonal perspective. In that even perceived injustices that have nothing to do with me, make me mad.

If this is how I feel (already). How much more will these feelings be when Moon(ruler of my 4th) is conjunct transiting retro Mars in Cancer?😶

Trans retro Ura 23Tau is also inconjunct natal Jup 23Sag(ruler of 12th and 9th) and on the cusp of house 2.

There is also this crisis of faith/belief that is surfacing. Something indescribable but palpable. It has not manifested fully. But there is building resistance to known beliefs.

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I'm not feeling much better than I was last month, or for a long time, actually. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

posted January 16, 2025 11:03 PM            

@DualGemV2 I agree entirely, thankfully I learned that lesson to recognize roots of manipulative behavior and how to deal with it. Oftentimes people don't have malicious intent, but they learned to think/behave that way and it's impossible to change it. It's the best to just not get involved.

I think I may be also more likely to trigger all kinds of behaviors in others just because I'm direct and honest, and then I need to deal with consequences hah. That Aquarius Sun+Merc on Desc square Uranus :/ They also trine Pluto and sextile Neptune so I'm fully aware of everything, considerate and tactful, but still... stir things up occasionally

Aries23Degrees Does gym or something similar help? When I'm angry, that's the only cure. Just burn the energy. That, or sex... even better actually

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posted January 16, 2025 11:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
Full moon and mars in Cancer. I accepted an offer and I don�t know how to feel about it and if it is the right one. Last years I passed on some opportunities and Mars rx might rush me into taking this. If I take separate parts of all those opportunities to put them together, it might be what I need�
Also, I worry it won�t leave me much time for the other projects and offers.

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posted January 16, 2025 11:49 PM            

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Originally posted by frida:
I am sorry to hear everybody is so distressed Many of my friends feel the same. We are definitely in some collective chaotic energy....

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This is my Mercury trine Venus and Mercury Conjunct Neptune transit coming out.

Just my opinion. This is one of the positives of this thread.

I don't think anyone is directly asking for a solution for their individual problem(s). If you do they'd probably be not to happy, unless they directly asked for your help.

However, the best thing you can do is offer your genuine condolence and support.

This way you can provide that person with the strength to figure out how to either deal with their own problem or cope with it then eventually overcome it.

I think this thread sorta achieves that.

posted January 16, 2025 11:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
Full moon and mars in Cancer. I accepted an offer and I don�t know how to feel about it and if it is the right one. Last years I passed on some opportunities and Mars rx might rush me into taking this. If I take separate parts of all those opportunities to put them together, it might be what I need�
Also, I worry it won�t leave me much time for the other projects and offers.

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I know it's difficult I ask myself if I should be doing something else. Spend most of my days at work staring at the wall.

I kid you now.
Yesterday I was working from my parents home in the country, stayed log onto teams moved my mouse every 5min so my status doesn't go to away status.

And just spent most of my day looking out the window watching the squirrels run up my apple trees and figure out what to do with them. Last summer they stole my apples, the wildlife always get's my produce first, lol.

Then I reflect back to myself, and say to myself no career is perfect. It's a balancing act of the pros/cons.

I don't want to be presumptions, I assume your not married and have a large family to support so that makes the decision process alot easier, it's all about what's best for you not someone else.

Mars in Cancer transit is impacting me differently.

-Several colleagues are officially retiring. Was invited to their retirement parties.
Most of them just want to spend more time at home with their families and/or grandchildren.

-My mom is also officially retired this month.

-Officially I will have to be in the office 1 day a week at end of the month. I worked out of the office last Monday and Tuesday to scope up the better desks.

Right now it's the team leads and managers that are required, so I was an exception.

Off topic story, had to smile when I overheard the desks behind me.

Two of the team leaders, both females, they manage about 4-5 people, under different projects but they know each other were complementing each other what they were wearing at the office.

As a guy that has worked in an office entirely surrounded with women in their 40's and 50s acting exactly like a scene from the movie Mean Girls and get into cat fights, this is a welcome relief to see an office space were people encourage each other.

posted January 18, 2025 02:26 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
Sometimes I have a knack for interpreting bad things before they happen.

Idk if it's a combination of instinct, nerve, intuition, and "connecting the dots" of what's going on around you then processing it together in your head.

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Or perhaps a conditioned state of mind from childhood?😐. Well,atleast mine is.

I grew up in a home environment where the Father was tense and Mom was always the type to tip-toe around his present but unspoken needs.

As kids,we learned to read between the lines and stay out of his way. Lesson? Never ever marry someone who expects you to read the room instead of telling you what is wrong. Communication is everything. ☝🏿

And so with my Mars in Libra conj Dsc, it made me exceptionally careful in analyzing relationships and seeing where possible discomfort was likely to be.

It's made it extremely exhausting. So much so that I don't want a relationship. This because I don't feel that I can truly have freedom to be me without worrying about whether or not the other person is emotionally "OKAY".

I am always making things better for others and in a relationship, this does not turn out to be any different.

posted January 18, 2025 02:31 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I'm not feeling much better than I was last month, or for a long time, actually. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

I've been taking care of myself, and watching movies with my dad, when he had two days off in a row. Otherwise, I'm still not doing well.

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