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Topic: Ever experince same sex attraction
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Lioness
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posted July 29, 2011 07:50 PM
  
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Lioness, does she know? Like is it an overwhelming sort of thing or just in the back of your mind?
Nooooo.. she doesnt know... LOL....
Before long time ago, it was overwhelming.. but we became close friends, now I gots Luv for her, and our sisterhood  IP: Logged |
childofzeus
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posted August 12, 2011 03:19 AM
I had a crush on a girl in high school.She was attractive but it remained a crush nothing else.It was a phase and nothing came of it.IP: Logged |
Voix_de_la_Mer
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posted August 23, 2011 07:13 AM
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Originally posted by DepTaurus:
i was just wondering if i was the only one who has and still has been attracting members of the same sex to me? how did this happen to you? when did it happen? was their a certain period of your life where you were more vulnerable to this attraction?i currently have two guys who for some reason i think have some sort of crush on me? for whatever reason they think im good looking because their always staring. do you currently have anyone of the same sex intrested in you? how did you handle this?
When I was 19 I met a wonderful guy in work who I instantly clicked with. We became fast friends, and started clubbing with each other. One night we got seriously hammered and kissed. He immediately started crying! I asked him what was wrong and he confided in me that he was gay, but hadn't fully 'come out' yet.
This led to our foray into the gay scene, we had a wonderful time, and are still very close. It was during this time that I got the opportunity to explore same sex relations. I really only had full sex with one girl, and it was beautiful. Otherwordly, and exotic, I guess. I haven't been with a woman, nor been attracted to one since then, that was 10 years ago.
My attraction to women then, was driven my my desire to explore and have new experiences. Sexuality is something I kind of refuse to define myself by. Having been attracted to both men and women, and shared pleasure with both, I just don't see it as having any relevance o the sexual plane.
On the emotional plane, however, I am definitely drawn more to men. I don't see me ever having a relationship with a woman, but I would hesitate to say this makes me 'heterosexual', as I do have a sexual atttraction to, and appreciation of, the female form and mannerisms. Many women on the gay scene were attracted to me, but I doubt it was because of looks. I am neither strictly masculine or feminine in appearance really for the most part, I think what they were attracted to was my attitude and free expression. People usuually feel completely safe and able to be themselves in my company, and those who spend a little time with me see that I express myself honestly also - I think this attracts people, but in the context, I believe it led to be being welcomed into a circle that many would have said I didn't belong in. Beauty is not defined by gender or sexuality for me, and I believe it to be present in everyone. I am attracted to beauty inner and outer, and it isn't defined by anything other than the individual revelling in their individuality. I met more openness and acceptance, and pure joy in being alive, in the gay scene than I ever have in any other part of life. IP: Logged |
Frozen Queen
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posted August 24, 2011 08:32 PM
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NativelyJoan
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posted October 15, 2011 01:30 PM
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Originally posted by DepTaurus:
i was just wondering if i was the only one who has and still has been attracting members of the same sex to me? how did this happen to you? when did it happen? was their a certain period of your life where you were more vulnerable to this attraction?
I think the question your proposing is highly complicated to answer. We'd have to look into cultural studies and research related androgyny to understand the complexity of this topic. However I will attempt to answer this. I am a Venusian and I love all things beautiful including people. It's not that I'm attracted to people as much as I think they're aesthetically pleasing. I've had many crushes on beautiful people, both women and men. For me it's a beauty thing which is very superficial as opposed to sexual attraction. You'd be surprised how much beauty plays a part in our life choices and decisions. I had a friend who was a female who use to always comment on how beautiful our children would be. She wasn't into women though, I guess she fancied my genes. IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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posted April 22, 2012 02:20 AM
Continuing off of my above post ^ I really do consider sexuality to be a fluid part of human nature which we tend to repress in our society. Because being sexually limitless and unidentifiable is too taboo for conventional societal standards. Beauty plays a big part in who I find attractive and intensity and strength play a big part in whom I'm sexually attracted to. I would never want to limit myself in any way including sexually. I just hate all the stigmas we have in society. I've always been intensely drawn to both men and women. Men balance me out better, but I find women endlessly intriguing. A few women have had crushes on me. But I don't know, it gets confusing because I tend to project a little to much sexual intensity which just makes things blurry for myself and others. It must be a transit but all I've been interested in talking about lately is sex and human sexuality. I might start a thread about it. Hmmm.., IP: Logged |
sand
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posted April 22, 2012 05:17 AM
Penis ugly to me tho. IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted April 22, 2012 05:49 AM
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 22, 2012 09:54 AM
Absolutely not. I was physically raped at threat with a lethal weapon to conclusion by a same sex as a 10 year old and that slammed the lid shut, not that there was any attraction to begin with. Most males repulse me. Period. Actually, I was also shoved sex without consent at 14 years old by a grown woman retained by my stupid older friends, but that is a separate matter. It was tantamount to rape too. Stupid girls fully clothed were willing to hold me down while I was forced to lose my virginity to a ***** , and without protection as well. It would have been too embarrassing for one of those girls to consummate with me, the kid. Some childhood I had huh? Oh well. IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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posted April 22, 2012 11:58 AM
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Originally posted by sand:
Penis ugly to me tho.
