posted August 02, 2010 12:29 PM         

If you don't feel the move is legitimate, then it's best to first ask why, than to rush to get upset and take it personal.

If a moderator moves a topic, that moderator is not "angry", "mad", or "upset".

If you have a personal issue with a moderator and you feel they are moving your threads constantly inappropriately, then that is something else altogether. It should be obvious that the moderator is biased and you can point that out to Randall.

Lindaland was created where fans of Linda Goodman could come to share like-minded ideas and common interests. Take LL for what it is, it is just a place on the Internet, and it wasn't created to satisfy all of your needs in life. If it doesn't work for you, that's okay.

posted August 02, 2010 01:44 PM         

well said

posted August 02, 2010 04:10 PM         

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If you don't feel the move is legitimate, then it's best to first ask why, than to rush to get upset and take it personal.

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WTF? Who took it personal. I simply said it was irritating. How about you read what I wrote CLEARLY! I never sAid a moderator moved any of my threads I was simply expressing how annoying I thought it was! No need to over dramatize it.. It's my opinion and the last time I checked I "was" entitled to one

For example I just clicked on this topic http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum25/HTML/001609.html

Am I missing something here? Where's the insult? You can't seem to say anything on here. Randall I've seen everyone insult valus on here, how come you havn't intervened then? People on here can't even resolve their differences if it needed be. This place is turning into Childs play and people are leaving because they feel unwelcome here.

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Lindaland was created where fans of Linda Goodman could come to share like-minded ideas and common interests. Take LL for what it is, it is just a place on the Internet, and it wasn't created to satisfy all of your needs in life. If it doesn't work for you, that's okay.

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Is this meant to be an indirect way of saying f$&" off if you don't like it? Randall I don't find that "well articulated" unless your sending out the same message to everyone, as I understood it.

posted August 02, 2010 06:00 PM         

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For example I just clicked on this topic http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum25/HTML/001609.html

Am I missing something here? Where's the insult? You can't seem to say anything on here. Randall I've seen everyone insult valus on here, how come you havn't intervened then? People on here can't even resolve their differences if it needed be. This place is turning into Childs play and people are leaving because they feel unwelcome here.

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yup. Good call and i agree. It's pathetic

There seems to be two forum issues here:
1. sometimes comments are taken too personally.
2. a few (very few) people are rude and blatently insulting and seem to feel they can get away with it and when you pull them up on it, and i'm talking specifically about Winged Leo here, they turn on you and try to make out that YOU are the one who is insulting and a fruitbat.

posted August 02, 2010 09:34 PM         

Please read that thread above, insults are there. If you read the whole thread from beginning to end, you will understand me. After Lara's initial insults, I first e-mailed to Randall and asked him to ban her, because she really crossed the line this time, I also e-mailed to ADfly and asked her to give a serious warning to Lara and edit her insulting comments, and my posts too if necessary, ADfly was busy so I understand why she didn't take any action and Randall just preferred to close the topics.

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I seriously think Lara should be banned from LL, because she doesn't have control over her bad mouth and often resorts to silly insults, name-callings as a response to things she doesn't like. Even now, she's continuing to do this, in this thread. I don't see insulting people as secure individuals in life, and bullies like Lara actually have very low self confidence, they choose to insult people to make them feel better about themselves. I saw this disordered behavior in her since the first day I came here. She's very manipulative and just plain mean all the time, and I will not tolerate her nasty behaviours. And whenever I see her bullying someone else, I will smash her crap right in her face with pleasure.

Lara, please don't bother to answer me back, because I'm really not interested in hearing your sh1t, why don't you instead take your Polaroid Fun Shooter and go outside, take some pictures, have some fresh air, relax and think about how to fix your bullying attitudes listed below?

*has a Jekyll and Hyde nature - is vile, vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses; no-one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature - only the current target of the bully's aggression sees both sides; whilst the Jekyll side is described as "charming" and convincing enough to deceive everyone, the Hyde side is frequently described as "evil"; Hyde is the real person, Jekyll is an act.

*excels at deception and should never be underestimated in their capacity to deceive

*uses excessive charm and is always plausible and convincing when others are present (charm can be used to deceive as well as to cover for lack of empathy)

*is glib, shallow and superficial with plenty of fine words and lots of form - but there's no substance

*is possessed of an exceptional verbal facility and will outmanoeuvre most people in verbal interaction, especially at times of conflict.

*is self-opinionated and displays arrogance, audacity, a superior sense of entitlement and sense of invulnerability and untouchability.

