posted January 20, 2014 11:34 AM            

Growing up as a scrupulously, almost pathologically, honest person whose conscience suffered tremendously even for telling itty bitty lies, I had a really hard time understanding how anyone could ever ENJOY lying. Nevertheless, life has been such that I encounter lairs over and over again. People who lie...for FUN!

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“Duping delight” is when a person will flash a smile in response to a statement that they feel secretly proud of hiding.

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There are lots of other ways to spot a liar. I think the world would be a better place if we were all adept at reading these signs and dealing with information accordingly. It would eliminate a lot of needless debate about people's character, for example. Liars would become transparent and everyone would be on the same page, regarding the liars.

Anthony Weiner and Duping Delight

posted January 20, 2014 12:13 PM            

I am a duping delight if what it means is choosing what I want to reveal.

It helped me fit in in my job, a masculine world, where gays aren't easily accepted. I wouldn't lie about my orientation if someone asked me, and I don't pretend to be what I am not when talks get more precise about sex. I just know how to choose my words and my moments to speak. in that sense, I am a duping delight I suppose. but I see far more advantages to it than to total truth.

I am openly out, my mum, (my dad is dead) and all my family knows my sexual orientation because I told them, (except to my grand ma though she stopped asking about a potential girlfriend when I turned thirty) my friends know too.

however at work, I don't see how it is of any interest to people who just spend a few hours with me working and don't have my best interest at heart. I am not friend with people in my work, I enjoy them and they enjoy me I suppose, but it is not a place where everything needs to be discussed.
But if I recall, Faith, you don't work, so you can't know that...

So all in all, I don't think honesty is the best policy in every situation. I grew up a lot about that idea.

A great shift in me was when I accepted others did not tell me all they thought about something or about me for example.
At first it hurts to consider people had been untrustworthy about their feeling towards me, but then I realised that people should not be trustworthy to my eyes if they say or don't say something or how they judge me.
If I don't want to set up traps for myself, then I shall not expect trust to imply something in return, it's either there or it isn't, because all I can trully act on, is my trust for them, not theirs for me... for example I don't trust my coworkers to acts with care if I explain my sexual orientation.

it freed me from expectations. and I need to remind this to me when I feel let down by people who weren't totally honest with me....

posted January 20, 2014 12:32 PM            

That is very cool, Pire. I never heard you talk from your heart like that. You may have but I never heard it. Wise words!

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posted January 20, 2014 01:23 PM            

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Originally posted by pire:
I just know how to choose my words and my moments to speak. in that sense, I am a duping delight I suppose.

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Duping delight is a technical term, though, for a specific kind of behavior.

Do you derive happiness from fooling people and look for opportunities to fool them? Some people habitually do so, because they are addicted to that duper's delight high. It gives some people an adrenaline rush, measurable on polygraph tests.

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Originally posted by pire:
But if I recall, Faith, you don't work, so you can't know that...

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I work plenty and have worked in many different environments: corporate, restaurant, college, and so on.

posted January 20, 2014 08:21 PM            

Boy, he`s a class act ey. Duped the political dupers pretty good

posted January 20, 2014 08:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Catalina:
Faith I have wondered the same thing about the fawning newbies ... Just saying.

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Telltale syntax, timing, political views, alignments with people.

posted January 20, 2014 08:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Catalina:
No, pire, you are not a duper. What's none of their business is none of their business. Bet your granmother figured it out awhile ago and doesn't consider it her business either x

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posted January 22, 2014 11:44 PM            

Another old quote - was it Twain? Correctme anyone :

posted January 23, 2014 12:46 AM            

His main point is that anyone csn be fooled sometimes but some people think they can fool everyone every time, and spend a lot of time honing their scams in the attempt.

And yes, Faith, it is a lot of fun for some, whether it makes them feel smarter, or brings them more wealth or power. People at every social "station", of every religion, from every country. Many of them, to be fair, lie to themselves first and foremost.

What's worse, they consider us pathological truth tellers to be "boring", foolish , or just humorless when wwille protest!

The other quote was Woody Guthrie

"some will rob you with a six gun.
Some with a fountain pen"

But ultimately you can't fool everyone and most who try end up "hoist in their own petard"

posted January 23, 2014 11:02 AM            

I find when a basically honest persons deceives, they do it poorly.

They leave trails of breadcrumbs that a deceptive person is too smart to scatter.

The inability to defend the breadcrumbs is also another clue to deception of the unlearned.

Yet deceive they do. Weiner got caught but there are so many walking that road of deception , in power with impunity.......

Until they send sex pics

or block bridges