 Stay true to yourself Sand. That's all that matters really. No one knows you better then you. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted April 22, 2012 04:02 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
Penis ugly to me tho.
OMG 
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aquaguy91
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posted April 22, 2012 06:51 PM
I have never found a Guy attractive, but plenty of gay guys find me attractive for some reason,I kind of get weirded out by it, but my gay friend always tells me to take it as a compliment because gay guys are supposedly more "picky" than women in general.IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted April 23, 2012 08:35 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Absolutely not. I was physically raped at threat with a lethal weapon to conclusion by a same sex as a 10 year old and that slammed the lid shut, not that there was any attraction to begin with. Most males repulse me. Period. Actually, I was also shoved sex without consent at 14 years old by a grown woman retained by my stupid older friends, but that is a separate matter. It was tantamount to rape too. Stupid girls fully clothed were willing to hold me down while I was forced to lose my virginity to a ***** , and without protection as well. It would have been too embarrassing for one of those girls to consummate with me, the kid. Some childhood I had huh? Oh well.
geez YTA if you write a book about your childhood you'd give Daniel Steel a run for her money  IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 23, 2012 10:52 AM
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geez YTA if you write a book about your childhood you'd give Daniel Steel a run for her money
You haven't heard half off it. I've barely scratched the surface. IP: Logged |
sand
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From: Lake Como next to George Clooney's House
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posted April 23, 2012 12:02 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I have never found a Guy attractive, but plenty of gay guys find me attractive for some reason,I kind of get weirded out by it, but my gay friend always tells me to take it as a compliment because gay guys are supposedly more "picky" than women in general.
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Sashar
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posted April 29, 2012 04:10 PM
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Originally posted by DepTaurus:
i was just wondering if i was the only one who has and still has been attracting members of the same sex to me? how did this happen to you? when did it happen? was their a certain period of your life where you were more vulnerable to this attraction?i currently have two guys who for some reason i think have some sort of crush on me? for whatever reason they think im good looking because their always staring. do you currently have anyone of the same sex intrested in you? how did you handle this?
I'm female and straight when it comes to sex. Love, eh, not so sure, never had it happen. I do get my girl crushes every so often, not a big deal. My ex husband has a guy crush on Ryan Renolds. While I don't specifically get same sex attraction... I do occasionally forget that I'm female when seeing a particularly attractive woman. There's an odd difference and I chalk it up to Venus conj Mars. XD Honestly I think female same sex attraction even amongst a lot of females isn't taken nearly as bad as same sex attraction between men. As a woman, if a chick is attracted to me I just flirt back because the attention feels great, but I'm also very up front with saying, "Never going to happen." Couldn't imagine that same approach being taken with guys, maybe it'd work maybe it wouldn't, just can't imagine it. And it happens a lot. I'm a bit of a girly girl with a deep ingrained tomboy streak. This particular combo I don't think a lot of people see and it attracts all sorts, much to my surprise and sometimes their surprise. I mean seriously, imagine being a gay guy... knowing that you are gay, chicks don't do anything for you and suddenly this woman who should not be attractive by most people's standards suddenly has you standing at attention. You're a guy right? Don't be worried when the guys are thinking you might be a sweet piece (that's more natural than what people like to think), worry when the die hard lesbians start thinking that. XD Not joking, I'm serious.