*is a control freak and has a compulsive need to control everyone and everything you say, do, think and believe; for example, will launch an immediate personal attack attempting to restrict what you are permitted to say if you start talking knowledgeably - but aggressively maintains the right to talk (usually unknowledgeably) about anything they choose; bullies despise anyone who enables others to see through their deception and their mask of sanity

*undermines and tries to destroy anyone who the bully perceives to be an adversary, a potential threat, or who can see through the bully's mask

*is also quick to belittle, undermine, denigrate and discredit anyone who calls, attempts to call, or might call the bully to account

*is highly manipulative, especially of people's perceptions and emotions

*is arrogant, haughty, high-handed, and a know-all

*often has an overwhelming, unhealthy and narcissistic attention-seeking need to portray themselves as a wonderful, kind, caring and compassionate person, in contrast to their behaviour and treatment of others; the bully sees nothing wrong with their behavior and chooses to remain oblivious to the discrepancy between how they like to be seen and how they are seen by others

*is mean-spirited, officious, and often unbelievably petty

*is constantly imposing on others a false reality made up of distortion and fabrication

*is quick to discredit and neutralise anyone who can talk knowledgeably

*holds deep prejudices (eg against the opposite gender, people of a different sexual orientation, other cultures and religious beliefs, foreigners, etc - prejudiced people are unvaryingly unimaginative) but goes to great lengths to keep this prejudicial aspect of their personality secret

*is emotionally immature and emotionally untrustworthy

posted August 02, 2010 09:48 PM         

I have been on several boards- cat, dog, astrology, Military and others. I see threads moved all the time because they have been put in a forum that doesn't address those issues.

It is not like LL has just started to do this and it has happened since I first started coming here in 2000 / 2001. It is a good practice that allows the subject of the thread to be addressed by people that have a concern for that subject.

Would you want Global Unity threads clogging up Soul Unions? No.. so why should other threads clog up LLC2 when they can be sent to the right forum.

posted August 03, 2010 05:03 AM         

Sunchild lol

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posted August 03, 2010 05:20 AM         

There are hardly any insults in this thread. And I even bought front seat tickets, and cancelled an appointment to stay home, so I could learn new ways of dissing others!!

posted August 03, 2010 10:54 AM         

I'm a bit calmer today i swear somethings been wrong with me the last 10 days. I'm highly irritated but I in no means was attempting to contribute to what is already going on. Half the time I start a thread and I don't even write back in it for ages. I'm not trying to be hostile and I'm not defending valus I just used him as an example. I am not familiar with the havoc he causes because I'm new to Linda central. I understand some topics belong elsewhere but the moderators arnt even that lenient and just onto it like military moderators. Take a chill pill... And give me one too in the mean time

Winged Leo I was very impressed with your extended vocabulary I loved reading it... I think Lara thinks your PDF??

You know what else I hate about forums? Is that you can't tell if someone is being playful or serious or perceive their tone of voice when they express their opinion on here. I laugh and smile alot and have a typical Australian laid back way of talking and not too serious. In fact I'm never serious but I do get offended time to time whether it be an insult directed at me or someone else who I perceive to be innocent or vulnerable.

I've been coming on here for years I have never lashed out at someone except for vapor in a previous thread. Nothing usually angers me enough to the point that i want to write about how much that person has angered me I usually will laugh it off and turn it into a joke but like i said I even feel my body temperature is higher lately!

But I do love everyone on here.. Your all unique that's for sure

Winged Leo are you male or female??

posted August 03, 2010 11:06 AM         

Anyway--I wanted to say that I can see the Gemini moon in you ,Belgz.
You get upset,fly off and then RIGHT after--you are kidding around again lol

x o Ami

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posted August 03, 2010 01:42 PM         

Actually I was taking a gander at UC and it seems to get way more traffic than it used to.

This is just meant as a place to talk about anything that's not addressed in other forums and I think once everyone gets used to that, we will all get along famously
It's not a hard concept.

posted August 03, 2010 02:01 PM         

I agree 100%. I know there are times when I mean one thing but what I have posted sounds totally different to another person.

posted August 03, 2010 03:21 PM         

That list of bullying behaviours comes from a website, not my words. They were very descriptive of Lara, and I thought she might learn something about herself and choose to grow up, but that's not realistic, is it? lol

"I think Lara thinks your PDF??"
She's free to think whatever she likes

posted August 03, 2010 03:29 PM         

Mosquitos!

OH FISHYBLOSSOM!!!!

I gotcher insults right hea!

posted August 03, 2010 08:08 PM         

for the humour

posted August 03, 2010 08:10 PM         

Ami

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