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lilithpluto
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posted May 19, 2012 10:34 PM
I'm attracted to females n they to me when I was inn my teens. Nothing sexual on my side though.IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted May 23, 2012 01:18 PM
I can appreciate the beauty of other women aesthetically, like I would admire a work of art or a beautiful, sunny countryside. It's an abstract appreciation, not a visceral desire.Or as far as desires go, I might desire (envy) their physical characteristics, but I have no desire to consume them, there's no sexual longing there. It's just an envy-based desire, not a hunger. It seems what gives me that visceral lust is really, really narrow, unfortunately, both gender-wise and from a phenotypical standpoint. I would change it if I could but I can't. I think sexuality is a deeply subjective thing and no one has any business dictating to others what should or shouldn't "turn them on." IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted May 23, 2012 01:41 PM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
It seems what gives me that visceral lust is really, really narrow, unfortunately, both gender-wise and from a phenotypical standpoint. I would change it if I could but I can't. I think sexuality is a deeply subjective thing and no one has any business dictating to others what should or shouldn't "turn them on."
Hear, hear!
Care to elaborate what those elusive traits that turn you on are? I'm demisexual myself. I've experienced sexual attraction to some girlfriends, nothing too overwhelming though.
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Aquacheeka
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posted May 23, 2012 02:19 PM
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Originally posted by Yin:
Hear, hear!
Care to elaborate what those illusive traits that turn you on are?I'm demisexual myself. I've experienced sexual attraction to some girlfriends, nothing too overwhelming though.
Well, it being so elusive, it's hard to describe in tangible terms what it is, I can only cite examples. Guys who look and dress like this:  ,  (the first guy is actually my boyfriend). I actually had my Virgo friend (he has a stellium in Libra, though) tell me that whenever I say that I find someone attractive (on TV) they seem to always look a bit like my boyfriend . There are a lot of different men that I've seen that I looked at and could identify objectively that they were attractive but they didn't necessarily have the same visceral effect on me... I guess they weren't my "type." So I guess in a way I admire bisexual people, to have a more fluid type. It gives them more options. IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted May 23, 2012 02:34 PM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
There are a lot of different men that I've seen that I looked at and could identify objectively that they were attractive but they didn't necessarily have the same visceral effect on me.
Well, at least you have a type. I can honestly say that outer appearance has never meant anything to me in terms of attractiveness. It becomes a "thing" after I start dating someone, which is the textbook definition of demisexual. I simply don't understand why people are attracted to physical characteristics of celebrities for example. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted May 23, 2012 02:40 PM
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Originally posted by Yin:
Well, at least you have a type. I can honestly say that outer appearance has never meant anything to me in terms of attractiveness. It becomes a "thing" after I start dating someone, which is the textbook definition of demisexual. I simply don't understand why people are attracted to physical characteristics of celebrities for example.
I just looked up the word "demisexual" - and wow! That's really interesting. So you've never looked at someone and thought, "I would really, really love to schtupp that person, if given the opportunity"?
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Yin
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posted May 23, 2012 02:46 PM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I just looked up the word "demisexual" - and wow! That's really interesting. So you've never looked at someone and thought, "I would really, really love to schtupp that person, if given the opportunity"?
No. It's weird, I know.
I go as far as imagining kissing someone but that's it. Makes it really hard for me to understand people's urges to get into each others pants. Makes for very troubled relationships with anyone, really, since most people I've been with HAD those inexplicable (to me) urges. Could be my hormonal imbalance. Could be my Sun-Nep conjunction or my Venus-Saturn square... WAIT. It happened to me once. Maybe 12 years ago. It was the quickest I was attracted to someone after a lot of communicating first. Never at first sight though. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted May 23, 2012 02:54 PM
Sun-Neptune will definitely idealize sexual expression ime.Venus-Saturn will reign in sex drive. When were you born? I think it must have been near my boyfriend, he has the same placements. IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted May 23, 2012 02:55 PM
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